Unsquashed
200 episodes - English - Latest episode: about 1 year ago - ★★★★★ - 2 ratingsA podcast to crack ‘The Mystery of the Squashed Self’!
Showing up to share at work and in your business means spotting and sorting the squasher FIBs that hold you back – Fears, Illusions and Baggage – and ‘the self squashing prophecy’ of course!
Stay unsquashed with these shared interviews, inspirations and practical tools – all part of navigating the self-doubt and ’should traps’ that come flying at you as you grow your business or career. Communication and confidence tips with the real you at the core. From messaging and marketing to meetings and motivation!
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Personal Branding the Introvert Way
February 02, 2023 02:02 - 41 minutes - 94.1 MBWe will all meet confidence and joy squashers along the path of personal branding. For introverts, most routes to self-promotion feel draining and darn right dreadful! But it doesn't need to be this way - you can be true to you and truly seen. In this episode, Introvert Impact Coach Fifi Mason explores personal branding from the perspective of an introvert - and how to be visible to the right people without losing your identity or getting lost down a hole of 'should traps'. Explore the...
#129: Career Happiness. With Soma Ghosh
October 20, 2022 01:02 - 43 minutes - 100 MBAre you looking after your wellbeing as you work? Is your career or business plan in need of a tweak or change? What are the symptoms to spot and the small step realistic actions to take if you have lost your mojo or worse you're losing sleep. Soma Ghosh is host of the 'Career Happiness' podcast and a very realistic career advisor. Her insights are holistic and invaluable. MAKE IT REAL Thoughts, interviews, inspiration and practical tools to help you manage the self-doubt and ’should t...
#128: Stop Guessing Start Asking
October 06, 2022 10:45 - 5 minutes - 11.5 MBHumans make assumptions. We think we are mind readers. We are not. We don't know what people are thinking - although we might get lucky with a guess now and then. People make assumptions about us too. How to be aware of how we come accross and stop trying to mind read. 5 mins 3 steps episode. I refer to two resources in this episode: Tessa West - Egocentricity bias - listen to this episode of Hidden Brain Podcast https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/how-to-really-know-another-person/ My...
#127: Self Esteem and Dieting
September 29, 2022 01:01 - 41 minutes - 94.5 MBWhat is your relationship with food? What does your inner chatter say when you look in the mirror or look at other people and tumble into self-sqaushing spirals? My guest Lori Weber is the founder of The Mindful Eating Clinic - and has a very real and holistic approach to all this self-image beating up stuff. She busts a big myth and gives a big tip or two. A very human conversation. Lori is a Master Practitioner coach and therapist working in disordered eating and weight management. ...
#126: Breaking habits that don’t help
September 08, 2022 01:02 - 5 minutes - 12.3 MBAre you doing things out of habit, rather than making your heart sing? Are you being true to your authentic self and embracing your unique perspective or stuck in the 'should traps'. Nothing wrong with habits and routines - but sometimes they need a shake up. Why are you doing what you're doing? 5-minutes 3 steps - on the why, what and how of breaking habits and aiming for more heart singing! It's all part of my 'Unsquashing Project' - go to trishalewis.com/unsquashing-project/ to...
#125: How to interrupt nicely
August 25, 2022 01:02 - 5 minutes - 12.8 MBHow do you stop someone rambling off topic in a meeting without sounding rude? Do you sometimes feel you have lost any control of a conversation or meeting and you are not getting your questions answered or ideas heard? Does this begin to erode your confidence? You don't have to be agressive to be assertive. You just need some tactics in your communication toolkit. This episode gives 3 practical techniques you can use to interrupt nicely and take back control! 5 minutes - 3 Steps. This ...
#124: Giving and Receiving Compliments
August 11, 2022 01:02 - 5 minutes - 13.6 MBTo give and receive compliments without feeling awkward takes practice. The advantages of compliments is they create connection and often trigger more conversation. It's more than a social skill. 3 Steps in 5 minutes to help you feel less self-conscious about giving and receiving compliments. For more resources on all things communication and confidence - head to trishalewis.com.
#123: What’s Your Unique Perspective?
