Dyking Out - a Lesbian and LGBTQIA Podcast for Everyone!
291 episodes - English - Latest episode: 10 months ago - ★★★★★ - 995 ratingsHosted by New York City-based comedians Carolyn Bergier & Melody Kamali, Dyking Out is a podcast about lesbian / queer life, news, and pop culture. Each week, Carolyn and Melody invite a special guest (comedians, musicians, actors, crushes) to dyke out with them about a topic that's relevant to the LGBTQIA world. But really, it's just another way to advance the gay agenda.
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Modeling w/ Sarah Hartshorne – Ep. 40
June 19, 2018 04:00 - 1 hourIs the modeling community extra queer, or is it just that everything surrounding Cara Delevingne seems supes gay? We ask comedian and former America’s Next Top Model contestant Sarah Hartshorne about the intersection of modeling and sexuality. From a small town in Western Massachusetts to beating out tens of thousands of women for a spot on our favorite Tyra Banks joint, Sarah H. shares the details of what things are like behind the scenes in modeling and reality tv. We also tackle age-old qu...
Soulmates w/ Morgan Miller – Ep. 39
June 12, 2018 02:28 - 1 hourThe UNIVERSE brought UCB’s Morgan Miller our way to dyke out about soulmates and why you can’t buy bedding at T.J. Maxx. Morgan is a hilarious comedian who has performed all over the country and has recently become more in tune with her spiritual side. Have you ever met someone and felt like you knew them in a past life? How do you know if you’ve met your soulmate? Morgan shares how she met hers, while Carolyn (yes, she’s calling herself Carolyn again) reflects on how her lack of belief in so...
Sex With Dudes w/ Vivianne A. Njoku – Ep. 38
June 05, 2018 02:23 - 1 hourQueer multimedia artist, activist and educator, Vivianne A. Njoku, joins us for one of the funnest episodes to date! Don’t be fooled by the topic (but do have your vomit bags ready if even the mere mention of dick activates your gag reflex), because we are dyking out hard on this one. We talk about everything from Mellisa Etheridge’s weed farm to the aging royal family, to a maybe murderous grandmother. Then, we guess why queer women who mostly date women resort to sleeping with men, and disc...
Hair w/ Wazina Zondon – Ep. 37
May 29, 2018 00:42 - 1 hourWazina Zondon (HBO’s The Out List, Coming Out Muslim) swings by to talk about hair, and not just the kind on your head! We’re talking face, armpits, pubes, legs, arms – all of it. Do queer women feel the same pressure as straight women to be free of body hair? Where does that pressure some from? Porn? The patriarchy? Capitalism? Barbie? Hair removal is time consuming, painful, and expensive, so isn’t it time we took a stand, or should we just do what makes us comfortable? There’s so much to c...
Femme Invisibility w/ Jacq The Stripper – Ep. 36
May 22, 2018 00:31 - 1 hourQueer Bimbo(TM) Jacqueline Frances aka Jacq the Stripper graces the Dyking Out studio with her presence to talk about Femme Invisibility. Is it still even a thing? What kind of pressures do baby dykes face to look or conform to certain lesbian ideals? Do we all go through the vest phase? We revisit our Strippers topic as Jacq dishes about why women are terrible strip club patrons, and how the gig has helped her be true to her own identity when she’s off the stage. We also talk about Canada be...
Politics of Misogyny w/ Talia Lavin – Ep. 35
May 15, 2018 15:10 - 1 hourThe hilarious, smart, and talented Talia Lavin (The New Yorker, Village Voice, Jewish Daily Forward) joins us to dyke out about the everyday rage fire that is misogyny, specifically, how it plays into politics and how different parties deal with it. Talia drops some knowledge about fearless Stormy Daniels and her MMA fighter– er, lawyer, and she shares her thoughts on why it’s important to hold people accountable for misogynistic and abusive behavior. We also salivate over the movie Disobedie...
Representation in Movies w/ Erin Greenwell – Ep. 34
May 01, 2018 04:36 - 1 hourFilmmaker Erin Greenwell – yeah, that’s right. We totally know people who aren’t comedians. Anyway, Erin Greenwell (Director, Writer, Editor of My Best Day which premiered at Sundance in 2012) joins us to talk about how queer representation has changed in movies over the years. We’ve come a long way from All About Eve…or have we? Why does every queer movie have to be a forbidden love story? As a film professor, Erin pushes her students to be true to their experiences in hopes that it translat...
