In Two Deep artwork

In Two Deep

55 episodes - English - Latest episode: 7 months ago - ★★★★★ - 32 ratings

How do couples navigate the agonies and ecstasies of romantic relationship? Join Lisa Blair and David Bedrick for an authentic, unscripted conversation as they dive into the world of emotional intimacy, conflict, and connection. Drawing on depth psychology, their work with clients around the world, and 18 years together as a couple, they share wisdom, tips, and personal stories, always adding a dash of playfulness to the mix. 

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Episodes

From Ice to Water: Making Conflict Fluid

September 22, 2023 16:00 - 34 minutes - 23.7 MB

Have you ever wondered whether there is anything deeper going on behind a simple conflict such as “You never take out the trash!”? In this episode, we explore a powerful tool for working through conflict based on the concepts of roles and role switching. We walk you through step-by-step: How to start with what looks like a “me vs. you” disagreement,  to finding deeper “roles” underneath, to arriving at a place of shared understanding, intimacy, and resolution. . . . Special discount for list...

24: From Ice to Water: Making Conflict Fluid

September 22, 2023 16:00 - 34 minutes - 23.7 MB

Have you ever wondered whether there is anything deeper going on behind a simple conflict such as “You never take out the trash!”? In this episode, we explore a powerful tool for working through conflict based on the concepts of roles and role switching. We walk you through step-by-step: How to start with what looks like a “me vs. you” disagreement,  to finding deeper “roles” underneath, to arriving at a place of shared understanding, intimacy, and resolution. . . . Special discount for list...

Breaking Free: Unlearning Old Patterns

September 15, 2023 22:00 - 47 minutes - 32.5 MB

Patterns develop in our long-term relationships that can be very difficult to break. Oftentimes, these patterns are due to trauma (big or small) from our childhood leaving a hole of unmet needs that we bring into our adult relationships. We long for the perfect listener, caretaker, or champion that we never had. We unconsciously treat our partner as the one who can finally meet that need and fill that hole, not realizing that this creates deep-seated patterns that place constraints on our pa...

23: Breaking Free: Unlearning Old Patterns

September 15, 2023 22:00 - 47 minutes - 32.5 MB

Patterns develop in our long-term relationships that can be very difficult to break. Oftentimes, these patterns are due to trauma (big or small) from our childhood leaving a hole of unmet needs that we bring into our adult relationships. We long for the perfect listener, caretaker, or champion that we never had. We unconsciously treat our partner as the one who can finally meet that need and fill that hole, not realizing that this creates deep-seated patterns that place constraints on our pa...

22: Beyond Eden: Exploring Maturity in Relationships

May 14, 2023 19:00 - 41 minutes - 28.2 MB

Somewhere deep inside us, we may dream that our "perfect" romantic relationship will be a kind of Eden—a safe space where we enter fully healed and are met with unconditional love from a partner who meets all of our needs. The problem is, romantic partnership is not that place and our partner is not that perfect person. Then what? In this episode, David and Lisa take a deep and serious dive into what they mean by "maturity" in relationship—becoming humbly self-aware of your wounds, history, ...

Beyond Eden: Exploring Maturity in Relationships

May 14, 2023 19:00 - 41 minutes - 28.2 MB

Somewhere deep inside us, we may dream that our "perfect" romantic relationship will be a kind of Eden—a safe space where we enter fully healed and are met with unconditional love from a partner who meets all of our needs. The problem is, romantic partnership is not that place and our partner is not that perfect person. Then what? In this episode, David and Lisa take a deep and serious dive into what they mean by "maturity" in relationship—becoming humbly self-aware of your wounds, history, ...

"Stop Getting So Defensive!"

February 24, 2023 08:00 - 37 minutes - 25.9 MB

Ever find yourself or your partner getting defensive whenever you're having a conflict? In this episode, we unpack "defensiveness" and offer three cures: have regular fights with your inner critic so you don't project it on to your partner, create a team spirit atmosphere when you're working on issues your partner brings to you, and add big doses of humor and grace. Write us a review on Apple Podcasts! Follow us: Instagram: @the.lisa.blair and @david.bedrick Facebook: Lisa Blair and David ...

21: "Stop Getting So Defensive!"

