055: Reframing Betrayal As Abuse w/ Anne Blythe

Today I am joined by a fellow betrayal expert and podcast host, Anne Blythe, as we reframe betrayal as abuse and explore the often unacknowledged pain that women can be in for years. The founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery, a 501(c)(3) non-profit organization, Anne is passionate about providing education and support to women who have experienced an abusive betrayal and are seeking healing.

After realizing that she was in an abusive relationship herself, Anne founded Betrayal Trauma Recovery as a means to help women gain the words and acceptance necessary to explain and define an abusive betrayal experience in order to move on and make forward progress. Today she dives in deep as we explore themes of our oversexualized society and its harmful impact on women, the importance of collective grief and support, and why we need to become better educated on what abuse looks and sounds like.

Anne and I are here to make sure that you know that you are not crazy, and you are not alone. Listen in as Anne explains some common forms of abuse found in betrayal situations, ways to identify your abuse and set boundaries, and the importance of believing victims and trusting women. When you are able to educate yourself about abusive betrayal and find a support system of women who have been through it, you can walk through the fog and come out on the other side more aware and present than ever before.

By supporting all women, not just victims, to achieve a happier, healthier and more peaceful life, we can reduce the abuse cycle and resolve our issues at the core. Anne is here to help you circumvent the confusion period after an abusive betrayal and get on the path to feeling safe again.

Are some of the signs and feelings associated with an abusive betrayal sounding familiar to you? Share your thoughts and concerns with us in the comments on the episode page!

 

In This Episode

Ways to figure out if you may be being abused or betrayed without your knowledge Using demonstrations like the Me Too Movement to learn to trust and believe women Reasons why pornography use can be seen as an abusive tool of deception The importance of teaching your children consent and setting personal boundaries How to get the specific kind of support that you need after an abusive betrayal

 

Quotes

“That type of behavior, where you are purposefully manipulating someone to control the narrative of how they perceive you is abuse.” (3:33)

“As I have taken the time to heal, and as I have seen women come to our community and heal, my life has become immeasurably better. I have felt peace and I have moved forward with my life.” (10:54)

“Our community is an amazing place where women can feel validated, and where they can hear their experience through someone else's words sometimes.” (12:08)

“The misogyny that is rampant right now and the Me Too Movement really shows that people don't understand the way that objectifying women harms them.” (20:47)

“I have a Masters degree, I am not stupid, and I didn't know I was being abused. And so many women are in that situation.” (23:44)

“It takes a while to get out of the fog, but I think the important thing is to start walking on that path, and you will be lead to the places and the people that you need to find.” (29:09)

 

Links

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Betrayal Trauma Recovery Website

Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast

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