Steena Marie's 4th response to "IN MY FATHER'S CLOSET: A MEMOIR LIGHTS THE CORNERS OF MY MIND"

In this episode Steena Marie and I talked about the abuse of resentment. She referred to a journal letter I had written to my first husband at a marriage retreat. Here's the passage she read from my memoir. "We feel the abuse of your resentment for meeting others needs, before your own." Steena thought that was powerful and mentioned how it goes both ways. Like, if you aren't meeting your own needs, you're gonna resent other people, and they're gonna feel it. Her conclusion was please, go meet your own needs. Say what you need and go get it because people don't want your resentment.  Then she read a little bit more from that letter, "I love to meet your needs, yet I often feel frustrated because I don't always know what they are. When you open that door just a crack, I cling to what little pieces of information I can get. I at least try to meet your needs using my creativity, which sadly enough probably doesn't meet your needs at all. I feel we get caught in a vicious cycle of not meeting each other's needs or feeling we have and then being shocked that we haven't." Steena mentioned that she felt what I had written was spot on, and how it highlighted the misery and disillusionment of the cycle and feeling of trying everything you can imagine in order to make someone else happy. She also mentioned how it doesn't work if the communication isn't there.