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Lessons of the Six Figure Woman

137 episodes - English - Latest episode: 11 months ago - ★★★★★ - 6 ratings

Welcome to Lessons of the Six Figure Woman! We are your hosts Chichi and NG, two Nigerian American women who are realizing there's so much more to us than our careers. We created this platform to dive into the lessons we’ve learned and are still learning. We break the mold of the perfect Nigerian Woman and get real, vulnerable and honest about our experiences in life. Join us as we have conversations about relationships, Nigerian culture and all the pressures that come with being a six figure woman!

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Episodes

No, I Would NOT Date a Bus Driver

May 18, 2023 05:00 - 55 minutes - 38.1 MB

#090 In this episode Chichi and NG delve into the controversial conversation between Eboni K. Williams and Iyanla Vanzant where Eboni made it clear that she would only be dating a bus driver if he owned the bus! The ladies tackle this question from their perspective as high earning woman and they discuss whether they feel like Eboni was justified in her answer. They talk through some of the commentary being made by several people who felt offended by Eboni's stance. The ladies also address t...

Relationship Hot Takes

May 04, 2023 05:00 - 1 hour - 45.7 MB

#089 In this episode Chichi and NG are discussing some relationship hot takes! The ladies give their opinion on various sound bites from social medial. They discuss whether they agree or disagree with statements like "The reason he doesn’t give you princess treatment is because you’re not his dream girl" and "White woven marry up, black women marry down."  If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lesson...

Lessons Learned from the Hakimi Divorce Drama

April 20, 2023 05:00 - 1 hour - 43.5 MB

#088 In this episode Chichi and NG are discussing the highly publicized drama between Achraf Hakimi and Habi Abouk. After filing for divorce from the wealthy soccer star, Habi found out that everything he owns is in his mother's name! The ladies discuss the entire situation and talk through the lessons one can learn from this situation. They discuss whether they think Habi planned to take his money all along and whether Achraf was justified in what he did or if this is just another case of a...

The Toxic Side of Femininity Content

April 13, 2023 06:00 - 58 minutes - 40.1 MB

#087 In this episode NG and Chichi delve into the often overlooked toxic side of “feminine energy” content. With the rise of influencer culture and the proliferation of curated content, social media platforms have often perpetuated toxic expressions of femininity, leading to harmful impacts on women's mental health and self-esteem. The ladies talk through three ways feminine energy content on social media has bamboozled women by often prioritizing external appearance, material possessions, a...

Submission or Obedience?

April 06, 2023 05:00 - 53 minutes - 36.6 MB

#086 In this episode Chichi and NG attempt to tackle the topic of submission AGAIN! The ladies discuss this topic for the third time and this time Chichi brings a new perspective to the meaning of submission. They talk through how they think submitting is completely different from being obedient.  If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at [email protected].

Don't Underestimate the Necessity of Female Friendships

March 30, 2023 05:00 - 1 hour - 43.7 MB

#085 In this episode Chichi & NG talk about how crucial it is for women to have PLATONIC INTIMACY with other women! They breakdown the levels of friendship and discuss what it means to be in an intimate relationship with a female friend. The ladies give examples from their own relationship with each other and they also open up about the struggles they've had in achieving true platonic intimacy with women.   If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if y...

Do Men Determine a Woman's Value

March 23, 2023 05:00 - 58 minutes - 40.1 MB

#084 In this episode Chichi and Ng discuss how women who are in a relationship with rich men are idolized or considered to be "goals" by other woman. They use Lori Harvey as an example of a woman who tends to primarily be in the headlines when they're reporting on the new man she's dating. The ladies link this concept of whether the man you're with increases your value back to their Nigerian culture.  If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you jus...

Marriage is NOT the Destination

March 16, 2023 05:00 - 1 hour - 44.5 MB

#083 In this episode NG and Chichi discuss the false belief that once you get to the alter "you've arrived." NG drops some lessons she's learning in marriage in real time! The ladies talk about why marriage actually takes a lot of active work. They get into a discussion about feeling safe in your marriage and even touch on sex in marriage too. If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigu...

Are You Man Enough to "Handle" Me?

March 09, 2023 06:00 - 1 hour - 41.4 MB

#082 In this episode Chichi and NG's conversation is inspired by a Youtube video by Breeny Lee which talks all about how a man is supposed  to cover his woman. The ladies discuss how a woman actually deserves to be covered versus how many woman have been fooled into thinking they should be covered. Chichi talks about how she had a life transforming epiphany surrounding this topic and how it will change the type of men she entertains going forward.  If you have a question or comment that you...

