We’ve talked about grey divorce on the Toaster. We’ve talked about high dollar divorce on the Toaster. But what are the issues facing the messy middle, sitting right at the top of the divorce bell curve? That’s the topic of this week’s show, and to lead us through it we’re talking to Daniel Herrold, co-founder of Divorced Over Forty, a community dedicated to providing support for those in their 40s through 60s, searching for community and friendship.

What are the main issues facing the divorced in this group? We talk about divorce and the proverbial mid-life crisis. How important is it to find your tribe after the loss that comes with divorce? And what do you do once you find them? You join Divorced Over Forty for a trip to Jamaca, that’s what.

About Daniel Herrold

Daniel Herrold is a Divorced Dad of three daughters living in Tulsa, Oklahoma. He is one of the co-founders of Divorced Over Forty, a group that provides community to divorced men and women around the world who for support through content on its social media channels, as well as events with a specific intention of fostering and cultivating friendships. With over 10,000 strong virtually, tribes have been formed in over 50 cities across 7 countries worldwide.


(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:29) - Daniel Herrold & DivorcedOver40.com
(01:04) - Getting It Started
(07:23) - Investing in Friends
(08:58) - Making the Time
(11:17) - Being Alone & Platonic Relationships
(16:10) - Intention
(18:39) - Redefining Yourself
(21:28) - Past vs. Present Selves
(24:51) - Vulnerability
(28:45) - Finding Connections
(32:30) - Jamaica
(35:49) - Wrap Up