Is Our Love ____? with Lola Jean & The Reluctant Sexpert
65 episodes - English - Latest episode: over 3 years ago - ★★★ - 71 ratingsIn the age of porn on our phones and vibrators around our necks, is the future of love doomed? Sex Educator & Olympian Squirter Lola Jean and Reluctant Sexpert Stephen Penta (former producer of Guys We F**ked Podcast) tow both sides of the line. They are the vigilante sex educators no one asked for, creating the next gen Kama Sutra you deserve.
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Is Our Love The Objectification of Black Men with King Noire
October 07, 2020 08:00 - 1 hour - 80.9 MBBlack men in particular are one of the most objectified groups in porn. Black men are a porn genre, which begs the question of why race is a genre….BBC is more than just a porn SEO tag, it is a colloquialism, signaling on dating apps and even a proclaimed sexual lifestyle. Though we may think we are idolizing the black male body, where does this notion come from, how is it perpetuated and how do those on the receiving end experience it? King Noir is no stranger to speaking out politically an...
Is Our Love Sex Education? (with Cameron Glover)
September 30, 2020 08:00 - 1 hour - 80.7 MBAn Educator for Sex Educators? A more and more common question these days as more sexuality professionals emerge is: “How can I do that too?” The road to becoming a sexuality professional is murky. Even murkier is how to make that career or side-hustle a viable one. Enter Cameron Glover, whose goal is to make your sex ed business as successful as it can be with the Sex Ed Business Academy. Certifications, training programs, mentorship...there isn’t one go-to path for all individuals. What ma...
Is Our Love A World Of F**K (with Erotica Writer and Sex Toy Inventor Tabitha Rayne)
September 23, 2020 08:00 - 1 hour - 99.6 MBThis week we continue our venture into the world of literotica with someone who can not only call themselves an erotica writer but a sex toy inventor as well. Tabitha Rayne is a decorated writer who draws more on fiction than reality. Penning her dirty words as a way to finesse typing and molding her own rideable toy as a means to get off while her fingers flowed, Tabitha quite literally continues to fall into success. Tabitha brings the fun back into saying, writing and reading certain word...
Is Our Love A Dirty Word (with Erotic Author Peekaboo Collins)
September 16, 2020 08:00 - 1 hour - 81.4 MBFor all of the visual stimuli we are bombarded with and lack of sexual communication it’s no wonder we are ill equipped to whisper sweet nothings into our persons ear. Enter: Peekaboo Collins. Whether it’s poetry or short stories, Peekaboo weaves a web of syllables and phrases of the lead up, and the in-betweens of every scintillating moment. We learn that not all erotica has to depict fantasy, and how we can rewrite our own stories in the best possible light….if we want. From the bathroom ...
Is Our Love Normative (with Porn Performer & Activist Lync Johnson)
September 09, 2020 08:00 - 1 hour - 112 MBWhat is a norm and how do you know if you’re willingly or unwillingly abiding by it? By now we know our formative years at least have some influence in our worldview. Does that mean norms are good? Bad? or do they not even matter at all? Porn performer and activist Lync Johnson (@lyncjohnson3x) takes us through his formative years and how his lack of societal influence helped him form norms of his own. From a unique first time experience to rejecting labels, Lync’s journey down memory lane h...
Is Our Love Consensual? (with Intimacy Coordinator Mia Schachter)
September 02, 2020 08:30 - 1 hour - 102 MBBy now we all know what consent means…..or do we? How much do you really know and what can an intimacy coordinator teach you about your current understanding? Alot, it turns out. If you thought consent = permission, this week is for you. Intimacy coordinator Mia Schachter (@miaschachter) graces our presence to boost our understanding of consent and what most people get wrong within their understanding. We can all use a better understanding of consent and how boundaries relate to it both sexu...
Is Our Love Represented in Film? (with Nia Ashley)
August 26, 2020 08:00 - 1 hour - 92.9 MBWhat role does film and media play in our love and in our lives? Does culture reflect film or vice versa? This week we are joined by the charismatic Nia Ashley who takes us on her film journey and the media that impacted her life. We reflect on what happened to the era of UPN series and why TV has taken one step forward and three steps back. Nia helps us navigate if we can still love art and artists that we now see through problematic glasses. Nia represents a burgeoning generation eager to ...
