Fixed on Change: The Parenting Failure Expert Podcast

S-7-8 Socially Connected

August 01, 2023 12:00 - 5 minutes - 9.33 MB

We are living in a time when families are getting more and more disconnected from each other as well as socially thanks to technology. If our families are to thrive we need to be intentional about staying socially connected. ashleykahn.co Parenting Coach is available to to help moms and grandmas make a difference in the next generation!!

S-7-7 Thriving Families

July 25, 2023 12:00 - 6 minutes - 10.9 MB

Parents and grandparents lets recognize the empowerment of resilience. Families thrive with healthy coping skills to overcome adversity and the next generation needs it to thrive. ashleykahn.co Parenting Coach is available to to help moms and grandmas make a difference in the next generation!! v

S-7-6 Surrender

July 18, 2023 12:00 - 6 minutes - 10.7 MB

Often times we do everything in our own power to fix, correct and control relationships that have gone awry. It is at these moments God is calling us parents and grandparents to surrender and give it to the only One who can work in the hearts of loved ones, after all He did create us!!

S-7-5 Broken Relationships

July 11, 2023 12:00 - 6 minutes - 10.5 MB

There are many relationships that are broken in families today. Whether it be with parents, siblings, extended family, no matter who it is resolution begins with prayer. Only God can “work all things together for good, for those who love God and are called according to his purpose”. Romans 8:28

S-7-4 Unity in Relationships

July 04, 2023 12:00 - 5 minutes - 9.41 MB

Unifying the family is more critical today than it has ever been. Families are separated by counties, states, and countries. Technology can keep us connected, however being intentional will take some effort. Your influence and wisdom is needed for this next generation.

S-7-3 PAUSE

June 27, 2023 12:00 - 5 minutes - 8.99 MB

Adult children are making choices that are tearing parent’s apart. It’s time to speak what’s on our mind and hearts in a way that’s non threatening while speaking truth in love. That’s where “PAUSE“ becomes the prerequisite.

S-7-2: Grieve The Loss

June 20, 2023 12:00 - 6 minutes - 11 MB

Families are moving and separating physically putting long distances from each other. The loss is real and grieving is necessary. Feelings fly when expressed, and can open the doors for solutions to staying connected.

S-7-1: Introduction: Strong Roots, Strong Families

June 13, 2023 12:00 - 6 minutes - 11 MB

Strong roots for families is what needed in this day and age. Families need to influence and model morality in a world that has gone so immoral. We need to be solid role models and maintain our familial connections to hold family members accountable.

S-6-#11 Consequences and Choices

March 28, 2023 12:00 - 6 minutes - 6.17 MB

Many of us have been dealing with problems in our life for a very long time. Once we ask Jesus in our hearts there is more to living a satisfied, fulfilling life in Christ. Many of us have not received Jesus as the master, the ruler of our lives and that can be scary. Don’t let fear keep you from God’s Best.

S-6-#10 Devil’s Playground

March 21, 2023 12:00 - 6 minutes - 5.95 MB

S-6-#10 Devil’s Playground When we experience difficult situations that cause pain in our lives, we are tempted to blame God for the distress. However, painful circumtances may be the result of someone else's choice or our own choice. Pain has a purpose: to draw us to a relationship with our Creator. A wandering parent apart from God sits in the devils playground.

S-6-#9 Going Deep

March 14, 2023 19:00 - 6 minutes - 5.9 MB

S-6-#9 Going Deep What did Jesus set a parent “Free” from? Acting out in our sin nature is like wearing handcuffs with your maladaptive behaviors, habits and attitudes all over it. Only Jesus has the key to unlock it's hold on you to empower a parent from the inside out.

S-6-#8 Joy In Pain

March 07, 2023 20:00 - 6 minutes - 5.99 MB

S-6-#8 Joy In Pain For the child of God, “Pain is inevitable, misery is optional.” The Bible tells us God is trustworthy and is faithful to his own so, “Why is it so hard to trust a perfect God who promises our problems and painful circumstances are opportunities for joy?? Learn how God's ways are "higher" than ours and so is his power!