July 28, 2022 01:03 - 5 minutes - 13.4 MBStop feeling bland and start owning your unique perspective. 5 mins 3 steps. Show up and share your inisghts, questions and unique vibe and stop falling into the comparisonitis and 'should' traps. This short and sweet episode shares 3 very practical tips - and they come from experience. More about 'Self Squashing' and links to my book (The Mystery of the Squashed Self) and TEDx Talk (Beware the Self Squashing Prophecy) HERE: https://www.trishalewis.com/unsquashing-project/
#122: Be heard without feeling aggressive
July 14, 2022 01:04 - 5 minutes - 12.5 MBWhen you hear 'communicate assertively' do you think 'communicate aggressively'?! Can making yourself heard in a room full of talkers feel awkward? Do you give up and sit back rather than offer your insights and ask your questions? These 3 tips are perfect for introverts and reflective thinkers. In these short summer episodes I explore a communication topic in 5 minutes with 3 steps to take.
#121: Be Brave with your Content Creation. With Anna Bravington
June 30, 2022 01:03 - 37 minutes - 86.3 MBShow more personality in your content. Be brave about sharing your unique perspective on social media in blogs and articles. Take small steps with a supportive community around you - get real with that 'fear of rejection' that holds you back - and has you 'self-squashing' rather than showing up to share your insights, achievements and questions. My guest Anna Bravington is the Co-founder of 'Those That Dare' - specialising n content strategy and written content across all digital platforms....
#120: Communicate Assertively. 3 Steps in 5 Minutes
June 23, 2022 15:13 - 4 minutes - 11.1 MBDo you want to communicate assertively? Does the word have bad associations for you? This episode will remove the negative vibes and equip you with 3 actionable steps to become a communicator who engages and influences. You don't need to be bossy and domineering to be assertive! 3 things you might currently be doing without realising it - very human things - and 3 ways to stop these and become more assertive in the process.
#119: 3 Steps to Sort your Small Talk Fear
June 09, 2022 05:30 - 5 minutes - 12.5 MBAs a small business owner you have to meet people at networking or other business events. You will have to face up to your fear of small talk. Try these 3 tactics to completely reframe what small talk is and even enjoy it. This is a 5 minute episode inspired by the previous episode (118). You will no longer feel like hiding in the loo or going back to the car park when you see a room full of strangers! You will make connections and maybe even gain clients.
#118: 4 Pillars of LinkedIn. With Louise Brogan
May 26, 2022 01:02 - 45 minutes - 105 MBLinkedIn for Small Business. How to build relationships and make sales authentically. Louise Brogan takes you through the 4 Pillars of Profile, Network, Content and Messaging. In the podcast you will learn: How to be authentic and professional on LinkedIn The analogy of 'meeting in a coffee queue' Due dilligence on accepting invites The unused power of messaging The balance of personal and business content. Make It Real is the refreshingly real and really useful podcast for small bu...
#117: A Comparisonitis Antidote
May 19, 2022 01:02 - 5 minutes - 11.5 MBInspired by Ep 116 where Jen Louden shone a positive light on the question 'why bother' - I give you small business owners 3 reframes when comparisonitis throws you down the 'what's the point' spiral.
#116: Why asking ‘why bother’ is a lifesaver. With Jennifer Louden
May 12, 2022 01:02 - 35 minutes - 81.7 MBJennifer Louden is a personal growth expert and author of the bestselling ‘Why Bother’ – she is also a realist. We talk without self-help cliches about why and how you need to keep bothering – and why asking yourself ‘why bother?’ is crucial. A timely reminder to tap into your desires and ‘do’ - even when the world around you feels like a mess. As she says – ‘it’s time to get your bother on’. In this episode we talk about: How to keep growing after a long time in business Why there are...
#115: 3 Ingredients of Trust
May 05, 2022 01:02 - 5 minutes - 11.7 MBDelving into a topic from previous episode - all about building a community. Mark Masters talked about creating a space that people feel safe to step into when they are ready - and that means they need to trust you. In this short episode I suggest 3 key ingredients for this kind of trust to exist.
#114: Build Your Community. With Mark Masters
April 28, 2022 01:01 - 38 minutes - 87.8 MBIn this episode of Make It Real Trisha talks with Mark Masters, the founder of 'You Are The Media' - a growing global community built from scratch. So he knows a thing or two about building a community - and particularly building a community that is yours - complimented but not dependent on social media platforms. He is the master of the weekly email - human speak, educational, warts and all - and bringing in the community at all points. In the podcast you will learn: How to ha...
