Hey, Man - The Advice Podcast for Men
37 episodes - English - Latest episode: about 4 years ago - ★★★★★ - 56 ratingsThe weekly advice podcast for men with therapist Avi Klein and novelist Sam Graham-Felsen. Each week, we answer your questions with the help of a rotating cast of guests.
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"Let there be play" with Dominatrix Dia Dynasty
March 12, 2020 08:00 - 52 minutes - 120 MBWe're joined this week by professional dominatrix Dia Dynasty. We discuss sex, kink and the power that comes from knowing your sexual self. In the second half, Dia helps us with an advice question from a man whose relatoinship struggles are leading him to wonder if he's not cut out for monogamy. Dia's Website Follow Dia on: Instagram Twitter Hey Man, I’m looking for some help in figuring out my priorities in romantic relationships. I’m 36 years old and am about 8 months into wh...
"Where most guys really are" with Rich Dorment, Editor-in-chief of Men's Health
February 26, 2020 12:00 - 50 minutes - 117 MBWe're joined this week by Men's Health editor-in-chief Rich Dorment. Rich brought his son with him to work and he fell asleep while we were recording the episode! We talk about his decision to include mental health as an area of focus at the magazine, his article on Men and friendship and cultivating work/life balance. Later, Rich helps us with an advice question from a listener who needs help with getting politics out of his relationships with his friends. Men's Health Men Don't ...
"Holy sh*t, it's on" with Jason Charles (The Angry Prepper)
February 19, 2020 16:00 - 45 minutes - 105 MBWe're joined this week by 20 year veteran of the FDNY and organizer of the NYC Prepper's Network, Jason Charles. Jason shares what he's learned from his experience in the FDNY and his longstanding interest in disaster prepping. In the second half, Jason lends a hand in giving advice to a man who can't let go of a workplace betrayal. New York City Preppers Network Meetup The Angry Prepper Youtube The Angry Prepper Podcast Hey Man, I’m 40 years old and am having an issue with a c...
"Community, Connection & Tribes" with Noah Rubinstein of YinOva
February 12, 2020 12:00 - 58 minutes - 133 MBSam is out this week but Avi is joined by acupuncturist Noah Rubinstein of the YinOva Center in New York City. We discuss his background as a paramedic and the importance and challenges of cultivating balance. Our advice question this week is from a man who is struggling with feeling like the black sheep wherever he goes.
"Community, Connection & Tribes" with Noah Rubinstein of Yinova
February 12, 2020 12:00 - 58 minutes - 133 MBSam is out this week but Avi is joined by acupuncturist Noah Rubinstein . Noah is clinic director at the Yinova Center in New York City, where he specializes in male reproductive and sexual issues. We discuss his background as a paramedic and the importance and challenges of cultivating balance. Our advice question this week is from a man who is struggling with feeling like the black sheep wherever he goes.We discuss his background as a paramedic and the importance and challenges of...
"Are we ghosts?" with Zach Iscol
February 05, 2020 12:00 - 53 minutes - 123 MBWe're back! Our guest this week is Zach Iscol. Zach is a combat veteran ,a grand marshall of the 2019 Veteran's Day parade and the founder of several companies, including Hirepurpose, Task & Purpose and Headstrong - a nonprofit dedicated to providing veterans with treatment for PTSD. Zach joins us to help give advice to a man who is struggling to take responsibility after screwing up at work. Headstrong Task & Purpose Hirepurpose Hey Man, I’m 24 years old and a little over a ye...
