Stop Wanting Him Back & Find Someone Better
268 episodes - English - Latest episode: about 1 month ago - ★★★★★ - 181 ratingsHeartbreak coach, Claire Byrne, breaks down exactly how you can finally STOP wanting your ex back on this podcast that is unlike any other heartbreak podcast out there!
Heartbreak is messy, painful and overwhelmingly daunting at times, but it can also be the gateway to embark on a new journey beyond your wildest dreams if you LET it. You will laugh, you will cry, and have your own mind BLOWN, by how POSSIBLE it will be for you to THRIVE from heartbreak, versus barely survive.
After years of enduring toxic relationships, and being at a loss on how to navigate through the pain, Claire is now dedicated to helping other women like her, not only STOP wanting him back, but become the best version of themselves, BECAUSE of the heartbreak.
PLEASE NOTE: Claire refers to her exes and the listener’s ex as a “he,” based on her own personal experience as a heterosexual female, but this work can be applied to ANYONE going through heartbreak. ALL genders and sexual orientations are encouraged to listen and apply Claire’s tools into their own lives!
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Taking A Break
March 18, 2024 10:00 - 13 minutes - 9.07 MBClaire explains why she'll be taking a break from the podcast for a little while, and also offers her thoughts on breaks in romantic relationships. Email [email protected] for more info on her 1:1 COACHING SPECIAL OFFER and follow @clairetheheartbreakcoach on Instagram where she will continue to show up and serve valuable content daily!
Why Heartbreak Is A Good Thing
March 11, 2024 10:00 - 35 minutes - 24.5 MBThis episode was inspired by Claire's favorite guilty pleasure, The Bachelor! After watching the hometowns episode of Joey's season, Claire found herself disturbed by the panicked fear of some of the women's family members who didn't want their daughter or sister to get their heart broken. Of course NO ONE wants to get their hearts broken or see a loved one get hurt, but at the end of the day, heartbreak is inevitable for most people, AND, if you lean in for the lessons, healing and growth...
The Terror Of Getting Your Heart Broken Again
February 26, 2024 11:00 - 34 minutes - 23.7 MBThe terror of getting your heart broken again is SO real, valid and NORMAL. Especially if it's been a long time since you've really liked someone, and/or have experienced trauma and heartbreak in your past. In this episode, Claire walks you through eight steps you can take to navigate your fear of getting heartbroken again-- spoiler alert: It's not about getting rid of the fear. It's about navigating the fear while staying true to yourself. Get your pen and paper out!
Signs You're Not Committed To Healing Your Heart
February 19, 2024 11:00 - 18 minutes - 12.4 MBIf you feel like you're "doing all the things" but still find yourself heartbroken, this episode is for you. Heartbreak can leave you feeling scattered, exhausted and blocked from thinking straight, as well as blocked on taking care of business in your life, whether it's personal or professional. This episode is NOT an invitation for you to shame or blame yourself if you hear some of the things you might not even realize you're doing which has been prolonging your pain... This episode wa...
Catching On To Sneaky Self-Sabotage
February 12, 2024 11:00 - 29 minutes - 20.1 MBThis is one of those extra vulnerable episodes Claire shares as she turns 43. Usually her birthday episodes are about all the growth and reflection on how far she has come, since her rockbottom relationship, 13 years prior... But today she reflects on hitting her upper limit recently, finding herself highly irritable (even for her!) and recognizing how she is very much still a STUDENT of this work first-- not the teacher. If you relate to self-sabotaging, whether heartbroken or single and ...
The Guys I Like Don't Like Me
February 05, 2024 11:00 - 32 minutes - 22.3 MBIf Claire had a nickel for every time she fell into the trap of this limiting belief, or for when a client has felt this way!! You are not alone if you believe this falsity to be true. Yes. Falsity! In today's episode, Claire unpacks how it's possible to disprove the idea that guys (insert whichever gender pronoun applies) you want, don't want you. It's so important to diffuse this mean thoughts that don't serve you, and therefore greatly impact how you show up when you're looking for l...
