Just Say This! How to have sex talks with tweens

201 episodes - English - Latest episode: about 2 months ago - ★★★★★ - 118 ratings

Are you dragging your feet about having the sex talks? Do you wish someone would just tell you what to say to your tween (or any age kid) about this important part of life? You are in the right place.

I’m Amy Lang, a sex and parent educator, and in my frank (really frank), opinionated, and full of swears advice-column style parenting podcast, I answer real questions from real parents about the talks. I also provide topic-specific scripts so you can sound like a pro.

Most episodes are a potluck of questions that run the gamut from abortion to porn and everything in between. They need to know about all of these things by the time they start middle school.*

When you have no idea about the best age to start the birds and bees talks; what’s age appropriate; and what to actually SAY to them about sex, it makes the sex talks daunting (to say the least)!

When it comes to the sex talks, keeping it sex positive, light and fact based is key to getting them to listen to you and see you as their go-to birds and bees source. Just Say This can help you make this happen.

To record a question for me to answer in a later show (even if you think it’s a stupid one) call 206-926-1522.*

I love funny sex talk stories, too. So feel free to call those in, too.

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*Not a thing.

**In middle school they talk about everything so it’s better (and safer) for your kid to be super-well informed so that they feel confident and smart as things get really real. Do you remember middle school? Wouldn’t it have been so much better if you had known everything? Or anything?

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Episodes

Episode 50: Script on Circumcision

January 27, 2021 13:00 - 3 minutes - 3.61 MB

In this episode, Amy gives parents a script to talk to kids about circumcision.

Episode 49: Explaining Sex Stores and Standing Up for Others' Kids

January 20, 2021 13:00 - 11 minutes - 8.68 MB

In this episode, Amy talks to a mom who wonders how to help someone else's kid in a tough social situation. She also talks to a mom about explaining the store Lovers to a 7 year-old.

Episode 48: Script on Sex Workers

January 13, 2021 13:00 - 3 minutes - 3.35 MB

In this episode, Amy gives parents a script to talk to kids about sex workers.

Episode 47: P*rn Exposure at 15, Super-Friendly at 6, and Polyamory at School

January 06, 2021 13:00 - 28 minutes - 23.5 MB

In this episode, Amy talks to a mom who is concerned about her 15 year-old autistic son having seen porn. She also discusses the risks that a super-friendly 6 year-old faces. And she talks to a mom who is concerned about her young daughter discussing a polyamorous relationship.

Episode 46: Script on Virginity

December 30, 2020 13:00 - 3 minutes - 3.35 MB

In this episode, Amy gives parents a script to talk to kids about virginity.

Episode 45: P*rn concerns, masturbation, and sleepovers

December 16, 2020 13:00 - 21 minutes - 18.4 MB

In this episode, Amy talks to three parents about their teens and tweens - with concerns about porn use, talking about masturbation, and sleepovers.

A Bonus Replay of Pornisode #1

December 09, 2020 17:27 - 10 minutes - 8.26 MB

A mom wonders how to explain her husband's pornography use and what to do if another kid shows your kid pornography. A fun show on this little marvel of a parenting podcast.

Episode 43: All About 5-Year Olds (but really for all parents!)

November 25, 2020 13:00 - 16 minutes - 13.7 MB

In this episode, Amy talks to three parents about their 5-year olds. From playing doctor, to putting toys in private places to using the word 'sex' - it's all in here!

Episode 42: Young Gay Boy, Anal Sex Q, and Sexual Harassment

November 11, 2020 13:00 - 14 minutes - 11.6 MB

In this episode, Amy gives advice to a mom wanting to know what to say to her 8-year-old boy who likes his male friend. She also answers the question, 'is anal sex actually sex?', and she gives talking points to a parent who asks how to handle a situation where a trusted adult has been charged with sexual harassment.

Episode 41: P*rnisode! All you need to know to talk to your kids!