New episodes of Hey, Man starting up in February 2020
January 29, 2020 12:00 - 1 minute - 3.83 MBSam and Avi return next week after taking a few weeks off to rest, relax and record more episodes. We're excited to announce that new episodes of Hey, Man resume on Wednesdays starting in February. If you have a question that you need help with, get in touch! We'd love to feature you on the show. You can send us an email at [email protected]. ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★
"Two Jews and a Muslim Talk About Christmas" with Hussein Kesvani
December 25, 2019 12:00 - 45 minutes - 104 MBWe're joined this week by Hussein Kesvani, staff writer at MEL magazine and author of the book Follow Me Akhi: The Online World of British Muslims. In a special holiday themed episode, Hussein helps us give advice to a man whose deep loathing of Christmas is a source of tension in his relationship. Hussein at MEL On Twitter Follow Me Akhi Hey Man, I’m 40 years old and married to a wonderful woman. We’re compatible in many ways, but completely disagree about Christmas. I’m an at...
"Gray areas" with Cleo Stiller
December 18, 2019 12:00 - 55 minutes - 127 MBCleo Stiller is the author of the recently published "Modern Manhood: Conversations about the Complicated World of Being a Good Man Today." We talk about #MeToo and the private questions men have been asking, and sharing with her, since then. Later, Cleo helps us answer a question from a man whose drinking is leading him to say regrettable things to his girlfriend. Cleo's Book Cleo's Website Cleo's Instagram Cleo's Twitter Hey Man, I’m writing to you for some practical advice ...
"The country of the blind" with Andrew Leland
December 11, 2019 12:00 - 1 hour - 168 MBOur guest this week is Andrew Leland. Andrew is currently writing a book about blindness for Penguin Press. He’s a contributing editor of the Believer magazine and hosts the Organist podcast. We talk to him about the experience of slowly going blind over his adulthood - ways in which there is loss, but also ways in which it's simply changed things. He also takes about the changes in how people engage with him as his blindness worsens. Later, he helps us with an advice question from ...
"This is what the war was" with Adam Linehan
December 04, 2019 12:00 - 1 hour - 165 MBWe're joined this week by writer and Army veteran Adam Linehan. We discuss his experience serving in Iraq and Afghanistan and his struggle with survivor's guilt and PTSD after coming home. Later, Adam helps us give advice to a man who is worried about his bad habits when his girlfriend is out of town. Adam's website Adam's piece in the NY Times Hey Man, I’ve started to notice a habit that I’ve slipped into that is worrying me. My girlfriend and I live together and she travels s...
"Are we animals?" with Professor Matt Gutmann
November 27, 2019 12:00 - 55 minutes - 128 MBWe're joined this week by Matt Gutmann, professor of anthropology at Brown University and author of the recently published book, "Are Men Animals? How Modern Masculinity Sells Men Short." This book takes a look at the broad range of masculinities across cultures and questions whether biology can really be to blame for male misbehavior (spoiler: it can't). We talk about his book, his background and how he became interested in the field of men and masculinities. Later, Matt helps us a...
"The Track Will Tell You" with Boyd Varty
November 20, 2019 12:00 - 1 hour - 138 MBWe're joined this week by lion tracker and coach, Boyd Varty. Boyd recently published a book called, "The Lion Tracker's Guide to Life." We talk about the art of tracking, his recovery from PTSD after several traumatic events (including getting attacked by a crocodile), his shift to doing coaching and his experience of meeting and living with Nelson Mandela as a boy. Our question this week comes from an actor whose work has dried up. Boyd's Book Boyd's TED Talk Boyd's Website Inst...
"For the love of men" with Liz Plank
November 13, 2019 11:00 - 51 minutes - 119 MBOur guest this week is Vox journalist Liz Plank. Liz recently published her first book, "For The Love of Men: A Vision for Mindful Masculinity". We talk extensively about how men are cheated by patriarchal attitudes about masculinity and Liz has done the research. Finally, Liz helps us with an advice question from someone who thinks he doesn't have any game when it comes to dating. Liz Links: Her website Her book Twitter Instagram TikTok Our question this week: Hey Man, I’m 28...