Putting 1% More Effort Into Your Finding-Love Journey
January 29, 2024 11:00 - 30 minutes - 20.7 MBToday's episode piggy-backs off of last week's episode, Putting 1% More Effort Into Your Healing-Heartbreak Journey. (Episode 253) Finding love can feel very overwhelming, despite how much you know you want it. If you've been hurt before or alone for too long that the process of dating feels daunting, or you just despise the apps and you're not doing much to manage your resistance, chances are you'll let a lot of time go by, NOT taking action and then find yourself frustrated for still bei...
Putting 1% More Effort Into Your Healing-Heartbreak Journey
January 22, 2024 11:00 - 29 minutes - 20.3 MBClaire gets it. You're heartbroken and just don't want to do anything. Showing up for work feels like a huge accomplishment and once you do, there's no energy left for anything else... But you're over feeling this way. You want to do something but everything everyone suggests feels too hard, too heavy, and too much. In this episode, Claire explains how she too found herself in a bit of a stuck, shutdown mode with her own personal goals, and offers how powerful things can shift by doing j...
Dating In Your Power
January 15, 2024 11:00 - 30 minutes - 21.2 MBThis episode is inspired by two of Claire's clients this past week-- one who needed to step into her power as a budding entrepreneur, and another who celebrated owning her power with a new guy she was dating and really interested in. This is a must-listen if you feel like you are showing up for your dating life by doing all the things: swiping, dating, visualizing, etc, but aren't feeling like there's much momentum happening... It just might have to do with you not recognizing and harnessi...
Desire Vs Desperation To Heal
January 08, 2024 11:00 - 26 minutes - 18 MBThis episode was inspired by one of Claire's group clients and a fellow coach, who presented the idea of exploring desire vs. desperation to heal heartbreak. Claire was curious about why her client didn't want to feel desperate to heal, and in this episode she explores why desperation to heal may not be such a bad thing, while desperation in the midst of singledom, wouldn't be what she'd recommend. Referenced episodes 5: My Heartbreak Story 250: Discouraging Dating App Stats
Discouraging Dating Apps Stats
December 25, 2023 11:00 - 34 minutes - 23.5 MBThis episode is inspired by Claire's client who was trying to not be discouraged over 7 guys she INTENTIONALLY swiped right on -- that included a thoughtful reachout to each-- but none of them responded. Claire gave her client an encouraging perspective that you all need to hear--especially if you have a lot of resistance to the dating apps or just dating in general. Regardless of whether you find your person on the apps or don't, this is a must-listen if you are planning on making 2024 yo...
What If I Always Feel This Way?
December 18, 2023 11:00 - 33 minutes - 23.2 MBWhat if you always feel longing toward your ex? What if you always feel miserable while single until your right person arrives? Or perhaps you already found love but you're ALWAYS fearing that he'll leave? In today's episode, Claire unpacks how you can manage the repetitive, stubborn fears you live with on the regular and desperately want to shake, but just can't seem to be able to!
Are You Seeing Anyone Yet
December 11, 2023 11:00 - 30 minutes - 20.7 MBAhhhhh.... the age-old question most single people hate at the holidays when they're reconnecting with the prying aunt they don't want to engage with. So how do you handle it? Do you stick it to her? Defend yourself? Pretend like you don't care? Laugh it off? In today's episode Claire helps you get more clarity on why the question is so irritating-- even if you ARE fine being single right now-- and offers a few ways you can go about responding to it. Enjoy! Referenced episode B...
Prepare Your Broken Or Single Heart For The Holidays
December 04, 2023 11:00 - 31 minutes - 21.3 MBNavigating your singledom or broken heart throughout the holidays can feel extra heavy and hard. There are annoying probing family members. Lots of social obligations. And it feels like you're so alone in this and it seems like everyone has someone except you. Everyone has HAPPINESS except you. Well, Claire is here to tell you how not true that is, and offers tips in this replay episode she recorded back in November of 2021. PLEASE NOTE: The course Claire references IS available now...
All I Want for Christmas is a Crush
November 27, 2023 11:00 - 23 minutes - 16.4 MBWhatever holiday it is that you celebrate, Claire is inviting you to look at your resistance to showing up on your search for love at this time of year. There tends to be three reasons people give up and/or hit pause on their search for love during the holiday season: 1) They just assume they'll be alone and have no one to crush on because it's already October or November 2) They assume people are busy with work and holiday festivities so on one's really looking to date OR they themselves...