October 28, 2020 12:00 - 20 minutes - 17.8 MB

In this episode, Amy gives advice to three parents about talking to their kids about porn. You need to listen to this episode. Porn is all over. You need to talk to your kids. This is how.

Episode 40: Sexual Boundaries Between Sibs and First Crushes

October 14, 2020 12:00 - 14 minutes - 12.2 MB

In this episode Amy gives advice to a mom who is concerned about her son's interactions with his sister. She also talks to a mom about a young daughter's first crush.

Episode 39: 9-Year-Old Bi Gal and Talking Circumcision

September 30, 2020 12:00 - 12 minutes - 10.5 MB

In this episode, Amy gives advice to a mom on how to talk with her 9-year-old bisexual daughter. She also answers a question from a mom on how to discuss circumcision with her sons.

Episode 38: Hilarious 1970's Era Sex Advice for Teens, Is 7 Too Young To Know About Sex?, and Twins Getting Too Close

September 16, 2020 12:00 - 17 minutes - 16 MB

In this episode, Amy reads from a bonkers 1972 sex advice book. She also helps a mom who thinks that her 7-year-old might be too young to know about sex. And, she helps a mom whose twins are interested in each other's privates and in kissing one another.

Episode 37: COVID C*ckblock and Talking Masturbation with a Teen

September 02, 2020 12:00 - 16 minutes - 13.8 MB

In this episode, Amy helps a mom asking how to best have a discussion about periods with her 2-year-old. She also gives a mom ways to talk to her 13-year-old about masturbation. And, she helps a mom who is trying to find a sexy-time solution now that her kids are always around because of COVID.

Episode 36: The Naked Question and Family Conversations

August 19, 2020 12:00 - 13 minutes - 11.9 MB

In this episode, Amy talks about how when parents should worry about their own nudity around their kids. She also talks about how to handle conversations with kids of different ages in the family.

Episode 35: Young Boy and Boobs, TMI, and Puberty Books

August 05, 2020 12:00 - 21 minutes - 19.2 MB

In this episode, Amy gives advice to a mom who is concerned about her boy's preoccupation with boobs. She also talks to a mom who is concerned about oversharing personal information with her kids. Amy also gives some recommendations on books on books about puberty.

Episode 34: Is It TMI? and Talking With Grossed Out Kids

July 08, 2020 12:00 - 20 minutes - 17.7 MB

In this episode, Amy gives advice to a mom who wants to know if her daughter is getting too much sex-ed knowledge too soon. She also talks to a mom whose daughters are completely grossed out by any sex-ed information.

Episode 33: Girls and Revealing Clothing and Vulva Touching Gal

June 24, 2020 12:00 - 24 minutes - 22.2 MB

In this episode, Amy gives advice to a mom who asks for some help talking to her kids about girls and women dressing in revealing ways. Amy also responds to a mom who wants to know how to talk to her children about touching their private areas.

Episode 32: Internet Rules, Bathtub Rules, and Detailed Books

June 10, 2020 12:00 - 18 minutes - 17 MB

In this episode, Amy gives advice to a mom who doesn't know what to do when her son and his friends have different internet rules in their homes. Amy also responds to a mom who wants to know how to handle bathing two young children in the same tub who consent to touching each others' private areas. And Amy gives some book recommendations to a mom looking for some real-life information for her teen daughter.

Episode 31: Guest Star Nikki Knepper!

May 20, 2020 12:00 - 46 minutes - 33.2 MB

In this episode Amy and guest star, Nikki Knepper, give advice to a mom who wants to know what to do about the fact that her 4-year-old daughter has found the shower wand. They also talk about teens having sex at home and talking to young teens about porn.

Episode 31: Little Gal Finds the Shower Wand and Teens Having Sex at Home

May 20, 2020 12:00 - 46 minutes - 33.2 MB

Episode 30: The F-Word and Period Parties

May 06, 2020 12:00 - 11 minutes - 9 MB

In this episode, Amy gives advice to a mom who doesn't know how to respond to her son's question about a potty-mouthed term from the playground. Also, Amy talks to a mom about period parties.

