Don't Tell Ammu
53 episodes - English - Latest episode: over 3 years ago - ★★★★★ - 40 ratingsA too-honest podcast where host Raida Khan brings guests on to discuss their unfiltered experiences with life and love. Tune in every week to hear this Bengali-American Muslim gal and her friends spill their hearts out on the things they’ve always been too afraid to tell Ammu.
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Why Being the Middle Child Sucks
January 28, 2021 07:00 - 48 minutes - 33.6 MBIn this episode, Raida invites her two siblings, Raheeq & Ranya, on to discuss what an honor and pain it is to grow up with the host of Don't Tell Ammu. From Raheeq's bad memory to Raida's cursing problem to a bunch of other dumb sh!t, this is an exciting and informative episode, but mostly because the three of them flame each other for 50 minutes straight.
Double Standards in Desi Households
January 20, 2021 15:00 - 55 minutes - 38.4 MBIn this episode, Raida brings on her friend Noshin to discuss the double standards girls deal with growing up in a desi household. The two also talk about the pervasive issue of colorism in desi communities and share their thoughts on "mama's boys." Finally, the duo discusses peeing at night, embarrassing calculator histories, and spelling bee mishaps. This episode is equal parts real and dumb. Enjoy! I love you, Ammu.
Being Close Friends with a High School Enemy
January 08, 2021 18:00 - 1 hour - 47.1 MBIn this episode, Raida invites her close friend Adam on to talk about how they went from "enemies" in high school to very good friends in college. The two discuss why Adam is known as the "cookie man," if friendship is possible when feelings are unreciprocated, and whether men or women have higher standards of love. Also, Adam believes the Zodiac Killer is lame, and Raida flames every single one of Adam's movie recs. Anyway, enjoy us basically arguing for 70 mins straight.
Navigating Hookup Culture as a Muslim
January 01, 2021 02:00 - 58 minutes - 40.3 MBIn the final episode of 2020, Raida brings her pal Nahla on to discuss desi boys on TikTok, shenanigans at their local mosque, balancing relationships with friendships, and the harsh reality of being a Muslim kid in America. Also, Nahla auditions to be the DTA marketing manager while Raida recounts how eight-year-old Nahla used to make fun of her accent. HAPPY NEW YEAR FAM
Navigating Hookup Culture as a Muslim
January 01, 2021 02:00 - 58 minutes - 40.3 MBIn the final episode of 2020, Raida brings her pal Nahla on to discuss desi boys on TikTok, shenanigans at their local mosque, balancing relationships with friendships, and the harsh reality of being a Muslim kid in America. Also, Nahla auditions to be the DTA marketing manager while Raida recounts how eight-year-old Nahla used to make fun of her accent. HAPPY NEW YEAR FAM
An Early Morning Stream of Consciousness
December 31, 2020 05:00 - 35 minutes - 24.7 MB[Season 2, Episode 2.5] In this episode, Raida wakes up at 6 AM just to groggily speak about everything going on in her life, including playing Valorant, receiving five mysterious bags of groceries, her experience working at a startup, and her lackluster love life. Oh, and Raida talks about the Zodiac Killer as though he's the most interesting thing in the world (he's not). Raida's friends say this episode sounds depressing but honestly, she was just being quiet because her family was slee...
How to be the Most Charming Man Alive
December 23, 2020 21:00 - 1 hour - 54.9 MBIn this episode, Raida brings her close friend Yasser on to discuss their empty love lives in great depth. The two also talk about why Kanye is misunderstood, how Raida's father became a local meme, the key to finding love on TikTok, the science to being a charming mf, and so much more. Also, stay till the end, because there's a fun little surprise. It's one of the longest DTA episodes to date, so enjoy. If you think Raida's being mean to Yasser in any part of it, she is. He deserves it.
How to be the Most Charming Man Alive
December 23, 2020 21:00 - 1 hour - 54.9 MBIn this episode, Raida brings her close friend Yasser on to discuss their empty love lives in great depth. The two also talk about why Kanye is misunderstood, how Raida's father became a local meme, the key to finding love on TikTok, the science to being a charming mf, and so much more. Also, stay till the end, because there's a fun little surprise. It's one of the longest DTA episodes to date, so enjoy. If you think Raida's being mean to Yasser in any part of it, she is. He deserves it.