Being The Underdog In Your Love-Life
November 20, 2023 11:00 - 29 minutes - 20.1 MBClaire was recently referred to as an underdog in regards to being a step-mom and soon-to-be second wife, and it got her thinking about how so many of her clients feel like the underdog because of their relationship statuses... Whether you're heartbroken, single at WHATEVER age, divorced, a mom, NOT a mom, a step-mom, not as far along as you'd prefer to be with your career and finances, YOU GET TO DECIDE if this makes you an underdog or not. You also get to decide whether or not you want t...
The Messy Truth About Heartbreak and Success
November 14, 2023 11:00 - 47 minutes - 43.8 MBClaire brings on her client, Drybar co-Founder, Alli Webb, who recently wrote the book, The Messy Truth. The Messy Truth is all about how Alli got Drybar to a $255 million business in a short period of time, while also grieving the loss of her marriage, mother, and navigating a very scary and challenging time with her son. Claire takes some gems of wisdom from The Messy Truth and applies it to dating with Alli on this episode... You won't want to miss this conversation that reveals you re...
How to Manage Your Ick List
November 06, 2023 11:00 - 44 minutes - 30.6 MBYou're seeing someone new who overall is pretty great except... His breath is kinda bad. He doesn't know the difference between they're, their, and there! His pants are a hair too tight for your liking... Dealbreaker? You automatically think, "YES!," but there's this other part of you that wonders, "Am I being too picky?" Or dare I say... "ICKY?!!" Because you just can't seem to shake your long list of ICKS when it comes to meeting someone new, no matter how wonderful they are and offe...
Finding Love After Divorce
October 23, 2023 10:00 - 1 hour - 49 MBIn today's episode, Claire interviews her course student, Lora, who found true love after two marriages and a dragged out situationship. Lora is so honest, raw, real, articulate and vulnerable with sharing her story, that touches on the issue of age being a "thing" whiie looking for love and how she made it NOT a thing at almost 50, and they also discuss how differently she showed up in her dating life by the time she found the man of her dreams, thanks to doing the work in Claire's cours...
When You Don't Want To Do The Work
October 16, 2023 10:00 - 30 minutes - 20.6 MBYou're desperate to heal your heart and/or find love, and you know that it will require something more of you because what you're doing isn't working... But you just can't bring yourself to trying something new or different, let alone stick to it! In today's episode, Claire shares about her client who is so coachable and wants the results SO badly, but is feeling very resistant to showing up on the regular with the tools Claire is asking her to work with and implement. THIS IS SO COMMON...
When You Dread The Dates You're Going On
October 09, 2023 10:00 - 36 minutes - 25.1 MBHopefully you know you're not alone when it comes to dreading dates you go on, BUT perhaps you don't know that this dread isn't serving you AND that you can do something about it! This episode was specifically inspired by two of Claire's clients who have been in a state of dread before dates. One client felt that she "knew" it just wasn't going to go well, and another touched on her discomfort with there being so much uncertainty when it comes to meeting a stranger off the apps! Both are...
When You Don't Think Love Is In The Cards
October 02, 2023 10:00 - 48 minutes - 33.4 MBIt's natural to believe this thought when time and time again, a friend gets engaged or is on her third baby, or you've gone on 10 dates and they've all sucked! But it's a belief that can really make you feel super discouraged, sad and resistant about finding love, and have you losing sight of the life you're living RIGHT NOW. On today's episode, Claire walks you through how to navigate this belief-- Love not being in the cards for you-- so that you can keep going on your finding-love jour...
Keeping Your Love-Life Journey Simple
September 25, 2023 10:00 - 26 minutes - 18.4 MBIt's easy to swim in your head with thoughts like, "I can't believe it's over," or "He duped me" or "I'll never get over him," in the midst of your heartbreak. The same goes for when you're navigating finding love: "All the good ones are gone." "I'm too old." "Love must not be in the cards for me." In today's episode, Claire talks about the importance of letting yourself grieve and experience the common struggles that go along with your love-life journey, but then touches on how there com...