Kids & Gender w/ Caitlin Ruppert – Ep. 33
April 23, 2018 20:43 - 1 hourThree cis-gendered queer women without kids walk into a podcasting studio to talk about challenging gender norms and raising children. What could go wrong? Comedian and child-caregiver Caitlin Ruppert joins us to talk about why we need to stop shaming and correcting kids who act outside of gender norms. Also, who decided that trucks are for boys anyways when, newsflash, women are allowed to drive them too (at least in this country). Are gender reveal parties strictly a straight person thing? ...
Threesomes w/ Brooke Arnold – Ep. 32
April 17, 2018 01:22 - 1 hourThree’s company in this episode all about threesomes. Comedian and recovering fundamentalist Brooke Arnold (Caroline’s on Broadway, Marie Claire, NYC Fringe Fest) dykes out with us about doing the deed with a party of 2. How do threesomes come about? Why do couples love asking lesbians to join them in bed? Is it possible for couples to have healthy threesomes that don’t ruin their relationship? Also, we expose Tall Texans for what it really is, a front for Lone Star dykes. And, Brooke spills ...
Young, Queer, & Famous w/ Sarah Pappalardo – Ep. 31
April 10, 2018 21:52 - 1 hourSarah Pappalardo, co-founder of Reductress, joins us to dyke out about all of the queer women of Hollywood, youtube, and wherever else you see cool entertainers who also happen to be women. Why is coming out different for these ladies? How are they so cool? Are the days of coming out on the cover of Time magazine ancient history? Give a listen as we share our hopes and dreams for the futures of the young, queer, and famous.Keep the podcast alive and gay by donating to our Patreon, where you c...
Pansexuality w/ Mindy Raf – Ep. 30
April 03, 2018 01:49 - 1 hourPansexual is no longer just the term once used to describe pixyland.org. It’s actually a sexual identity that an increasing number of people in the LGBTQ community identify with despite its anemic representation in mainstream media and pop culture. We’ve talked about it before, but wanted to invite quintuple threat Mindy Raf (TNT, VH1, MTV’s Girl Code) to dyke out about her pansexuality in more detail. We also revisit the topic of polyamory and do it much more justice than the first time arou...
Sex w/ Emma Willmann – Ep. 29
March 27, 2018 03:27 - 1 hourShe plays the new girlfriend of the non-crazy ex-girlfriend on the CW’s Crazy Ex-Girlfriend, comedian Emma Willmann (Late Show, Sirius XM, NPR, HBO’s Crashing) drops by the Dyking Out studios to talk about sex…and comedy, and dating, and exes, and podcasts…but also sex. How do you figure out sexual boundaries? What role do toys play? What’s the right way to bring up STDs? Lesbian bed death? WHO’S THE MAN??? (SPOILER: It’s always Emma). Take a listen to this wild ride of an episode, and find o...
The Closet w/ Kelley Quinn – Ep. 28
March 20, 2018 01:38 - 1 hourBecause she’s no longer trapped in the closet, comedian Kelley Quinn (Upright Citizens Brigade) came to dyke out about what it’s like to have to keep your sexuality a secret. As many of us know, coming out is something that many in the LGBTQ community have to do over and over again. Can we envision a future where we no longer need to “come out” with our sexuality? What is the role of straight people in keeping us in the closet? Does anyone enjoy the closet? What about all the queers in Hollyw...
Sex Ed w/ Alyssa Robbins – Ep. 27
March 13, 2018 03:13 - 1 hourIt’s our first guest who has a movie based on her life! Alyssa Robbins is a Brooklyn-based singer-songwriter and the inspiration behind the movie Becks. We are thrilled that she joined us to talk about her side gig teaching sex education to adolescents. Listen and learn how far we’ve come from putting condoms on bananas! We make a pretty solid case for the importance of comprehensive sex education in schools, and also get Alyssa’s insight on what to do if you have a kid who masturbates way to...
Teachers w/ Pat Brown – Ep. 26
March 09, 2018 02:48 - 1 hourFact: teachers make up 75% of the lesbian population – at least the lesbian population that Carolyn knows personally. We are thrilled to be joined by the incredible Pat Brown for this episode! She’s been on Late Night with Stephen Colbert, has been featured on AfterEllen.com, and has an amazing comedy album out now. We talk about the role of teachers in our lives and in the current political climate. Should they have guns at school? Do they know which kids are gay? Should they have guns at sc...
