Seth Nelson and Pete Wright explore a deeply sensitive subject—dealing with mental illness within a marriage. Scot and Emily McKay, bestselling authors, podcasters, and BMX champions, bring their own experiences to the table, sharing how their previous marriages were affected by partners grappling with profound mental health issues.

In a candid conversation, Scot and Emily recount the red flags and realizations that accompanied their relationships with partners dealing with mental illness. From bipolar disorder and schizophrenia to borderline personality disorder, their stories reveal the complexities of living with and supporting individuals facing these challenges. Both hosts and guests openly address the transformational impact of mental illness on a marriage and how it's vital to distinguish between the illness and the person.


Tune in to this episode for an honest exploration of navigating relationships within the context of mental health challenges. Scot, Emily, Seth, and Pete dive deep into the journey of understanding, acceptance, and compassion in the face of mental illness while providing valuable insights for anyone dealing with similar situations.


Links & Notes

Check out Scot’s and Emily’s various podcasts: The Mountain Top, Wing It Worldwide, X&Y on the Fly Dating PodcastEmily on Twitter/XScot on Instagram, LinkedIn, Twitter/X, Facebook, and YouTubeX&Y Communications on the webCheck out Gaslit on Amazon PrimeSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!
(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(01:19) - Meet Scot and Emily McKay
(02:29) - Their Backstory
(06:51) - Red Flags
(12:04) - Ration Solutions, Irrational Problems
(14:40) - Gaslit
(18:09) - Navigating with Divorce Lawyers
(18:35) - Getting Independent Third Party Verification
(20:19) - Conversations with Lawyer
(22:38) - When They Threaten Suicide
(25:30) - The Actual Divorce
(29:52) - Viewing As If a Third Party
(32:34) - Feeling Trapped
(35:35) - How to Co-Parent?
(37:09) - The Same Regardless of Who They're With
(41:33) - They Can Also Be Evil
(44:51) - Dark Side of Being a Protector
(46:20) - Finding a New Partner
(47:40) - Making Mistakes
(48:57) - Not Making the Same Mistakes
(51:07) - Finding Scot and Emily
(53:46) - Wrapping Up


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