Loving The Unlovable - Lyn Smith & Alexis Donkin

Lyn talks to expert Alexis Donkin, an intuitive life coach, to share her insights on the fascinating subject of how to love the unlovable. They discuss the importance of loving and accepting the unlovable parts of ourselves, as well as extending that love to others. They also emphasise the need to embrace our flaws and rewrite the stories we tell ourselves about our worthiness, and also provide practical examples and advice on how to reframe challenging situations and have open, compassionate conversations with our partners. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Loving the unlovable starts with accepting and embracing the parts of ourselves that we may feel ashamed of or hide. This includes rewriting the stories we tell ourselves about our value and worthiness.
When dealing with minor annoyances or frustrations in relationships, it can be helpful to reframe the situation and focus on gratitude. Instead of getting frustrated over small things, we can appreciate the presence of our loved ones and see it as a privilege to have them in our lives.
When it comes to loving the unlovable parts of others, it is important to see their humanity and recognise that even their flaws are part of the overall package. This can lead to deeper connections and enjoyment of the people around us.
Communication is key in addressing issues in relationships. It is important to have open and honest conversations with our partners about our wants and needs, such as, how we want to be shown love. This can lead to a better understanding and a willingness to make positive changes.

BEST MOMENTS

"I think that one of the biggest problems that we have right now, as people, as humans, is loving and accepting those parts of ourselves that we feel are unlovable." 

"Embracing those parts of ourselves and accepting them, that's when we can kind of learn to move past them and through them." 

"If you're focusing on all of the little things that you find annoying, that you find frustrating, they're going to build up, they're going to compound and they're going to make the small things become big things."

"You have to have that conversation. If you don't tell the person what you need, how you want to be shown love and how you want to be cared for, they're not gonna know."

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ABOUT THE GUEST - Alexis Donkin - Intuitive Life Coach

Alexis Donkin is The Destructrix - offering thoughtful mentorship and psychic insight at crossroads moments for the secretly spiritual woman. Super accomplished in many things – from publishing and music, to art and language – and steeped in herbal tea, Alexis is the witchy bestie you've always wanted.

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ABOUT THE HOST

Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert

Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace.

She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts.

Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe.

HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions.

Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres.

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