Episode 29: All About Boys! (Parents of Girls Should Listen Too!)

April 22, 2020 12:00 - 31 minutes - 25.7 MB

In this episode, Amy gives advice to parents of boys about all kinds of boy issues. Great for parents of girls too!

Episode 28: Birth Control and Porn in 2nd Grade

April 08, 2020 12:00 - 14 minutes - 13 MB

In this episode, Amy gives advice to a dad who is going to ask his daughter to start taking birth control. Also, Amy gives a mom some pointers on how to talk to school officials about the fact that her second grader has been hearing about porn at school.

Episode 27: Doctor Consent and Periods with a Fear of Blood

March 25, 2020 12:00 - 17 minutes - 15 MB

In this episode, Amy gives advice to a mom who's son doesn't give the pediatrician consent, but the doctor wants it anyway. Also, Amy gives a mom some pointers on how to talk with her blood fearful daughter about periods.

Episode 26: Pregnant 12-Year-Old and Hickeys, in General

March 11, 2020 12:00 - 21 minutes - 18.8 MB

In this episode, Amy gives advice to a dad who wonders how to tell his kids that his 12-year-old niece is pregnant. Also, Amy gives a mom some pointers for talking with her hickey-giving son.

Episode 25: LGBTQ Resources and 'Sexy Stuff'

February 19, 2020 13:00 - 13 minutes - 11 MB

In this episode, Amy gives resources to a mom whose 12-year-old son has just come out to her. Also, Amy gives some advice to a mom of an 11-year-old boy who is looking for ‘sexy stuff’ online.

Episode 24: Young Lovin' and Porny Music Videos

February 05, 2020 13:00 - 24 minutes - 20.4 MB

In this episode, a mom hopes her 13-year-old daughter isn’t having sex but wants to be prepared if she is and another mom talks about the way that her 13-year-old and 10-year-old sons got around her monitoring software to watch porn.

Episode 23: Too Close for Comfort and the Pink Back Massager

January 22, 2020 13:00 - 15 minutes - 12.7 MB

In this episode a mom wonders how to keep her son from getting too close to his girlfriend and another mom wonders what she should say about her ‘back massager’ once her teenage son finds out about it.

Episode 22 - Rape Culture and The Use of 'Sexy'

January 08, 2020 13:00 - 17 minutes - 14.4 MB

In this episode a mom wonders how to speak to her son about rape culture. Also a mom asks how to take the power out of the word 'sexy' for her young daughters.

Episode 21: Long Distance Young Love and Self Stimulating Kid

November 06, 2019 13:00 - 18 minutes - 25 MB

In this episode a mom wonders if sending her 15-year-old to meet his long distance love is a good idea. Also, a mom asks how to talk to her daughter about her self stimulation behavior. Sponsored by APPropriate and the Birds and Bees and Kids Solution Center.

Episode 20: Boy Finds Kindle Porn Books and How To Explain 'Sexy'

September 18, 2019 12:00 - 23 minutes - 31.8 MB

In this episode a mom wonders what to do after finding out that her son has been reading porn books on his Kindle. Also, a mom asks how to explain the term 'sexy' to her young kids. Sponsored by Outside the Box Creation and the Birds and Bees and Kids Solution Center.

Episode 19: Is Vagina or Vulva Correct? and How to Explain Celibate Parent Relationship

August 24, 2019 11:00 - 15 minutes - 21.8 MB

In this episode a mom wonders if she's been using the wrong term when explaining sex to her kiddo. Also, a mom asks how to explain to her kid that she and her ex-partner are no longer romantically involved. Sponsored by APPropriate and the Birds and Bees and Kids Solution Center.

Episode 18: Dad Not Cool With Bi-Sexual Daughter and How to Explain Periods to 5 Year-Olds

August 07, 2019 11:00 - 16 minutes - 22.6 MB

In this episode a stepmom wonders how to handle her husband's freak out about his bi-sexual daughter and what to do about the girls bible-thumping, homophobe bio-mom. Also, a mom of 5-year-old twins wants to know how to explain periods, since their older sister’s just started.