"Know thyself" with Adam Frankel
November 06, 2019 12:00 - 53 minutes - 123 MBThis week, we're joined by Adam Frankel. Adam is a former speechwriter for President Obama and the author of the memoir, "The Survivors: A Story of War, Inheritance, and Healing." The book looks at intergenerational trauma, family secrecy and Adam's process of healing. Adam also lends his support in giving advice to a father struggling with a classic in-laws dilemma. You can find Adam on Twitter and his book is now available wherever you get books. This week's question: Hey Man, ...
"There's an art to loving something" with David Coggins
October 30, 2019 11:00 - 1 hour - 111 MBOur guest this week is David Coggins. David is the editor of the new website, The Contender, and the author of the NY Times bestseller “Men and Style” and “Men and Manners.” His work on travel, style and design has appeared in numerous publications. He is currently working on a new book about fly fishing. He lives in New York. David makes a compelling case for why dressing well is about the people around you instead of about yourself and we spend a long time going into what it me...
"Working through some shit" with Josh Schollmeyer
October 22, 2019 12:00 - 54 minutes - 52.1 MBOur guest this week is Josh Schollmeyer, co-found and editor-in-chief of MEL magazine, which the New York Times has called “the rare men’s magazine that has taken upon itself to investigate masculinity, not enforce it. It gets double points for managing to pull off that project with style and charm, not self-seriousness.” MEL Magazine Twitter Instagram Avi's favorite Dollar Shave Club Ad Our advice question this week: Hey Man, I need some perspective on something. I’m 40 years...
"Be like a jellyfish" with Nick Novak
October 15, 2019 12:00 - 1 hour - 63.9 MBWe welcome Olympic Weightlifting coach and avid bird watcher Nick Novak, who shares some of what he enjoys about being a teacher and the satisfaction of watching people grow as athlete. We also talk about his growing up and his honing of his social skills as an army brat. This week, in lieu of a listener question, Sam asks for advice with a problem he's been struggling with on the show (and off). What could it be? 🤔Hint: (🗣🗣🗣) Nick's bio: Coach Novak has been practicing movement h...
"The lobster that hunches his back" with Andrew Marantz
October 08, 2019 10:00 - 1 hour - 73.6 MBIn honor of the publication of his book, we're rebroadcasting one of our first episodes with the New Yorker's Andrew Marantz. Andrew's new book is the extremely relevant "Antisocial: Online Extremists, Techno-Utopians And the Highjacking of the American Conversation.
"Step into the tavern of love" with Ali Sethi
October 01, 2019 11:00 - 1 hour - 73.8 MBAli Sethi is a Lahore-born writer and musician. A graduate of Harvard College, he is the author of the acclaimed debut novel ‘The Wish Maker’ and a contributor to The New York Times op-ed page. Ali is also a classically trained vocalist. We discuss differences between intellectual activity and performance, differences in masculinity across cultures and how he draws inspiration from the Sufi tradition to encourage multiple perspectives and interpretations. His instagram and youtube...
"Getting punched in the face" with Brandon Levi
September 23, 2019 19:00 - 57 minutes - 53.1 MBThis week we're joined by Brandon Levi. Brandon is a former Muay Thai fighter and owner of the famous Evolution Muay Thai in New York City. Brandon talks about why he learned to fight as a boy, why he tries not to get into fights and how sick he gets as a coach of other fighters. Later, we get an advice question from a man who is struggling with how to cope with his girlfriend's feelings of insecurity in the relationship. Links: Evolution Muay Thai On Instagram On Youtube (includi...
"Call your guyfriend" with Ann Friedman
September 16, 2019 16:30 - 38 minutes - 35.3 MBThis week we're joined by writer Ann Friedman, co-host of the podcast Call Your Girlfriend. It's full of advice! Ann gives us some advice on starting a podcast about friendship and also explains Shine Theory and how it can help you manage professional jealousy. Finally we move on to the real advice - we get a question from a recently divorced man who has found he no longer has friends of his own and needs help making some new ones. You can find Ann on Twitter, on her website and ...