February 24, 2023 08:00 - 37 minutes - 25.9 MB

Ever find yourself or your partner getting defensive whenever you're having a conflict? In this episode, we unpack "defensiveness" and offer three cures: have regular fights with your inner critic so you don't project it on to your partner, create a team spirit atmosphere when you're working on issues your partner brings to you, and add big doses of humor and grace. Write us a review on Apple Podcasts! Follow us: Instagram: @the.lisa.blair and @david.bedrick Facebook: Lisa Blair and David ...

The Walk & Talk: Finding Intimacy in the Midst of Conflict

February 10, 2023 12:00 - 44 minutes - 30.5 MB

How do you find intimacy together in the midst of a conflict, without re-escalating? In this episode, we explore what we call The Walk & Talk. Using an example from our own relationship, we model how to create spaciousness by walking side-by-side together instead of sitting across from one another, tabling the content of the conflict for another moment, and using your self-awareness to share what comes up for each of you emotionally, psychologically, and historically that contributes to the ...

20: The Walk & Talk: Finding Intimacy in the Midst of Conflict

February 10, 2023 12:00 - 44 minutes - 30.5 MB

How do you find intimacy together in the midst of a conflict, without re-escalating? In this episode, we explore what we call The Walk & Talk. Using an example from our own relationship, we model how to create spaciousness by walking side-by-side together instead of sitting across from one another, tabling the content of the conflict for another moment, and using your self-awareness to share what comes up for each of you emotionally, psychologically, and historically that contributes to the ...

19: Conscious Connecting: Going Outside Your Comfort Zone

January 27, 2023 12:00 - 42 minutes - 29.4 MB

Forbidden communication. Uncomfortable topics. Self sovereignty. Taking the road less traveled.  Emotional intimacy in relationship asks us to go outside our comfort zones, to go over edges in our identities and bring in feelings and experiences that we normally would keep to ourselves. In this episode, we discuss these issues and the roles they play in deepening intimacy.  Write us a review on Apple Podcasts! Follow us: Instagram: @the.lisa.blair and @david.bedrick Facebook: Lisa Blair a...

Conscious Connecting: Going Outside Your Comfort Zone

January 27, 2023 12:00 - 42 minutes - 29.4 MB

Forbidden communication. Uncomfortable topics. Self sovereignty. Taking the road less traveled.  Emotional intimacy in relationship asks us to go outside our comfort zones, to go over edges in our identities and bring in feelings and experiences that we normally would keep to ourselves. In this episode, we discuss these issues and the roles they play in deepening intimacy.  Write us a review on Apple Podcasts! Follow us: Instagram: @the.lisa.blair and @david.bedrick Facebook: Lisa Blair a...

18: New Year Dreaming in Relationship

January 11, 2023 13:00 - 34 minutes - 23.5 MB

Instead of focusing solely on the goals or intentions you’ve set forth for the new year, find out how your nighttime dreams can offer meaningful shifts for your intimate relationship. In this episode, Lisa and David each explore one of their recent nighttime dreams and its meaning for their relationship to deepen the learning for listeners. Write us a review on Apple Podcasts! Follow us: Instagram: @the.lisa.blair and @david.bedrick Facebook: Lisa Blair and David Bedrick To learn more, vis...

New Year Dreaming in Relationship

January 11, 2023 13:00 - 34 minutes - 23.5 MB

Instead of focusing solely on the goals or intentions you’ve set forth for the new year, find out how your nighttime dreams can offer meaningful shifts for your intimate relationship. In this episode, Lisa and David each explore one of their recent nighttime dreams and its meaning for their relationship to deepen the learning for listeners. Write us a review on Apple Podcasts! Follow us: Instagram: @the.lisa.blair and @david.bedrick Facebook: Lisa Blair and David Bedrick To learn more, vis...

17: Is It Me or Is It My Partner? Exploring Our Inner "Ghosts"

January 11, 2023 12:00 - 32 minutes - 22.6 MB

Welcome back for Season 2! Let's jump right in.  Many of us have internal voices that tell us things like “Don’t be selfish,” “Put your needs / impulses / desires away,” “Listen more,” “Share everything with your partner” or any number of messages that serve to imprison us, shame us, or tell us we don’t matter. We then project these internal "ghosts" on to our partner as if they are the culprit who has stopped us from following ourselves. When this happens, resentment builds. In this episod...

Is It Me or Is It My Partner? Exploring Our Inner "Ghosts"

January 11, 2023 12:00 - 32 minutes - 22.6 MB

Welcome back for Season 2! Let's jump right in.  Many of us have internal voices that tell us things like “Don’t be selfish,” “Put your needs / impulses / desires away,” “Listen more,” “Share everything with your partner” or any number of messages that serve to imprison us, shame us, or tell us we don’t matter. We then project these internal "ghosts" on to our partner as if they are the culprit who has stopped us from following ourselves. When this happens, resentment builds. In this episod...

