Are You A People-Pleaser? - Lyn Smith & Helen Snape

This week, Lyn is joined by Helen Snape, a healthy relationship coach, to talk about people-pleasing. Some people go all out to please others, sometimes at the cost of their own happiness. As Lyn and Helen discuss, bringing happiness to others can be a very special gift, but always needs to be done in moderation and balanced with giving love & happiness to self first.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

No one teaches us how to conduct healthy relationships. We learn along the way. But we should never be afraid to ask for guidance and be open to receive outside expert support and help.
A people pleaser is someone who has trouble saying "no". They say "yes" to everyone else, except themselves. They prioritise others over themselves.
Healthy boundaries are a good thing to have in a relationship. We should make sure we set healthy boundaries and realise we deserve to be treated well and not keep easily forgiving unacceptable behaviour without consequence. We gain respect and change our lives for the better by doing so.
If others react badly to our setting of relationship boundaries, then we must remember that this is their problem that they need to work on, not ours.

BEST MOMENTS

'I lost myself'

'Some people are too nice for their own good'

'People pleasers will ignore or minimise their own feelings'

'You can live with uncomfortable feelings!'

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ABOUT THE GUEST

Helen Snape - Healthy Relationships Coach

Helen helps ‘good girls’ reclaim their power, voice and find fulfilling relationships by building boundaries, confidence and effective communication skills.

Helen has been coaching for over 10 years, has a degree in Psychology from the University of Warwick and is qualified in mindfulness and coaching with trauma.

An award-winning speak Helen has been interviewed on BBC Radio, the Women’s Economic Forum and been featured in Happiful magazine.

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ABOUT THE HOST

Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert

Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace.

She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts.

Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe.

HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions.

Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres.

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