#113: Networking like a Detective
April 14, 2022 09:51 - 4 minutes - 10.5 MBFor those who dread, hate and avoid business networking - a fresh approach that will get you back on the networking horse! 3 ways that 'turning detective' enhances the networking experience and benefits for you and them. In this episode of Make It Real Trisha delves into the topic covered in episode 112 - networking. A 5-minute listen that offers a way through the networking demotivation spiral. In the podcast you will learn: What might lie behind your dislike or dread of networkin...
#112: Why Bother Networking. With Sharon Louca
April 07, 2022 01:02 - 42 minutes - 97.6 MBWhy bother networking? Are you an introvert or just feeling cynical about business networking? Do you have networking fear or don't know how to do that dreaded introduction pitch? Sharon Louca who is both a Management Consultant and the founder of the Women's Business Networking group has some very real tips. If you are putting off business networking or if you have tried networking and given up - or if you are dutifully going to business networking events and coming away wondering what the...
#110: Assumption Reframe. With Trisha Lewis
March 31, 2022 01:02 - 5 minutes - 11.5 MBAn 'in-betweeny' 5-minute exploration inspired by episode 110 - Pick up the Phone with Wendy Harris. Why do we fear picking up the phone to introduce ourselves and our business - fear of rejection? I suggest 3 reasons - and give 3 good solid reframes to move beyond the fear of rejection.
#109: Pick up the Phone. With Wendy Harris
March 24, 2022 01:02 - 47 minutes - 109 MBDo you have phone phobia? Are you under-using the power of simple human conversations over the phone? Shake up your approach, attitude and assumptions about making phone calls to build rapport to build your business. Wendy has a refreshingly real approach.
#108: Systems Free you Up. With Sandee Rodriguez
March 10, 2022 02:00 - 36 minutes - 82.8 MBIn this episode of Make It Real Trisha talks with Sandee Rodriguez who is a business advisor and problem-sorter. Growing a business - even a small one - involves creativity, energy and delegating. You need systems - and they are not a bore they free you up. Where to start - too many fancy organisation apps to choose from. Listen to Sandee. In the podcast you will learn: Attitude to money - make more to give more. Work less to achieve more Stop wearing all the hats Operations manuals E...
#107: 5 Pillars of Productivity. With Louise Miller
February 24, 2022 02:00 - 30 minutes - 69.9 MBIn this episode of Make It Real Trisha talks with Louise Miller who is a productivity coach and creator or calm clarity. The emphasis is on being organised in order to free up time rather than cram it full - Louise believes in 'slow living'. There isn't a hint of 'one size fits all' thinking behind her approach - and it is very realistic. In the podcast you will learn: 5 Pillars of Productivity The danger of distractions Methods of planning - beyond a 'To Do List' How not to be h...
#106: 5 Ingredients of Your Brand. With Colette Stevenson.
February 10, 2022 02:00 - 49 minutes - 114 MBIn this episode of Make It Real Trisha talks with Colette Stevenson who is a brand designer and inventor or ‘Postagrid’ - a beautiful approach to Instagram that harnesses impact rather than influence! Colette takes us on a journey from teaching English in Japan to starting her branding business - and includes her ADHD perspective and the moment she understood how her creativity could be used to explain and engage. In the podcast you will learn: The difference between your ‘brand...
#105: Organic Reach with a Plan. With Yann Ilunga
January 27, 2022 02:03 - 47 minutes - 65.4 MBYann Ilunga champions the 'organic reach' way of generating leads. Perfect for small business owners who want to build trust but also make an income! Stop just creating content and start making content that really connects to you, your value, your sales and your audience. You can build organic reach and avoid paying out for ads - but you need to have a plan.
#104: Visibility on a Budget. With Stacey Meadwell
January 13, 2022 02:02 - 43 minutes - 99.7 MBIf you are a small business owner you need to be visible - but you don't have a marketing department and big budget. Freelance editor and writer Stacey Meadwell brings decades of media experience to this conversation - full of visibility tips based on showing up rather than spending out.
#103: Connecting for Quiet Ones. With Gordon Fong
December 30, 2021 02:00 - 57 minutes - 132 MBAre you a quiet business owner? Are you a quiet individual? How do you make connections and get noticed in non-ego driven ways? Gordon Fong is a community and connecting individual - and he is quiet. How did he step from the back to the front to be seen in a non-ego kind of way? NB: The Cocktail Demo is at trishalewis.com show notes
#102: Beyond The Business Plan. With Rebecca Wilson
December 16, 2021 02:00 - 39 minutes - 90.2 MBIs your business plan holding you back? Starting your own business is messy and has to include evolving, making mistakes and learning. A neat business plan can actually do more harm than good. Rebecca Wilson is a hands-on business consultant and brilliant reviewer of business books.
