Break the Cycle with DSD
204 episodes - English - Latest episode: 2 months ago - ★★★★★ - 34 ratingsThe podcast focusing on recovering from toxic narcissistic relationships with specific help to break the cycle of abuse for yourself and children. All are welcome and this podcast, and YouTube channel, serve both men and women, moms and dads. Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
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Episodes
Getting provoked by the narcissistic ex
November 03, 2020 15:46 - 59 minutes - 54.9 MBIn this episode Duane discusses an example of how the ex has tired to provoke him into a negative reaction. You have to remember these people will continue the same tired tactics over and over again. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
Why does everyone believe a narcissist
November 02, 2020 15:37 - 1 hour - 55.2 MBIn this episode Duane discusses the various ways a narcissistic person is able to convince people to believe their stories and how sometimes they ultimately lose in court --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
Use their narcissistic patterns to your advantage
October 30, 2020 14:41 - 59 minutes - 54.8 MBIn this episode Duane discusses way you can use your knowledge of narcissistic behavioral patterns to your advantage. Two callers share their stories on how they were able to “win” in court. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
Co-parenting with a toxic ex ft. Dr. Amy Baker, Phd
October 29, 2020 01:21 - 53 minutes - 49.1 MBIn today’s episode Dr. Amy JL Baker, PhD joins the show to talk about ways to deal with parental alienation and when you have to try and co-parent with a toxic ex. Dr. Baker has a PhD in developmental psychology, is the author and/or co-author of 8 books and over 120 articles. She is also a nationally recognized expert in parental alienation. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
Most of the time all this bad is leading to something good
October 27, 2020 14:47 - 1 hour - 55 MBIn this episode Duane discusses how oftentimes the pain and trauma that we endure through this situations are leading us, or guiding us, to a better situation. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
The successes of NOT taking the bait
October 26, 2020 14:48 - 59 minutes - 54.7 MBIn this episode Duane discusses the difficulties of realizing they are not who we thought and that we now are the latest in a long time of “abusers”. We also discuss some success stories of exposing the true nature of a toxic ex. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
Ex has “right” to NOT see their kids
October 23, 2020 14:47 - 56 minutes - 52.2 MBThis episode is more causal and we discuss things from absent parents, resiliency in children and concerns of alienation --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
Does this narcissistic nightmare stop?
October 22, 2020 14:47 - 1 hour - 55.1 MBIn this episode Duane discusses the recurring fear that the alienation will not be broken and everyone will believe the narcissist’s lies --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
Father's Rights vs Family Law ft. Melissa Isaak from Isaak Law Firm
October 21, 2020 14:43 - 1 hour - 55.2 MBMelissa Isaak from the Isaak Law firm based in Montgomery Alabama discusses family law and the extra efforts men have to go through to survive --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
Figuring out your life after narcissistic abuse
October 20, 2020 14:40 - 1 hour - 55.1 MBFiguring our your life after narcissistic abuse is tough and in this episode Duane goes down the rabbit hole and talks about ways to get out --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
How can a narcissist keep you in fear
October 19, 2020 14:37 - 1 hour - 55.2 MBIn this episode we discuss the trap of being stuck in fear and running scenarios in our heads over and over again --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
Triggers and the deep trauma behind them | it might not be what you think | ft. Kris Godinez
October 16, 2020 15:19 - 1 hour - 55 MBKris Godinez, We Need to Talk with Kris Godinez, returns to discuss the topic of triggers, ptsd, c-ptsd, and ways to take your life back. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
Managing your stress and anxiety before trial | do not let the narcissist break you
October 15, 2020 14:45 - 1 hour - 55 MBDuane discusses the struggles of preparing for trail and the stress and anxiety that comes with it! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
Ex playing games with medical | when should you settle
October 14, 2020 14:32 - 1 hour - 55.2 MBIn this episode Duane discusses games with medical billing and expenses, deciding if a settlement is “good”, and young adult callers recognizing toxic relationships and seeking support. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
Deciding the right course of action (coa) against a narcissistic ex
October 13, 2020 14:28 - 1 hour - 55.1 MBIn this show Duane tackles the recurring question, what is the best course of action in court against a narcissistic, high conflict, toxic ex who ENJOYS the “fight”. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
Damaged people damage people - how toxic people
October 12, 2020 14:33 - 59 minutes - 54.9 MBIn this episode we discuss how damaged and hurt people hurt others. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
Breaking the toxic patterns of our lives
October 09, 2020 14:41 - 1 hour - 55.2 MBDuane discusses the struggles of creating new patterns and breaking the old ones --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
Winning a Toxic Narcissistic Divorce | Attorney Marco Brown
October 08, 2020 14:46 - 1 hour - 55 MBMarco Brown, a Divorce Attorney based in Salt Lake City Utah joined Duane to discuss high conflict divorce and strategies to deal with them. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
Figuring the narcissist out | it’s a trap
October 07, 2020 14:38 - 58 minutes - 53.8 MBIn this episode Duane discusses the trap of trying to figure the narcissist out and how that can slow down our healing and growth. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
Blame shifting with Amber Heard
