#89: Han and Matt Escape from Reality

Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of September 30th, 2018, and beyond, including:

BONUS: Han's Tattoo on Their Tattoo Artist's Instagram (and Han's Instagram) Listener Skyler Elmridge, Ingenious Blacksmith: "Should We Put a Spot for Pronouns On Our Wedding Place Cards?" Listener Insert Name Here: "Am I a Bad Queer?" Listener Quarrius, Nimble Geomancer: "What More Can I Do to Help My Friend Who Keeps Facing Abusive Jobs Everywhere He Goes?" Listener Aephe, Stout Battlemage: "Should I Talk to My Dad Again?" Listener Yolanda, Cynosure of the Net: "Where Do I Find My Motivation Now That I'm No Longer Being Terrorized By a Cat?" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Lady Lazor, Hufflepuff: "A Question of Bodies and Their Wonderful Variety!" Learning About Disabilities and Chronic Pain A Listener on teeth brushing and chronic pain on our Facebook Group Lithub: "My Disease Is not a Metaphor" Sonya Huber's "Pain Woman and Other Essays From a Nervous System" Shoutout to my girlfriend Emile <3 Listeners Weigh In On Gender Reveal Parties CNN: "Border patrol agent's gender reveal party ignited a 47,000-acre wildfire" Elle: "What To Expect When Your Child's Gender Is Fire" Pokemon's Gender Binary (and also WTF did I just watch?!?) Children's Books Eschewing Gender Norms Suggestions from listeners on in our Facebook Group The Ocean Is Coming For You Advice Column Question Round-Up Ask the Strategist: "What Is the Best Lounge Chair With Back Support?" Fatherly Advice: "The News is Terrible. Don't Let Your Kid Watch it." Y'all Need Help: "Your Girlfriends Family Is Racist and You Should Probably Get the Hell Out of There" The Ethicist: "Is It O.K. to Press Your Spouse to Have a Vasectomy Before You Ditch Him?" Ask Amy: "Urban pioneer isn't ready for the neighborhood" Captain Awkward: "Navigating the aftermath of the abuse in the social circle." (Requested by Listener Sarah H) Dear Dana: "I’m A Sexual Assault Survivor, And I’m Filled With Rage Right Now" (Requested by a Listener, who notes that this could be cathartic for others. It definitely contains some incredibly useful tips on how to channel that rage into activism) Asking For a Friend: "Planet Earth Is Doomed. How Do I Go On?" Autostraddle: "This Woman Asking for Advice About Her Gay Affair Should Leave Her Husband, Be Gay, Do Crimes" Romper: "What If Heather Havrilesky Is Right? Ask Polly’s Columnist On Having All The Answers" Ask Polly: "My Broke Boyfriend Wants Us to Live Together!" (Requested by Listener Floyd)

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