Dating After Divorce

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211. The Christian Divorce, Healing and Remarriage with Elisabeth Klein

Special Announcement: Join me for my live event, Core Values Dating Live! Click here for details Episode Show notes: My guest today is the woman from whom I first learned that codependency was a thing. Elisabeth Klein has been a writer and mentor for Christian women for decades. In this episode, Elisabeth shares her story of a 20-year marriage that ended in divorce due to hidden drinking,  emotional abuse, controlling behavior, and lying. Despite initially vowing to never remarry, Elis...

210. Shame and the Impact on Relationships with Karen C. L. Anderson

Shame is a painful emotional experience that can stem from childhood experiences and societal conditioning, especially for women. In this episode, I had Karen C. L. Anderson on for her second guest appearance on the podcast. We talked about her new book, You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma and Shame about generational trauma and shame between mothers and daughters from a personal perspective. Key Takeaways: - Recognizing shame involves paying attention to underlying tho...

Shame and the Impact on Relationships with Karen C. L. Anderson

Shame is a painful emotional experience that can stem from childhood experiences and societal conditioning, especially for women. In this episode, I had Karen C. L. Anderson on for her second guest appearance on the podcast. We talked about her new book, You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma and Shame about generational trauma and shame between mothers and daughters from a personal perspective. Key Takeaways: - Recognizing shame involves paying attention to underlying tho...

209. Dating from the Good Man's Perspective with Sandy Weiner

Have you ever wondered what dating looks like from the good guys' side? My guest this week on the Dating after Divorce podcast is Sandy Wiener, a dating coach who works with both men and women. Sandy shares the what her male clients experience on the apps on their journey to find love and commitment, and what women who date men can do to connect with them. Key episode takeaways: - Dating after divorce can be challenging but there are good people out there on both sides. It takes work to ...

208. Dating - The Friends with Benefits Edition with Jamie Milam

In this episode, Jamie Milam shares her journey through divorce, offering wisdom for those navigating the entangled paths of real estate, mental health, and the exhilarating leap back into dating post-divorce. My conversation with Jamie dives into the intricacies of post-trauma dating. We share stories of moving cities and life transitions, underpinning the theme that change, although challenging, can be the catalyst for profound self-discovery.  We explore the essence of modern relationshi...

207. Client Success Story: Stopping the Numbers Game and Finding Her Perfect Fit with Lee

Happy New Year! I’m excited to bring you the first podcast episode for the year with my client, Lee. Lee shares her real experiences of dating after divorce.  She had been on hundreds of dates before working with me. Just a few shifts made all the difference for her to meet the partner she wanted.  They have young children the same age, have the same spiritual and political values and he gets along amazingly with her family. Plus, he was the exact level of attractiveness Lee wanted. Enjoy th...

206. Dating After Divorce: Expat Edition with Becca Maxwell

Welcome back to another episode, where I'm joined by Becca Maxwell, and our conversation is both relatable and insightful. Starting off, Becca opens up about her journey to finding love after her divorce. She emphasizes the importance of self-focus during tough times and shares how her corporate background in relationship management has influenced her role as a divorce coach. We then shift gears to explore the challenges of dating as an expat in Asia. Against the odds, Becca found her husb...

206. Episode 206 - Dating After Divorce: Expat Edition with Becca Maxwell

Welcome back to another episode, where I'm joined by Becca Maxwell, and our conversation is both relatable and insightful. Starting off, Becca opens up about her journey to finding love after her divorce. She emphasizes the importance of self-focus during tough times and shares how her corporate background in relationship management has influenced her role as a divorce coach. We then shift gears to explore the challenges of dating as an expat in Asia. Against the odds, Becca found her husb...

205. Dating Apps in 2024: Set Yourself Up For Success

Welcome back to my podcast, "Dating After Divorce." It's been a while since I've done a solo episode, and I'm thrilled to dive back into sharing practical, hands-on advice to propel your dating journey forward. Today, I'm focusing on a crucial aspect of modern dating: succeeding on dating apps in 2024. As a seasoned coach and someone who has navigated these waters personally (I met my husband on Bumble six years ago!), I understand the mixed feelings towards dating apps. They can seem daunt...

204. 5 Things You Need for a Successful Long Distance Relationship with Dr. Manuela Powell

On today's episode, I'm joined by the incredible life coach, Dr. Manuela Powell. She focuses on women over 40 and illuminates the challenges these women face, oftentimes shadowed by societal norms and patriarchal structures. We get candid about motherhood expectations, societal norms, and personal identity. I share my own story of feeling subservient to my children and others, despite my independence and success and how I uncovered my true self, shedding the weight of these expectations. Dr...

