357 - Why parents need to stick together on consequences

Mama's Daily Dose

English - October 18, 2022 08:00 - 5 minutes - 3.66 MB - ★★★★★ - 14 ratings
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The other day my husband was getting frustrated with the kids and blurted out - "If you don't listen then you don't get TV tomorrow morning!"

I was like, "Hold on! You aren't even here tomorrow morning! That is my time to get myself together and get lunches, breakfast, etc. ready for the day. That is a punishment to me!"

This was not a consequence he was able to see through. This would send a mixed message to our kids if he took away TV and then I gave it to them...who do they trust? Do they trust either of us.

Or...I follow through with my punishment.
Or...we both make sure we come up with consequences that we not only follow through on, but that also fit the action.

Follow through on what you say.
The way to build trust with your kids is to to do what you say you are going to do...both the negative and the positive.

Don't threaten to take away the birthday party, Disney trip, or presents from Santa unless you are ACTUALLY prepared to follow through! If they continue with the action you asked them not to do - follow through on the consequence.

If you say they get ice cream or a trip to the park that afternoon - follow through on your word.

This is how we learn to trust. Do what you say when you say you're going to do it. Be a team with your partner.