I'd Rather Have a Child Alone Than Settle for the Wrong Man

March 02, 2023 06:00 - 1 hour - 41.4 MB

#081 In this episode Chichi gets super vulnerable when she opens up about her willingness to become a single mom by choice. She talks about how she has always had the desire to be a mother and is willing to go through pregnancy and raising a child on her own even if she doesn't end up getting married. The ladies discuss the challenges that come with making this choice as well as how Chichi's family reacted when she told them.   If you're curious about hearing other women's stories or want  ...

Are Women Truly Sexually Liberated?

February 23, 2023 06:00 - 56 minutes - 38.7 MB

#080 In this episode Chichi and NG delve into the topic of sexual liberation which was inspired by a recent YouTube video by For Harriet. They talk about what social media has led us to believe sexual liberation means for women versus the deeper meaning that sexual liberation actually could have. The ladies can't help but link the current state of the sexual liberation movement back to patriarchy. This is a discussion that women need to be having. You don't miss out on this conversation.  I...

Emotional Unavailability is Killing Relationships

February 16, 2023 06:00 - 56 minutes - 39 MB

#079 In this episode Chichi and NG discuss emotional unavailability…finally! In multiple past episode the terms ‘emotional unavailability’ and ‘emotional intelligence’ have come up. The ladies decided to finally tackle the topic head on. They discuss how and why they think emotional unavailability may be one of the biggest things destroying relationships. If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessons...

African Marriage Advice We Should Ignore

February 09, 2023 06:00 - 59 minutes - 41 MB

#078 In this episode Chichi and NG talk about marriage advice. But not just any marriage advice, they discuss "African" marriage advice. They talk through some of the cultural norms about marriage that are often toxic and can be damaging to newly married couples.   If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at [email protected].

The Trauma that Comes with Black Women’s Hair

February 02, 2023 06:00 - 58 minutes - 40.3 MB

#077 In this episode Chichi and NG discuss a topic that the whole world seems to think is their business; black women's hair. They discuss the experiences with feeling "other-ed" especially in professional settings because of their hair. They also talk through some of the trauma  that they, and many other black women with textured hair continue to have to deal with.  If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instag...

The Double Date From Hell

January 26, 2023 06:00 - 54 minutes - 37.6 MB

#076 In this episode Chichi and NG are back for the new year with a very juicy story time! The ladies went on a double date together and *spoiler alert* it was a DISASTER! They talk about the date and where it went completely left. This is a conversation you do not want miss!  If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at [email protected].

Are Nigerian Women Bad in Bed

November 17, 2022 06:00 - 57 minutes - 39.7 MB

#075 In this episode Chichi and NG discuss the accusation that Nigerian woman are bad in bed! The topic was sparked by a conversation with a Nigerian man who made the claim that "most Nigerian woman just lay there." The ladies go into a deep and interesting discussion about whether or not this is true. Of course they couldn't tackle this topic without holding the men accountable for their sex skills as well (or lack there of!). If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a f...

Are Nigerian Women Bad in Bed

November 17, 2022 06:00 - 57 minutes - 39.7 MB

#075 In this episode Chichi and NG discuss the accusation that Nigerian woman are bad in bed! The topic was sparked by a conversation with a Nigerian man who made the claim that "most Nigerian woman just lay there." The ladies go into a deep and interesting discussion about whether or not this is true. Of course they couldn't tackle this topic without holding the men accountable for their sex skills as well (or lack there of!). If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a f...

What's Your Plan B if You Never Get Married?

November 10, 2022 06:00 - 59 minutes - 41 MB

#074 In this episode Chichi and NG discuss the question of what's your plan if marriage never happens for you? They explore whether or not they think marriage should even be your plan A. The ladies get into a deep discussion about their different interpretations and view points on this question. What would your answer be?  If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us a...

What's Your Plan B if You Never Get Married?

November 10, 2022 06:00 - 59 minutes - 41 MB

#074 In this episode Chichi and NG discuss the question of what's your plan if marriage never happens for you? They explore whether or not they think marriage should even be your plan A. The ladies get into a deep discussion about their different interpretations and view points on this question. What would your answer be?  If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us a...

If You Want My Time You Gotta Spend the Coin

November 03, 2022 05:00 - 56 minutes - 38.9 MB

#073 In this episode Chichi and NG weigh in on the viral discussion about what men should be "required" to pay for in order to date a woman. A video by Iamgabbyfe on tic tok went viral after she outlined all the things she expects a man to pay for to even have a chance at keeping her attention. From hair and nails to waxes and rent,  Chichi and NG breakdown their thoughts on this list.  If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say h...