"I had this dream that I was knitting" with Louis Boria
September 10, 2019 13:00 - 51 minutes - 46.8 MBWe're joined this week by Louis Boria aka Brooklyn Boy Knits. Louis became well known in 2017 when a photo taken of him knitting on his subway commute went viral. We talk about knitting and the importance of doing what something that makes you happy, even when your family doesn't understand. Our question this week is from a dad who wants to protect his son from embarrassing himself on the basketball court. Louis links: Website Facebook Instagram Twitter Tedx Talk Hey Man, ...
"Tentpole issues" with Jason Rogers
September 02, 2019 20:30 - 56 minutes - 52.2 MBJason Roggers is a former silver medalist with the USA Olympic Men's Fencing team. He's also the author of a recent candid essay in Men's Health magazine about his decades-long strong with performance anxiety and erectile dysfunction. This week, he shares with us about his struggle with erectile dysfunction and how other men can benefit from what he learned in his recovery process. We also get a question from a listener struggling with whether he should commit to his current partner...
"The medicine that I needed" with Jason Rosario
August 26, 2019 20:00 - 1 hour - 59 MBOn this week's episode, we're joined by Jason Rosario - director of The Lives of Men, host of the web series "Dear Men" and the podcast "Hey Jason." We discuss how he copes with dealing with failure, making the unconventional choice and the challenges of negotiating masculinity as a Black/Latinx man. We also hear from a dad who is struggling with pushback to raising his son as a feminist. You can find Jason at: The Lives of Men Dear Men Instagram & Twitter Hey Man, I’m having ...
"Everything just becomes light" with George Pitagorsky
August 19, 2019 17:00 - 58 minutes - 53.4 MBThis week's guest is George Pitagorsky. George has been a teacher of insight meditation for over 25 years. We talk about misconceptions that people often have about meditation and how to envision meditation beyond just sitting on a mat counting your breath. George brings his patience and wisdom to a very hard advice question - we all agree one of the hardest we've encountered - from a man who is unwilling or unable to forgive himself for his past. Warning: the advice portion of this...
"The reed and the oak story" with Jules Febre
August 12, 2019 21:20 - 1 hour - 74 MBOur guest this week is Jules Febre, one of the senior teachers at Jivamukti Yoga in New York City. We talked with him about his complicated path towards practicing yoga and explore gender differences and class differences in practicing yoga. Jules has a really interesting, helpful way of complicating conventional wisdom and suggesting a path that wouldn't have even occurred. Finally, we get to an advice question from a young man struggling with anger in the face of major life change...
"The long version" with David Epstein
August 05, 2019 16:30 - 1 hour - 66.9 MBIn this episode we speak with David Epstein, author of the New York Times bestseller "Range" (and previously "The Sports Gene") - a book that speaks up for the benefits of being a generalist in an age of hyper specialization. We discuss David's personal trajectory that led to him writing the book, which is broad and fascinating. Related to that, we talk about managing the self doubt that comes when you're unable to stick to one lane in your career. Then we move on to an advice quest...
"Graciously willing to play the fool" with Jessica Weisberg
July 29, 2019 16:30 - 1 hour - 67.4 MBWe have our first female advice giver on the show and she happens to be an expert in the history of advice! Jessica Weisberg is the author of the book, "Asking for a Friend: Three Centuries of Advice on Life, Love, Money, and Other Burning Questions from a Nation Obsessed." We get into her book and then throw a pretty tough advice question her way about how to handle a friend with some dark secrets. Jessica Weisberg has worked as a producer on Serial, a supervising producer at Vic...
"The Neil Armstrong of Plus Male Modeling" with Zach Miko
July 22, 2019 16:30 - 1 hour - 80.1 MBThis week we speak with Zach Miko, the first plus sized male model to sign with a major modeling agency. We discuss his start, growing a thicker skin to deal with trolls and body positivity. We also have two questions this week, both seeking help with jealousy. You can find Zach at a lot of different places: Instagram: @zachmiko Twitter: @zachmiko His Podcast: Big Things with Zach Miko His Advice Column, Big Questions, at Chubstr.com Hey Man, My girlfriend is very jealous. She’s ...