October 06, 2020 14:58 - 1 hour - 55.1 MBDuane is joined again by Leslee Powers from Spiritually Empowered Coaching to discuss blame shifting and examples of how Amber Heard uses these techniques --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
Recovering when the narcissist has the upper hand
October 05, 2020 14:45 - 1 hour - 55 MBIn this start of the week show Duane tackles some hard issues where a listener’s disability was used against them to lose custody --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
Be strategic in your communication | anticipate retaliation
October 02, 2020 14:57 - 59 minutes - 54.6 MBDuane discusses the importance of being strategic in your communication and anticipating a toxic ex’s retaliation --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
People don’t see what you do | how a narcissist can use your perception against you
October 01, 2020 14:30 - 58 minutes - 53.6 MBIn today’s show Duane discusses the dynamic of why people do not understand our perspective. He also addresses how a narcissistic ex can use that against us with other people. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
Keeping the door open | how to not make things worse
September 30, 2020 14:35 - 1 hour - 55 MBDuane discusses with a caller some ways to try to repair the relationship with his 18 year old son. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
Stop fighting with a narcissist | what is your sanity worth?
September 29, 2020 14:56 - 59 minutes - 54.5 MBMaking the decision of when to fight with a narcissistic ex and when to let things go. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
Adapt when things don’t go as planned | rolling with it when the narcissist creates chaos
September 25, 2020 14:46 - 59 minutes - 54.7 MBLearning to adapt is a critical skill when dealing with a narcissist. In the this episode Duane discusses his experience and struggles with having to adapt, in real time - with constant change and chaos --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
Be selective who you share your story with | most people do not understand
September 24, 2020 14:30 - 59 minutes - 54.9 MBDuane starts the show addressing a comment from a listener about talking with people who do not understand. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
Dealing with narcissistic games is draining | how to maintain your perseverance and sanity
September 23, 2020 14:30 - 1 hour - 55 MBIn today’s show Duane talks about the inherent strength we all have and how you’re so much stronger than you think! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
Amber Heard & Johnny Depp | The making of a toxic narcissist
September 22, 2020 14:59 - 1 hour - 55.2 MBDuane is joined by Leslee Powers from Spiritually Empowered Coaching to discuss the Amber Heard Johnny Depp case. Leslee has a series where she has been covering the details of the court transcripts. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
Crazy making behavior | they want you to react to them
September 21, 2020 14:36 - 59 minutes - 54.9 MBIn today’s show Duane talks about various examples of crazy making behavior and how they are constantly working to get you to respond and react. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
It feels like forever after a toxic narcissistic divorce
September 18, 2020 14:41 - 59 minutes - 54.8 MBIn this show Duane talks about how it feels like it will take forever to recovery from a high conflict narcissistic divorce. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
Forcing a narcissist to be a good parenting | exercise in frustration
September 17, 2020 14:26 - 1 hour - 55 MBDuane talks about the struggle of trying to force your ex to be a good caring parent. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
Learning to live again | break the narcissist’s connection
September 16, 2020 14:37 - 1 hour - 55 MBTaking your life back and learning to live again --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
Deciding what is worth fighting far | when you have to confront the narcissist
September 15, 2020 14:35 - 1 hour - 55.1 MBDuane discusses the differences between the battles and the war and how to decide when you have to fight the narcissistic ex. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
Believing it will get better
September 14, 2020 14:46 - 1 hour - 55 MBIn this show we discuss how things get better and have stories from callers who are finding light at the end of the tunnel. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
Family Court machine fighting against you
September 11, 2020 15:03 - 1 hour - 55.1 MBIn this show Duane takes callers who are fighting the family court machine to have time with their children --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
Estranged parent/child relationships ft. Kris Godinez
September 10, 2020 15:14 - 1 hour - 55.3 MBDuane is joined today with Kris Godinez to talk about the effects of estranged parents. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
Beware of the “nice” and struggling with co-parenting counseling
September 09, 2020 14:28 - 1 hour - 55.1 MBIn today’s show Duane takes two callers one who is struggling dealing with the “nice” from their ex after his victory in court and then a caller who is court ordered to do co-parenting counseling and needs a strategy going forward. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
Financial Sanity and playing the “long game”
September 08, 2020 14:44 - 1 hour - 55 MBTalking finances and how to surviving the family court machine by focusing on the long game and making better decisions by re-baselining your life --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/break-the-cycle-with-dsd/support
Struggling with anxiety and fining support
September 07, 2020 15:32 - 1 hour - 55 MBOn today’s Labor Day show we start out with a call struggling with their ex ignoring and rejecting their child. Duane then rants about why these people just can’t even pretend to actually love their children. A listener then asks how Duane was able to prevent his ex from leaving the state with the kids. This rolls into a discussion on how family court is slow. Duane reminds everyone about the Thursday collaboration with Kris Godinez and another mystery guest that he is working on bringing...
