The Paradox of Perfection: Why Striving for Flawlessness Could Be Derailing Love

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

- Partners feeling uncomfortable when not in control and sabotaging relationships

- Self-reflection and confronting the darker side

- Dating as an opportunity to work through these behaviors

- Emotional availability vs. moving at a different pace

- The significance of the spiritual component in relationships

- Learning to give unconditional love to receive it

- Finding a partner to respect, admire, and accept

- Letting go of perfectionism and inner critic

- Creating a safe space for failure

Key quotes:

"Some women hold themselves to impossibly high standards. And then, when they get into relationships which are unpredictable and unknown territory, it triggers a lot of insecurities and brings certain unattractive behaviors to the surface.” – Lisa Shield

“Some women are not only hard on men when they don't get what they want, but they’re also hard on themselves when they have to look at their own dark side." — Lisa Shield

"I have seen women let their corporate, high-achiever mentality spill over into their love lives. This can be a turn-off for men who don't want that in their relationships with women." — Lisa Shield

"Some women take it personally when a man isn't moving at their pace and saying and doing the things they feel he should be by a certain time. Their arbitrary timelines can cause them to sabotage relationships with good men who just need time to catch up to them." — Lisa Shield

"One of the mistakes I see many people make with personal growth work is that they get it intellectually, they get it conceptually, but they don't out it into practice." — Lisa Shield

"We all have to look at how to accept ourselves. To do that, we have to accept that we’re human and fallible and learn to love ourselves even with all of our imperfections." — Lisa Shield

“To be a loving, emotionally intelligent adult in a relationship, starts with letting go of the need to be perfect." — Lisa Shield

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Email the podcast at: [email protected]