Dating Straight Women w/ J. Fox-Jones – Ep. 25
February 27, 2018 03:04 - 1 hourComedian and dater of straight women, J. Fox-Jones joins us this week to tell us why some lesbians end up with women who used to exclusively date men. Do lesbians seek out straight women as a challenge, or are these ladies hunting us down while we’re just minding our own business? If you date a straight woman, does that mean you have to *GULP* watch The Bachelor????!!! Does she assume you’ll handle things like installing shelves and killing bugs? We also give tips on how to watch Black Panthe...
Pets w/ Becky Chicoine – Ep. 24
February 20, 2018 02:31 - 1 hourComedian Becky Chicoine (Comedy Central Comics to Watch, UCB) stops by the Dyking Out studio to talk about pets! Why do we get them? What happens to them when we’re going through a break-up? What makes a good pet name? Plus, learn what kind of gay lady you are based on your choice of pet as we play the game, What The Pet?!For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear!And if you love our theme song, check out the duo who created...
Catholic School w/ Nikki Palumbo – Ep. 23
February 13, 2018 04:17 - 1 hourComedy writer and proud gaytheist Nikki Palumbo (UCB, Above Average, Reductress) went to catholic school and lived to tell us about it. It turns out it’s not the lesbian underground we thought it was. How can one survive all the guilt and shame brought on by the church? How does a budding lesbian hide amongst the plaid skirts unnoticed? Are nuns even a little gay, and would they be offended that their calling is our backup plan when all else fails? We also dyke out about the super stressful e...
The L Word w/ Gwynna Forgham-Thrift – Ep. 22
February 06, 2018 01:05 - 1 hourWe tried to hold out as long as we could, but alas, it’s time to talk about the show that – love it or hate it – revolutionized the way the LGBTQ women were portrayed on TV. Comedian and filmmaker Gwynna Forgham-Thrift (UCB Maude Night) recently rewatched the entire series and could not wait to dyke out with us about it. How does the show hold up? What did it mean to us? How realistic was it? Where did they go wrong? Which sex scenes made us feel uncomfortable to watch with our moms in the ro...
Straight Women w/ Kaitlin Fontana – Ep. 21
January 31, 2018 23:56 - 1 hourFresh off of her directorial debut at Sundance, writer/director/comedian/badass Kaitlin Fontana (The Box, A&E’s Black & White, Franchesca) joins us to let us know once and for all, what is the deal with straight women? Okay, maybe not once and for all because we barely scratched the surface of what it’s like for our straight allies out there drowning in a sea of dangerous dick. We ask Kaitlin what’s it like to have to play the role of girlfriend AND mother, and more importantly, what are men ...
Performative Masculinity w/ Lorena Russi – Ep. 20
January 23, 2018 03:18 - 1 hourFormer pro soccer player, would-be Bobby Fischer and current hilarious comedian Lorena Russi (Late Night with Stephen Colbert, Spotify) joins us to talk about taxes, Lena Waithe, nazi haircuts and finally, our topic for this week! We attempt to tackle the messy and smelly world of performative masculinity while questioning how much of what we do is putting on an act or an imitation versus being true to who we are. We also struggle to answer the question of why so many lesbians aspire to look ...
Strippers w/ Amber Rollo – Ep. 19
January 16, 2018 05:13 - 1 hourHow much do you know about women who strip? Before this episode, we knew at least one thing: many of them date other women. But what’s it really like to be the subject of the male gaze for pay? Stand up comedian and podcaster Amber Rollo dykes out with us about her former gig as a stripper (we learned that exotic dancer is NOT the preferred term). Needless to say, this episode is quite revealing! We also talk about the Golden Globes, dead lesbians, and the newly minted #MineToo movement that ...
Sexuality and the South w/ Jourdain Searles – Ep. 18
January 02, 2018 23:03 - 1 hourHappy New Year! We’re back with an episode recorded in late 2017 but still very relevant. Many places in the South value tradition and religion, which means the region know for its hospitality is not so hospitable to the LGBTQ community. We’re joined by Augusta, Georgia native and comedian Jourdain Searles, and she dykes out about what it was like growing up as a queer black woman two hours outside of the more gay-friendly city of Atlanta. We also talk about Carolyn’s ongoing love/hate relati...
WNBA w/ Veronica Garza – Ep. 17
December 18, 2017 21:57 - 1 hourDon’t pass over this slam dunk of an episode! Comedian and podcaster Veronica Garza joins us to dyke out about one of our favorite professional sports leagues, the WNBA. These players have talent, heart, and hustle, but the league is still young, so they don’t benefit from the same level of fame and fortune as their counterparts. But that doesn’t stop them from pushing forward and working harder than ever for their fans around the world. Oh, and did we mention a lot of the players are fellow ...
