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How Not To Suck At Divorce

123 episodes - English - Latest episode: 14 days ago - ★★★★★ - 168 ratings

The only divorce podcast that's one part family law attorney and one part recovering comedian. We are dedicated to bringing you action steps, empathy, and a healthy side of snark.

Morgan Stogsdill and Andrea Rappaport bring you divorce content that's resourceful, entertaining, packed with ACTION STEPS from EXPERTS, and most importantly, help listeners feel less alone.

You'll get through this. We promise. You've got this..and we've got you.

**Do not listen to this show if you don't have a sense of humor.

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Episodes

12. Holiday Party and Season 1 Finale

December 23, 2021 06:00 - 49 minutes - 68.5 MB

Join us for our 1st annual holiday party and season 1 finale! From the floor of Morgan's son's closet. We play divorce "would you rather", discuss family dynamics, covid hangovers, and regular hangovers and Andrea sings. Make sure you're subscribed because season 2 drops in January!

11. How Not To Annoy Your Attorney

November 26, 2021 07:13 - 43 minutes - 88.8 MB

This week we're talking about how not to annoy your attorney. We're kidding! Kind of. You want to make the most of your time with your legal counsel because, as we're sure you've guessed by now, divorce is a bit pricey. We discuss divorce concierge service, texting your attorney, the importance of a strategy call, why your attorney has junior associates helping on your case and how to best communicate with your legal team. We will also get very real about how much a typical retainer fee will...

10. Documents Needed For Divorce

November 18, 2021 06:27 - 39 minutes - 81 MB

On today's episode we're talking about the documents you need for divorce, why they're important to get right and all the feelings you may be feeling as you work through them. We'll walk you through each document so you don't feel overwhelmed. Andrea opens up about her own experience getting divorced during the pandemic and Morgan gets real about how long the whole process can take. As we mention in today's episode, please feel free to DM us on Instagram (unless your name is Chad). We're...

9. Be a BIFF

October 07, 2021 08:00 - 35 minutes - 49.4 MB

Today we're talking about how to prevent things from spiraling out of control. We'll discuss high conflict divorce and the steps to take to maintain your sanity and your safety.  Morgan and Andrea will walk you through how to communicate and through which methods, what BIFF means, if a judge can read your emails, how to respond when the other person gets nasty and the hilarious/immature Seth Rogen gifs NOT to send to your soon-to-be ex.

9-Be a BIFF

October 07, 2021 08:00 - 35 minutes - 49.4 MB

Today we're talking about how to prevent things from spiraling out of control. We'll discuss high conflict divorce and the steps to take to maintain your sanity and your safety.  Morgan and Andrea will walk you through how to communicate and through which methods, what BIFF means, if a judge can read your emails, how to respond when the other person gets nasty and the hilarious/immature Seth Rogen gifs NOT to send to your soon-to-be ex.

8. High Maintenance (aka Alimony)

September 30, 2021 05:51 - 27 minutes - 37.8 MB

This week we’re talking about maintenance (aka alimony). Spoiler alert - high maintenance is a good thing here. This is a topic everyone wants to know about but is afraid to ask so we're breaking it all down. We'll answer your burning questions: How is alimony (or maintenance) different than child support? Who gets maintenance? How do you qualify for maintenance? How easy it is to qualify for maintenance?  How much alimony will I get? We'll also discuss the top factors a judge wi...

8: High Maintenance (aka Alimony)

September 30, 2021 05:51 - 27 minutes - 37.8 MB

This week we’re talking about maintenance (aka alimony). Spoiler alert - high maintenance is a good thing here. This is a topic everyone wants to know about but is afraid to ask so we're breaking it all down. We'll answer your burning questions: How is alimony (or maintenance) different than child support? Who gets maintenance? How do you qualify for maintenance? How easy it is to qualify for maintenance?  How much alimony will I get? We'll also discuss the top factors a judge wi...

7: How To Cope With Stress

September 09, 2021 06:00 - 30 minutes - 57.8 MB

Today we're talking about how to cope with stress while you're going through a divorce. Going through this process is a marathon, not a sprint, and we're here to coach you through it. We'll discuss the importance of optimal cognitive function, and if watching Japanese bug fighting on youtube will help you feel better. Spoiler alert: It will. Maybe.

7. How To Cope With Stress

September 09, 2021 06:00 - 30 minutes - 57.8 MB

Today we're talking about how to cope with stress while you're going through a divorce. Going through this process is a marathon, not a sprint, and we're here to coach you through it. We'll discuss the importance of optimal cognitive function, and if watching Japanese bug fighting on youtube will help you feel better. Spoiler alert: It will. Maybe.

The Financial Affidavit And Other Ways To Slowly Lose Your Mind

September 01, 2021 15:23 - 43 minutes - 80.5 MB

Today we're talking all about the notorious financial affidavit. This is a really important document you'll want to be prepared for so this is an episode you do not want to miss. We'll discuss spending shame, being judged by the judge (does she/he care about your monthly root touchup?), do you need to hire someone to help figure out your finances, how to fill out the financial affidavit, do you include your dog's masseuse as well as our favorite crazy divorce stories. It's a daunting documen...

