073: The Missing Link Between Chakras & Healthy Relationships

Not only do you have your own chakras, or energy wheels, within your body, but within your relationships.

As we take you on a journey through the first 3 chakras and how they relate to us and our relationships, we’ll include some exercises to help you feel more connected with yourself and partner.

Root chakra practices mentioned:

The first one is a couple’s meditation: set a timer for 5 minutes. Both partners will sit in front of the other, hold hands and close their eyes, focusing on the Root chakra, the area at the base of the spine. During this meditation, you can each think of one way in which you can be more nurturing/nourishing toward one another, or a way to help your partner feel more secure in the relationship. After the timer, open your eyes and share your idea with your partner.

The second practice is based in psychology, called the Love Maps Questionnaire, which was adapted from Dr. John Gottman’s book, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. This is a set of True/False statements. The idea behind it is to discuss your answers with your partner and use this opportunity to discover new things about them. The more you know and understand each other, the easier it is to stay connected and strong throughout life. The “Love Maps Questionnaire” can be found here: (https://laurieblaikie.com/reference/love-map-questionnaire/)

Sacral chakra exercises:

The first one is a couple’s meditation where you will invite in energy of cherishing one another: set a timer for 5 minutes. Both partners will sit in front of the other, hold hands and close their eyes, focusing on the Sacral chakra, the area about two inches below your navel. During this meditation you each see yourself as the archetype of the empress/emperor in your relationship, so embodying feelings of pleasure, abundance, and wellbeing. When you open your eyes, show your partner (your fellow emperor/empress) sweetness and/or your affection.

The second exercise is adopted from Dr. Gottman, about sharing fondness and admiration for your partner. What the fondness portion of this looks like, is taking a moment to fill in the following blanks:

“I’m proud of the way you _____.”

“I’m attracted to your _____ (inside and out).”

“I am impressed that you _____.”

“I like how you _____.”

Then say each sentence out loud to your partner over the course of a week. It’s nice to hear these deeper words of affirmation as a partner.

The second portion of this exercise is to show appreciation and gratitude for who your partner is. Pick 3 of their positive traits and express to them. 

Then you can identify why the traits you picked are of value or importance to you in a partner.

Solar plexus practices:

The first one is to sit with your partner, enjoy a cup of calming tea together, then lovingly discuss your most recent conflict. You can embody the archetype of the respectful and caring Warrior, as you ask the questions, “Did you feel seen and heard regarding this conflict, does it feel completely resolved to you or would you like to add anything else? Is there anything you would like me to do or anything you need from me?

The second exercise is again from Dr. Gottman - it’s when you “turn towards” your partner’s bids for connection rather than turning away or rejecting. A bid for connection is an attempt from one partner to another for attention, affection, or affirmation. This bid is typically hidden under a statement, so there’s a text and a subtext. This exercise will be more of an ongoing one, so recognize if you’re paying enough attention to your partner to recognize where/when they are wanting more emotional connection. Her