Joyfully Married After

What Does A Wife Want?

Last week, Heath told you What A Man Wants! This week, Tracy is telling you What A Wife Wants! Tracy breaks it down to 5 main points:  Talk To Me - I need conversation. Open your mouth. "Was the dinner good? Do I look good today?" Converse with your significant other; force yourself if you have to.  I Need Some Affection - What really does it for her. What are her love languages. Acts of Service are Tracy's (Gas in the car, Dishes done, Flowers) Show her the love. Be Open And Honest - No...

What Does A Husband Want?

Heath is bringing the TRUTH on today's episode of Joyfully Married After.  We are talking What A Husband Wants!  RESPECT in his house. Can’t dog out your husband in front of ppl. Working, being kind, father, providing as best as possible. If he is being a many worthy of respect...then give him some RESPECT! INTIMACY on the regular. Sometimes other things get in the way. Kids, sports practice, tv shows, jobs, you get tired. Don’t want to be irritating to your wife. The ask, convey to me wh...

Have You Found The One?

How do you know you've found THE ONE??? On today's episode, Heath and Tracy share the 5 things that solidified them know that they were each others THE ONE. Tracy's 5 Things: Heath pursued me. I felt secure and myself around Heath. Heath made me laugh and made our relationship FUN. We could talk on the phone for hours without getting bored of one another. Heath's female friends had so much respect and love for him that I knew he was a keeper. Heath's 5 Things: Tracy was so easy to h...

is it Worth Spending on the Wedding?

Is There Too Much Emphasis on the Wedding? Tracy and I explore people's reasons not to have a wedding, especially for budget newlyweds when the marriage is SO much more important than the wedding itself. People delay marriage unnecessarily and end up asking themselves, is it worth spending money on a wedding? Is it worth it to have a wedding? Are weddings overrated? Should we have a small wedding? Since we are budget newlyweds, should we have a budget wedding? Some of the research we did f...

How to Flirt with Your Partner

1. Show Interest. 2. Touch your spouse.  3. Tell a joke  4. Cleaning it up(for the married people) unmarried people- do small things.  5. Turn Down the bed for each other  6. Wear something special. Their favorite dress, shirt, pants, color. Etc.  7. Snuggle, while you are watching tv, or touching at the table in a restaurant under the table. 8. Talk, Talk, Talk Women use 1000’s words more than men.  9. Compliment them. “You smell good”, Your beard is soft. Etc. Your hair looks good. ...

What We Wish We Knew Before We Got Married

HeathandTracy.com Legacy Living Worksheet here: https://bit.ly/legacylivingworksheet Thanks for listening! We’ve got 10 things we wish we knew before we got married.  Why?  How you will feel after you hear this...  1. Marriage is a marathon, not a sprint.  2. Marriage success comes from repetition. You practice being married every day. Am I practicing marriage or practicing divorce dating  3. Deprioritizing everything over your marriage. Work kids family  4. Always act like you are 35 ...

How Do You Repair Broken Trust?

How to Repair Broken Trust  In any relationship trust in one another is key. A key component that threatens trust is fear.  Social media Story- Talking to someone on SM about things that you are afraid to talk to your partner about.  Give Examples. Give Subject matter  How you feel about what’s going on at work Their appearance  You need more attention that you are getting  This action unknowingly break the trust that was built up over the years.  Then avoidance and shame  avoiding the...

Six Myths of the Perfect Marriage

What would your relationship be like if it was perfect? Myth #1: Perfect relationship partners are totally compatible. Myth #2: Perfect relationship partners have “equal appetites.” Myth #3: Great partners always put their relationship first. Myth #4: Great partners are never attracted to anyone else. Myth #5: Perfect relationships do not have serious conflicts. Myth #6: Perfect relationship partners are always “on the same team.”

7 Ways to Be Married Your Way

We are discussing how couples have different ways of being married. The secret to a great marriage is deciding what you want your marriage to be about – and don't just give me that gauzy, dreamy poetry about love. Be practical. Be specific. Starter Marriage Companionship Marriage Parenting Marriage Safety Marriage Living alone together Marriage Open Marriage Covenant Marriage Join Us Live Every Monday for Joyfully Married After Podcast Live! heathandtracy .com to join Marriage Money Mind...

Are You Sabotaging Your Relationship?

Listen up! There are things that you are doing that are ruining your relationship. We give you the ones you need to stop. We are discussing 7 ways you are sabotaging your relationship or Self Sabotaging relationships. We also discuss ways to stop sabotaging relationships. So ask yourself " Am I Sabotaging My Relationship?" And What are the Behaviors that Ruin Relationships? Are You ignoring your partner's interests or do you say thank you for the small things? Listen to find out what you a...