Is Our Love Sex Down South (with Marla Stewart)
August 19, 2020 09:00 - 1 hour - 84.8 MBThis week we're joined by southern sexuality superhuman Marla Stewart, whose impressive body of work speaks for itself. Co-founder of the Sex Down South conference, Marla is already making history and a forging new educated era in sex and sexuality. Plus... she loves an uncomfortable conversation as much as we do. From strip club culture to pop culture we discuss how history and geographical location influences cultural upbringing. Oh, and we take a highly academic lens to the impact and sig...
Is Our Love Conventional (with Hannah Witton)
August 12, 2020 08:00 - 1 hour - 96.3 MBBased on the number of pro dommes we've had on this podcast the past few weeks, we need a little reminder that good, old fashioned, fuck yes, traditional sex is still fucking fantastic and fun for all! We are joined this week by Sex Educator and Youtuber Hannah Witton who's advocating for the conventional. Marriage, kids, monogamy. What does it mean to be sexually progressive when you tic so many privileged boxes? How do you handle secret fantasies or masturbating to an ex in a committed rel...
Is Our Love Dead? (with Audrey Fatale)
August 05, 2020 08:00 - 1 hour - 98.9 MBOh I’m sorry... did you think we were an good-vibes-all-the-time podcast? Stephens inner goth gets to let loose as we welcome this week's fascinating guest Audrey Fatale. We learn all about the death industry and how Audrey navigated her way through it. Find out what secondary trauma response is, what one learns working at a morgue and in traumatic bereavement, and how she’s brought alllllll of that into BDSM. From necrophiles to the funeral business, whether you avoid the topic of death, r...
Is Our Love Patient? (with Mistress Eva Oh)
July 29, 2020 08:00 - 1 hour - 89.8 MBIs Our Love Particular? Does our love even know what it wants? Whether you’re ideal pairing is in pay-for-play, a long term partner, or your career we could all take a few notes from Mistress Eva Oh (@youwillplease_me) in patience and consistency. Enter this week’s episode bursting with logic. Mistress Eva Oh has a particular list of her small life's pleasures and knows exactly how to go about getting them... or punish shortcomings. We could all learn a thing or two from Eva Oh when it comes...
Is Our Love A Male Dom? (with Master Peter)
July 22, 2020 09:00 - 1 hour - 98.4 MBWhy are femme Dominatrizes more prevalent and heralded than masc Doms? Is there a stigma against masc Doms, particularly cis-male Doms? We discuss why that is and what you can do about it on our latest episode with Master Peter. From swing dancing to switch hitting, Master Peter got into the business sideways and now he is firing from all cylinders. From his time as dungeon monitor, personal relationships, and his clients both couples and singles alike, you’re going to want to learn what put...
Is Our Love A Dungeon? (with Mistress Adreena)
July 15, 2020 08:00 - 1 hour - 107 MBWhat is a dungeon and are they all created similarly? We speak with all around sex worker Adreena Angela on how she doesn’t follow all the rules from curating her studio space, how she interacts with clients, and the controversial stance on if Dommes take their tits out. Dungeons and sex work isn’t as scary as you would think and Adreena pulls back the veil to let you know some of the best -- and worst messages and experiences she has in her decorated career. PLUS Adreena, Lola and Stephen a...
Is Our Love The Fetishization of Latinx Womxn? (with Rebecca Carvalho)
May 28, 2020 02:23 - 1 hour - 98.6 MBHave you ever had a stereotype projected onto you? Have you ever felt guilty about embodying or identifying with a stereotype of your ethnicity or otherwise? These conversations may not be easy but they’re absolutely necessary. This week we welcome Rebecca Carvalho to discuss her relationship with her ethnicity as it relates to her sexuality and how this comes into play throughout her dating life and interaction with porn. Latinx people covers a WIDE range of persons. Rebecca uses her person...