What We've Learned: Season 1 Finale!

April 11, 2022 03:00 - 48 minutes - 33.4 MB

Join us for the Season 1 finale where we pause to debrief and share our reflections on this co-creative podcast project. We unpack how we've addressed criticism (both inner and outer), how we've danced with our different communication styles both on and off-mic, how we've wrestled with a sense of responsibility to deliver the next episode on time vs. a desire for spontaneity, play, and fun. We break it all down for you in our first ever 100% untouched, unedited episode.  Thank you all for b...

16: What We've Learned: Season 1 Finale!

April 11, 2022 03:00 - 48 minutes - 33.4 MB

Join us for the Season 1 finale where we pause to debrief and share our reflections on this co-creative podcast project. We unpack how we've addressed criticism (both inner and outer), how we've danced with our different communication styles both on and off-mic, how we've wrestled with a sense of responsibility to deliver the next episode on time vs. a desire for spontaneity, play, and fun. We break it all down for you in our first ever 100% untouched, unedited episode.  Thank you all for b...

15: Breaking Out of the Status Quo in Relationship

February 27, 2022 19:00 - 44 minutes - 30.9 MB

“Why do people break up, and then turn around and make up?” Al Green sings in “Let’s Stay Together." Is there an intelligence behind the cycle of coming together, coming apart, and then coming back together again? Yes, there is! In addition to our powerful efforts to make a forever break from an unhealthy relationship, we all look to create a place of security and safety—a place that allows us to deeply bond—and then we shake the walls of that safety so that we can be a yet more whole versi...

Breaking Out of the Status Quo in Relationship

February 27, 2022 19:00 - 44 minutes - 30.9 MB

“Why do people break up, and then turn around and make up?” Al Green sings in “Let’s Stay Together." Is there an intelligence behind the cycle of coming together, coming apart, and then coming back together again? Yes, there is! In addition to our powerful efforts to make a forever break from an unhealthy relationship, we all look to create a place of security and safety—a place that allows us to deeply bond—and then we shake the walls of that safety so that we can be a yet more whole versi...

14: Clean Conflict: Directness & Vulnerability Part 2

January 30, 2022 03:00 - 49 minutes - 33.8 MB

Learn more about transforming conflict into intimacy. When is it too soon to say "I'm sorry?" How might your conflict style be different than your partner's? Why is it helpful to take a break during a fight? What does a resolution to a conflict really look like? Join us as we unpack these questions and more! Write us a review on Apple Podcasts! Follow us: Instagram: @the.lisa.blair and @david.bedrick Facebook: Lisa Blair and David Bedrick To learn more, visit: www.intwodeep.com Donate to ...

Clean Conflict: Directness & Vulnerability Part 2

January 30, 2022 03:00 - 49 minutes - 33.8 MB

Learn more about transforming conflict into intimacy. When is it too soon to say "I'm sorry?" How might your conflict style be different than your partner's? Why is it helpful to take a break during a fight? What does a resolution to a conflict really look like? Join us as we unpack these questions and more! Write us a review on Apple Podcasts! Follow us: Instagram: @the.lisa.blair and @david.bedrick Facebook: Lisa Blair and David Bedrick To learn more, visit: www.intwodeep.com Donate to ...

Clean Conflict: Directness & Vulnerability Part 1

January 14, 2022 07:00 - 40 minutes - 27.7 MB

This week we explore what it means to practice "clean conflict"—making intimacy from conflict rather than painful messes that build scar tissue and resentment. Whether you tend to avoid conflict or you find yourself in the midst of difficult, painful conflicts on a regular basis—or anywhere in between—this episode is for you. Learn how to de-escalate conflicts, communicate more directly, and care for your vulnerability.  Write us a review on Apple Podcasts! Follow us: Instagram: @the.lisa....

13: Clean Conflict: Directness & Vulnerability Part 1

January 14, 2022 07:00 - 40 minutes - 27.7 MB

This week we explore what it means to practice "clean conflict"—making intimacy from conflict rather than painful messes that build scar tissue and resentment. Whether you tend to avoid conflict or you find yourself in the midst of difficult, painful conflicts on a regular basis—or anywhere in between—this episode is for you. Learn how to de-escalate conflicts, communicate more directly, and care for your vulnerability.  Write us a review on Apple Podcasts! Follow us: Instagram: @the.lisa....

