Love Life with Matthew Hussey
885 episodes - English - Latest episode: 2 months ago - ★★★★★ - 2.3K ratingsRelationships are for heroes.
Join bestselling author—and host of the #1 YouTube channel for women’s relationship advice—Matthew Hussey and his brother Stephen Hussey, as they offer tips and insights on how to make sense of the beautiful mess that is finding and maintaining love, while nurturing the relationship you have with yourself.
In weekly episodes, they share practical advice, hard-won wisdom, and the occasional musing on relationships and the increasingly confusing world of modern dating. No matter your relationship status, the Love Life podcast will meet you where you are.
About the Hosts: Matthew Hussey is the New York Times bestselling author of Get the Guy, and host of a YouTube channel that has received 400+ million views. Get the Guy co-writer and YouTuber Stephen Hussey holds a Doctor of Philosophy degree from Oxford University.
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Episodes
How to Break the Spell of Complaining
October 05, 2016 10:00 - 5 minutes - 5.79 MBAre you addicted to complaining? In this episode of LOVE Life, we take a look at why it’s dangerous to seek significance in the sympathy of others, and I’ll reveal the most rewarding way to get validation through actually solving your problems. It may not be instant gratification, but I promise it’s the most fulfilling way to live.
4 Tips to Charm Anyone in 2 Minutes or Less
October 03, 2016 10:00 - 6 minutes - 6.3 MBIf you think all charming people are just born that way, think again! You can actually learn to build rapport with others and make them feel fantastic around you, and I’ll teach you how with my 4 simple tips. The best part? This is something you can do right away – in the very next conversation you have with someone – to charm them in 2 minutes or less. Ready, set, go!
He Thinks Other Women Are Hot: Deal Breaker or Not?
September 28, 2016 10:00 - 6 minutes - 6.15 MBIf you’ve been following my advice for even a little while, you know I always encourage you to have standards and expect men to treat you like the high-value woman you are. So when it comes to your partner finding other women attractive, you may be surprised at my opinion on the topic: It’s not necessarily a deal breaker! Find out why I believe this, and the ONE important question you need to ask yourself to know whether he truly wants to be with you above all other women.
Can You Make a Friend of a Frenemy? 4 Steps to Try
September 26, 2016 10:00 - 5 minutes - 5.12 MBAh, the “frenemy.” One moment she’s a blast to be around, and the next minute she’s tearing you down with her criticism and negativity. Is it healthier to cut ties entirely, or can the friendship be saved? My answer: It depends. Check out this episode for 4 steps you can try to pull the “friend” out of the “frenemy.” Good luck…
Give Him 5 Extra Seconds to Get Your Number
September 23, 2016 10:00 - 6 minutes - 6.13 MB(Sorry, guys, but I’ve got to give away one of our biggest secrets…) Ladies: Did you know that most times men walk away without getting your number because our interaction with you ended just 5 seconds too soon? Well, today I’m going to give you 3 simple tricks you can use to extend your conversation with a guy just long enough for him to gather the courage to ask you out. Sneaky? Kind of. But it may just mean the difference between “it was nice talking to you,” and “can I take you to dinne...
Two Things I Want You to Do Today
September 21, 2016 10:00 - 6 minutes - 6.22 MBI have a mission for you today: You just need to do two simple things. I’ll be honest, though: It’s going to take courage, and it requires stepping out of your comfort zone. But you’ll thank me for it when you’re done. I did this myself recently, and the reward was well worth the risk. Curious yet? I explain everything in this episode of LOVE Life…
The REAL Cure for Heartache (It’s Not What You Think)
September 19, 2016 10:00 - 6 minutes - 5.98 MBWhat’s the cure for a broken heart? “Stay busy,” most people will say, “and before long, you’ll have forgotten all about it.” While this tactic may work in the short term, it’s not going to fix the root of your problem. In today’s episode, I’m going to reveal the REAL, lasting cure for heartache, and teach you a how you can take action today to feel better fast.