Is Our Love the New 'Talk'? (with Jet Setting Jasmine)
May 20, 2020 08:00 - 1 hour - 100 MBDo you remember getting the talk? Who gave it to you? How would you give “the talk?” Easier said than done. This week’s guest Jet Setting Jasmine is not only walking the walk but talking THE 'talk'. Jasmine is a mother of three and can add therapist, pornographer and domme to her extensive resume. Jasmine schools us on the sex positive parenting playbook that doesn’t exist, answering questions like: When do you start introducing topics of sex to your children and how you go about doing it? D...
Is Our Love Non Monogamous? (w Ruby Rare)
May 13, 2020 08:00 - 1 hour - 96.4 MBDoes it seem like everyone is talking about open relationships and polyamory lately? Is non-monogamy actually better? Who is it for? Does non-monogamy mean you have more sex? And why does it have so many syllables? Ruby Rare joins us this week to spell out the shades of non-monogamy from A-Z. Whether you’re already considering non-monogamy or you want some applicable learnings for your future relationships, this episode has relatable bits of wisdom for everyone - monogamous or not. PLUS, Ste...
Is Our Love A Pelvic Floor (w/ Dr. Rachel Gelman)
May 06, 2020 08:00 - 1 hour - 104 MBDid you know you have a pelvic floor? Yes, all of you. Do you know what is does? Spoiler Alert: EVERYTHING. Rachel Gelman a San Francisco based Pelvic Floor Therapist joins us this week to tell us everything from the 411 on kegals to why a good bowel movement can make your week. Whether you had no idea that the hammock in your pelvis was responsible for your orgasms AND your urination or you’ve been trying to kegel your way to the heavy weights - there’s always something new to learn. Trus...
Is Our Love A Coming of Age (with Liv Revamped)
April 29, 2020 08:00 - 1 hour - 98.6 MBRebelling against your Pagan family by joining a church... this isn’t your average darling come porn performer coming of age tale. From the industry trying to pigeon hole a multi-racial gal as “latina,” to diversifying her porn profile Liv Revamped drops some wisdom for any aspiring porn performers about how she’s stayed fresh with over a decade of performing sex on camera. We learn pros vs. cons, working indie vs. contract, and discuss porns' rampant streaming evolution PLUS Stephen, Lola a...
Is Our Love A New Era Of Porn? (w Inka Winter of ForPlay Films)
April 22, 2020 08:00 - 1 hour - 75.5 MBEveryone and their step-sibling seems to be making their own bootleg smut these days. Is there room for a new era of porn graduated form the yesteryears of gonzo? Is there a difference between porn and erotica? And above all - how does one transition from growing up in a sex cult to creating responsible porn? Frustrated by a lack of quality heterosexual porn that spoke to her, one-woman-show Inka Winter set out to make her own with For Play Films. We find out about the process that goes in...
Is Our Love Stoya (Pt.2)
April 15, 2020 08:00 - 1 hour - 79.9 MB"I have caffeine, nicotine… and the conversation’s all over the place just like I like it.” - Stoya This week is the conclusion of our 2 part conversation with Stoya. We dive right in. If you haven’t listened to pt.1 … well, you’re doing it wrong. We talk balancing love, a career in adult film, and how the modern world forced her to become an expert in costuming & disaster-preparedness. We discuss Stoya's tween years spent researching sexuality, bdsm, & evolutionary biology at her local ...
Is Our Love Stoya (Pt. 1)
April 08, 2020 08:00 - 1 hour - 74.9 MBStoya. A person who needs no introduction but we’re going to attempt it anyway. An internationally celebrated author, activist, actress & advocate for sex worker’s rights. An introverted cat lover, a next level book nerd, and a fearless caller of bullshit. An endless seeker of the authentic & creator of sexually explicit media in all forms. Stoya’s famously photogenic asshole could be identified in a line-up by millions of porn viewers… and that’s made her life simultaneously fascinating...