What Most Single Women Forget
September 18, 2023 10:00 - 33 minutes - 23.1 MBWhen you're newly dating after a lot of healing over previous painful relationships, it's difficult to separate the past from both the present and the future. It's easy to anticipate that the other shoe will drop because you believe "it always does" when it comes to your dating life. Claire expands on what you need to focus on instead, as you navigate putting your heart out there again, in this latest episode. Check it out!
The Hardest Part Of Heartbreak
September 11, 2023 10:00 - 27 minutes - 18.6 MBThe hardest part about heartbreak over a break-up with a romantic partner isn't the loss of the person. It isn't even cutting contact. Yes, those parts are SUPER hard, but there is something that Claire has decided is even HARDER than either of these components of your heartbreak... Tune in to find out AND understand why this aspect of your heartbreak is the MOST important to consciously face.
Learning the Truth, Post Break-up
September 04, 2023 10:00 - 30 minutes - 20.6 MBIt's hard enough to process the grief of the loss of a partner--especially if he left you. But in Claire's opinion, she finds it extra hard to process the reality of the situation with time and space to process, AFTER the relationship. Maybe all the things you feared about his antics that he vehemently denied, turned out to be true, and you feel rage and shame both at him and yourself, for falling for his lies. Or, you saw and heard awful things he said and did, and you turned a blind eye...
If I'd Behaved Differently, He'd Be Here
August 28, 2023 10:00 - 35 minutes - 24.6 MBThis is a torturous thought both Claire and her clients have moved through, amidst their heartbreak. In today's episode, Claire shares about two personal experiences where she believed it was her fault for the demise of the relationships, leading her to ruminating and resisting the idea that everything unfolded exactly the way it was supposed to... as cliché as this sounds. Claire's hope is for you to be able to see the same for yourself after listening to this episode, if you're finding y...
Heartbreak and Anger
August 21, 2023 10:00 - 32 minutes - 22.6 MBTRIGGER WARNING as there is a mention of self-harm in this episode. On this week’s episode, Claire talks about the importance of NOT shaming yourself when experiencing anger while moving through your heartbreak. Anger is an emotion that many people have been told “isn’t healthy” or is “inappropriate to carry…” Claire wildly disagrees and shares why. She also shares her own experience of feeling shame for all the anger she carried for years and years, without realizing the detrimental ef...
How to get back on the horse after getting burned
August 14, 2023 10:00 - 32 minutes - 22 MBGetting back on the horse feels extra hard when you've been burned so badly! You don't want to get your heart broken again. You don't want to move through the inevitable BS on the apps. You don't want to waste your time on a bunch of duds. You don't want to be duped again. You'd rather hang with your friends! But there's a reason you're intrigued by hearing from someone who's about to suggest how to get back on the horse after being burned so bad: You REALLY want to share your life wi...
The Shame Of Taking So Long To Heal
August 07, 2023 10:00 - 29 minutes - 19.9 MBWhether you’re reeling over a long or short-term relationship, it’s already hard enough that you’re heartbroken, but then the layer of shame for how long it’s taking to heal, is a bad cherry on top! Claire always says there is NO SHAME over how long it takes to get over any relationship, no matter how short-lived it was. The pain usually isn’t really about the other person anyway. It’s more about you and what you’re thinking that’s making you FEEL a certain way. (At least that’s Clair...
Why The Universe Keeps Sending The Wrong Guy
July 31, 2023 10:00 - 41 minutes - 28.5 MBIt’s super disappointing when you’re doing the work and you feel like the universe keeps rolling out one disappointing dude after the next. Naturally, you want to question the universe, (If you happen to believe in a higher power) and wonder what it’s all for… In today’s episode, Claire unpacks a new situationship her client, Jen, was moving through, that she was very excited about— only to then find herself extremely hurt and sad when the guy she was newly seeing became a major disappoin...
How To Know When It's Time To Leave
July 24, 2023 10:00 - 49 minutes - 33.9 MBClaire was inspired to do this episode because she's been coaching a few clients on not wanting to leave, and who justify staying while in the initial stages of a relationship with men who are demonstrating signs of unavailability. She is simultaneously coaching other women who are KICKING themselves for not leaving sooner but stayed for years because they painted green over red flags. In today's episode, Claire touches on when it's time to get out in the beginning stages of a relationship...