Why the First Date Doesn't Matter
December 16, 2020 18:00 - 55 minutes - 37.8 MBIn this episode, Raida brings on one of her oldest friends (and neighbor of a decade!), Nasrynn, to discuss various 'expectation vs. reality' scenarios they've experienced in their lives. From bad first dates to embarrassing old emails to important life lessons, the two talk about it all. Enjoy. My hands are so cold right now,
Why the First Date Doesn't Matter
December 16, 2020 18:00 - 55 minutes - 37.8 MBIn this episode, Raida brings on one of her oldest friends (and neighbor of a decade!), Nasrynn, to discuss various 'expectation vs. reality' scenarios they've experienced in their lives. From bad first dates to embarrassing old emails to important life lessons, the two talk about it all. Enjoy. My hands are so cold right now,
An End & New Beginning: Bushra's Last Episode
December 12, 2020 04:00 - 47 minutes - 32.4 MBHi. It's Bushra. This episode description is going to be a short love note from me to all of you. First, let's go over the basics. This is my last time on DTA as co-host -- in this episode, we talk about why I'm leaving and what the podcast will look like moving forward. Raida and I get candid about how our friendship has been these past few months and where we stand now, and revisit our favorite question: are we still best friends? We also talk about love, because what else do we ever talk...
Thoughts on Bengali, Muslim Influencers & More
November 20, 2020 08:00 - 55 minutes - 38 MBIn this episode, Bushra and Raida discuss Mukbangs, Raida leaving her job, the recent wacky-ass Instagram updates, and their thoughts on a particular Bengali, Muslim influencer. Also, the duo, as stupid as ever, talk about where they see themselves in a decade. ------- Happy one year anniversary to your favorite dumbasses. You don't know why they do what they do, but don't worry, they also don't know why they do what they do. Was that hard to read? Good. Also, sorry we took a month and a h...
Impostor Syndrome & Boy Advice from a Hairdresser
November 20, 2020 07:00 - 52 minutes - 36.4 MBIn this episode, Bushra and Raida discuss Big B's new job, Big R's surprise party, and why they'll have impostor syndrome for the rest of their careers. The two also discuss the advice Raida received from her hair lady. They also talk about more, but Raida doesn't remember right now, so, yeah, enjoy! -------------------- Also, ya, this episode was recorded a week before we knew whether or not Orange Man was going to devastate our country for four more years. He's not, so thank you for votin...
Farting in a Hushed Mosque
September 30, 2020 22:00 - 59 minutes - 41 MBIn this week's episode, the two gals discuss dealing with burnout, improving family relationships, and managing anger. As a sweet bonus, Raida shares a horrifyingly embarrassing fart story, and Bushra confesses that her neck might be possessed
Dealing with Burning & Family Fights
September 30, 2020 22:00 - 59 minutes - 41 MBIn this week's episode, the two gals discuss dealing with burnout, improving family relationships, and managing anger. As a sweet bonus, Raida shares a horrifyingly embarrassing fart story, and Bushra confesses that her neck might be possessed
Dealing with Burnout & Family Fights
September 30, 2020 22:00 - 59 minutes - 41 MBIn this week's episode, the two gals discuss dealing with burnout, improving family relationships, and managing anger. As a sweet bonus, Raida shares a horrifyingly embarrassing fart story, and Bushra confesses that her neck might be possessed
Dealing with Burnout & Family Fights
September 30, 2020 22:00 - 59 minutes - 41 MBIn this week's episode, the two gals discuss dealing with burnout, improving family relationships, and managing anger. As a sweet bonus, Raida shares a horrifyingly embarrassing fart story, and Bushra confesses that her neck might be possessed
Emotional Availability in Relationships
September 18, 2020 21:00 - 48 minutes - 33.2 MBIn this episode, Bushra and Raida discuss their recent trip together, what happens when you find a scorpion in your bathroom at 3 AM in the morning, kids hiding drugs in Raida's neighborhood bush, and the emotional intelligence of the guys in their lives.
Nice Guys Finish Last
August 28, 2020 06:00 - 1 hour - 43.9 MBTL;DR: We drill Big M with a bunch of personal questions. Enjoy. In this episode, Bushra and Raida invite one of their favorite people ever, Muhammed, to talk about how guys feel in situations of love, cultural pressures, body image, and more. They also discuss awful first impressions, infamous San Francisco trips, and being holed up in a library together for more than 48 hours straight. Finally, Muhammed tells the two about overcoming the "nice guy" syndrome and what's most important to hi...
Getting Stranded on a Desert Island Together
August 21, 2020 09:00 - 37 minutes - 26 MBIn this episode, Bushra and Raida answer more juicy questions guys are too afraid to ask girls, discuss the mispronunciation of their brown names (while Raida butchers some French words), and contemplate what would happen if just the two of them were ever stranded on a deserted island (TL;DR: cannabilism, but what is one to do?) FYI: Raida's audio is muffled for only the first minute or so of the episode. It gets better!