Is Our Love A Private Public Figure (with Fetish Fellow)
April 01, 2020 08:00 - 1 hour - 100 MBIn a world that isn’t wildly accepting of sexuality, kink, or anything that falls out of heteronormativity can be a scary thing to reveal to folx. Will they accept you? Shame you? Fire you? And if it goes long enough does keeping the secret become the bigger deal? Fetish Fellow is as public a private person can be. As an adored and go-to photo shoot submissive, Fetish Fellow has been in his share of masked displays. The modern day superhero removes his mask to join us to talk about his time ...
Is Our Love A Threesome?
March 25, 2020 08:00 - 1 hour - 118 MBThis week we ironically tackle threesomes as a twosome. Threesomes are often one of the first boxes on people’s sexual bucket lists, but are they all they’re cracked up to be? Stephen and Lola weigh the pro’s and con’s on adding a third, and trade some of their best (and worst) threesome tales. What makes a good threesome? What does a 'unicorn' mean? And what you need to know before you decide to have a threesome. Consider this your no-holds-bared, non-romanticized straight shooting guide to...
Is Our Love Financially Stable? (with Lindsay Goldwert)
March 18, 2020 08:00 - 1 hour - 104 MBThis week we take a break from our social distancing to talk about something other than coronavirus. To bring up spirits we decided it would be a great time to discuss personal finances! Totally kidding... we just recorded this episode pre-virus outbreak. In all seriousness, finances are a tricky topic regardless of global pandemic, and what a better time to reassess our relationship with sex, love and money than now. Lindsay Goldwert, author of Bow Down: Lessons from Dominatrixes on How to ...
Is Our Love A Genital Rainbow? (w/ Jessy Caron and Rebekah Frank)
March 11, 2020 08:00 - 1 hour - 85.4 MBThis week, Is Our Love welcomes the gals of the “Welcome To My Vagina” podcast into *our* podcast vagina which is probably... anal? From hashtag#wellness-ing everything, to the reasons why we faked or continue to fake orgasms, Jessy & Rebekah trade genital war stories. We are overcoming our genital shame in this rainbow bright choose-your-own-genital-experience buffet. Listen to Jessy & Rebekah on Welcome To My Vagina (on all pod platforms) and find their other writing, videos, etc on w...
Is Our Love Bleeding (w/ Valarie Merced ...aka the blood queen)
March 04, 2020 09:00 - 1 hour - 88.1 MBThis week we live in the taboo, the messy, and the sometimes woo woo. That’s right: We’re on the rag, riding the crimson wave….we’re BLEEDING love. Valarie Merced (aka The Blood Queen) schools us on why it’s important for her to bleed on her lovers. From seeing her mother’s menstruation to the safeties and physiological response during menstruation, this episode is for people with vulvas AND those who enjoy them. Hell, how often do we get to talk about period and period sex? Strap on your Th...
Is Our Love Positive? (with HIV Advocate Philipp Spiegel)
February 26, 2020 09:00 - 1 hour - 78.9 MBThis week on Is Our Love we explore the positive side of being positive. Advocate Philipp Speigel shares his personal stories from reliving his HIV diagnosis, depression, and processing to ultimately becoming a speaker and advocate through owning his positive status. Where it was once thought of as a death sentence, treatment and management for HIV has come leaps and bounds. Do you know what undetectable means? How educated are you on HIV transmission? How often are you getting tested snd ho...
Is Our Love Forever Vol.2 (w Lorrae Bradbury: founder of Slutty Girl Probs)
February 19, 2020 09:00 - 1 hour - 92.4 MBBetween breakups, makeups and all that unfolds in between we’ve all had our uglier moments. Lorrae of Slutty Girl Probs fame walks us through the best of times and the worst of times and how learning from those moments has helped her grow and learn more about herself and the types of relationships she needs. Lorrae and Stephen bond over seeing themselves as the problem child in the aftermath of a breakup, while Lola questions why most people tend to always make a villain out of their ex. PLU...