203. Reinventing Yourself and Finding Love Again After Divorce with Erica Bennett

Are you brave enough to pivot and redefine yourself post a life-altering event like divorce? My guest on today's episode, Erica Bennett, has lived through it and emerged stronger than ever. A global training guru, empowerment coach, and host of the Crazy X Wives Club podcast, Erica takes us on the journey of her healing and self-discovery after divorce. From the raw emotions and trying times of her two-year separation period to finding acceptance and the courage to let go, Erica's story is a...

202. Dating After a 60-Day Marriage with Christal Allen-Harrahill

Picture this. You've been single for a while, and you're on the hunt for the perfect partner. But instead of finding your Prince Charming, you're constantly dealing with toads. Sounds familiar? If so, then this episode is for you. My guest, Christal Allen-Harrahill, a certified life and marriage coach, unpacks her journey of love and relationships. Christal isn't shy about sharing her own experiences, from her first marriage, which ended in divorce, to her blissful life now with her second h...

201. No One's Coming to Save You: Reclaiming Self-Sovereignty in Your Career, Relationships, and Life with Jamie Lee

Today's Episode is from my conversation with Jamie Lee Jamie Lee on the Negotiate Your Career Growth Podcast. I talk about my immigration to the US from Nigeria and my journey of ascending the corporate ladder, starting from a customer service role and tenaciously working her way up to higher positions. I share my personal growth story post-divorce and how I transitioned from the corporate world to life coaching, focusing on helping divorced women over 40 navigate the dating scene. Having e...

200. From Fairytale to Divorce to Real Love with Armony Mangin

What if you could hit the reset button after personal heartbreak and discover a whole new world of self-discovery, resilience, and love? On this episode, my inspiring guest, Armony Mangin takes us through her incredible journey - from surviving a 7.2 earthquake in Haiti and crossing hostile checkpoints, to combating depression, parental burnout, and the emotional fallout of divorce.  While going through divorce, Armony promised herself one thing: she would not let a non functioning relation...

199. Loving Life and Finding Love After Divorce with Kelly Bonanno

Kelly Bonanno is a Wellness Coach and Life Coach for Divorced People. She shares her journey through the emotional and logistical turmoil of getting divorced after 26 years. Kelly shares her experiences of starting over, dating post-divorce, and finding love again. We delve into the complex world of love, infatuation, and dating after divorce. Kelly offers valuable insights on how to differentiate fleeting infatuation from enduring love, and the importance of a calm and logical approach to...

198. The Journey to True Self-Connection with Coco Madari

In this episode, Coco Madari talks about their history of navigating through relationships filled with control, abuse, and gaslighting, and how self-help and therapy became their lifeline in such circumstances.  This episode isn't just about relationships; it's about the high stakes that we invest in them, the addictive nature of these bonds, and how to handle them when they become overwhelming. Coco Madari shares their tale of self-doubt birthed from harmful romantic and familial relations...

197. Centering Yourself in Your Dating and Relationships with Caitlin Liz Fisher

My guest on the podcast today is Caitlin Liz Fisher, a creativity coach. She shares the story of her first two marriages - the first marked by imbalance and settling, the second by non-monogamy, gaslighting, and abuse. Caitlin's story is one of resilience, strength, and the power of self-love. She takes us through her inspiring transformation and how she moved from chaotic relationships to a healthy, loving bond with her current partner. Her "Yikes Rule", a gauge for determining the potent...

196. Expectations of Dating Failure

On this episode of the podcast, I unravel the cycle of fear, shame, and the expectation of failure in dating and how it holds women back from experiencing true success in relationships. Feelings of despair, resignation, and avoidance can hinder your dating progress. This is why it's important to channel your feelings to make wiser decisions. It's time to stop comparing ourselves to others and confront emotional barriers that keep you from taking the confident steps you should be taking in ...

195. T.H.R.I.V.E and Date with Purpose After Divorce with Tonya Carter

If you have ever found yourself questioning the societal framework of marriage and divorce or are curious about how to navigate the complex world of relationships post-divorce, you'll find this episode insightful. I'm joined on the Podcast by Tonya Carter, an accomplished marriage and relationship exit strategist. This episode shines a spotlight on mental and emotional resilience, recognizing it as the greatest challenge that accompanies this journey. We take a look into the post-divorce da...