Relationship Dreaming for the New Year

January 04, 2022 20:00 - 40 minutes - 27.9 MB

The new year invites us to dream about our relationships. It offers us a distinctive opportunity to consider the roles we've been playing that need updating and the patterns that once served us but are now well-worn ruts longing for new pathways. In this episode, we offer listeners the opportunity to reflect on the first time they met their partners or friends to remember what was so unique, magical, or captivating about that moment. We ask: What about that first dream wants to come forward ...

12: Relationship Dreaming for the New Year

January 04, 2022 20:00 - 40 minutes - 27.9 MB

The new year invites us to dream about our relationships. It offers us a distinctive opportunity to consider the roles we've been playing that need updating and the patterns that once served us but are now well-worn ruts longing for new pathways. In this episode, we offer listeners the opportunity to reflect on the first time they met their partners or friends to remember what was so unique, magical, or captivating about that moment. We ask: What about that first dream wants to come forward ...

11: Emotional Intimacy Then & Now

December 03, 2021 07:00 - 45 minutes - 31 MB

We haven't always thought about emotional intimacy or our happiness in relationships in the ways we do today. Capitalism, sexism, and a culture that negates feelings have narrowed our vision of what it means to be close and connected. In this episode, Lisa leads us through the historical development of emotional intimacy from ancient times to the present day. What follows is an animated conversation between David and Lisa about inclusion, love, and humility. For more info, visit www.intwodee...

Emotional Intimacy Then & Now

December 03, 2021 07:00 - 45 minutes - 31 MB

We haven't always thought about emotional intimacy or our happiness in relationships in the ways we do today. Capitalism, sexism, and a culture that negates feelings have narrowed our vision of what it means to be close and connected. In this episode, Lisa leads us through the historical development of emotional intimacy from ancient times to the present day. What follows is an animated conversation between David and Lisa about inclusion, love, and humility. For more info, visit www.intwodee...

Illness and Intimacy

November 22, 2021 22:00 - 35 minutes - 24.3 MB

Your partner is feeling unwell; or maybe you are. Can you create intimacy out of this experience? Is there a message that your body symptoms carry for your relationship? Is it time to reprioritize or begin a new path together? This week, with Lisa feeling unwell, we've created a special episode for you. David takes to the mic while Lisa types messages, soothing her sore throat. We explore the meaning and wisdom of our own illness experiences in relationship. At the end, David offers a brief ...

10: Illness and Intimacy

November 22, 2021 22:00 - 35 minutes - 24.3 MB

Your partner is feeling unwell; or maybe you are. Can you create intimacy out of this experience? Is there a message that your body symptoms carry for your relationship? Is it time to reprioritize or begin a new path together? This week, with Lisa feeling unwell, we've created a special episode for you. David takes to the mic while Lisa types messages, soothing her sore throat. We explore the meaning and wisdom of our own illness experiences in relationship. At the end, David offers a brief ...

9: Come Fly With Me! Relationships on Vacation

October 29, 2021 13:00 - 39 minutes - 27.2 MB

Ever take that vacation together that looked great on paper or in photos but left you feeling less than close and connected or fell short in meeting your individual needs? We have, too. Whether you’re the kind of couple who loves to see and do it all on your trips, or prefer to have no agenda whatsoever, we talk about how to make your vacations work best for your individual and relationship needs, sharing stories about our own vacation highlights and pitfalls along the way. We offer four con...

Come Fly With Me! Relationships on Vacation

October 29, 2021 13:00 - 39 minutes - 27.2 MB

Ever take that vacation together that looked great on paper or in photos but left you feeling less than close and connected or fell short in meeting your individual needs? We have, too. Whether you’re the kind of couple who loves to see and do it all on your trips, or prefer to have no agenda whatsoever, we talk about how to make your vacations work best for your individual and relationship needs, sharing stories about our own vacation highlights and pitfalls along the way. We offer four con...

Fierce & Tender: Speaking Your Truth in Relationship

October 01, 2021 06:00 - 45 minutes - 31.4 MB

We know you want to speak your truth, tell your partner what you think and feel. But, what if it causes hurt, conflict, misunderstanding, or a rift in your relationship? Listen in to this week's episode where we take a deep dive into the complex territory of truth-telling and compassion. For more info., visit www.intwodeep.com. Write us a review on Apple Podcasts! Follow us: Instagram: @the.lisa.blair and @david.bedrick Facebook: Lisa Blair and David Bedrick To learn more, visit: www.intwo...