The Most Fun Way to Trick Your Brain Into Being More Productive
September 16, 2016 10:00 - 5 minutes - 5.46 MBYou may not realize it, but there are one or two days a year unlike any other where you just plow through your to-do list and GET. STUFF. DONE. In this episode of LOVE Life I’m going to remind you when those days are (and exactly what makes you so productive), plus reveal my fun productivity hack that tricks your brain into recreating these hyper-focused, super-effective days whenever you choose!
One Crucial Conversation Skill Most People Don’t Use
September 14, 2016 10:00 - 6 minutes - 6.18 MBWhat makes a great conversationalist? Sure, being knowledgeable about a lot of topics and sharing about them in an interesting way is a great start. But there is one crucial conversation skill that most people don’t use. The funny thing is, this skill is so simple to implement; it actually takes the pressure off of you, helps you to grow, and makes the person you’re speaking with feel amazing about themselves around you. You don’t want to miss this quick but useful tip in today’s LOVE Life.
Love is Not a Transaction
September 12, 2016 10:00 - 8 minutes - 8.38 MBWhen your partner is acting selfish, it’s only natural to feel resentful. Why should you be giving, giving, giving when all they’re doing is taking? So you withdraw and focus on your own needs to protect yourself. But this is the beginning of a dangerous pattern, as we explore in today’s episode of LOVE Life. Listen closely because I’m going to share a totally counter-intuitive, yet completely simple approach you can use when your relationship starts to feel like a transaction. Do this and y...
Before You Date Your Co-Worker, Try This First…
September 09, 2016 10:00 - 6 minutes - 6.34 MBStatistics say that 2/3 of people meet their partner through friends or work. But that doesn’t mean it’s the best way to find the right match for you! Before you start dating Dan from Accounting because you’re bored and think you don’t have any better options, STOP and listen to today’s episode of LOVE Life. I’m going to tell you how you can open your world up to more opportunities with much more exciting men. Bonus: If it doesn’t work out, you don’t have to pass them at the water cooler!
Have An Opinion, Dammit
September 07, 2016 10:00 - 6 minutes - 6.02 MB“I like that restaurant.” “Ehh...I didn’t really like that movie.” Listen, anyone can say these things about anything. Liking or disliking something doesn’t mean you have an opinion. Having a compelling reason why you do or don’t like it is what makes you intriguing. Want an example? Boy, do I have one for you in today’s episode… Warning: I go on a bit of a rant, but I think you’ll find it amusing (or perhaps you’ll just think I’m a little crazy). Either way, I guarantee my advice will make ...
The Truth About Your “Perfect Man” Checklist
September 05, 2016 10:00 - 4 minutes - 4.6 MBIf I asked you to list the characteristics you’re looking for in your dream man, what would you say? Whether we want to admit it or not, most of us have a mental checklist of what we want in our perfect partner. Is it helpful to be so focused, or could it actually hinder us from finding the person we’re most compatible with? In today’s episode, I tell you exactly what I think you should do with your checklist, and explain why the qualities that will truly bond you to a great guy might be the...
When Your Friend Ditches You for Her New Boyfriend, Say THIS…
September 02, 2016 10:00 - 4 minutes - 4.45 MBYou love your friend. You want nothing but the best for her, including an amazing relationship. So why does it feel so sucky when she falls hard for a new guy and wants to spend alllllll of her time with him? You don’t want her to make a mistake, of course, but could there be something else going on? In today’s LOVE Life, we explore what happens when your BFF takes a “Boyfriend Hiatus” and what you can say to her to bring her out of it to spend some time with you. But be warned: she’s not th...
You’ll Shock Your Boyfriend When You Tell Him to Do THIS…
August 31, 2016 10:00 - 5 minutes - 5.87 MBIt’s not news to you that giving your guy space can actually bring you closer in your relationship. But how do you put this behavior into practice, especially when you’re so used to spending all of your time together? Today I’m going to give you a quick, unexpected tip you can use that will shock your man, make him insanely attracted to you, and squash any “dude” instinct he has to rebel against commitment. Bonus points for you being awesome: I guarantee this is something none of his past gi...