Stop Saying Our Names Like That
August 21, 2020 09:00 - 37 minutes - 26 MBIn this episode, Bushra and Raida answer more juicy questions guys are too afraid to ask girls, discuss the mispronunciation of their brown names (while Raida butchers some French words), and contemplate what would happen if just the two of them were ever stranded on a deserted island (TL;DR: cannabilism, but what is one to do?) FYI: Raida's audio is muffled for only the first minute or so of the episode. It gets better!
Bushra Writes a New Book & Discovers Minecraft
August 14, 2020 17:00 - 35 minutes - 24.5 MBIn this week's episode, Raida and Bushra talk about how they both completely ruined their sleep schedules. The two discuss the value of handmade gifts, discovering the world of Minecraft, and the first trip they ever went on together. Raida also compares Bushra's newly published book to the legendary Taylor Swift album, 'folklore,' which is a little over the top but makes Bushra's entire year. They also struggle to explain how they felt about the Too Hot to Handle show and end up using the s...
The Kind of Men We'll Marry One Day
August 04, 2020 14:00 - 54 minutes - 37.6 MBIn this episode, Bushra and Raida discuss playing an emotional seven-hour game of Push the Button during their second quarantined Eid and ponder over the very purpose of Idaho. The two also explain the week-long ordeal that is a desi wedding. In between, Bushra tells Raida the kind of man she will one day marry, while Raida daydreams about marketing the podcast at Bushra's wedding. Finally, they answer some questions that guys are too afraid to ask girls.
Opening Up About Body Image
July 09, 2020 19:00 - 45 minutes - 31 MBIn this episode, Raida and Bushra open up about their insecurities and get real about the struggles that come with body dysmorphia. They also discuss their favorite scorpion-murder methods, Chloe Ting workout videos, and the popularization of breakup social media posts. Finally, Raida showers Bushra with compliments, which she regrets, and the two revisit the most pressing question ever asked on DTA: are Raida and Bushra still best friends?
Domestic Abuse in the Bengali Community
June 30, 2020 07:00 - 33 minutes - 23.3 MBTrigger Warning: Abuse + Physical Violence In this episode, Raida and Bushra delve into a real life story and an in-depth discussion on domestic abuse in Bengali households. Resources: The National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) www.ndvh.org National Dating Abuse Helpline 1-866-331-9474 www.loveisrespect.org National Child Abuse Hotline/Childhelp 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) www.childhelp.org National Sexual Assault Hotline 1-800-656-4673 (HOPE) www.rainn.org N...
Domestic Abuse in the Bengali Community
June 30, 2020 07:00 - 33 minutes - 23.3 MBTrigger Warning: Abuse + Physical Violence In this episode, Raida and Bushra delve into a real life story and an in-depth discussion on domestic abuse in Bengali households. Resources: The National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) www.ndvh.org National Dating Abuse Helpline 1-866-331-9474 www.loveisrespect.org National Child Abuse Hotline/Childhelp 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) www.childhelp.org National Sexual Assault Hotline 1-800-656-4673 (HOPE) www.rainn.org N...
TikTok Aspirations & Bad Predictions
June 23, 2020 12:00 - 36 minutes - 25.3 MBIn this ultra-casual episode, which Raida claims "made her dumber," Bushra and Raida talk about a whole lot of nothing for 36 minutes. From Bushra's inability to consume fruit to a religious perspective on drawing faces to what is on their TikTok 'For You' pages, this stream of consciousness will make you regret ever getting into podcasts in the first place. *This is a fully-improvised episode. You have been warned.*
Black Lives Matter
June 03, 2020 21:00 - 25 minutes - 17.2 MBIn this episode, Bushra and Raida talk about how to be actively anti-racist and urge their South Asian community to challenge existing problematic mindsets and take action. Helpful resources below: Arizona Organizations to Donate to: Black People’s Justice Fund - Metro Phoenix Phoenix Mutual Aid Network Puente Human Rights Network National Organizations to Donate to: George Floyd Memorial Fund Justice for Breonna Minnesota Freedom Fund Black Visions Collective Reclaim the Block Campai...
Can Guys & Girls Be Just Friends?
May 16, 2020 23:00 - 32 minutes - 22.3 MBIn this episode, Bushra and Raida are the most honest they've been in a while. From falling in love to heartbreak, they talk about it all.
Enduring Love & Stealing Pillows
May 06, 2020 20:00 - 48 minutes - 33.4 MBIn this episode, Raida and Bushra talk about seeing each other for the first time in months (from a distance) and what an absolutely jarring experience it was. They also talk about revisiting an old shared dream of theirs, while Raida debuts a song about love that could easily win the next Grammy. Somewhere in between, they talk about love (as though they understand it at all), how they're vibing halfway through Ramadan, and the time Raida stole the pillow from right under her mom's head whi...