Explaining Michael Jackson, an Autistic Blurter and Junk-Punching

July 05, 2019 19:00 - 15 minutes - 22 MB

In this episode of Just Say This a mom is worried her autistic son will blurt birds and bees info at exactly the wrong moment. She also needs to explain to her other son that Michael Jackson sexually abused a bunch of boys. Another mom wants to know how to handle her boys who like to punch each other in the crotch. Sponsors Outside the Box Creation - All inclusive art projects for you and your kids - USE CODE JustSayThis for 20% off your first purchase! Got a birds and bees question fo...

Sexuality and Christianity and Answering Personal Questions about BJs

June 19, 2019 21:50 - 14 minutes - 19.3 MB

Something get you all riled up and how to answer if your kiddo asks, “Do you do that?” after you explain one of the more challenging topics.

How to Explain Egg Donation and Help for a Boy Who Finds His Penis Wonderous

May 29, 2019 16:04 - 16 minutes - 22.1 MB

Mom and egg-donor sister need to explain their unique family situation to a 5 year old and how to handle a guy who wants to talk about, show and discuss his penis in detail. Deeeeeeeetail!

Care to Learn how to "Bum Check"? This Lil Gal will Show You How!

May 14, 2019 22:19 - 14 minutes - 19.6 MB

What to do when your 3-year-old has developed a special behavior with her favorite stuffy...and has a name for it. And a mom is worried she's waited too long because her 9-year-old is grossed out by ANY sex talking.

Girl Gets Rape Threat On Snap Chat and Doesn't Want Parents To Know

May 01, 2019 07:05 - 12 minutes - 17.8 MB

What to do when your older daughter tells you your younger daughter was threatened to be raped by a boy on Snapchat and is it OK for high schoolers to have a long distance relationship.

What's TMI and the scoop on boyfriend/girlfriend sleepovers

April 17, 2019 07:00 - 17 minutes - 24 MB

A mom wants to talk to her kids about sex more, but they don't seem interested - what's a gal to do? And teen boyfriend/girlfriend sleepovers.

What to do when your kid finds your sex toys and helping a differently wired child with hugging

April 01, 2019 23:17 - 11 minutes - 15.1 MB

Has your kid found your sex toys? Here's how to handle that somewhat embarrassing situation. This week also brings a great question about helping a differently wired child understand boundaries and hugging.

Episode 10: Pornography. Again.

March 13, 2019 08:00 - 9 minutes - 10.8 MB

A mom wonders how to explain her husband's pornography use and what to do if another kid shows your kid pornography. A fun show on this little marvel of a parenting podcast.

What about boys giving consent and some sexist potty training action

February 27, 2019 08:05 - 14 minutes - 19.5 MB

This week brings us a great question about boys giving consent and not just focusing on getting it. And a mom isn't sure what to call her daughters gal parts when she's wiping her. Such important parenting info!

Talking about Dad's Porn Use and Boy Shows Friend Porn

February 13, 2019 09:00 - 9 minutes - 10.8 MB

How to you talk to your kids about daddy's porn use and keep your kids from viewing it too. And what the heck to you do if YOUR kids shows another kid porn. Should she tell the other mom?

Girl Discovers Massager and a Mom Deals with Slang

January 30, 2019 14:00 - 16 minutes - 168 MB

What to you do when your niece discovers her dad's massager and gets busy with it? And how about some slang interpretation? All this and more is right here in this parenting podcast.

Daughter has crush on non-binary kid plus how to teach girls to trust their gut

January 16, 2019 20:00 - 9 minutes - 91.7 MB

One mom is struggling with her daughter's crush on a former girl who is now non-binary. Other is about how to help girls learn to trust their guts when it comes to safe and unsafe situations and adults. This is not just for girls, BTW, boys need to know how to do this too!