S-6-#7 Delightful Dependence

February 28, 2023 13:00 - 6 minutes - 5.86 MB

S-6-#7 Delightful Dependence The best decision we parents can make is to learn to depend on God for all that we are as parents. We fail when we fulfill parenthood in our own strength. “the battle belongs to the Lord.” There is strength in weakness, because God shows up in the lives of the humble.

S-6-#6: Transform Me

February 21, 2023 13:00 - 6 minutes - 6.01 MB

We are guaranteed problems in this life. The Bible calls them "trials and tribulations." Situations that are out of our control, we often try everything “we know” for immediate gratification however delayed gratification is what God requires of us. Learn why!!! .

S-6-#5 Agony of Anguish

February 14, 2023 13:00 - 6 minutes - 5.92 MB

S-6-#5 Agony of Anguish Parenting can be physically, mentally, emotionally and relationally, draining. You may have been feeling this way for a very long time. Like any other painful feeling seeking immediate relief becomes an all consuming desire. Looking to idols that replace God to relieve our pain like addictions, obsessive compulsive behaviors will lead to destruction. Only God can heal you from the inside out and make you the parent he created you to be.

S-6-#4 Happy and Healthy

February 07, 2023 13:00 - 6 minutes - 11.5 MB

Stress can magnify behaviors and attitudes the appall us. We may want to blame our loved ones for the parent we’ve become but, know this: nothing will come out of us that hasn’t already been brewing for years. Truth is we’ve been parenting in our “sin" nature while neglecting our “spiritual” needs.

S-6-#3 Internal Conflicts

January 24, 2023 13:00 - 6 minutes - 11.2 MB

Trying to measure up to the expectations of the ‘perfect loving’ parent can create internal conflicts because we “know” we have fallen short of our own expectation to be that nurturing, loving parent our children can honor and respect. It all begins with change from the inside out! Learn how those inner conflicts can lead to healing from within.

S-6-#2 Who We Really Are

January 17, 2023 13:00 - 6 minutes - 5.76 MB

Are you overwhelmed and disillusioned with your role as a parent? Are you disappointed with the man or woman you’ve become? Unless we take a clear look at how our sin nature can wreak havoc on our role as parents, we will have difficulty experiencing the joys of parenting.

S-6-#1: Introduction: God Is Good

January 10, 2023 13:00 - 5 minutes - 10.4 MB

S-6-#1: Introduction: God Is Good Trying to parent in our own strength will ultimately lead to destruction. I know. I've experienced it!! I believe the missing piece to our strength, wisdom and endurance as parents is that we have neglected a relationship with God and traded it for people, places and things. It's time to get connected.

S-4-#19 Trust Your Thoughts

December 27, 2022 13:00 - 6 minutes - 11.2 MB

Can you trust your thoughts? Some thoughts are trustworthy and many of us don’t trust our thoughts enough that's creating a problem for codependency on the other hand. There are many thoughts that we should challenge rather than trust. Find out today. What is the difference?

S-4-#18 Perfectly Protecting

December 20, 2022 13:00 - 6 minutes - 10.1 MB

The “upside down” parent, takes everything personally which can destroy the relationships because not everything is a personal attack. To the “upside down” parent, the child's behavior directly reflects their identity as a parent, a human being and ultimately who they are at the core. There is hope to be turned right side up!

S-4-#17 Sacred Self

December 13, 2022 13:00 - 6 minutes - 10.7 MB

Our culture is consumed with “self”. The golden rule ‘treat others the way you want to be treated” applies to the relationship between a parent and child. When “self” gets in the way it hinders our ability to “treat others the way you want to be treated” because you can't see past your”self. It's so easy for a parent to become patient, however there is always hope.