Is Our Love High? with Sophie St. Thomas
February 12, 2020 09:00 - 1 hour - 96 MBMove over stoner comedies and Bob Marley posters, cannabis has a new sheriff in town…. Sophie St Thomas! This week on Is Our Love we have the most responsible conversation about drugs with the famed author of Finding Your Higher Self and upcoming books Sex Witch and The Little Book of CBD for Self Care. Sophie takes us through her journey from her decision to become sober to her battle with PTSD, flashbacks and her journey to healing through Cannabis and other substances. PLUS we get into...
Is Our Love Defined? (with Kinky Queer Architect: Vanilla Honey)
February 05, 2020 09:00 - 1 hour - 100 MBWe’re back from a *brief* hiatus to bring you the first episode of 2020. We’re getting all kinds of heady dissecting the phrasing, attire and spaces we frequent and what makes then “queer” “kinky” “sexy” etc…. How do we react to each of these individually and how do they influence or affect our behavior. Kinky queer architect Vanilla Honey shares her kink journey from her first experience with latex to her fantasy of designing the minimalist dungeon of your dreams. We question what is normal...
Is Our Love A Resolution?
December 18, 2019 09:00 - 45 minutes - 55.6 MBOn our last episode of 2019, we take a look back on our favorite episodes of the year and also discuss our take on “Resolutions.” What’s the deal with benchmarks and why do we put so much weight into the changing of the years? Find out what Stephen and Lola are looking forward to in 2020 and what they’re leaving behind in 2019. Most of all, thank you for listening and we look forward to bringing you even more in 2020. If you have any episode requests or are seeking advice of your own this co...
Is Our Love Fertile (Egg Freezing with Morganna Nickoff)
December 11, 2019 09:00 - 1 hour - 95.8 MBThis week’s Is Our Love ___? hits us right in the babymaker. Cartoonist and budding comedian Morganna Nickoff (@morganna.jokes) joins us to question our fertility and our own opinions on why is it that we do or do not want offspring. What does it say about you if you do want kids and when should you start worrying about that biological clock a’ticking? Fresh from freezing her own eggs mere weeks before recording this episode, Morganna spills all the tea on what the entire process was like fr...
Is Our Love Fertile? (Egg Freezing with Morganna Nickoff)
December 11, 2019 09:00 - 1 hour - 95.8 MBThis week’s Is Our Love ___? hits us right in the babymaker. Cartoonist and budding comedian Morganna Nickoff (@morganna.jokes) joins us to question our fertility and our own opinions on why is it that we do or do not want offspring. What does it say about you if you do want kids and when should you start worrying about that biological clock a’ticking? Fresh from freezing her own eggs mere weeks before recording this episode, Morganna spills all the tea on what the entire process was like fr...
Is Our Love A Violent Hug? (Wrestling Fetish with Ursa Fierce)
December 04, 2019 09:00 - 1 hour - 80.7 MBSometimes love feels like a struggle, but sometimes… maybe we want it too? Wrestling fetish is the biggest craze you’ve never heard about and it’s a lot more common than you think. Before we throw down, we sit with professional fetish wrestler Ursa Fierce to talk about the primal-ness, competitive, and smothering nature of this sport. From pro-style antics to the Butt-Fights you won't want to miss. Ursa explains how wrestling gave her a new perspective on her body and what the sport, the fet...
Is Our Love a Cumversation? (with Remy Kassimir)
November 20, 2019 09:06 - 1 hour - 89.6 MBThis week’s guest knows a thing or two about talking sex stuff in public. Remy Kassimir is the comedian cum role model who still worries if people think she’s cool. Remy joins us to talk about the funny thing that happens when you share your sex life on a global scale. From her first orgasm to managing social responsibility while cracking jokes to going way too hypothetical on how to manage a breakup on a podcast. PLUS, why Hitler would have benefitted from air pulsation technology. You ca...
Is Our Love Bound By Rules? (with NYC Power Dynamics Practitioner: Lady Euphoria)
November 13, 2019 09:00 - 1 hour - 95.6 MBThis week we are joined by Pro Domme and sometimes sociologist Lady Euphoria to pick apart why it is that we are so drawn to rules and why the lack of rules makes us so uncomfortable. We are a culture taught to thrive on efficiency and not thoroughness. This conversation uses BDSM as a framework, but make no mistake: this is a human conversation that EVERYONE needs to hear. We find ourselves questioning What are our rules and where do they come from? Does this come from a fear of rejection o...