Ghost Hunting is a Good First Date
April 23, 2020 09:00 - 47 minutes - 32.5 MBIn this episode, Raida grills Bushra for failing the online friendship quiz she made, while Bushra asks Raida to stop obsessing over Ted Bundy. Also, Raida thinks ghost hunting is a good first date, and Bushra thinks Raida is stupid. In between, the two discuss work struggles, their revised views on the evil eye, and how they're prepping themselves for a fully-quarantined Ramadan 2020. Also, don't let this fact steer you away from the podcast, but did you know Bushra eats whole lemons as a...
Harriet Potter & the Evil Eyes
April 15, 2020 08:00 - 41 minutes - 28.7 MBIn this episode, Bushra and Raida discuss the concept of the “evil eye” in desi cultures. Raida is too skeptical about everything, and Bushra accidentally wears a white dress to a henna party. Also, Raida tries to tell the only jinn story that’s ever scared her (“tries”), and Bushra looks like Harriet Potter with the burn mark on her forehead. Enjoy!
Happy Lists & Strange Habits
April 07, 2020 09:00 - 47 minutes - 32.7 MBIn this episode, Bushra and Raida talk about the shows they've been watching, the boys they've been loving (not really), and the things they've been doing. Raida is an idiot and finds difficulty in distinguishing between a tiger and a lion, and Bushra has a couple of screws loose and sleeps with a pillow over her head, instead of under. Enjoy!
Gorls Night: Double Standards & Desi Drama
March 30, 2020 07:00 - 1 hour - 45.9 MBIn this episode, Raida and Bushra bring some of their best friends on to talk about the double standards Desi girls face in the community. From having weird curfews to hiding their locations to getting blasted at dawats (Desi people parties), these girls talk about it all. Of course, they're all still quarantined, and so, hearing six girls over Skype might pop one of your eardrums. You have been warned. Boom, boom, boom, I wanna hear you say Wayhoooo. Enjoy. Desi---> ppl from Indian/Paki...
Imagining Ourselves on the Bachelor
March 23, 2020 21:00 - 27 minutes - 19 MBIn this episode, Bushra and Raida talk about the absurdity that is Love is Blind and the Bachelor, and imagine what life would be like if they were contestants. Bushra also reflects on her final year of college and discusses having her college graduation canceled due to the virus. In between, the two talk about reviving their motivation for the podcast, being lonely, and a ton of other things that prove a clear decline in intelligence as the episode progresses. Anyways, welcome to episode 1...
Coronavirus & Car Crashes
March 23, 2020 20:00 - 37 minutes - 25.9 MBFirst and foremost, Raida and Bushra apologize for the extremely morbid title. In this episode, they talk about how their lives have changed since the escalation of the global pandemic. Also, Raida almost loses her shit trying to explain to Bushra a car crash she saw outside her bedroom window. Enjoy episode 16*--hope you're all staying safe, healthy, and sane during this time. *Please note that we're by no means trying to diminish the seriousness of the Coronavirus. We're simply providi...
Ugly Crying & Getting Catcalled
March 03, 2020 19:00 - 42 minutes - 29.2 MBIn this episode, Raida and Bushra recount their recent trip to San Francisco, which included getting approached by scary strangers on the street, accidentally running into the set of Matrix 4, and missing the chance to meet their lover, Jake Gyllenhaal. The two also discuss seeing each other cry for the first time ever and just how jarringly ugly that was. Welcome to episode 15. It’s awful, but you’ll love it.
Getting a Job & Being a Woman in CS
February 27, 2020 07:00 - 34 minutes - 23.5 MBIn this episode, which Raida almost lost her goddamn mind editing, the two talk about the job Bushra received literally six minutes before recording as well as Raida's new job. They also say a bunch of nonsensical bullcrap in between and throw in a couple tidbits about being a woman in the Computer Science world. Welcome to episode 14; we're losing our shit.
Just Say You're Sorry
February 20, 2020 00:00 - 47 minutes - 32.9 MBBushra and Raida open this week's episode by trying their hand at ASMR* (spoiler alert: Bushra sucks at it). The two also discuss the idea of a "pure" significant other, the reason brown people are often terrible at saying sorry, and the harsh consequences of unreciprocated love. Enjoy, and if you enjoyed the episode, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts! It helps us out a lot. DTA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/donttellammu/?hl=es *ASMR segments are at the beginning and end...