Can You Save a Sexless Marriage?

In this episode, we discuss the reasons you want to fix your sexless marriage and the way to avoid a sexless marriage. We talk about the reasons you are in a sexless marriage. And How to fix it. A sexless marriage could be due to a number of causes, including: Low sex drive Lack of emotional connection Poor communication Medical problems like medications that cause low libido and side effects. Disability Mental health conditions Children Age-related factors like hormones ebb and flow with ...

Is it Time to Seek Therapy?

When it time to seek therapy in your relationship?

Why Your Words Matter with Your Partner

Your words are so powerful God created the earth with words. You create your world with your words. Create your marriage with your words. Create your finances with your words. Your spouse needs to hear your edify and lift them. They don't need your direction.

The Goal is to be Married AND Happy!

Don't you want to be JOYFULLY Married? What are the goals in your marriage? "The goal is to be happily married not just married." Why get married if you aren't going to married because we all know that you don't have to be married. You need to make a distinct choice to be JOYFULLY married.

Want a Happy Marriage?

In this Episode we Discuss how to have a happy Marriage. 1.  Invest in your marriage just like your business/career with a weekly meeting with an Agenda- Treat this like you would a valuable client. Make sure you don’t miss it. No interruptions. In a quiet place. Ask the question. Where can I improve? 2 .Create the Vision of Your Union. Who do you see yourself as the significant other? Think like premier Romantic Cater directly to their love language in a big way on a regular basis Lo...

Is Marriage Becoming Extinct?

Why do people say that marriage is becoming extinct? 1. FEAR -people are afraid of hurt, rejection being vulnerable. FOMO. Something or someone better is around the corner. It’s all fear and you bring it to yourself… 2. Bad teaching- Who are you listening to? Online influences, gurus, family members? You reading your word? Your pastor? Following people with fruit on the tree? Modeling marriage/family success? Seeking positive input and wise counsel? Men bashing women and women bashing men ...

What Do You Believe About Black Marriage?

We are going to break 4 Myths with statistics. 1. Black Women Don’t Marry -  2.Educated Black Women Have It Harder 3. Rich Black Men Marry Out 4. Black Men Don’t Earn as Much as Black Women Do Black people get married? That question has been asked in one form or another in a series of news reports about the Black marriage “crisis.” On the surface, such stories seem to be concerned about Black women in search of love, but these media reports have fueled stereotypes about Black people. By...

3 Ways to Have a Great Marriage and a Great Business

Invest in your marriage just like your business/career WEEKLY MEETING Weekly meeting with an Agenda- Treat this like you would a valuable client. Don’t miss No interruptions In a quiet place Ask to scale 1-10 Where can i improve What is going on in the business, the Vision of the business Out of town this week? Anything giving extra pressure this week What is going on with the house, family, kids What important activities are coming up What important appointment are coming up CREATE THE V...

Things I Learned on My Entrepreneurial Journey while Married - Interview with Lamar Tyler

In this episode we interviewed Lamar Tyler of Black Married with Kids and TSP. Using his motto "The Gatekeepers Are Gone," Lamar has leveraged social media to build a movement of online brands that support, uplift, and encourage the black community with over 600 thousand social media fans and over 51 thousand customers in all 50 states and 43 countries across the globe.  Among the recognition received for his work, Lamar, along with wife Ronnie was named one of Ebony Magazine's Power 100, ...

Is Love Enough?

Is it possible to love someone but not feel emotionally close?  There is often a gap between the love we feel in our heart and the emotional intimacy we experience with someone.  The connection we desire may seem so close, so we keep trying, but it remains elusive. You can love someone but don't experience the trust and safety that are necessary for the relationship to thrive.  But this emotional safety is an essential foundation for an intimate relationship. The Ingredients of Emotiona...

Handle Your Money and Build a Legacy Together

The best way to handle money in your Marriage Begin with a plan to move your family and your future in building a legacy. This is the way to solid finances. You want to start with an abundance mindset. Not a scarcity mindset. Be Ok, plan. Watch your spending on the necessities. Rent/Mortgage, Transportation and food. My dad calls it “Food, clothing and shelter.  Be Secure. This is where you are going for the 6 months or more savings. Build a Wealth plan. This is when you can have fun. ...

Why 50 50 Relationships Don't Work.