Is Our Love A Toy? (Sex Toys w Nadia Deen Founder of AM.appointment)
November 06, 2019 09:00 - 1 hour - 108 MBSometimes our love feels like a game, but just how much are we toying with it? What are the roles of toys in our sex life and how should we be using them? Are we using toys too much? Too little? ARE WE EVEN USING THEM CORRECTLY!? Nadia Deen of AM.appointment teaches us how to chill the fuck out and stop pressuring ourselves (and our partners) to achieve the sexual equivalent of keeping-up-with-the-Jones’. Whether you vibrate, buzz, or just plain suck, come share your toys, your questions and...
Pass The Porn Takeover: Sex Magick
October 30, 2019 14:23 - 1 hour - 133 MBWhat witch, wizard or sorcerer would you want to fuck? It’s Halloween and we’re still not sure if we want to channel our sexual energy for good or for evil. This week we’re not question what our love is or isn’t. Instead, we’re taking you on a journey through space and time to our Pass the Porn event. Nope, no recordings of the porn sounds here, you’ll need to head to our next event for that! What happens when we get a Witch, a Wizard, a Shamanatrix and a Porn Performer on a panel? Tune in t...
Is Our Love Vaginal Pain? (w Emily Sauer, Founder Of OhNut)
October 23, 2019 08:30 - 1 hour - 105 MBThis week we're hitting where it hurts…...in the vagina? Sometimes our love involves vaginas, but what happens when that love is...painful? Whose responsibility is it? Do we push through it? Avoid it at all costs? Denial? This week we talk about the often experienced but lesser validated ambiguity that is vaginal pain. Emily from OhNut joins us to share how she stumbled upon her calling and how a pink frosted donut changed her life. Find out why doctors are saying “Fuck Yes” to a solution cr...
Is Our Love A Cold Sore? (Herpes Etc. W Sexologist Emily Depasse)
October 16, 2019 08:00 - 1 hour - 89.8 MBWhat a week to have our first guest on to talk STI’s and we’re kicking things off with the black sheep of the STI fam: Herpes. We get honest with our personal HSV stories: both contracting, spreading, and having in all it’s various formats. This weeks guest explains why people are so socially wired to freak out about Herpes and how discerning between HSV 1 and HSV 2 can add weight to that stigma. Busting myths and forging research, sexologist Emily Depasse is changing the way we talk about ...
Is Our Love Masochistic (with Pro Sub Indygo Ann)
October 09, 2019 08:30 - 1 hour - 91.8 MBOur BDSM trilogy continues on Is Our Love?! After a few weeks of Dommes, we head to the other side of the spectrum and dive deep into sub space with this week’s guest: Indygo Ann. Indygo is a PRO SUB. Yeah, we’re capitalizing it, ‘cause they’re the unsung heroes of dungeons far and wide. But just because she’s a sub, does she actually enjoy her sessions with clients the same as with a partner? How does one keep themselves safe as a masochist? Whether you’re a Daddy or a Dad, a Mister or a Ma...
Is Our Love Full Of Shit? (w Mistress Shayla)
October 02, 2019 08:30 - 1 hour - 107 MBIf our love is full of shit, how much confidence does it take to throatfuck that shit in someone’s mouth? Wait….what? You never asked… we answered, and the answer is this weeks’ guest: Mistress Shayla. A charismatic Texas sadist with a heart of gold. Shayla is seasoned in many areas of FemDom but where her heart shines brightest is when someone is covered in her sweet, sweet excrement. How does one get into pooping on people and why? What do her submissives get out of it and what does she en...
Is Our Love Kinky? (w/ Mistress Nikita Reign)
September 25, 2019 08:00 - 1 hour - 89.2 MBIf being kinky is a spectrum from a simple roleplay all the way to chastity and eternal servitude, where does a new Pro Domme (Dominatrix) fall into it? Kicking off a string of BDSM focused guests is someone on the newer side of Pro Domming, but who is no stranger to smut. Mistress Nikita Reign is a true performance artist. From peep shows to titty bars to her latest medium: Domination. We talk to Nikita about the difference between Pro Domming in Australia versus the U.S., the role of commu...