194. Healing from Divorce through Decluttering with Amelia Pleasant Kennedy

If you have ever felt overwhelmed by a cluttered space, or judged yourself harshly for a lack of tidiness you'll find this episode insightful as I am joined by Amelia Pleasant Kennedy, a Certified Life Coach, Professional Organizer, Fair Play Facilitator, and the CEO of A Pleasant Solution.  Amelia shares insight on the complexities of detaching our thoughts from our physical spaces and discusses the significance of recognizing green flags and positive signs of progress in our productivity ...

193. Accelerate Dating by Hacking Your Time with Vikki Louise Yaffe

Today, I am joined by a very special guest, Vikki Louise Yaffe, a feminist time coach.  If you have ever wondered how to redefine your relationship with time, not just in your day-to-day activities, but also in managing your relationships, you'll find this episode insightful as Vikki shares an intriguing perspective on time management and its impact on our lives. We delve deep into how to handle the challenge of accelerated decision-making in relationships, a concept that seeks to break fre...

192. Should Dating be Faster and Easier?

As a high-achiever, you may find dating more challenging than it ought to be. This episode is a must-listen for all ambitious individuals who often find themselves in the quest for quick results, even in their love lives. I take a candid look into the world of dating, deciphering why it often seems more difficult than it should be. I talk about the importance of patience and perseverance when navigating the dating landscape and look into the impacts of instant gratification, and how it eve...

191. Dating with Core Values

Ever feel like you're on a wild goose chase in your dating life, constantly second-guessing yourself? In this episode, I discuss about the importance of self-discovery and core value identification for a successful dating journey. I also talk about the importance of really listening to your inner voice in order to understand your wants, needs, and fears. This episode is a call to action for women to put themselves first and avoid the pitfall of self-doubt in the dating arena. You'll learn h...

190. Grief, Emergence and Dating After Divorce with Wendy Sloneker

Today's guest, Wendy Slonaker, is a grief and emergence coach. In this episode, she shares her transformative journey through the end of her marriages and her paths to her authentic identity. Wendy talks about how she used Al-Anon, a 12-step program, to uncover her codependency issues and how she learned to love herself enough to enter a healthy relationship with her wife, Jennifer.  Wendy offers her take on using dating apps for self-discovery and personal growth. We dive into the importan...

189. How to Meet Someone New At a Social Event (without being a Weirdo)

Don't let anxiety prevent you from finding the love of your life! Tune in and uncover how to conquer your fears, genuinely connect with others, and ultimately discover the romantic partner you've been searching for. Whether you're meeting people in person or through dating apps, the key lies in being true to yourself and embracing the energy of human connection. Let's kick-start your journey to love and happiness – without any awkwardness! We dive deep into the root causes of social anxiety...

188. Relationship Anxiety - The Source of Most Dating Woes

Are you struggling with relationship anxiety? In this episode, I share my insights on how anxiety can cause a fluctuating sense of self when we're around people and why it can be hard to pinpoint the root of the issue. Listen in as we explore how relationship anxiety can manifest as fear, anger, or annoyance and how it can lead to jumping into relationships too quickly or putting up barriers to avoid vulnerability. We also discuss how to evaluate for compatibility and character without putti...

187. Mastering Money, Relationships, and Personal Growth with Mariko Gordon

Ever wondered how the connection between money, relationships, and personal growth can impact your life? Join us for an insightful conversation with Mariko Gordon, a mentor for women who want to start a business, better manage their finances, or work through a tricky patch in life or business. Discover how Mariko founded a $2.5 billion money management firm from scratch and how our relationship with ourselves is reflected in our relationship with money. Navigating finances in second relatio...

186. Divorce and Breaking Chains of Societal Expectations with Life Coach Brig Johnson

Have you ever felt like you were living a life that wasn't yours? Like you were just going through the motions, trying to please everyone else but yourself? My friend and fellow life coach, Brig Johnson, knows that feeling all too well. In this powerful conversation, Brig shares her inspiring journey of finding her true self in the midst of a crumbling marriage and forging a new identity that led her to become a multiple six-figure life coach. We dive deep into the mental load that women ca...

185. Choosing a Man Who Fits Your Social Life

Have you ever noticed how challenging it can be to find a partner who truly complements your lifestyle, especially when juggling work and social commitments? My personal experience with this overlooked aspect of dating led me to explore the importance of considering factors like career, business, brand, and professional sphere of influence when searching for a life partner.  Join me in this episode as I discuss customizing your dating journey to find someone who fits seamlessly into your so...