Endless Possibilities To Finding Love
July 17, 2023 10:00 - 37 minutes - 26 MBClaire tries to avoid cliché phrases like “endless possibilities” and “stay present!” but these sayings are overused for a reason! In today’s episode, she invites you to go back to the basics of shifting into expansive beliefs when it comes to finding your person, vs reacting off of what is or isn’t happening in your love-life, and therefore making it mean that it will never work out. Claire uses two of her clients as examples who have a more unique circumstance than most of her clients… O...
The Only Way To Find Love
July 10, 2023 10:00 - 1 hour - 41.9 MBToday, Claire brings on a very special guest, Caroline, who's based in Sweden and worked with Claire for a year and a half. Caroline shares the ins and outs of her journey towards finding love, both as Claire's client and a continued independent student of the work. You're in for a real treat with some of the nuggets of wisdom Caroline brings to the table as she reflects back on her journey towards finding herself AND her dream partner. Enjoy!
Too Attached to Finding Him
July 03, 2023 10:00 - 31 minutes - 21.9 MBToday's episode is inspired by Claire's client, Sarah, (name changed to protect her privacy) who fears her "clinginess" to the result of finding her person is messing up her process. You might be just as surprised and relieved to hear what Claire had to offer Sarah, who has been working SUPER HARD to find her person... as Sarah was! It's normal to be a little clingy and attached to really wanting something that matters to you, and in this episode Claire offers how you can approach this when ...
Confused Because You're A Catch
June 26, 2023 10:00 - 45 minutes - 31.4 MBIf you think you're a total catch, Claire is THRILLED. She tends to attract clients in two camps: those who feel insecure and unworthy, OR they think they're total catches. This episode is for the catches who are genuinely confused about why they're still single, and find themselves comparing and despairing a lot with thoughts like, "Why does SHE have someone and I don't??" As always, this is a safe space to look at our uncomfortable thoughts that may bring up shame and/or embarrassment, b...
How It Is and Isn't Personal
June 19, 2023 10:00 - 57 minutes - 39.3 MBIt's so hard to NOT take things personally when someone you care about leaves the building... Even if you only went on a couple of dates. But in today's episode Claire breaks down how you can look at NOT making it so personal. Also, between now and this Sunday 6/25/23, the "I'M ENGAGED!" mini-offer is available to you which includes Claire's course and a BONUS 1:1 session with Claire. CLICK HERE to sign up: https://www.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/my-engagement-offer
That Time I Got Engaged
June 12, 2023 10:00 - 51 minutes - 35.2 MBWe're HERE! It happened. Claire gives the play by play of the best day of her life, along with a couple of cringey moments! Also check out her latest mini offer that expires June 25, 2023: https://www.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/my-engagement-offer
Visualization Is The Key
June 05, 2023 10:00 - 45 minutes - 31.2 MBThis won't be the first time Claire touches on the importance of visualization when it comes to manifesting an epic romantic relationship, but now you have a WHOLE EPISODE on the importance of visualization, and more specifics on what your practice could look like. An inspired quote she shares several times throughout the episode is from David Cameron Gikandi's book, A Happy Pocket Full Of Money. "When I willingly go where my most desired imaginings take me, I become a creative force that ...
Your Morning Healing/Love Manifestation Routine
May 29, 2023 10:00 - 1 hour - 42.3 MBThere's no right or wrong way to execute your morning practice, but whether you're heartbroken or single & looking for love, Claire HIGHLY RECOMMENDS that you have one. In today's episode she gives you a rundown on how to approach your morning practice for each of these purposes... It doesn't have to be perfect or flawless, but carving out the time to do it, will for sure benefit you in the long run. Claire dares that you commit to one of the two practices she offers you, for 60 days, and ...
Too Negative For Love?
May 22, 2023 10:00 - 35 minutes - 24 MBToday's episode is inspired by one of Claire's clients who reconnected with an ex (not part of her coaching plan!) and ultimately decided that overall she just thinks she has a "bad mindset." Much to the clients' surprise on the group call, Claire chimed in with, "Yeah ME TOO!" In this episode you'll discover how your negative mindset, whether it's about your love-life or something else, doesn't have to be a problem... it's NOT CONSISTENTLY DOING SOMETHING ABOUT IT, that's the problem, and C...