If You Want My Time You Gotta Spend the Coin

November 03, 2022 05:00 - 56 minutes - 38.9 MB

#073 In this episode Chichi and NG weigh in on the viral discussion about what men should be "required" to pay for in order to date a woman. A video by Iamgabbyfe on tic tok went viral after she outlined all the things she expects a man to pay for to even have a chance at keeping her attention. From hair and nails to waxes and rent,  Chichi and NG breakdown their thoughts on this list.  If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say h...

It's Not Easy Being the Ugly Friend

October 27, 2022 05:00 - 1 hour - 41.6 MB

#072 In this episode Chichi and NG center their conversation around a viral tweet that talked about the experience of 'the ugly friend'. They discuss their thoughts on the little talked about experience as the friend who never gets picked and whether they think a suitor is obligated to acknowledge or entertain the friends of the woman he's trying to talk to.  The ladies talk about whether men or women have it worse when it comes to rejection and finally they discuss why 'medium ugly' is the ...

It's Not Easy Being the Ugly Friend

October 27, 2022 05:00 - 1 hour - 41.6 MB

#072 In this episode Chichi and NG center their conversation around a viral tweet that talked about the experience of 'the ugly friend'. They discuss their thoughts on the little talked about experience as the friend who never gets picked and whether they think a suitor is obligated to acknowledge or entertain the friends of the woman he's trying to talk to.  The ladies talk about whether men or women have it worse when it comes to rejection and finally they discuss why 'medium ugly' is the ...

Is Being With an Older Man Really Better?

October 20, 2022 05:00 - 54 minutes - 37.2 MB

#071 In this episode Chichi and NG talk about being in relationships with older men. They discuss if they think it’s actually better for women to choose men that are significantly older than them and whether or no this leads to a more successful relationship. They talk through all the pros and cons of being with an older man and whether men in their 40s are still on the same nonsense as men in their 20s!  If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you...

Is Being With an Older Man Really Better?

October 20, 2022 05:00 - 54 minutes - 37.2 MB

#071 In this episode Chichi and NG talk about being in relationships with older men. They discuss if they think it’s actually better for women to choose men that are significantly older than them and whether or no this leads to a more successful relationship. They talk through all the pros and cons of being with an older man and whether men in their 40s are still on the same nonsense as men in their 20s!  If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you...

Apparently Divorce is Trending

October 13, 2022 05:00 - 1 hour - 46.3 MB

#070 In this episode Chichi and NG sit down to talk about all these recent celebrity divorces! It seems like every time you turn around another couple is calling it quits. They talk about the breakup of Tia Mowry and Corey Hardict and how social media is highlighting the fact that Tia "married down." The ladies discuss a few other celebrity divorces and talk though their differing thoughts on whether or not women of this generation are less willing to stay in failing marriages.  If you have...

Apparently Divorce is Trending

October 13, 2022 05:00 - 1 hour - 46.3 MB

#070 In this episode Chichi and NG sit down to talk about all these recent celebrity divorces! It seems like every time you turn around another couple is calling it quits. They talk about the breakup of Tia Mowry and Corey Hardict and how social media is highlighting the fact that Tia "married down." The ladies discuss a few other celebrity divorces and talk though their differing thoughts on whether or not women of this generation are less willing to stay in failing marriages.  If you have...

What Women Think About Men’s Sexual Insecurities

October 06, 2022 05:00 - 1 hour - 45.4 MB

#069 In this episode Chichi and NG tackle a topic that is rarely discussed. The ladies discuss men’s insecurities about sex. They talk about everything from package size, men’s ability to actually  please women, and how porn has ruined sex for everyone! This is a conversation you’ll definitely want to weigh in on!  If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW...

These Men Are Out Here CHEATING

September 29, 2022 05:00 - 1 hour - 44.2 MB

#068 In this episode Chichi and NG discuss what seems to be the theme of the past few weeks, cheating men! They discuss their thoughts and opinions on the Ime Udoka and Adam Levine cheating scandals. Should someone get fired for indiscretions in their personal life? Why are these men willing to risk it all to cheat with an IG model? The ladies get into these questions and much more in this episode.  If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just ...

Happy Wife, Happy Life?