A Valentine's Week Special
February 13, 2020 01:00 - 30 minutes - 20.7 MBIn this week's episode, Raida and Bushra talk about their Valentine's Day traditions, the Jonas brothers, and their biggest insecurities. The two also discuss their pet peeves about each other, which is good, because maybe now Bushra won't flake on everything, and Raida might actually show up to something on time.
The One Kid Who Got Coronavirus on Our Campus & More
February 03, 2020 05:00 - 42 minutes - 29.1 MBIn this fully-improvised episode, Bushra and Raida talk about the atmosphere on their 77,000-person campus after a single student contracted the Coronavirus. They also talk about losing valuable friendships, making confessions, not being passive-aggressive, and why this episode almost didn't happen (and probably shouldn't have). Enjoy!
A Conversation With Friends About Friendship
January 27, 2020 02:00 - 49 minutes - 33.8 MBThe one where Raida and Bushra let their friends run the show. An impromptu conversation about friendship, toxic individuals, defining success, and more. Our Guests: Noshin, Alvi, & Raheeq
The Mental Health Taboo in Desi Culture
January 27, 2020 02:00 - 39 minutes - 27.2 MBIn this episode, Raida and Bushra talk about the stigma of mental health in the desi community (also applicable to many other cultures). They discuss personal experiences, the mindset of their culture towards mental health, and ways to mitigate the taboo. Helplines: Crisis Text Line: text REASON to 741741 National Alliance on Mental Illness: 1-800-950-6264 National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 National Hopeline Network: 1-800-784-2433 National Council on Alcoholism & Drug D...
Being Vegan & Feeling Unattractive in a Hijab
January 20, 2020 20:00 - 49 minutes - 34.1 MBIn today's episode, Bushra and Raida decide to go vegan, in hopes that it will give them more energy. The two also discuss a new movie, Hala, which debuted at the 2019 Sundance Film Festival and claims to show a realistic portrayal of a modern-day desi Muslim girl. Finally, Raida opens up about her experiences and struggles as a hijabi, while Bushra shares what it was like to be the only non-hijabi in her elementary and middle school.
An Outsider in Our Own Home
January 13, 2020 20:00 - 48 minutes - 33.1 MBAfter not seeing each other for an entire month, Raida and Bushra are finally back together, curious to see if their highly-celebrated friendship is still intact. In the span of 48 minutes, the two recount their winter breaks, discuss their goals for the new year, and talk about growing up as first-generation Bengali Americans and the effect that has on their experiences in the motherland. And due to jetlag, or maybe inherent idiocy, this episode offers much more than just that. Happy 2020...
Turkish Baths & Other Embarrassing Stories
December 30, 2019 22:00 - 58 minutes - 40.4 MBIn the final episode of 2019, which, in the words of Bushra, sounds like it was recorded in a gas station bathroom, Raida and Bushra recap their year but also tell their most embarrassing period stories. Plus, Bushra refuses to go to a hammam (Turkish bath) with Raida, and it puts their friendship at stake. Welcome to episode 6. Hope your ears still work after this (we’re not joking). ***Seriously, the audio quality is TERRIBLE***
Not Meant to Be
December 15, 2019 16:00 - 55 minutes - 38 MBIn this episode, Bushra and Raida tell two vastly different stories on love. One ends in heartbreak, while the other with a parting love letter. And while the former may have been of sincere love, the latter was probably not as dramatic as it sounds. Welcome to episode five; sixty minutes you definitely don’t want Ammu listening to.
Not Meant to Be
December 15, 2019 16:00 - 55 minutes - 38 MBIn this episode, Bushra and Raida tell two vastly different stories on love. One ends in heartbreak, while the other with a parting love letter. And while the former may have been of sincere love, the latter was probably not as dramatic as it sounds. Welcome to episode five; sixty minutes you definitely don’t want Ammu listening to.
Avoiding Love on a Cruise Ship
December 10, 2019 15:00 - 41 minutes - 28.8 MBIn this episode, Raida and Bushra talk about the number of white men on the Mindy Project and whether that's problematic for the show. Also, Raida tells the worst story about falling in love on a cruise ship, while Bushra discusses why she really only wants to marry a Bengali boy one day. Welcome to today's episode: a whole lot of talk about nothing (and interracial relationships).
On Foot Modeling and Dating
December 03, 2019 00:00 - 47 minutes - 32.8 MBIn this week's episode, Raida and Bushra call out the judgement within their own community and share their perspective on dating in Islam. Plus, Raida reveals too much about her personal life on accident, and Bushra realizes that she may have missed out on a lucrative career in the foot modeling industry.