S–4– #16 Forget Forgiveness

December 06, 2022 13:00 - 6 minutes - 11.1 MB

All too often we make judgments about other people and even our flesh and blood. Being stuck in unforgiveness carries baggage of resentment, bitterness and blaming. I venture to say at one point or another we've all been there and done that but it's time to learn something new to strengthen the relationships in your family. r

S-4-#15 Wandering Worshipper

November 29, 2022 13:00 - 6 minutes - 11.7 MB

One of the lies I believed is that I didn't need to “really” read, study and learn what the Bible has to say about life and how to live it. So for many years I lived a good life but not the best life that God had to offer me. With God, it’s never too late to start.

S-4-#14 Chaotic Conflict

November 22, 2022 13:00 - 6 minutes - 10.9 MB

Conflict is inevitable, hostility is optional! Angry fights create an environment of stress, worry, anxiety and stress and at its root is selfishness. Learn what it means to be selfless creating an environment that can amicably engage in conflict and at the same time role model healthy relationships in love.

S-4-$13 Loose Lips

November 15, 2022 13:00 - 6 minutes - 10.9 MB

Words have impact, both to build up and tear down. Our thoughts about our loved ones will eventually come out in our words and they can destroy relationships. Asking God for the wisdom to use your words to build healthy relationships is the key to healthy families.

S-4-#11 Lovely Love

November 08, 2022 13:00 - 6 minutes - 11.4 MB

Do you really understand what “love” is? The bible is clear “love” is an action and often we confuse it for a ‘feeling’. As a parent we ‘know’ love needs to be part of our character however, sometimes the guilt we feel when we fall short knowing our actions don’t align with the powerful and all consuming "unconditional love." There is HOPE.

S-4-#10 Resist Respect

November 01, 2022 12:00 - 6 minutes - 11.5 MB

Is it difficult for you to show respect to your partner, your child? Are you unhappy with the way the relationship is going? Is it time to lower your guard and align your behaviors and attitudes with your values? If you value respect learn to offer it and be satisfied with yourself!!

S-4-#9 Won Way

October 25, 2022 12:00 - 6 minutes - 11.2 MB

Is your way the only Way? Are you open to listen or compromise with your child, your partner, and learn to come to a unifying agreement to agree or disagree. Learn what it means to solve problems with your family members and minimize conflict in your relationships.

S-4-#8 Fake Feelings

October 18, 2022 12:00 - 6 minutes - 12.1 MB

Parenting is an opportunity to change behaviors and attitudes that hinder healthy relationships with your child and it starts with the feelings you’ve been avoiding. Feelings are meant to be felt and all too often we desperately try to avoid them at all costs because of the pain they invoke. It's time to expose those fake feelings for the real ones!

S-4-#7 Pridefully Proud

October 11, 2022 12:00 - 6 minutes - 11.4 MB

“I wish I knew then what I know now, because I thought I knew”. Are you measuring your effectiveness as a parent by your external successes? You know, it’s how accomplished your family is, how your family is presenting using external values like appearances, economic status? The problem is we often neglect learning how to lay down the foundation of strength that begins internally and the external will follow.

S-4-#6 Practice Perfection

October 04, 2022 12:00 - 6 minutes - 10.5 MB

Just as there are millions of people in this world, there are millions of expectations and perceptions of how a parent is to play out their role in the family. For many, striving to be the “perfect parent” looks different in every family, but is “perfection” going to bring the joy of loving relationship every family member needs? I think NOT! Perfecting Parenting makes for a teachable parent, one who is willing to learn!!!

S-4-#5 Destructive Dishonesty

September 27, 2022 12:00 - 6 minutes - 11.7 MB

Often times we parents "believe" our children can’t see or notice how our actions behind closed doors are different than how we present to the public.Wow nothing could be further from the truth! They "see" the inconsistencies whether you know it or not. Being honest with our self evaluation is the beginning of living as a parent of "integrity". Your actions and words tell a story about you to your family. Don’t let fear hold you back because, God’s Love will encourage you forward.