Hats w/ Alex Song – Ep. 16
December 12, 2017 02:49 - 1 hourAlex Song (NBC’s Tonight Show with Jimmy Fallon, HBO’s Night of Too Many Stars, UCB) stops by to dyke out about the complicated relationship between lesbians and hats. Like a moth to a flame, our kind has been drawn to various hat styles. But what do a lesbian’s hat say about her? What if you don’t look good in hats, or like in Sarah’s case, your head is too damn big? What if feel the need to buy them but lack the confidence to wear them? You’ll find out all of this and more in our new segmen...
Lesbians on the Internet w/ Claudia Cogan – Ep. 15
December 05, 2017 00:04 - 1 hourComedian Claudia Cogan (Last Comic Standing semi-finalist) joins us to reflect on how the internet has affected the lives of lesbians – real lesbians. Not the ones on porn sites (though there’s a little mention of that). From AOL chat rooms to OurChart, the internet has allowed us to connect with other dykes (and maybe men pretending to be dykes) around the world, allowing us to explore our sexuality and develop a more rounded view of what it means to be a gay woman. But before we get to that...
Law & Order w/ Megan Harney – Ep. 14
November 28, 2017 04:48 - 1 hourFrom sodomy laws to gay marriage, to the right to use the bathroom that corresponds to your gender, legal cases have played a large role in the lives of LGBTQ people for centuries. While we’ve made many strides, there is still a long way to go to reach full equality under the law, and there are always those bigoted goblins looking to push us way the hell back. Lawyer Megan Harney joins us on this new episode to dyke out about current court cases that will have an impact on the community, and ...
Bisexuality w/ May Wilkerson – Ep. 13
November 20, 2017 23:38 - 1 hourDo bisexuals have the best of both worlds, or the worst of all worlds? Reformed bisexual and comedian May Wilkerson (Someecards, Crazy; In Bed podcast, Caroline’s on Broadway) joins us to discuss her former life as a bisexual woman and why she now identifies as queer. We explore why bisexual people can’t seem to catch a break, and the many frustrations they face. What are the noticeable differences when comparing heterosexual and homosexual relationships? Also, are we just all one bad day awa...
Problematic Gay Men w/ Aisha Keller – Ep. 12
November 14, 2017 01:39 - 1 hourLesbians and gay men. Can we all just get along? Not if they insist on being unapologetically misogynistic! Friend of the podcast Aisha Keller joins us to dyke out about the problematic gay men we’ve come across. Can we get past our differences to focus on the causes that unite us? Will lesbians forever remain the butt of all jokes by Drag Queens? Can we talk about our favorite gay men without worrying about sexual assault allegations coming out against them? (Sadly, no) We also shame all of ...
Mental Illness w/ Marisol Brady – ep. 11
November 07, 2017 01:46 - 1 hourFor many LGBTQ people, it’s easier to be out today than 20 years ago, but we still face alarming levels of suicide, mental illness, and substance abuse that often stem from systematic oppression and rampant bigotry. But it gets better, right? Comedian Marisol Brady joins us to dyke out about mental illness while Carolyn and Sarah self-diagnose themselves with ADHD. What’s it like to live with mental illness, and how do you support a partner who suffers from one? Does our society have unrealis...
Allies w/ Elsa Waithe – Ep. 10
October 31, 2017 00:03 - 1 hourAfter a weeklong hiatus filled with lobster and crying, we’re back to tell you we don’t need allies, at least not as they are currently defined. Comedian and rad activist (ractivist?) Elsa Waithe (This American Life) dykes out with hosts Carolyn Bergier and Sarah York about the ins and outs of being an real ally. Does calling yourself an ally make you one? What should allies be willing to sacrifice? How can you take take part in everyday activism? Also, Elsa fills us in on how two combine act...
Religion w/ Eman El Husseini
October 16, 2017 23:50 - 1 hourComedians Carolyn Bergier and Sarah York pray that you tune into our latest episode on Religion where the supremely funny and talented Eman El Husseini (Just For Laughs, Boston Comedy Festival) stops by to explain why she sometimes calls her parents ISIS. How has being queer changed our faith and relationship with religion? Can you be super gay and super religious? Are we all going to hell? Why is being a lesbian like eating tomatoes? We have faith that you’ll tune in to find out.Follo...