September 22, 2022 05:00 - 1 hour - 42.6 MB

#067 In this episode Chichi and NG talk all about sacrifices in relationships. They start off the conversation by discussing the infamous statement "happy wife, happy life." They specifically discuss an interesting opinion going around social media of what the statement actually means. The also delve into career sacrifice when it comes to relationships and NG asks Chichi if she would move to a different state for love.  If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future ep...

Is Struggle Love Worth It?

September 15, 2022 05:00 - 1 hour - 42.2 MB

#066 In this episode Chichi and Ng discuss struggle love and whether it's really worth it to be a "ride or die" chick. The ladies give some popular examples in the media such as Jay-z and Beyonce and Kim and Kanye and they dissect each situation. They also come to some important revelations when it comes to what it means to be in a struggle love relationship.  If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @le...

Is Struggle Love Worth It?

September 15, 2022 05:00 - 1 hour - 42.2 MB

#066 In this episode Chichi and Ng discuss struggle love and whether it's really worth it to be a "ride or die" chick. The ladies give some popular examples in the media such as Jay-z and Beyonce and Kim and Kanye and they dissect each situation. They also come to some important revelations when it comes to what it means to be in a struggle love relationship.  If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @le...

Divorce Was My ONLY Option ft. Chichi from The Regal Woman Project

September 08, 2022 05:00 - 59 minutes - 40.9 MB

#065 In this episode Chichi and Ng invite a special guest, Chichi from The Regal Woman Project, to have a real and honest conversation about her journey through infidelity in marriage, divorce as a Nigerian American woman, and healing from trauma. Chichi walks them through going from being suicidal at her lowest point to opening her heart again. This is by far one of the best conversations on the podcast yet!    If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes O...

Hot Girl Season

September 01, 2022 05:00 - 1 hour - 42.3 MB

#064 In this episode Chichi and NG are talking all about "hot girl season" vs "hot boy season."  They discuss how women and men go through their "hot season" at completely different age ranges and how this has a huge impact on women in their 30's attempting to date their same age male counterparts. The ladies also delve into whether or not they each feel like they missed out on their "hot girl season." If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR if you j...

Hot Girl Season

September 01, 2022 05:00 - 1 hour - 42.3 MB

#064 In this episode Chichi and NG are talking all about "hot girl season" vs "hot boy season."  They discuss how women and men go through their "hot season" at completely different age ranges and how this has a huge impact on women in their 30's attempting to date their same age male counterparts. The ladies also delve into whether or not they each feel like they missed out on their "hot girl season." If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR if you j...

Do Women Actually Want a Vulnerable Man?

August 25, 2022 05:00 - 1 hour - 48 MB

#063 In this episode Chichi and NG discuss the topic of vulnerability in relationships. They're discussing whether of not women truly want a vulnerable man. They talk through their own ideas of what it means to be vulnerable and their experiences (or lack thereof) with vulnerable men. They also talk about why men have such a hard time being vulnerable and whether or not women hold some responsibility in that.  If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR ...

Women, Stop Shaming Women for Having Standards!

August 18, 2022 05:00 - 58 minutes - 39.9 MB

#062 In this episode Chichi and NG discuss the topic of women humbling or shaming other women. The conversation was inspired by a fellow black female podcaster who released a video about her journey towards not being willing to settle and was smacked in the face with comments from people, especially women, trying to humble her and telling her to lower her expectations. Chichi and NG couldn’t resist diving into this topic of women shaming women and even taking a look in the mirror at how they...

Women, Stop Shaming Women for Having Standards!

August 18, 2022 05:00 - 58 minutes - 39.9 MB

#062 In this episode Chichi and NG discuss the topic of women humbling or shaming other women. The conversation was inspired by a fellow black female podcaster who released a video about her journey towards not being willing to settle and was smacked in the face with comments from people, especially women, trying to humble her and telling her to lower her expectations. Chichi and NG couldn’t resist diving into this topic of women shaming women and even taking a look in the mirror at how they...

Hot Take: Most Men Are Not Serious

August 11, 2022 05:00 - 56 minutes - 38.5 MB

#061 In this episode Chichi and NG discuss men's misrepresentation of what they are actually looking for. They talk through their past experiences with men who say one thing but their actions don't match. The ladies discuss how difficult this makes navigating dating and relationships.  If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at [email protected]. If you have a qu...

Hot Take: Most Men Are Not Serious

August 11, 2022 05:00 - 56 minutes - 38.5 MB

#061 In this episode Chichi and NG discuss men's misrepresentation of what they are actually looking for. They talk through their past experiences with men who say one thing but their actions don't match. The ladies discuss how difficult this makes navigating dating and relationships.  If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at [email protected]. If you have a qu...