S-4-#4 Count On Comfort

September 20, 2022 12:00 - 6 minutes - 11.5 MB

It’s time to get out of the “comfortable destructive zone”. Taking an honest look at relationships that are chaotic, and crisis centered is the first step for making changes that will bring peace and joy in your family relationships and it is possible!!! Change is not easy, it's necessary to have the family you've always wanted!!!

S-4-#3 Foolishly Focused

September 13, 2022 12:00 - 6 minutes - 11.5 MB

Often times we parents can focus on one aspect of parenting such as providing for a child’s physical needs: food, shelter, clothing…while unintentionally neglecting the emotional, spiritual, and mental health needs that guide a child to be a healthy functioning adult. It's never too late to refocus, if I could do it so can you!

S-4-#2 Anchored In Anger

September 06, 2022 12:00 - 6 minutes - 11.3 MB

Healthy anger is essential to keep us safe ,on the other hand, out of control anger is destructive. Parenting is not easy and can definitely trigger the worst in a parent. The truth is these maladaptive coping skills is like a mirror to our soul showing us what needs to be changed.

S-4-#1 Guaranteed Parenting Failures

August 30, 2022 12:00 - 6 minutes - 10.9 MB

How can I fail as a parent? That’s certainly a question I would guess nobody asks, but in many ways we unintentionally do. Are you disillusioned, and overwhelmed in your role as a parent? Do you feel like a failure? No worries, God created the roles of parents and he has the plan for you to be an effective parent your children need. Learn from me, my failures your success!!!

S-3-#10 Perfecting Parents

August 16, 2022 12:00 - 5 minutes - 10.1 MB

There’s no such thing as the Perfect Parent but, and here’s THE ‘BUT’ we can be the “Perfecting Parent” on a journey of discovering and gathering information to practice skills we can develop, modify and adjust to be the parent God has called us to be thus receiving the joys and satisfactions of being the parent you are called to be. “Raising Mother’s” Empowerment/Transformation Coach www.ashleykahn.co Resources: Raising Mother By Ashley Kahn Podcast freeasabird.libsyn.com “Raisi...

S-3-#9 Fixing Feelings

August 09, 2022 12:00 - 6 minutes - 11.8 MB

Often times we believe our job as a parent is to “fix” what’s wrong or broken as we see our children acting out in behaviors that make us uncomfortable and uneasy. This perspective can be a source of stress, anxiety and depression. But what if there was another perspective on the ‘duties’ of a parent that can guarantee more peace, love and patience. This episode we will dive into a parent’s ‘fixing’ trigger and learn to refocus our attention internally rather than externally. Resources...

S-3-#8 Showing Symptoms

July 26, 2022 12:00 - 7 minutes - 10.8 MB

Have you experienced trauma as a child or adult? Most of us have, just living in an imperfect world with imperfect people makes us susceptible to trauma in our lives. Did you know that unhealed trauma can disguise itself in maladaptive coping skills manifesting itself in how we parent. Unhealed trauma can show up as rage, anger, abuse, anxiety, depression, addiction….As parents and grandparents we want to begin to develop healthy coping skills that manifest in healthy parents who manage thei...

S-3-#7 Healing Hurts

July 19, 2022 12:00 - 8 minutes - 11 MB

Connection is the key to influence in any relationship but especially when it comes to parenting. Like a plug without an outlet, parents who aren’t able to connect with their children will experience devastating consequences such as rebellion, addiction, trauma… As relational human beings we are created to connect with our primary care takers. When that doesn’t happen everyone loses with painful results. Learn how to begin the process of connecting with yourself, your child and your family a...

S-3-#6 Bountiful Barriers

July 12, 2022 12:00 - 7 minutes - 10.8 MB

To say we don’t have barriers in our relationships from fears, expectations and judgements is to not be honest with ourselves. Being a ‘perfecting parent’ requires honesty. We are not perfect parents but we can begin to be aware of barriers we have that hinder our relationship with our children and family. Taking down the barriers can be scary but also healing. Be brave and begin the process of being honest with yourself and others. Resources: Raising Mother By Ashley Kahn Podcast ...