Avoid the Confidence Catch-22
August 29, 2016 10:00 - 6 minutes - 6.03 MBWhat creates confidence? Many people will tell you that it’s attractiveness. But how can you ever feel good about yourself until you get the validation from others that you look good in the first place? It’s a trap, you see… and the only way to close that gap is to realize that there is another, entirely different way to get your validation and create feelings of confidence. I’ll give you that secret recipe today and give you an everyday-life illustration that will make you understand exactl...
Getting Set Up: A Survival Guide
August 26, 2016 10:00 - 8 minutes - 7.97 MBOn your journey to finding your Mr. Right, you may find yourself getting set up on a date. Whether it’s a cultural thing, or thanks to the (relentless) suggestion of well-meaning friends or family members, suddenly you find yourself sitting face-to-face with a virtual stranger who knows things about you that you’ve never told him. In today’s episode of LOVE Life, I give you some creative ways to break the ice, address the awkwardness, and create a real-life connection of your very own choosi...
The (Low-Pressure) Friday Night First Date
August 24, 2016 10:00 - 5 minutes - 5.72 MBLet’s face it – we all work too hard to risk wasting an entire, precious Friday night with someone we just met if the date doesn’t go well. Allow me to propose the low-pressure, high-value first date: My formula allows you to spend some fun, flirty time with that new guy you’re interested in and you’ll still get to meet up with your girlfriends for a proper night out. You’ll leave on a high note, which is guaranteed to leave him wanting more, and before you know it he’ll be calling (not tex...
My (Slightly Embarrassing) Trick to Get Stuff Done
August 22, 2016 10:00 - 5 minutes - 5.43 MBIf you’re anything like me, the higher the expectations you set for yourself for what you want to accomplish in a day, the more overwhelmed you get. And the more overwhelmed you get, the less stuff you actually get done. So I’m going to get you in on my (slightly embarrassing) productivity trick that – when you put it into practice – guarantees you’ll actually achieve your goal by the end of the day. And no one has to know how you got there but you and me!
How to Be a Winner (NOT a Victim)
August 19, 2016 10:00 - 5 minutes - 5.55 MBWhy do bad things always happen to me? If you find yourself thinking that way, it’s time to STOP. We all face problems and setbacks in life, and having a victim mentality is only going to hold you back from having the happiness you deserve. In today’s episode, I give you the two essential questions you need to ask yourself when something goes wrong so you can learn from it, move forward, and make sure it doesn’t happen again.
Take Advantage of Other People’s Time
August 17, 2016 10:00 - 5 minutes - 5.53 MBWe all need other people to help us achieve our goals in life. But the more successful our adviser, the more likely he or she is to be insanely busy! So how can we get on their radar… and even more challenging, their calendar? I’ve got a sneaky tip for you that may be just a tiny bit unfair but, hey – you gotta do what you gotta do to get ahead! Plus, it will make your mentor feel like they’ve done something good with their day too. In the end, it’s a win-win for everyone.
Get On Your Guy Friend’s Girlfriend’s Good Side
August 15, 2016 10:00 - 6 minutes - 6.01 MBWell of course your best guy friend’s new girlfriend is going to be threatened by you. You two have a history that she can only imagine, inside jokes she just doesn’t get, and a friendship that’s stood the test of time… But the reality is, they’re getting serious and she’s not going anywhere. So how can the three of you make this relationship work? I give you 3 quick tips that will put your guy friend’s GF at ease, build your bond with her, and make sure that both of you stay the most import...
Short-Term Dating, Long-Distance Love?
August 12, 2016 10:00 - 9 minutes - 8.86 MBWhat happens when you meet a guy you’re really into, you have a few amazing dates, and then he has to move away due to circumstances beyond both of your control? You haven’t had time to build a solid foundation yet, but you don’t want to throw away a great connection either. In this episode of LOVE Life, I’ll explore this tricky situation and give you an elegant way to test the waters to see where your guy stands on the issue. In the end, you’ll know whether it’s worth pursuing something mor...
The Only Mindset You Need to Overcome Rejection
August 10, 2016 10:00 - 8 minutes - 8.54 MBOn this episode of LOVE Life, our caller, Getty, says it best: “Rejection sucks.” Yet it’s inevitable that we’ll all face it in our lives from time to time. So the question becomes: How can we move on from the grief and heartache of knowing: I’m not the one they chose? I break down my (somewhat surprising) theory about insecurity, and explain why taking small risks every day is actually a privilege to seize rather than a chore to dread. With this new mindset firmly in place, you’ll be ready ...