8: Fierce & Tender: Speaking Your Truth in Relationship

October 01, 2021 06:00 - 45 minutes - 31.4 MB

We know you want to speak your truth, tell your partner what you think and feel. But, what if it causes hurt, conflict, misunderstanding, or a rift in your relationship? Listen in to this week's episode where we take a deep dive into the complex territory of truth-telling and compassion. For more info., visit www.intwodeep.com. Write us a review on Apple Podcasts! Follow us: Instagram: @the.lisa.blair and @david.bedrick Facebook: Lisa Blair and David Bedrick To learn more, visit: www.intwo...

7: Unintended Communication

September 17, 2021 06:00 - 46 minutes - 32.2 MB

While our intended communication may say one thing, our bodies, moods, tones, and behavior may be saying another. Others notice it when our eyes roll, when we're looking at our phone instead of listening, or not doing what we said we would. We may be trying to be a "good partner" but our unintended communication creates distance. However, when explored and acknowledged, it can also create intimacy. This week we discuss a variety of common examples of unintended communication and offer a powe...

Ep. 7: Unintended Communication

September 17, 2021 06:00 - 46 minutes - 32.2 MB

While our intended communication may say one thing, our bodies, moods, tones, and behavior may be saying another. Others notice it when our eyes roll, when we're looking at our phone instead of listening, or not doing what we said we would. We may be trying to be a "good partner" but our unintended communication creates distance. However, when explored and acknowledged, it can also create intimacy. This week we discuss a variety of common examples of unintended communication and offer a powe...

Unintended Communication

September 17, 2021 06:00 - 46 minutes - 32.2 MB

While our intended communication may say one thing, our bodies, moods, tones, and behavior may be saying another. Others notice it when our eyes roll, when we're looking at our phone instead of listening, or not doing what we said we would. We may be trying to be a "good partner" but our unintended communication creates distance. However, when explored and acknowledged, it can also create intimacy. This week we discuss a variety of common examples of unintended communication and offer a powe...

6: What's a Successful Relationship, Anyway?

September 03, 2021 06:00 - 45 minutes - 31.2 MB

What does a "successful" relationship look like? Smiling faces on a holiday card  with 2.2 kids and 1.7 cars; one where you always get along, never have conflict, and have sex at all the right times? This paradigm often leaves couples feeling like failures. This week, we redefine relationship success as noticing, highlighting, and celebrating moments of  emotional intimacy with your partner. Join us as we discuss being open about your needs with your partner, sharing your personal stories, a...

Ep. 6: What's a Successful Relationship, Anyway?

September 03, 2021 06:00 - 45 minutes - 31.2 MB

What does a "successful" relationship look like? Smiling faces on a holiday card  with 2.2 kids and 1.7 cars; one where you always get along, never have conflict, and have sex at all the right times? This paradigm often leaves couples feeling like failures. This week, we redefine relationship success as noticing, highlighting, and celebrating moments of  emotional intimacy with your partner. Join us as we discuss being open about your needs with your partner, sharing your personal stories, a...

What's a Successful Relationship, Anyway?

September 03, 2021 06:00 - 45 minutes - 31.2 MB

What does a "successful" relationship look like? Smiling faces on a holiday card  with 2.2 kids and 1.7 cars; one where you always get along, never have conflict, and have sex at all the right times? This paradigm often leaves couples feeling like failures. This week, we redefine relationship success as noticing, highlighting, and celebrating moments of  emotional intimacy with your partner. Join us as we discuss being open about your needs with your partner, sharing your personal stories, a...

Ep. 5: When Relationship Work is Inner Work

August 20, 2021 04:00 - 44 minutes - 30.4 MB

Ever wonder if it's "your stuff" or if it's actually an issue about your partner or your relationship? This week we unpack why you need to do your own inner work while in relationship. We highlight the three warning signs that indicate, "It's time to do your inner work."  1) When you think the reason you feel down, criticized, or unfree is ALL about your partner.    2) When you find yourself repeating patterns in relationship with multiple partners over time. 3) When the needs you expect you...