10 Times Your Effort Into Finding Love
May 15, 2023 10:00 - 32 minutes - 22.3 MBYou want love, and you believe you're DOING your part...You're swiping, dating, working on yourself, etc. Maybe you ARE... But what would it look like to do 10 TIMES the part that you're already doing, in order to find your person? NOT from a pressury, rushed, energy, but from curious, motivated and well... "energized" energy! This episode was inspired by a book Claire is reading by Grant Cardone, called the 10 X Rule. How can you not only 10X your effort into finding true love, but 10X th...
The Biggest Hallmark Of A Great Relationship
May 08, 2023 10:00 - 37 minutes - 25.5 MBIt's not kindness, communication, or respect... although those are pretty good hallmarks of a relationship too! Claire reveals what she thinks makes Larry and her work so well together, which doesn't involve just the two of them... Curious? Then check out this freeing and fun episode, where Claire definitely has a laugh at her own expense, as well as Larry's. Referenced episodes My Heartbreak Story. Inward and Onward
When You Want To Be Pursued
May 01, 2023 10:00 - 45 minutes - 31.2 MBIn today's episode, Claire addresses the woman's desire to be pursued, specifically in heteronormative relationships. Claire herself identifies as a "traditional feminist," who appreciates the man pursuing the woman when it comes to asking her out, initiating contact, and yes, even paying for the first couple of dates, while still being all about female empowerment, independence and equality. HOWEVER, there were lots of ways Claire showed up at the beginning stages of her relationship with...
Why It IS and ISN'T About Your Looks
April 24, 2023 10:00 - 33 minutes - 22.9 MBBig TRIGGER WARNING for today's episode, as Claire understands that physical appearance-- especially for women-- can tend to be an extremely sensitive issue. And yet, it's an issue that she really wanted to address in today's episode, because what we look like, as well as what we want our ideal person to look like or NOT look like, often comes into play in our dating lives. Claire's intention for this episode is to offer you a shift in perspective about the importance and pressure surround...
Why You're NOT Unlucky In Love
April 17, 2023 10:00 - 34 minutes - 23.4 MBIf you let the story, "I'm just not lucky in love" roll off your tongue, this episode is for you, because YES-- it IS just a story that you get to change instead of perpetuate as your truth! Claire helps you see how your love-life isn't about luck-- it's about belief AND the meaning you're making out of what's unfolded in your past romantic relationships. Enjoy!
Why You Keep Attracting Unavailable Men
April 10, 2023 10:00 - 34 minutes - 23.6 MBIf you think your attraction to unavailable men is super confusing because you believe you're super available, this episode is for you. Get ready to hunker down and eat a slice of humble pie for this episode. Claire truly believes that like attracts like, NO MATTER WHAT, and if you're willing to look at how YOU might have something to do with your continued pattern of attracting unavailable men-- despite how much healing work you've done on yourself-- get cozy and take a listen!
Too Rigid On Your Search For Love?
April 03, 2023 10:00 - 1 hour - 49 MBClaire speaks so much about how easy it is to settle for crumbs, but in this episode, she talks about common ways women automatically want to write someone off without deeply considering WHY they're writing that person off... They're being rigid for reasons that usually have to do with past experiences, or observing someone else in a particular circumstance that makes you believe that someone who wasn't rich enough wouldn't work well for you either. (using money just as an example). Today'...
A Dating App Smackdown
March 27, 2023 10:00 - 28 minutes - 19.5 MBClaire is bringing you a dating app smackdown on today's episode! Look, this isn't to say that your person is definitely on the apps, but the apps ARE the most mainstream way to date these days, and Claire is here to say that just because you've had some brutal experiences or "no luck" with the apps so far, doesn't mean you should throw in the towel when it comes to the apps. If you are ready to take the dating app smackdown, as well as understand how you have so much more power than you re...
I Don't Want To Be Alone Anymore
March 20, 2023 10:00 - 33 minutes - 23 MBIn today's episode, Claire share's about a client's resistance to doing the work outside of their calls together (very normal!) but what was uncovered underneath the resistance broke open a whole new way for her client to approach her finding-love journey. This is Claire's favorite aspect of the coaching work: When you don't even realize the blocked thought that's preventing you from where you want to go, because you don't even recognize the bad vibes this thought is having on your finding-...