The 3 Commandments of Email Communication
August 08, 2016 10:00 - 7 minutes - 7.04 MBWe’re all busy and, often, the people we admire most are the busiest of all. So why is it, then, we can’t seem to help ourselves when writing them an email? We get carried away, typing paragraph after paragraph, hoping to convey every single point we want to make. And then we wonder why they never get back to us! Today, I’m going to give you my 3 Commandments of Email Communication to ensure your message gets across loud and clear, you get the response you’re hoping for, and you yourself com...
3 Ways to Keep Attraction Alive
August 05, 2016 10:00 - 8 minutes - 8.45 MBThere’s nothing quite like the thrill of “the chase.” When you’re just starting out dating someone new, attraction is at an all-time high and you can’t get enough of each other. But is there any way to recapture some of that excitement and keep the attraction alive long-term? That’s what our caller, Tori, wants to know. In today’s episode of LOVE Life, I reveal 3 ways to keep a relationship fresh and sexy no matter how long you’ve been together. Hint: one of my tips is the reason why certain...
Can You Train a Man to Be Honest?
August 03, 2016 10:00 - 10 minutes - 10.4 MBFact: some men are just liars. And if you discover this trait in the one you’re dating, RUN. But as for all the other good guys out there, they really DO want to tell you the truth. In today’s episode, I give you 5 specific, actionable tips you can use right away to create an environment in your relationship where your man feels comfortable being honest with you about the little things, the big things, and everything in between.
Single in a New City? How to Make the Most of It
August 01, 2016 10:00 - 8 minutes - 8.19 MBMoving to a new city can be daunting, especially when you’re single. But with the right attitude it can be the perfect opportunity to create an exciting life filled with interesting new friends, fun activities and, yes, amazing new dating prospects. I take a call today from Sarah, who is interested in a guy in her new area and wants to know what comes first: building her social circle or pursuing her love life? My answer to her may surprise you…
Be Extraordinary in Your Ordinary Life (“Boring Hero” #2)
July 29, 2016 10:00 - 5 minutes - 5.65 MBIt’s that time again… We’re giving appreciation to someone who deserves credit for the little things they do that make a big difference in others’ lives. In today’s episode of Love Life we’re celebrating Justin, the waiter at a fish restaurant in Seattle, for his warm and welcoming one-liner that I’ll remember forever. Try this one yourself to make anyone in your business - or your life - feel like they belong.
So You’re an Introvert? Don’t Let a Label Define You
July 27, 2016 10:00 - 7 minutes - 7.47 MBIn today’s episode of LOVE Life I take a great call from a listener named Sarah who wants to know if certain types of men are attracted to introverted women, or if being introverted is something that she needs to overcome. I turn this question on its head and challenge Sarah: Is she really JUST an introvert? Or might there be more to her than just that label? If you consider yourself shy or not a “people person,” you’ll definitely want to tune in today to discover how appreciating all the fa...
Don’t Let This Conversation Trap Ruin Your Relationship
July 25, 2016 10:00 - 6 minutes - 6.37 MBUh-oh. Here it comes. You’ve been dating a man for a while now and everything is going great until you mention a guy “friend” of yours. Suddenly, he’s obsessing about this “friend” and wants to know exactly how “friendly” you’ve been in the past. Before he hooks you into this conversation trap, listen to today’s episode of LOVE Life for my 3 tips on exactly what to say to diffuse his jealousy, ease his mind, and keep your new relationship going strong.