Religion w/ Eman El Husseini - Ep. 9
October 16, 2017 23:50 - 1 hourComedians Carolyn Bergier and Sarah York pray that you tune into our latest episode on Religion where the supremely funny and talented Eman El Husseini (Just For Laughs, Boston Comedy Festival) stops by to explain why she sometimes calls her parents ISIS. How has being queer changed our faith and relationship with religion? Can you be super gay and super religious? Are we all going to hell? Why is being a lesbian like eating tomatoes? We have faith that you’ll tune in to find out.Follow us on...
Marriage w/ Jess Salomon – Ep. 8
October 10, 2017 01:01 - 1 hourEver want to dyke out with someone for all of eternity? It’s not for everyone, but there are still a lot of people in the LGBTQ community who want to enter the traditional institution of marriage. Comedian Jess Salomon joins twice-married-Carolyn and will-marry-for-the-registry-Sarah to talk about same-sex marriage! Why do it? What’s the best thing about being married? We also discuss the fight for marriage equality in Australia (and how we think their political system works), super-predator ...
Breakups w/ Ashley Gavin – Ep. 7
October 03, 2017 03:31 - 1 hourListen to Carolyn's new podcast Love's A Pitch on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. You are in for a treat this week as actor and standup Ashley Gavin (Gotham Comedy Live on AXS TV, FOX’s Laughs, SeeSo, SiriusXM Comedy Central Radio) dykes out with us about breakups! Should you try to be friends with your ex, skip a generation of exes, or cut them out like a cancerous tumor? Does the ‘winner’ or ‘loser’ get the stuff? How do you handle joint custody of pets? Could lesbianism saved Lindsay Lohan? We ...
Gender Identity w/ Jes Tom – Ep. 6
September 26, 2017 01:54 - 1 hourWe welcome stand-up comedian Jes Tom and dyke out about gender identity! Do gender roles exist in queer relationships? How do people react to different identities and what privileges come with them? But first, with so much to cover in current events, we spend a little too much time dyking out about Billie Jean King and Battle of the Sexes, the super gay Emmys, and how much republicans still hate gay people. Also, Carolyn finds a way to work Whitney Houston into the conversation, again. (hint:...
Friendship w/ Wanjiko Eke – Ep. 5
September 19, 2017 01:02 - 1 hourComedian Wanjiko Eke joins us to dyke out about friendship! Can women who love women be just friends? What’s it like to be a straight girl’s lesbian bestie? Do lesbians all fall for their straight friends? (They don’t). But before we get to our topic, we get derailed by dyking out over Edie Windsor and honorary lesbian Hillary Clinton. We also field a question from a listener about how parents can be supportive of their children if they come out on day. Follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagr...
Dealing with Straight Men w/ Sydnee Washington – Ep. 4
September 11, 2017 23:19 - 1 hourWe are joined by comedian Sydnee Washington to dyke out about the burden of the uninvited straight men in our lives. We also talk about Jay-Z’s mom, lesbians with roosters, and the new season of American Horror Story.Follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Polyamory w/ comedian Chewy May – Ep. 3
September 05, 2017 02:15 - 1 hourNote: This episode does not do a great job of discussing polyamory, and we will definitely revisit the topic again. Our Pansexuality episode does a better job for now. Stand up comedian Chewy May joins us to talk about her experiences with polyamory, and we debate whether or not Carolyn is cool enough to be in an open relationship (spoiler: she’s not). We also discuss gay rights in Louisiana, the female Lord of the Flies reboot, and what straight women are doing to their eyebrows. Follow us o...
Coming Out, w/ comedian Sarah Kennedy – Ep. 2
September 03, 2017 02:25 - 1 hourListen to Carolyn's new podcast Love's A Pitch on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. We dyke out with stand up comedian and host of the Dwellin’ on Ellen podcast, Sarah Kennedy on the topic of coming out. We also reminisce about the gayest moments in MTV VMA history, talk about male feminists and the criticism of Joss Whedon, and share our theories on Taylor Swift’s sexuality.Follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adcho...
FAQ about Lesbians – Ep. 1
September 03, 2017 01:00 - 65 MBIntroducing the first episode of the Dyking Out podcast hosted by lesbian comedians Carolyn Bergier and Sarah York! In this first episode, we answer some frequently asked questions about lesbians and the LGBTQ world so that we’re all on the same page in future episodes. Usually we would dyke out with a special guest, but... The post FAQ about Lesbians – Ep. 1 appeared first on Dyking Out .