Marriage isn’t a fifty-fifty proposition. Conducting your relationship as a business deal will get you in a lot of trouble. Since we live in a competitive culture, we see things thru a capitalist lens, prompting us toward seeing things as quid pro quo or tit for tat rather than giving more freely and less conditionally.  Instead of real giving of yourself, you see relationships as an investment, expecting a return,  and if you don’t get a return you feel resentment. What you need to agree ...

Does Social Media Lead to Problems in Your Relationship?

If you are doing the following things, you are cheating: If my partner asked me about my chats, comments, and messages to others on social media, do I hide some messages? Do you sometimes like to chat or message ex’s online? Sometimes, instead of going to my partner, Do you share deep emotional or intimate information with others online? Do the above statements apply to you?  Spending time with another person outside of your relationship is time spent away from a partner, which is one o...

Healthy or Unhealty Relationship. Which One is Yours?

Healthy Relationships vs Unhealthy Relationship  What is a Healthy Relationship? The easy answer is that it looks different for every couple. However, I realized a long time ago that if we didn't grow up with parents who had wonderful ways of relating to one another, that there was virtually nowhere else to turn to find a healthy couple to learn from.  This leaves the ways that happy and healthy couples relate as secrets that many of us don't get to experience.  But First  Unhealthy Rela...

2020 Ruin Your Relationship?

The year of exposure. Brought out the best and worst in our relationships. What we loved grew and what we hated grew. Go back to the beginning and remember what drew you to each other. Think about what happened. Don’t play a blame game. Put yourself in their shoes. Communication but start with how not what. What’s the process to get us back to where we were. Focus on the process. Be the bigger person. Be responsible for your emotions. Don’t take it personally. It’s time to be the respo...

New Year Steps to Build a Future

Each year Tracy and I go through this exercise to plan our year. We break it up into 2 parts. ( The first 6 months of the year and the second)  Additionally we do this with each of our adult children as well to get them accustomed to reflection and goal setting. If have a business or you’re creating a brand, it’s great to create a calendar for your content creation as well so you have dates and time frame targets to keep you on track... Brainstorm Ideas-Business ideas, personal goals-I ...

5 Most Important Relationship Tips for the New Year

Focus on small acts of kindness. Boosts your mood. Do t be stingy with each other. You need some water? Pay attention to your inner voice that creates distance. Don’t listen to negative/critical voice on your shoulder. No self sabotage with the inner voice. Don’t allow it prevent you from being vulnerable. Be aware of fantasies you may form. An illusion of oneness vs 2 distinct people working together to create a great marriage. “We don’t do this”, “we don’t do that”...instead of honorin...

We Are Asked Some of Your Most Pressing Questions!

We are being asked your most pressing questions by Gary Jones of the "Get With the Program" Radio show. 

How to Rebuild Broken Trust

A key component that threatens trust is fear. Our son’s action earlier this week broke the trust and its primary cause was fear.  Leaving the house without telling us was caused by “ a fear that we’d say no”. A fear of missing out on some perceived fun with a buddy. This action unknowingly broke the trust that was built up over the years. Then avoidance and shame kicked in about what he’d done ✅ and he hid avoiding the consequences and confrontation. This is a great analogy for p...

Do We have a Communication Problem?

What we’re discussing today.   “I said what I said.”- Rules of Communication Question of the week -  Hey if you are married and your spouse doesn’t tell his family what does that mean for your relationship? Doing it Well -A Sexless Marriage is a vulnerable Marriage    3 Rules of Communication that leads towards connection. Many couples make the mistake of assuming that their problems are due to poor communication.  That is not (or rarely) the case. Why do couples think this? Becaus...

How Do I Win My Partner Back?

In this episode Heath and Tracy discuss 1. Getting your husband or wife back after separation. 2. Question of the week - "My husband is always checking for an Ex on Facebook, Is this a problem?" 3. Doing it Well - Kill the routine. “Inside or Outside?”  Discussing the DO’s of how to save the relationship, we talked about the DON’Ts last week. The first thing we want to say is NO Manipulation. There are many out there that make manipulative suggestions and we don't abide by ANY. It wi...

What NOT to do When Your Partner Wants Out.

What we’re discussing today.  5 Things NOT to do when your partner wants out of the relationship.   Question of the week - "Is it appropriate for a married man to be part of private group chats with other men that share nothing but VERY pornographic/explicit videos and pictures of women?" Doing it Well  - Is it “Hump” day yet? Scheduling Sex    

Are You Bringing Baggage?

Two people marry more than each other – they marry a set of circumstances.52 Becoming aware of how their two worlds combine on a practical level is essential to making sure they don’t collide on an emotional level.  Booth, A., Johnson, D., & Edwards, J. (1983)  Social - Financial - Expectations Social- There are four aspects of a couples social world. Friends and Family Support - In- Laws Relationships -Level of Investment - Faith Community Page 49. Financial - Money Style(Spender/Sa...