Let’s All Do This One Thing Today
July 22, 2016 22:00 - 5 minutes - 5.75 MBI have a challenge for you today… It’s something that you think about doing almost daily, yet you probably never make the time to do it. It’s something that would make another person in your life very happy, and yet would make you even happier. It won’t cost you a cent, and will only take a few moments out of your day. You’ll feel better afterwards than before you did it. Are you up for the challenge? Listen to today’s LOVE Life and let’s do it together…
The Classy Way to Have “The STD Talk”
July 20, 2016 10:00 - 8 minutes - 8.14 MBWhen you’re having sex with someone, one of the least sexy things to talk about is STDs. But it could be the most important conversation you’ll ever have in a relationship. So when is the best time to bring it up? And what should you say to make sure you’re comfortable enough to trust your partner? In today’s episode, I help our caller, Jasmine, navigate this tricky situation and give her a script she can use that will allow her to look after her health, stand her ground, and get more respec...
Stop Being a Date Crammer!
July 18, 2016 10:00 - 5 minutes - 5.65 MBDo you cram for dates like you used to cram for exams? Pulling all-nighters beforehand, stressing about where to go, what to do, and what to say? Well no wonder you’re overwhelmed! Today I’m going to get you to stop this counterproductive behavior and give you 5 tips you can use now to bring real (not superficial) change that will make sure you ace any date.
How to Own Any Room in the First 5 Minutes
July 15, 2016 10:00 - 7 minutes - 6.87 MBIf you think that people with charisma are just “born with it”… If you think people who influence others or tell captivating stories are spontaneous and it just “comes naturally” to them, then you are going to want to listen to today’s episode of LOVE Life. Not only am I going to dispel this myth once and for all based on my own experience, I am going to give you a set of free, downloadable tools you can use to learn how to develop these skills for yourself. Hint: It includes a shocking expo...
4 Simple Words That Can Make You a “Boring Hero”
July 13, 2016 10:00 - 6 minutes - 6.08 MBWhen you think of “heroes,” what comes to mind? Superman leaping tall buildings in a single bound? Well, it’s not always feats of strength that make someone a hero. In fact, there are everyday superstars all around us if we only take the time to notice. That’s why I’ve created a segment I’m calling “Boring Heroes,” and in example #1, I’m sharing with you the 4 words a pool boy – yes, a pool boy at a resort – said to me that changed the way I approach life, and just might do the same for you.
My “Rule of Thirds” Formula for Dating Success
July 11, 2016 14:26 - 6 minutes - 6.34 MBIs there anything worse than going to dinner on a first date and realizing that you’re not a match before your appetizer even hits the table? Now you have to sit through another two courses, make excruciating small talk, AND do the “I’ve got this,” “No, really, I’ve got it” dance around the check before you can make your escape. Do yourself a favor and listen to today’s episode, because I’m going to share with you my “Rule of Thirds” Formula that guarantees you’ll invest exactly the right am...
This May Just be THE Perfect Online Dating Profile
July 08, 2016 10:00 - 8 minutes - 8.14 MBYou know you’re awesome, and any man would be lucky to date you. But how do you get that across in a paragraph (without the use of the dreaded humble-brag)? Well you’re in luck, because today I’m going to break down, line-by-line, what I consider to be THE most perfect online dating profile I’ve ever seen. In subtle, witty, playful ways, this woman communicates who she is, what she has to offer, and what she’s looking for in a partner (including the most genius way of inconspicuously mentio...
3 Tips to Quit Your Job Gracefully
July 06, 2016 10:00 - 4 minutes - 5 MBLet’s face it: Some conversations are way more difficult than others. But sometimes we have to be grownups and face these tricky conversations head-on. Today, I’m giving you my 3 simple tips to quit your job gracefully, so you say the things that need to be said (and not the ones that cause hard feelings). Both you and your superior will feel good about the experience, and you’ll walk away knowing that you’ve left a door open to possibilities down the road.
The Ugly Truth About Gossiping
July 04, 2016 10:00 - 5 minutes - 5.89 MBWhat’s the big deal about a little gossip? Well we all know that talking trash about someone else can hurt their feelings if (when!) they find out, but you may not realize just how much this behavior is hurting YOU in the process. I uncover the ugly truth about gossiping in today’s episode of LOVE Life, and explain why the real recipe to building yourself up is not tearing others down.