#101: Explore Your Warrior‘s Mindset. With Arno Ilgner
December 02, 2021 02:00 - 40 minutes - 91.8 MBArno Ilgner - author of 'the Rock Warrior's Way' - delves into the 'Warrior Mindset' - what is it, how can we use it in our business or personal life - wherever there is challenge - that's everywhere. Get off the 'self-worth rollercoaster' and find balance.
#100: Paid Membership Site or Free Group?
November 18, 2021 02:00 - 45 minutes - 103 MBJules White is all about learning to love selling by embracing uniqueness and community. Author of 'Live it Love it Sell it' and a Dragons Den slayer - but mainly a really delightful human being. Having recently set up a quirky new membership site and grown a popular free Facebook group - she has much wisdom to share.
#100: Paid Membership Site or Free Group? With Jules White
November 18, 2021 02:00 - 45 minutes - 103 MBJules White is all about learning to love selling by embracing uniqueness and community. Author of 'Live it Love it Sell it' and a Dragons Den slayer - but mainly a really delightful human being. Having recently set up a quirky new membership site and grown a popular free Facebook group - she has much wisdom to share.
#99: Build a Brilliant Network on LinkedIn. With Sarah Clay
November 04, 2021 01:00 - 49 minutes - 113 MBWant to build a brilliant network on LinkedIn and do it in a non-salesy relationship building way? Whether you are a newbie or more experienced you will get motivation, basic tips and some laughter from this conversation with the wonderful LinkedIn trainer Sarah Clay - who likes to demystify and simplify LinkedIn.
#98: Make Your Content Valuable. With Sonja Nisson
October 21, 2021 01:00 - 42 minutes - 98.4 MBWhat is the value of the content you create? How do you ensure the blogs, posts and articles you produce have a value to both you and the consumer - your audience. My guest Sonja is the co-author of 'The Valuable Content Marketing' and her mantra is 'Help, don’t sell. Show, don’t tell. Talk don’t yell'. She is warm and real and shares her knowledge generously - listen up.
#97: Your Story Matters. With Heather Smith
October 07, 2021 01:00 - 49 minutes - 113 MBThe power of storytelling - yes - but is your identity woven from the stories told through the ages? Listen to Heather Smith of Story File and be inspired by the idea of having a chat over coffee with someone 100 years from now
#96:Inspire by Being Real. With Stella Da Silva
September 16, 2021 01:00 - 50 minutes - 116 MBWhat holds you back from being you on social media? How do you express opinion without offending? How do you deal with the naysayers? Stella Da Silva and Trisha Lewis have walked the walk - and share the inside story.
#97:Inspire by Being Real. With Stella Da Silva
September 16, 2021 01:00 - 50 minutes - 116 MBWhat holds you back from being you on social media? How do you express opinion without offending? How do you deal with the naysayers? Stella Da Silva and Trisha Lewis have walked the walk - and share the inside story.
#95: Selling without Selling. With Craig Allan.
September 02, 2021 12:43 - 40 minutes - 92.2 MBHow to sell without feeling like a pushy sales person? Scotsman Craig Allen gives the simple answer - with a warm hug of storytelling skill and zero 'sales speak'. Receive the wisdom Inspired by his martial arts career and 40 years experience in sales and leadership. Yes, there is laughter.
#94: Sort your Self-Determination. With Victoria Doxat
August 19, 2021 01:00 - 35 minutes - 82.1 MBIf you think existentialism and philosophy have no place in the business world - think again. Victoria Doxat blends them skillfully. This episode explores identity, social pressure, self-determination and purpose. Sink into a fascinating conversation.
#93: Understand the Perimenopause. With Lesley Waldron.
August 05, 2021 01:00 - 39 minutes - 90.3 MBThe more you understand the mind-body connection the better. All transitions can be tricky - and none more so than the chemical ones in our body. Move through and forward without self-sabotage. Lesley Waldron is all about empowering women through knowledge.