Honest Thoughts From a Six Figure Man ft. Uche Ohia

August 04, 2022 06:00 - 1 hour - 48.8 MB

#060 In this episode Chichi and NG have an unfiltered, candid, HONEST conversation with Uche, a six figure earning Nigerian American man, about his true thoughts on being in a relationship with a six figure earning woman. The ladies are not holding back in this conversation as they explore Uche's ideas on 50/50 in relationships, having a submissive wife, dating non-black women, and so much more.  If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR if you just wa...

Honest Thoughts From a Six Figure Man ft. Uche Ohia

August 04, 2022 06:00 - 1 hour - 48.8 MB

#060 In this episode Chichi and NG have an unfiltered, candid, HONEST conversation with Uche, a six figure earning Nigerian American man, about his true thoughts on being in a relationship with a six figure earning woman. The ladies are not holding back in this conversation as they explore Uche's ideas on 50/50 in relationships, having a submissive wife, dating non-black women, and so much more.  If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR if you just wa...

Are High Earning Black Women Undateable?

July 28, 2022 05:00 - 53 minutes - 36.8 MB

#59 In this episode Chichi and Ng discuss Chichi's epiphany about whether or not she is simply "undateable." More specifically the question is whether high earning black women, especially millennials, are just not dateable in the eyes of our male counterparts. They discuss how this is the first generation where woman are more independent, more successful, and aren't willing to shrink themselves to make a man feel bigger. This juicy discussion is one you do not want to miss!  If you have a q...

Are High Earning Black Women Undateable?

July 28, 2022 05:00 - 53 minutes - 36.8 MB

#59 In this episode Chichi and Ng discuss Chichi's epiphany about whether or not she is simply "undateable." More specifically the question is whether high earning black women, especially millennials, are just not dateable in the eyes of our male counterparts. They discuss how this is the first generation where woman are more independent, more successful, and aren't willing to shrink themselves to make a man feel bigger. This juicy discussion is one you do not want to miss!  If you have a q...

Submitting Does Not Mean Being His Servant

July 21, 2022 12:00 - 1 hour - 55.1 MB

#058 In this episode Ng and Chichi revisit this idea of submission. They discuss their thoughts on Jazzy Brown’s vita take on how she submits to her man. The ladies discuss whether or not submission has to mean servitude and whether they think that form of submission is sustainable in a long term relationship.   If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@g...

Submitting Does Not Mean Being His Servant

July 21, 2022 12:00 - 1 hour - 55.1 MB

#058 In this episode Ng and Chichi revisit this idea of submission. They discuss their thoughts on Jazzy Brown’s vita take on how she submits to her man. The ladies discuss whether or not submission has to mean servitude and whether they think that form of submission is sustainable in a long term relationship.   If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@g...

Is Approaching a Man Desperation or Confidence?

July 14, 2022 05:00 - 59 minutes - 41.1 MB

#057 in this episode Chichi and Ng discuss approaching men! They talk through all the juicy details of a recent night out that centers around the question of whether women should approach men or not? And are women who do make the first move seen as desperate or is it seen as a sign of confidence? This is an episode you don’t want to miss!  If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurew...

Stripping Our Womanhood

July 07, 2022 07:00 - 59 minutes - 41.1 MB

#056 In this episode Chichi and Ng tackle the array of feelings they’ve been having about the injustices woman are currently facing. Ironically this conversation took place on “independence” day and they point out how as women in America right now, they are anything but free. The ladies have a raw and emotional conversation about their thoughts on Roe v. Wade and the effect this will have on all women but especially black women. They get into some other topics surrounding their struggles as ...

Stripping Our Womanhood

July 07, 2022 07:00 - 59 minutes - 41.1 MB

#056 In this episode Chichi and Ng tackle the array of feelings they’ve been having about the injustices woman are currently facing. Ironically this conversation took place on “independence” day and they point out how as women in America right now, they are anything but free. The ladies have a raw and emotional conversation about their thoughts on Roe v. Wade and the effect this will have on all women but especially black women. They get into some other topics surrounding their struggles as ...

But For Real, Why Are You Single?

June 30, 2022 05:00 - 1 hour - 42.7 MB

#055 In this episode Chichi is in the hot seat as NG asks her questions about her single status. She opens up and answers one of the most dreaded question a single person can be asked, "why are you single?" The ladies dig deep into the things that may be holding Chichi back from a good relationship while also acknowledging all the positive and beautiful things that have come out of her single season.  If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR if you ju...