Here’s the spoiler:

The Most Important Thing You Have In Your Writing Career Is You


We know! We know! You were probably hoping for a cool app, or the perfect book about plot beats, but nope. It’s you.


You can’t write if you don’t exist. You write best when you’re doing pretty fine.


So here are the ways to actually invest in yourself.
Stay healthy for your brain

It’s pretty hard to write when you feel like crap because when your brain is all broken. As Harvard Healthbeat says, “First it is important to remember that you need a healthy body to have a healthy brain.”


How do you do that? According to Harvard:


Step 1: Eat a plant-based diet


Step 2: Exercise regularly


Step 3: Get enough sleep


Step 4: Manage your stress


Step 5: Nurture social contacts


Step 6: Continue to challenge your brain

Stay happy or at least okay. Relationships matter.

Stay happy or at least okay. Relationships matter.

Your relationships with other people are really important. They help you evolve. There’s a thing called the dependency paradox.


As Kyle Benson writes,


“Our partners powerfully affect our ability to thrive in life. They influence how we feel about ourselves, what we believe we are capable of, and they ultimately impact our attempts to achieve our dreams.


“Even Mr. Self-Actualization (Abraham Maslow) himself argued that without bonds of love and affection with others, we cannot go on to achieve our full potential as human beings.


“Once we choose a partner, there is no question about whether dependency exists or not. It always does.


“Countless studies show that once we become intimately attached to another human being, the two of us form one physiological being.

“Our partner regulates our blood pressure, our heart rate, our breathing, and the level of hormones in our blood. The emphasis of independence in adult relationships does not hold water from a biological perspective.”

There’s a link to Kyle’s post in our notes and it’s just so good, but the part that really rings true for writers and other creatives is this:


“When a partner is supportive, we are more willing to explore and our self-esteem and confidence gets a boost, which allows us to go after our deepest desires. This not only improves the quality of our lives, but it also deepens and enhances our satisfaction within the relationship and our physical health.


“But as many of us know, sometimes our exploration leads to failure, rejection, and painful experiences. When these bad events happen, our biological programming creates anxiety that leads us to seek proximity (physically and/or psychologically) with the person we love.


“If they are supportive during this stage, our stress will go down and we cope with our problems faster, which ultimately leads us to overcome the problem and continue to go after our deepest desires.”

So find those supportive partners and get rid of the rest!


The rest of the hints are over here! 


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The music we’ve clipped and shortened in this podcast is awesome and is made available through the Creative Commons License. Here’s a link to that and the artist’s website. Who is this artist and what is this song?  It’s “Summer Spliff” by Broke For Free.

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