S-3-#5 Crucial Connection

July 05, 2022 12:00 - 7 minutes - 10.8 MB

God designed families for a place of belonging and acceptance in order to grow and develop into emotional, mental and spiritual maturity. Discover the role a parent and grandparent plays in the ability for a child to form connections in their environment. Resources: Raising Mother By Ashley Kahn Podcast freeasabird.libsyn.com “Raising Mother’s” Empowerment/Transformation Coach Ashley Kahn www.ashleykahn.co Dream Blankets https://frankie-dean.com/

S-3-#3 Totally Transformed Parents

June 07, 2022 12:00 - 9 minutes - 12.6 MB

Our expectations of our children can cause conflict in the relationship. It’s not uncommon for us to compare ourselves to other parents and compare our children to other children. Parents can easily feel like failures, yet we know all families have their own struggles. The good news is as we change our beliefs and our expectations we begin to heal ourselves and our thoughts transform with a desire to "connect" with our children rather than expecting perfection. Resources: Raising Mo...

S-3-#4 Counterfeit "Controlling" Parents

June 07, 2022 12:00 - 7 minutes - 10.5 MB

I believe God created me, you and your child. As the Creator he “knows” your bundle better than you do. The problem is once we become parents we believe we “control” all aspects of their development placing a heavy burden to be ‘perfect’ parents If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, confused and defeated you’re in the right place. As parents we can lighten the load, begin to trust God, release our counterfeit ‘control’ and seek God to provide patience, and wisdom to be the ‘skin’ your chi...

#1 Introduction To Perfecting Parents

June 07, 2022 12:00 - 7 minutes - 10.2 MB

This season is specifically for parents. That’s you Dad, Mom and Grandparents. Becoming a parent is no doubt one of the greatest joys in life at least it was for me. At the same time, it was also the most puzzling, confusing and paralyzing time feeling depleted emotionally, physically and relationally. But it doesn’t have to be that way. There is hope, help and history is a great teacher. This season my daughter, Ashley Kahn, a “Mother’s Empowerment Coach” will be sharing foundat...

S-3-#2 Always Aware Parents

June 07, 2022 12:00 - 8 minutes - 11.7 MB

Sometimes we parents can be like robots with repetitious words and actions but little connection with our children. Learn what it means to start the transformation process of becoming a conscientious parent to start the healing process of becoming the parent you were made to be with genuine connection that influences and transforms. Resources: Raising Mother By Ashley Kahn Podcast freeasabird.libsyn.com “Raising Mother’s” Empowerment/Transformation Coach Ashley Kahn www.ashl...

#25 Perfect Power

May 10, 2022 19:00 - 8 minutes - 11.5 MB

Our relationships, problems and troubles in life are a test of our character. God’s word reveals the perfect character of God and reflects the truth of what’s ‘in’ us for the purpose of correcting and guiding us into right living. God’s Word is meant to transform our actions, thoughts and attitudes. “You see yourself, walk away, and forget what you look like.” James 1:24

#28 Pure Pleasure Last Episode of Season 2

May 10, 2022 12:00 - 8 minutes - 11.1 MB

Pleasure is the manifestation of purity, as in the precious metal of gold. Likewise spiritual purity is pleasurable to God and you and I!!! Time and patience in the midst of our trials will bring ‘joy’ as we begin to shed our out of control behaviors, self centeredness, and our will for God’s will to live a life of integrity here on earth! “Pure and genuine religion in the sight of God the Father means caring for orphans and widows in their distress and refusing to let the world corrupt you...

#27 Inner Integrity

May 10, 2022 12:00 - 7 minutes - 10.6 MB

Do your words reflect the person you want to be? Our words tell a story of what’s in our hearts. We can deceive ourselves by our fancy words and knowledge of God’s Word without being transformed from the inside out. “If you claim to be religious but don’t control your tongue, you are filling yourself and your religion is worthless. “ James 1:26

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