013 How to Change Your Life Part 4: Choosing is Hard When You have Depression

Show Summary

We’re in the process of changing our lives and we have the audacity to do it publicly as podcast series. We’ve been using Essentialism by Greg McKeown as a loose guide. One of the main tenets of the book is that we have to exercise our power of choice. Last week, Laura chose to quit her day job as full-time homemaker. This week we’re bringing clarity to what that actually means and how we can start supporting her in that transition. Our first step is simply making a list of what her job as a homemaker was and then also creating a list of things she chooses to keep doing. It was a lot harder than it sounds because what we do gets so mixed up with who we are. Then you throw depression into the mix and the difficulty hits ten.

Show Resources

Feed.press
Essentialism by Greg McKeown
ExpressionEngine Conference
Greg Baugues – Developers and Depression
Laura sees Tanya Beard, at Integrative Mental Health Partners.
Post Partum Depression is more common 4 years after childbirth than in the first year, according to this report.
Postpartum Progress – a resource site for PPD
“You Can’t Tell a Mom has Post Partum Depression by Looking” – a devastating photo essay. You cannot tell.

Show Notes
“Laura’s Lists”

Things I do that no one else can do but me

Nurse Ethan

Stuff Laura is Quitting as full-time homemaker

Make breakfast
Get kids dressed
Change Ethan’s diaper
Oversee homework/schoolwork
Make snack
Wipe bottoms
Do laundry – wash, fold, put away
Clean bathroom
Make lunch
Take Sophia to school
Make supper
Kitchen cleanup
Oversee house tidying
Put Ethan to bed
Where everything is/is kept
Car maintenance
Kid hygiene
Camacho family website

Stuff Laura doesn’t want to do but is afraid to let go of

Health information/doctor’s appointments
Brush kids’ teeth
Put Ethan down for his nap
Household maintenance (inside and out)
Yard maintenance (other than mowing)
Garbage days

Things Laura Chooses to keep doing (in order)

Close, private friendship stuff
MarriageStartup
Support/Peer Group
Read to kids (the current extent of homeschooling)
Cooking when everyone is leaving me alone
Finances
Homeschool planning/kids’ education
Spiritual Side project
HeyLauraWhat
Menu planning
Grocery shopping
Organizing/purging the house
Seasonal clothes transitioning
Clothing sizes/needs for kids
Clothing needs for adults

Show Summary

We’re in the process of changing our lives and we have the audacity to do it publicly as podcast series. We’ve been using Essentialism by Greg McKeown as a loose guide. One of the main tenets of the book is that we have to exercise our power of choice. Last week, Laura chose to quit her day job as full-time homemaker. This week we’re bringing clarity to what that actually means and how we can start supporting her in that transition. Our first step is simply making a list of what her job as a homemaker was and then also creating a list of things she chooses to keep doing. It was a lot harder than it sounds because what we do gets so mixed up with who we are. Then you throw depression into the mix and the difficulty hits ten.

Show Resources

Feed.press
Essentialism by Greg McKeown
ExpressionEngine Conference
Greg Baugues – Developers and Depression
Laura sees Tanya Beard, at Integrative Mental Health Partners.
Post Partum Depression is more common 4 years after childbirth than in the first year, according to this report.
Postpartum Progress – a resource site for PPD
“You Can’t Tell a Mom has Post Partum Depression by Looking” – a devastating photo essay. You cannot tell.

Show Notes

“Laura’s Lists”

Things I do that no one else can do but me

Nurse Ethan

Stuff Laura is Quitting as full-time homemaker

Make breakfast
Get kids dressed
Change Ethan’s diaper
Oversee homework/schoolwork
Make snack
Wipe bottoms
Do laundry – wash, fold, put away
Clean bathroom
Make lunch
Take Sophia to school
Make supper
Kitchen cleanup
Oversee house tidying
Put Ethan to bed
Where everything is/is kept
Car maintenance
Kid hygiene
Camacho family website

Stuff Laura doesn’t want to do but is afraid to let go of

Health information/doctor’s appointments
Brush kids’ teeth
Put Ethan down for his nap
Household maintenance (inside and out)
Yard maintenance (other than mowing)
Garbage days

Things Laura Chooses to keep doing (in order)

Close, private friendship stuff
MarriageStartup
Support/Peer Group
Read to kids (the current extent of homeschooling)
Cooking when everyone is leaving me alone
Finances
Homeschool planning/kids’ education
Spiritual Side project
HeyLauraWhat
Menu planning
Grocery shopping
Organizing/purging the house
Seasonal clothes transitioning
Clothing sizes/needs for kids
Clothing needs for adults

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