"The Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus trap" with Avi & Sam
July 15, 2019 16:30 - 1 hour - 64.1 MBAvi and Sam get deep on a classic relationship dilemma. A listener wants to know what to do with a girlfriend who is angry at him for choosing to spend time with his friends instead of with her. Sam shares lessons he's learned from his own experience and we really drill down into the subtext of this question. Hey Man - My girlfriend and I have been dating off and on for 3 years. We broke up briefly after about 6 months, but got back together a few months later and have been toge...
"The lobster that hunches his back" with Andrew Marantz
July 08, 2019 16:30 - 1 hour - 82 MBThis week we're joined by the New Yorker's Andrew Marantz. Andrew has a book out this fall: "Antisocial: Online Extremists, Techno-Utopians And the Highjacking of the American Conversation." We discuss how he spent the last couple of years interviewing and hanging out with alt-light and alt-right media figures (he educates us on the difference between the two terms), their distorted ideas about manhood, and how he kept his sanity being surrounded by people who hate what he represent...
"We need to tell our stories" with Aymann Ismail
July 01, 2019 16:30 - 1 hour - 94.2 MBThis week we talk with Slate's Aymann Ismail, host of the podcast "Man Up" and creator of the web series "Who's Afraid of Aymann Ismail." We talk about: Why he hasn't told his parents about his podcast, growing up in Newark, going to an Islamic school in Jersey City, having “brilliant geniuses, valedictorians, overachievers” as siblings, making cartoon in the early days of the internet and becoming interested in story telling, going to art school without telling his parents, being a...
"Either you make the lift or you don't" with Paulie Steinman
June 24, 2019 16:30 - 1 hour - 76.7 MBThis week we talk with Paulie Steinman, the head coach of USA Powerlifting's Classic Masters Team and owner of the beloved Brooklyn gym South Brooklyn Weightlifting Club. We talk about what makes his gym distinct from other gyms, his tough love brand of coaching and get into his varied career - working as a grip in the film industry, owning a t-shirt making business and finally starting his gym. We also got to learn about his experience growing up as mixed race kid in the 80’s and ...
"Bored to Death" with Thomas Page McBee
June 17, 2019 12:30 - 1 hour - 88.8 MBWe talk with Thomas Page McBee, author of "Man Alive" and "Amateur," which documents his journey to become the first trans-man to box in Madison Square Garden. Thomas' full bio is below. Some of the topics discussed include: getting into arguments on the street, anger as the only acceptable emotion for men, why do men fight?, Thomas’ background as a writer, his interest in monsters, the importance of relationships in all of our success, being touch deprived as a man, “what sociolo...
"An extreme version of a classic conundrum" with Ben Mathis-Lilley
June 10, 2019 16:00 - 1 hour - 77.6 MBSpeaking with Ben Mathis, daily news blogger at Slate and formerly of New York Magazine. Topics covered include: Growing up in Midland, MI - home of Dow Chemical, maintaining confidence as a writer, writing for the newspaper in junior high, how to balance the pressure to produce on a short deadline, inspirational teachers, writing advice, dealing with trolls and being called a cum stain, an “extreme version of a classic conundrum”, strip clubs and strippers at parties, the burden of...
"Is this okay?" with Avi Klein & Sam Graham-Felsen
June 03, 2019 16:00 - 1 hour - 67.5 MBOur first episode with co-hosts Avi Klein & Sam Graham Felsen. We go over the premise of the show, what we hope to get out of it. Avi talks about his work as a psychotherapist and Sam talks about his background and novel. Then we get to our first advice question before each sharing a piece of advice that matters to us. Hey Man, I’m 24 and am 6 months into a relationship with an incredible woman who is 10 years older than me. I’ve been in a few relationships, none of which laste...