Your Individual Wellbeing and Your Relationship Wellbeing

What is WellBeing? It is measuring the psychological health for both individuals + caution flags as well as the emotional health of your marriage together. Why does it matter?Your relationship can only be as healthy as you and your partner.

What is Your Marriage Mindset?

What we’re discussing today.  5 Marriage Mindsets   Question of the week - He is still on a dating website, but asked me to get off. What should I do? Doing it Well     Top of Mind Mindset of our Relationships - every person brings a mindset to marriage - What they say, think, and believe when it comes to tying the knot. Basically it’s your attitude toward marriage. You already have beliefs, thoughts, feelings and attitudes about the concept of marriage. If you know your marriage ...

Lost Passion, The Bezo's and MGTOW Movement

What’s next? Navigating Passion to Compassion The good news is that if couples get past that two-year slump and hang on for an another couple of decades, they may well recover the excitement of the honeymoon period—at a most unlikely time: 18 to 20 years later, when their children have typically left home and, with the freedom of the so-called “empty nest,” partners are left to discover one another—and, often, their early bliss—once again.Familiarity may or may not breed contempt, but rese...

Variety, No Sex Marriage and Husband's Needs

Variety may be the spice for Passionate Life Injecting variety and surprise into even the most stable, seasoned relationship is a good hedge against such temptation. In a classic experiment by Arthur Aron and his colleagues, researchers gave upper-middle-class middle-aged couples a list of activities that both partners agreed were “pleasant” (such as creative cooking, visiting friends, or seeing a movie) or “exciting” (skiing, dancing, or attending concerts) but that they had enjoyed...

Passion, Newlyweds and Nipsey

Theme of the month Passion Definition of passion - strong and barely controllable emotion, the suffering and death of Jesus. Being passionate is key to the marriage relationship. You can display passion about your life together, about the one you love, about specific parts of life; however the most important thing you should be passionate about is survival and thrift of the marriage itself. Be locked into what's best for the marriage as your north star and you’ll always be lead to the ...

Joint Bank Accounts and Broken Trust

Compassion- A strong feeling of sympathy and sadness for other people’s suffering or bad luck and desire to help. How to rebuild broken trust In any relationship, trust is key. You have to have it. It is foundational. 1. If trust is broken, you have to rebuild it. If you don’t, the relationship will probably wither away and die. 2. In order to repair it, you have to be open to keep the trust. Be open to rebuilding the trust in a way that helps the person who the trust was broken with. If...

Rule of Being a Great Teamate

What we’re discussing today. Theme of the Month-Compassion, A top of mind topic for us; Choosing, not just a soulmate for marriage but a good teammate. Answering a burning question from our audience, We’re going to bless you with a one minute word, And even have an adult conversation about getting what you need in the bedroom from your mate. Theme of the month -Compassion- A strong feeling of sympathy and sadness for other people’s suffering or bad luck and desire to help.Empathy- th...

The Power of a Married Couple - Jordyn Woods Situation

Steps to Gain Self Awareness Episode 42

We Walk through other ways to help people get there…   But just how do I do that?   Be open when receiving criticism from your family, friends and partner. Try to look at things from another’s point of view. Know that there is room for improvement and seek it out fearlessly Ask someone that loves you, family or friend, for advice and constructive criticism and Have an open and loving conversation with your partner, admitting your weaknesses in self-awareness, and share that they m...

GETTING PERSONAL WITH SELF AWARENESS _EPISODE 41

Are Your Self Aware in Your Relationship?

In this episode We’ll be talking about how Ways to Help You Find Better Self Awareness   You ever ask yourself, “How can I be more Self Aware”? What can I do? Well, we dive into it in this episode.   Self Awareness, How can you be more self aware is an episode you don’t want to miss!   Are you ready to be Joyfully Married After? Be the first in line when the program opens by joining the waiting list HERE! If you enjoy this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear...

UNTIL DEATH DO US PART? EPISODE 038

ARE WE "LIFE PARTNERS" OR ARE WE MARRIED? EPISODE 035

HE REALLY LOVES YOU IF... EPISODE 036

MEN LOVE THIS STUFF! EPISODE 037

HAVE AN ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE_EPISODE 033

We discuss why we are grateful for one another and why you should be too. There is always someone hoping for what you have.

DOES SEX REALLY MATTER?_EPISODE_031

We discuss the importance of intimacy in your marriage.