5: When Relationship Work is Inner Work

August 20, 2021 04:00 - 44 minutes - 30.4 MB

Ever wonder if it's "your stuff" or if it's actually an issue about your partner or your relationship? This week we unpack why you need to do your own inner work while in relationship. We highlight the three warning signs that indicate, "It's time to do your inner work."  1) When you think the reason you feel down, criticized, or unfree is ALL about your partner.    2) When you find yourself repeating patterns in relationship with multiple partners over time. 3) When the needs you expect you...

When Relationship Work is Inner Work

August 20, 2021 04:00 - 44 minutes - 30.4 MB

Ever wonder if it's "your stuff" or if it's actually an issue about your partner or your relationship? This week we unpack why you need to do your own inner work while in relationship. We highlight the three warning signs that indicate, "It's time to do your inner work."  1) When you think the reason you feel down, criticized, or unfree is ALL about your partner.    2) When you find yourself repeating patterns in relationship with multiple partners over time. 3) When the needs you expect you...

4: Interpersonal Diversity: Learning to Dance Together

August 06, 2021 06:00 - 44 minutes - 30.3 MB

We all need to learn how to dance together around our differences—our interpersonal diversity (e.g., personality, communication style). In this episode, we explore the three phases of the dance: (1) accommodating & compromising (emphasizing harmony) (2) conflict (emphasizing differences), and (3) role switching (emphasizing fluidity). For more info., visit www.intwodeep.com. Write us a review on Apple Podcasts! Follow us: Instagram: @the.lisa.blair and @david.bedrick Facebook: Lisa Blair a...

Ep. 4: Interpersonal Diversity: Learning to Dance Together

August 06, 2021 06:00 - 44 minutes - 30.3 MB

We all need to learn how to dance together around our differences—our interpersonal diversity (e.g., personality, communication style). In this episode, we explore the three phases of the dance: (1) accommodating & compromising (emphasizing harmony) (2) conflict (emphasizing differences), and (3) role switching (emphasizing fluidity). For more info., visit www.intwodeep.com.

Interpersonal Diversity: Learning to Dance Together

August 06, 2021 06:00 - 44 minutes - 30.3 MB

We all need to learn how to dance together around our differences—our interpersonal diversity (e.g., personality, communication style). In this episode, we explore the three phases of the dance: (1) accommodating & compromising (emphasizing harmony) (2) conflict (emphasizing differences), and (3) role switching (emphasizing fluidity). For more info., visit www.intwodeep.com. Write us a review on Apple Podcasts! Follow us: Instagram: @the.lisa.blair and @david.bedrick Facebook: Lisa Blair a...

Ghosts and Ancestors Part 2

June 25, 2021 16:00 - 40 minutes - 27.5 MB

In Part 2 of Ghosts and Ancestors, we discuss how two more types of negative parents impact our relationships: the abusive parent and the self-absorbed or narcissistic parent. We discuss three things people need to learn to break the pattern of abusive relationships. Finally, we discuss the impact on relationships of growing up with a self-absorbed or narcissistic parent and what people can do to make themselves more visible to their partner and to themselves. For more info., visit www.intwo...

Ep. 3: Ghosts and Ancestors Part 2

June 25, 2021 16:00 - 40 minutes - 27.5 MB

In Part 2 of Ghosts and Ancestors, we discuss how two more types of negative parents impact our relationships: the abusive parent and the self-absorbed or narcissistic parent. We discuss three things people need to learn to break the pattern of abusive relationships. Finally, we discuss the impact on relationships of growing up with a self-absorbed or narcissistic parent and what people can do to make themselves more visible to their partner and to themselves. For more info., visit www.intwo...

3: Ghosts and Ancestors Part 2

June 25, 2021 16:00 - 40 minutes - 27.5 MB

In Part 2 of Ghosts and Ancestors, we discuss how two more types of negative parents impact our relationships: the abusive parent and the self-absorbed or narcissistic parent. We discuss three things people need to learn to break the pattern of abusive relationships. Finally, we discuss the impact on relationships of growing up with a self-absorbed or narcissistic parent and what people can do to make themselves more visible to their partner and to themselves. For more info., visit www.intwo...

Ghosts and Ancestors Part 1

June 24, 2021 16:00 - 36 minutes - 25 MB

When you feel like your partner is being overly critical of you, are you truly talking to your partner or are you actually talking to your negative parent? In this episode, we unpack the very common experience of confusing our partner with the negative parent we had growing up. Inspired by Bruce Springsteen's one-man show on Netflix "Springsteen on Broadway" in which he tells the story of how his father changed from being a ghost who haunted him to an ancestor who freed him to lead his own l...