Is Our Love Body Conscious? (Sex After An Eating Disorder w/ Devon Day Moretti)
September 18, 2019 09:00 - 1 hour - 107 MBWith all of the positive strides modern media is making with showcasing different types of bodies and faces, it can feel like body positivity is a simple compliment away, right? It’s not always as easy as telling yourself “I Love You” specifically if that negativity is rooted in insecurity and esteeming through others. *cough* Stephen *cough* This weeks guest Devon Moretti is a body image coach, but she didn’t get there overnight. Devon tells us the steps she took to getting to more acceptin...
Is Our Love Intimate (with Sex Therapist Cyndi Darnell)
September 11, 2019 12:53 - 1 hour - 100 MBIn our continued pursuit of all conversations sex & kink, this weeks' guest Cyndi Darnell, a leading sex therapist and educator, brings us back to our human core: INTIMACY. We have an in depth convo about fostering intimacy within our various types of relationships. Cyndi also illuminates how her clientele has changed over time, and addresses some of the most common issues that bring clients into her office (we're looking at you sexual dysfunction stress!). PLUS Lola and Stephen cover some b...
Is Our Love HYPNOTIZED? (Erotic Hypnosis with Wizard: Devin Person)
September 04, 2019 08:00 - 1 hour - 114 MBThis week on Is Our Love we talk to a *fucking* Wizard. Find out how one becomes a fucking wizard and what a real life wizard even does. Devin Person dispels the mystique behind erotic hypnosis and what happens when a hypnosis goes dark. So much of pleasure based sex ed focuses on physical touch, but how can one manipulate the mind as a part of the mind-body experience? Whether you subscribe or not, hypnotism has many interesting parallels to BDSM and sex. PLUS, Stephen and Lola get hypnotiz...
Is Our Love a One Night Stand?
August 28, 2019 08:00 - 1 hour - 115 MBNo conversation about sex is complete without talking about the one night stand. So commonplace its earned its own abbreviation: ONS. One-night standspert MOMO (@momosinmieda) joins Stephen and Lola as we break down what constitutes a one night stand. Are one night stands inherently bad & what can be done to improve them? With vivid stories from one night stands past, present, and maybe even the future, Momo and Lola bond over shared ghosts and Stephen gets to the bottom of why cis-dudes are...
Is Our Love the Fetishization of Asian Women?
August 21, 2019 08:00 - 53 minutes - 64.2 MBThis week we boldly go where two white podcasters dare not tread... for good reason. Inspired by a listener question regarding the fetishization of her race within her dating pursuits, Stephen and Lola try their best not to “white savior” by bringing in roommates and friends Yuko and Rachel. Both Yuko and Rachel grew up in wildly different parts of the US and have had wildly different experiences as asian women. Get ready to tighten your butthole as we discuss wildly uncomfortable, yet neces...
Is Our Love A Summer Fling
August 14, 2019 08:00 - 1 hour - 80.6 MBIt's summer and we've been on vacation! Lola and Stephen reconvene after a little break and recount what happened with their summer flings and things. While Lola fucked (and educated) her way through Europe, the Reluctant Sexpert spent his days sex nerding at Sex Camp. There's some romance, revelations... at least a few good stories. Whether you realize you’re more of a Dad than a Daddy or that you need to keep your European submissive in check, capture the fleeting flag of that summer fling...
Is Our Love Codependent w/ Rachel Khints
August 07, 2019 08:00 - 1 hour - 110 MBIf codependency is a spectrum, where is a healthy place to sit? How can you tell if your relationship is in equilibrium or codependent AF? Are you in-love or enmeshed? This week we sit down with Rachel Khints, who specializes in treating codependency with a focus on group therapy. We learn the correlation between codependency treatment and Al-anon as well as where codependent tendencies typically come from. Starting with esteeming ourselves. Rachel walks us through the five compartments of c...