184. Dating As a Goal and How to Take Action with Sarah Arnold-Hall

What if you could take control of your dating life and create opportunities for finding love? Join us in this eye-opening conversation with Sarah Arnold Hall, a high-performance coach from Wellington, New Zealand. Sarah shares her incredible journey of dating after deciding she wanted a romantic relationship where she felt safe, loved, and cherished. We discuss how taking action and believing in yourself can lead to finding the right partner, rather than leaving matters to chance.  Together...

183. Dating Decisions: How to Know When He's the One

Making decisions in dating after divorce can be incredibly challenging, especially when it comes to figuring out if the person you're seeing is the right one for you. In this episode, I share my insights on how to navigate these tough decisions and recognize the signs that it's time to let go of a relationship that isn't working. Listen in as I discuss how not all nice guys are a match for you, and why a 60-70% match might not be enough to make a relationship work. I also share my personal e...

182. Owning Your Pleasure after Divorce with Amber Taylor

What if prioritizing pleasure could revolutionize your life after a divorce? On this episode of the podcast, I had a fascinating conversation with Amber Taylor, a fellow coach and pleasure priority expert who shared her personal journey of healing after her divorce. Amber revealed how focusing on pleasure and joy transformed her world, and how she now helps others do the same through her coaching. We discussed the connection between processing trauma and the joy and passions we experience i...

181. Dating after Divorce for Fiercely Independent Women with Dr. Stephanie Byerly

In this fascinating episode, I had the pleasure of chatting with Dr. Stephanie Byerly, a Trauma-informed Professional Coach, Obstetrical Anesthesiologist, and Certified Life Professional Coach. Stephanie bravely shared her personal journey through marriage, divorce, and finding love again, as well as the psychological struggles that come with being a successful, high achieving woman in leadership.  Listen in as we explore the impact of expectations, social norms, and external barriers on ou...

180. Dating and Choosing to Own Your Life with Elizabeth Sherman

Have you ever felt like the supporting actress in your own life, putting everyone else's needs before your own? In this episode with Elizabeth Sherman, a master certified health and life coach, we discussed the all-too-common experience of women sacrificing their needs for those around them to avoid feeling guilt, but creating resentment instead. Together, we explored the importance of reconnecting with oneself and asking for what we need, even if it means going against cultural and societal...

179. Done With Broke: Creating Financial Freedom with Dr. Latifat Akintade

Discover the path to financial liberation for women physicians with our incredible guest, Dr. Latifat Akintade, Money Coach for Badass Women Physicians, host of the Money Fit MD podcast, and bestselling author of Done With Broke.  We discuss the vital role money can play in navigating life after divorce. Many women have deferred to their partners in financial matters, leading to feelings of shame and guilt when they need to take control of their own finances. Dr. Latifat provides valuable i...

178. How to Take Control of Your Dating Experience

Are you tired of feeling stuck in your dating journey and ready to take charge of your love life? Join me as I share the importance of taking responsibility for your dating journey and how crafting a strategic approach can lead to better experiences and bring you closer to finding the person you're meant to be with.  I'll walk you through an example of a client who made a single shift in her approach and experienced incredible results, while emphasizing that everyone's blind spots and biase...

177. Dating and the Gifts of Neurodiversity with Dr. Krystal Sodaitis

In this fascinating episode, we're joined by Dr. Krystal Sodaitis, a board-certified pediatrician and expert in coaching physicians with neurodiversity. Dr. Sodaitis shares her own story of being a gifted child and how she came to the work of coaching physicians with neurodiversity. We explore the concept of neurodiversity, which embraces the idea that all differences in the brain fall into the spectrum of normal, and how having a high IQ can put people at risk for at-risk behaviors. We als...

176. Taking 100% Responsibility in Divorce, Dating and Relationships with Hailey Thomas

In this captivating episode, I had the pleasure of welcoming the amazing Hailey Thomas to share her unique journey through divorce, co-parenting, and dating after divorce. Hailey opens up about her journey towards taking full responsibility for her life and happiness, which ultimately led her to the decision to end her marriage amicably.  Hailey met her new partner after a couple of months of dating by applying her experience with marketing to the dating scene, being her authentic self on e...

175. "Dating without Overwhelm" with Michelle Gauthier

“There's no formulas for recovering from divorce” “ I long ago stopped caring what other people thought about me. It wasn't easy, because I used to really care but now it's like, I just care about me, what I think about myself, and what's best for my kids.” “But I learned how to just love people for who they are. And the power of doing that starting with myself, instead of thinking of all the ways that I'm lacking or whatever. And so just going into a relationship with that mindset is so d...

