EP82 How To Work With Your Spouse Effectively and Enjoyably in 9 Steps

SUMMARY:

Working with your spouse can be challenging, but in this episode of the DYB Podcast, Steve and April bring you 9 Steps to Working With Your Spouse, Effectively and Enjoyably.

Starting with a confession of needing marriage counseling themselves and how that changed their marriage for the better and how you can, too!

They start by laying the foundation and end with the best tools they have found, so far.

Whether you are married or not, Steve and April share relatable stories and easy to use tools for growth in your relationships and team members.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN: How their struggles in marriage led to learning great tools How you can communicate with your spouse even better Key questions for personal growth and happiness in your marriage and life Specific steps you can take to make your marriage to the next level If you're not married, what to look for before you consider saying, "I do!" QUOTES:

0:47 "Let's say on a scale of 1 to 10, your expectation was a five. That's what it was (in your marriage) before. Let's just say. And so I was coming in this marriage with an expectation of 10, and let's just say it was a seven. So you were super happy. You were stoked. And I was like, (deflated), "Wow. Yeah." So we decided to go to marriage counseling."

2:18 "How you can have a thriving marriage, a great marriage. Okay, this is possible. We just have these tools that we need to use. And so we want to share these with you guys. Not because--and this is why, well, one of the reasons why, it's taken us so long to produce this podcast is because for me, a fear of listen to this podcast because we've got it all together and this is perfect and this is what you should do, too. But rather, this is what worked for us and if it can at all help you guys, we want to share that to help other marriages. Or even if you're not married, this would be a great podcast to listen to if you're not married so that, you know, when you are thinking that direction, what you can use and some tools and things you need to think about before you get married..."

8:12 "What we're missing in the world today is understanding. That doesn't mean that you agree with the other person, but you can see where they're coming from and you can have empathy. Again, it doesn't mean that you agree with them, but you can understand where they're coming from."

13:51 "It's not fair to expect something if we haven't discussed it or had an agreement first. (In) so many sitcoms, you see the wife is like, "Well, you should know what I want. I shouldn't have to tell you." I just, I don't understand that --that's not logical. It doesn't make any sense."

17:22 "So extreme ownership, taking ownership, even when it wasn't something that was in your control. If you just blame it on someone else and say, "No, I'm a victim of this circumstance or of this person doing this." You've given all the power away, but taking back ownership saying no, what could I have done differently? How did I contribute to this? I own this. How can I change it? That shifts you from a victim and this marriage will never get better mentality to, wow. We can do this. Let's figure out how this works. Let's do this. It's so powerful."

HIGHLIGHTS

4:27 Step 1: Supporting the Mission

7:43 Step 2: Knowing Personality Types & Languages of Appreciation

13:55 Step 3: Expectations vs. Agreements (Steve Chandler)

15:56 Step 4: Ownership vs. Victim (Mentality)

19:22 Step 5: The List of ____ :)

21:41 Step 6: Foregoing This

23:49 Step 7: Empty This

27:44 Step 8: Four Tools

43:28 Step 9: The Golden Question

LINKS & RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Steve Chandler

Jacko Willink Extreme Ownership

Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs

ADDITIONAL FREE RESOURCES:

DISC Personality EP75

Languages of Appreciation Podcast EP 76

9 Steps PDF of How to Work With Your Spouse Effectively and Enjoyably   Schedule Your Free Strategy Call With Steve Burnett   Thank you very much for joining us today! If you received value, would you take a quick few seconds and leave us a review on iTunes, please?   Press and hold to visit the page: Show Notes Page

SUMMARY:

Working with your spouse can be challenging, but in this episode of the DYB Podcast, Steve and April bring you 9 Steps to Working With Your Spouse, Effectively and Enjoyably.

Starting with a confession of needing marriage counseling themselves and how that changed their marriage for the better and how you can, too!

They start by laying the foundation and end with the best tools they have found, so far.

Whether you are married or not, Steve and April share relatable stories and easy to use tools for growth in your relationships and team members.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN: How their struggles in marriage led to learning great tools How you can communicate with your spouse even better Key questions for personal growth and happiness in your marriage and life Specific steps you can take to make your marriage to the next level If you're not married, what to look for before you consider saying, "I do!" QUOTES:

0:47 "Let's say on a scale of 1 to 10, your expectation was a five. That's what it was (in your marriage) before. Let's just say. And so I was coming in this marriage with an expectation of 10, and let's just say it was a seven. So you were super happy. You were stoked. And I was like, (deflated), "Wow. Yeah." So we decided to go to marriage counseling."

2:18 "How you can have a thriving marriage, a great marriage. Okay, this is possible. We just have these tools that we need to use. And so we want to share these with you guys. Not because--and this is why, well, one of the reasons why, it's taken us so long to produce this podcast is because for me, a fear of listen to this podcast because we've got it all together and this is perfect and this is what you should do, too. But rather, this is what worked for us and if it can at all help you guys, we want to share that to help other marriages. Or even if you're not married, this would be a great podcast to listen to if you're not married so that, you know, when you are thinking that direction, what you can use and some tools and things you need to think about before you get married..."

8:12 "What we're missing in the world today is understanding. That doesn't mean that you agree with the other person, but you can see where they're coming from and you can have empathy. Again, it doesn't mean that you agree with them, but you can understand where they're coming from."

13:51 "It's not fair to expect something if we haven't discussed it or had an agreement first. (In) so many sitcoms, you see the wife is like, "Well, you should know what I want. I shouldn't have to tell you." I just, I don't understand that --that's not logical. It doesn't make any sense."

17:22 "So extreme ownership, taking ownership, even when it wasn't something that was in your control. If you just blame it on someone else and say, "No, I'm a victim of this circumstance or of this person doing this." You've given all the power away, but taking back ownership saying no, what could I have done differently? How did I contribute to this? I own this. How can I change it? That shifts you from a victim and this marriage will never get better mentality to, wow. We can do this. Let's figure out how this works. Let's do this. It's so powerful."

HIGHLIGHTS

4:27 Step 1: Supporting the Mission

7:43 Step 2: Knowing Personality Types & Languages of Appreciation

13:55 Step 3: Expectations vs. Agreements (Steve Chandler)

15:56 Step 4: Ownership vs. Victim (Mentality)

19:22 Step 5: The List of ____ :)

21:41 Step 6: Foregoing This

23:49 Step 7: Empty This

27:44 Step 8: Four Tools

43:28 Step 9: The Golden Question

LINKS & RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Steve Chandler

Jacko Willink Extreme Ownership

Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs

ADDITIONAL FREE RESOURCES:

DISC Personality EP75

Languages of Appreciation Podcast EP 76

9 Steps PDF of How to Work With Your Spouse Effectively and Enjoyably   Schedule Your Free Strategy Call With Steve Burnett   Thank you very much for joining us today! If you received value, would you take a quick few seconds and leave us a review on iTunes, please?   Press and hold to visit the page: Show Notes Page