6: The Financial Affidavit And Other Ways To Slowly Lose Your Mind

September 01, 2021 15:23 - 43 minutes - 80.5 MB

Today we're talking all about the notorious financial affidavit. This is a really important document you'll want to be prepared for so this is an episode you do not want to miss. We'll discuss spending shame, being judged by the judge (does she/he care about your monthly root touchup?), do you need to hire someone to help figure out your finances, how to fill out the financial affidavit, do you include your dog's masseuse as well as our favorite crazy divorce stories. It's a daunting documen...

6. The Financial Affidavit And Other Ways To Slowly Lose Your Mind

September 01, 2021 15:23 - 43 minutes - 80.5 MB

Today we're talking all about the notorious financial affidavit. This is a really important document you'll want to be prepared for so this is an episode you do not want to miss. We'll discuss spending shame, being judged by the judge (does she/he care about your monthly root touchup?), do you need to hire someone to help figure out your finances, how to fill out the financial affidavit, do you include your dog's masseuse as well as our favorite crazy divorce stories. It's a daunting document...

5: What's It Gonna Be?

July 28, 2021 18:11 - 40 minutes - 76 MB

On today’s episode, we’re talking about the different types of divorce. Who knew there was more than one?! We’ll discuss collaborative divorce, mediation and litigation and how they differ, pros and cons of each and which may be the right fit for you. If you’re wondering how to get a divorce, should I file for divorce, how can I suck less at divorce and if you should saw your house in half like one couple did, this is the podcast for you.

5. What's It Gonna Be?

July 28, 2021 18:11 - 40 minutes - 76 MB

On today’s episode, we’re talking about the different types of divorce. Who knew there was more than one?! We’ll discuss collaborative divorce, mediation and litigation and how they differ, pros and cons of each and which may be the right fit for you. If you’re wondering how to get a divorce, should I file for divorce, how can I suck less at divorce and if you should saw your house in half like one couple did, this is the podcast for you.

4. The Parenting Agreement

July 28, 2021 18:10 - 32 minutes - 60.4 MB

Today we're talking about the parenting agreement. You won't want to miss this one. This is one of the toughest parts of divorce and Andrea gets really real and almost didn't want to record this episode. Anna helps make sense of this agreement and how to get through it in one piece. We'll talk about: What is a parenting agreement? What should I include in the parenting agreement? Should we get a mediator? Holidays during and after divorce Visitation during and after divorce Who pay...

4: The Parenting Agreement

July 28, 2021 18:10 - 32 minutes - 60.4 MB

Today we're talking about the parenting agreement. You won't want to miss this one. This is one of the toughest parts of divorce and Andrea gets really real and almost didn't want to record this episode. Anna helps make sense of this agreement and how to get through it in one piece. We'll talk about: What is a parenting agreement? What should I include in the parenting agreement? Should we get a mediator? Holidays during and after divorce Visitation during and after divorce Who p...

3. Moving Out

July 28, 2021 17:33 - 33 minutes - 61.5 MB

On today's episode we're talking about moving out. This part of the process isn't easy but we're here to help you through it. We discuss how to handle this moment with children, if you should hire a divorce coach, therapist or mediator and the difference between the three and the role the attorney plays. We also talk about the differences between low conflict and high conflict divorces when it comes to this decision. People typically don't talk about all the nuances that go into moving out of...

3: Moving Out

July 28, 2021 17:33 - 33 minutes - 61.5 MB

On today's episode we're talking about moving out. This part of the process isn't easy but we're here to help you through it. We discuss how to handle this moment with children, if you should hire a divorce coach, therapist or mediator and the difference between the three and the role the attorney plays. We also talk about the differences between low conflict and high conflict divorces when it comes to this decision. People typically don't talk about all the nuances that go into moving out o...

I Think I Need A Lawyer

July 26, 2021 16:51 - 43 minutes - 79.7 MB

2. I Think I Need A Lawyer

July 26, 2021 16:51 - 43 minutes - 79.7 MB

Today, we're talking about how to find a divorce lawyer. Andrea shares how it all went down when they decided to file and what it was like to find an attorney. It's overwhelming and emotional but we can help and make it less scary. What we talk about in this episode: How to find a divorce attorney What questions to ask a divorce attorney or a divorce lawyer Where do you find a divorce lawyer or attorney Should you google "tough divorce lawyer" How do you vet a divorce lawyer or divor...

2: I Think I Need A Lawyer

July 26, 2021 16:51 - 43 minutes - 79.7 MB

Today, we're talking about how to find a divorce lawyer. Andrea shares how it all went down when they decided to file and what it was like to find an attorney. It's overwhelming and emotional but we can help and make it less scary. What we talk about in this episode: How to find a divorce attorney What questions to ask a divorce attorney or a divorce lawyer Where do you find a divorce lawyer or attorney Should you google "tough divorce lawyer" How do you vet a divorce lawyer or div...

1: How We Got Here

July 22, 2021 22:50 - 37 minutes - 69.5 MB

In today's episode, Morgan and Andrea talk about how they got here. Here being the place where they decided to launch a podcast about divorce and all the good, bad, ugly, and hilarious things you need to know so you don't suck at yours. Help us help others going through the divorce process by following, rating, and reviewing our show!

1. How We Got Here

July 22, 2021 22:50 - 37 minutes - 69.5 MB

In today's episode, Morgan and Andrea talk about how they got here. Here being the place where they decided to launch a podcast about divorce and all the good, bad, ugly, and hilarious things you need to know so you don't suck at yours. Help us help others going through the divorce process by following, rating, and reviewing our show!

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