174. How to Stop Attracting Low-Effort Men

Are you tired of attracting low-effort men in dating and relationships, especially after divorce? It’s important that both partners in a relationship are truly invested in the success of the relationship.  In this episode I share my personal experience with high and low effort men when dating. You will discover the factors that may increase the likelihood of tolerating low effort relationships, such as societal expectations, gender socialization, childhood emotional neglect, codependency, ...

BONUS: The 7 Texts You Need to Send to Succeed at Online Dating

TRAINING: The 7 Texts that get you 1 - 2 in-person dates every week so you can meet your forever partner in less than 6 months without chasing, settling, or wasting time with non-committal men Discover Your "Core Values Dating Blueprint" And How You Can Use It On:  Dating Apps Text Messages  and Social Events To Meet & Attract Eligible Men Who Match You Dating with your Core Values helps you Easily Connect With Your True Match Partner (without chasing, settling, or wasting time with non...

173. Radical Self-Love Creates and the Energy of Money with Serena Hicks

"I just want everyone listening to know that money is for you and money loves you and money wants to move to you and flow/work through you...money loves you and you're worthy of love, dignity, and respect." -Serena Hicks My guest today is Serena Hicks, a money mindset mentor for love-led humans. We explored the relationship between love and money, discussing how “Holy Wow Money" is about radical self-love, radical service to others, and some serious pleasure activism.  Serena tells her mo...

173. Radical Self-Love and the Energy of Money with Serena Hicks

"I just want everyone listening to know that money is for you and money loves you and money wants to move to you and flow/work through you...money loves you and you're worthy of love, dignity, and respect." -Serena Hicks My guest today is Serena Hicks, a money mindset mentor for love-led humans. We explored the relationship between love and money, discussing how “Holy Wow Money" is about radical self-love, radical service to others, and some serious pleasure activism.  Serena tells her mo...

172. Remarriage, Losing 100 pounds and Making $14 million after Divorce with Corinne Crabtree

“I made the critical decision that day that I was going to change. There was no more trying. There was no more anything. I was just going to figure out how to change.” “If we intellectually know what we need to do, we just need to go out there and do it while we’re learning how to make taking that action less painful.”  - Corinne Crabtree This week, my special guest on the Dating After Divorce podcast is Corinne Crabtree. Corinne grew up poor, without a father figure, struggling with her...

171. Client Success: Finding Love at 63 with Linda

"I think the biggest thing is yes, I got a boyfriend for Christmas and it was so exciting." "In the past I've stayed in relationships before that weren't for me and that was something I wanted to not repeat." "Having that support, I think it was essential because I don't think I could have done this on my own. I needed the guidance...we don't know it all, we need help in life." In this episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with my client Linda, who shared her post-divorce dating journe...

170. The Generous Prenup with Laurie Israel

My guest on today’s episode is Laurie Israel. Many of my clients have had questions about how to handle finances when remarrying on partnering again after divorce, so I was excited to bring her on the podcast to talk about prenups and how they could be useful. Laurie pulled back the curtain on prenups and laws around money, contribution and shared her views about generosity and its role in relationships. Enjoy the episode! “A lot of people are encouraged by the media, and what they’re rea...

169. When and How to Go Exclusive with a Partner

It's important to take your time to go exclusive and know when and exactly how to make it happen. Too many women say no too early because they feel guilty that taking their time means stringing a man along. Or they get pressured into saying yes too early because they don't want to be the bad person and disappoint anyone This is the stage where you must evaluate whether "your type" is really what you need and is even a healthy relationship at all Where you decide that you want the healthy...

168. Dating App Texting Anxiety

Today’s Podcast is about Dating App Texting Anxiety Texting is the playground of the worst dating games and it's why many dating journeys end before they even begin The myth is that you have to trick a good man into liking you So you do things in a weird way and overthink what to write This stage causes so many people to give up because it's exhausting My overall philosophy is to treat every stage of dating like you would a normal networking event Texting is like email where you are e...

167. Troubleshoot Your Dating Profile

Today's episode is special! This episode is one of the live videos for the 10 DATES IN 30 DAYS CHALLENGE currently going on in the Dating After Divorce Academy. Here are some of my best tips on troubleshooting your dating profile. This episode will help you to better understand how to improve your dating profile. These tips will help you to get better results in your dating journey.   Discover Your "Core Values Dating Blueprint" And How You Can Use It On:  Dating Apps Text Messages ...