6 Brilliant Lines to Break the Ice on a Blind Date
July 01, 2016 10:00 - 6 minutes - 6.58 MBFirst dates are awkward… but meeting a blind date for the first time ever can be positively terrifying! Before you freak out, listen to today’s episode, because I’m going to hand you 6 adorably unique lines you can use to ease the pressure, have some fun, and – if you’re into him – lay the groundwork for a great second date.
Being Vulnerable Does Not Make You Weak
June 29, 2016 10:00 - 5 minutes - 5.65 MBAs a strong woman, you may think, “I don’t want to make myself vulnerable in love. It will make me seem weak.” But is that really true? In today’s LOVE Life, I explain the difference between vulnerability and weakness, and show you why being open to getting hurt is actually the most courageous thing you can do. If you want true love, let down your guard and listen to this episode…
Will He Think My Friend is Hotter Than Me?
June 27, 2016 10:00 - 4 minutes - 4.45 MBYou’re dating a fantastic new guy and things are going great. It’s time to take the next step and introduce him to your crew. There’s just ONE problem: Your super-hot friend. What if your guy meets her and thinks, “Wow – she’s gorgeous. I picked the wrong one?” In today’s episode of LOVE Life I’m going to break down two important things to consider in this tricky situation, and the #1 way you can keep him hooked long-term, no matter how many beautiful women he comes into contact with every ...
5 Signs You Are Dating a Toxic Person
June 24, 2016 10:00 - 6 minutes - 6.37 MBArguments in relationships are unavoidable. But if the guy you’re dating is more interested in winning them than solving the underlying problem together, chances are good he’s a toxic person. In this episode of LOVE Life, I’m laying out 5 distinct signs that the man you’re dating is toxic, so you can identify the behaviors and get out now before you get in too deep.
3 Subtle Clues Your Date is Actually Married
June 22, 2016 10:00 - 5 minutes - 5.87 MBI actually hate today’s topic, if I’m being honest. But sadly, it happens far too often: Married men (or men with girlfriends) take women on dates and masquerade as single. Let’s not let them get away with it, ladies! Today I’m revealing 3 subtle clues that give away your date’s secret status so you can kick his sorry cheating butt to the curb.
The Do’s and Don’ts of Breaking Up
June 20, 2016 19:49 - 5 minutes - 5.77 MBThere’s really no such thing as a “good” breakup, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t ways to make it a little smoother and less painful for both of you. I’m going to give you my 3 Do’s and 3 Don’ts to help you make your case, prevent an argument, and keep you from losing your nerve and going back to a relationship that isn’t right for you.
Do You “Earn Your Tip” in Life?
June 17, 2016 08:30 - 5 minutes - 5.75 MBWaiters make their tips based on good service. But regardless of what we do for a living, we all serve others in one way or another. So the question becomes: When presented with a complication, do you use it as license to complain, or an opportunity to show your value to others? In other words, do you “earn your tip?” The right approach can create incredible opportunities, and we’ll explore how to do that in today’s episode.
Why Being a Virgin Isn’t a BFD
June 15, 2016 22:22 - 6 minutes - 6.03 MBFor any woman, it’s extremely tricky to answer a guy’s question, “So…how many men have you slept with?” But what if you’re a virgin? How do you tell a guy you like without making it weird or freaking him out? I get asked this question a lot, and today I’m going to tell you just what to say, how to say it, and – most importantly – how to respond to his reaction. Oh, and by the way, we’re also going to talk about why being a virgin isn’t a B(ig) F(reaking) D(eal) to begin with. So relax already!
The 3 Step Process to Overcome His Trust Issues
June 13, 2016 20:17 - 7 minutes - 7.43 MBWhat happens when you hurt your man and he loses trust in you? Can you ever what you had together? My answer is yes, but it can’t happen overnight. In today’s episode, I share my 3-step process to help you hit “reset” on your relationship and prove that you’re worthy of his forgiveness and, once again, his trust.
The Sexiest Thing You Can Do in Three Minutes is…
June 10, 2016 20:51 - 6 minutes - 6.22 MBHow should you communicate with a guy you like in between dates? If you think texting is the only answer, then this episode is for you. I’m going to reveal a surprisingly simple – yet incredibly sexy – way to keep in touch that builds way more connection than sending emojis. Do this and he’ll be dying to take you out again!