#92: How can you be more focussed? With Katie Stoddart
July 22, 2021 01:00 - 41 minutes - 94.7 MBHow to be more focussed in a distracting world? Your work-life balance, sense of well-being and productivity will all benefit from breaking default habits and building your focus muscles. Award winning international leadership and performance coach, Katie Stoddart talks about different kinds of focus, dopamine hits and practical small-step actions to take.
#91:Don't create an online course without this
July 08, 2021 01:00 - 41 minutes - 94.5 MBThinking about creating an online course? Listen to this chat with hype-free course creator mentor Glen Long, and do your online course for the right reasons. Your course needs your voice - get it right and it is how people get to know, like and trust you. Is this the ideal marketing tool for marketing-phobes?
90-Stefano-Capacchione-What should be my niche?
June 24, 2021 01:00 - 51 minutes - 118 MBDo you need to spend hours defining your ideal client avatar and do you even need a niche? If you are frustrated with client avatar templates and want an approach that feels aligned with you rather than than a business template - you will be inspired by this fresh perspective on niche marketing from brand storyteller Stefano Capacchione.
89 - Di Jones - Images and the power of storytelling
June 10, 2021 01:02 - 37 minutes - 86.1 MBDi Jones has cracked the power of storytelling on LinkedIn with her still and moving images. She is a photographer and LinkedIn mentor. Listen to her business owner story - full of learning and inner critic bashing positivity.
88 Catherine Gladwyn - Clarity on what you offer for how much
May 27, 2021 01:00 - 43 minutes - 99 MBBest selling author of 'The 20% Rule', Catherine Gladwyn has down-to-earth and empowering perspectives on 'niches' and 'charging' and 'boundaries'! She has overcome health challenges by making her business work for her and helping others to do so too. You will listen, learn and probably laugh during this 'full of tips' episode.
Ep 87 Susannah Brade-Waring - Understanding your motivation
May 13, 2021 01:03 - 32 minutes - 74.5 MBTrusted business advisor Susannah Brade-Waring understands just how complex and crucial being motivated is to us as humans - and us in business. We delve beyond Maslow and climb 9 layers of a motivational pyramid. Are you missing any out to your detriment? Listen and learn.
Ep 86 Kate Chastey - Trust who you are
April 29, 2021 01:02 - 37 minutes - 85.2 MBPassionate PA Kate Chastey leads with her heart - and in this episode that come over loud and clear. You will hear how she simply didn't feel employable - and finally followed her heart and instinct to go freelance. You will be reminded of the key ingredient of security and flourishing - trusting in who you are. An insight into what a very human kind of franchise feels like too,
85 Ben Masters - How to make your writing work
April 15, 2021 01:00 - 31 minutes - 72.6 MBHow to write using a process that leads to your reader being engaged. From a blog or profile to a book - learn from freelance copy and content writer - and teacher - Ben Masters. At least two simple but powerful processes shared by Ben - and a load of motivating insights on written content creation.
84 Gill Donnell MBE - Women - Believe in yourselves!
April 01, 2021 01:00 - 32 minutes - 74.5 MBGill Donnell MBE is passionate about women believing in themselves and not playing small. After a 30 year career with the police - very male dominated when she started off - Gill dedicated herself to championing successful women in business. Success meaning different things to us all of course. As Gill says, success is a state of mind. You don't need to be aggressive to be assertive. An episode full of real gritty story and an empowering message delivered in a down to earth way.
Ep 83 Elizabeth McPherson - The Holistic Benefits of a Declutter
March 18, 2021 01:00 - 31 minutes - 71.5 MBProfessional declutterer Elizabeth McPherson shares the psychological benefits of decluttering for personal and business growth - real tips. It isn't just about bagging old stuff up and taking it to the tip! The action of decluttering needs preparation - and that includes the psychological. There is a holistic benefit in the act of preparing and doing. It is certainly more than tidy wardrobes and desks - it is a state of mind and a journey. It is about baggage - the mind baggage. It is abou...
82 Syma Brown - Life Work Balance and How to Delegate
March 04, 2021 02:13 - 33 minutes - 77 MBYou have considered delegating and heard the term ‘Virtual Assistant’ - but what to delegate? How to avoid control anxiety! These and other questions explored with highly experienced VA Syma Brown of CoastalVAs. No more mystery or panic - straightforward advice and step by step actions in this episode. Plus - a cracking tip on sorting that pesky inbox.