Creative ways to bond with your kids
September 04, 2020 14:59 - 59 minutes - 54.9 MBToday’s Friday show starts with tips to bond with your children when you have limited to no funds. The key is giving them your time and attention and it can be a critical step in defending against parental alienation. Duane talks about one technique where he would spend 15 minutes dedicated to whatever the child wanted to do. He then goes on to describe the “creative day” they would do all together. We then discuss the troubles of comparing yourself to what your ex is doing. A listener a...
Disneyland Dad is it a bad thing?
September 03, 2020 14:39 - 1 hour - 55 MBOn today’s episode Duane starts off talking about the concept of “Disneyland Dad” and how no matter what you do a toxic ex is going to shame and ridicule everything you go. We then dive into the issue of how to deal with teachers when you have a toxic ex. Duane then discusses how important it is to “learn” the rules of the family court game. He then talks about being able to see the end of this in 3 years. A viewer then is struggling with comparing their situation to their ex who has fami...
Ex putting on “great parent” show
September 02, 2020 15:49 - 1 hour - 55 MBDuane starts today’s show talking about how a narcissistic parent can put on a show and have people think they are a great and attentive parent. We then tackle a question for a listener who is struggling with trust issues. Duane then takes a question of do the children ultimately realize something is wrong with the other parent. We then talk about how a narcissist will try to destroy you and you have to work against their efforts. A listener then comments about how a narcissist can not lo...
The Struggles of Family Court
September 01, 2020 14:35 - 1 hour - 55 MBIn today’s show Duane tackles the topic of family court issues. The show starts with a viewer asking what to expect in family court. Duane then shares a viewers story of perseverance and ultimate success through the system. He then discusses how a narcissistic toxic ex will try to bankrupt you financially and emotionally to get what they ant. We then have a return caller talking about their experience through the family court. We then have a caller who discusses the tactics they used to ...
Double Binds and how to deal with them
August 31, 2020 14:37 - 1 hour - 55.1 MBNarcissists are experts at creating and exploiting double binds. In today’s episode we start by talking about a viewer who is worried their spouse has compromised their phone, computer, and emails. Duane then mentions a schedule collaboration with Kris Godinez on her channel. A listener shares that their ex broke into their emails and downloaded steps 1 and 2 from their Alcoholic Anonymous notes sent to their sponsor. We then discuss what to say to your children about what is going on. D...
How to find a good therapist ft. Kris Godinez
August 28, 2020 16:14 - 1 hour - 55.1 MBIn this show Duane is joined by Kris Godinez from We Need to Talk with Kris Godinez show. Kris is a licensed professional counselor in Arizona and has a thriving practice there. Duane and Kris talk about the importance of therapy and some of the key things to look for when interviewing a therapist. They dive into the importance of rapport and the markings of a good trauma therapist. Kris then discusses how there are narcissists in the profession and how important it is to trust your gut. ...
Making the best decisions possible
August 27, 2020 15:05 - 56 minutes - 52.1 MBIn today’s show we tackle a lot of the issues that complicate making “good” decisions. We oftentimes get stuck trying to prove to ourselves what we are really dealing with. The discussion starts off with a question of, “what is the red pill”. Duane dives into the origins from the movie “The Matrix” and then how it pertains to our situation. We then cover a question where one listener’s son is saying he “wants a new mommy”. Duane then talks about how he was programmed to think his own fat...
Bringing only good into your life
August 25, 2020 14:40 - 1 hour - 55.1 MBIn today’s show Duane starts off discussing how important it is to focus on things that help improve your life and get you to where you are wanting to go. We then have a question about the struggles to accept that the relationship was a lie. A listener talks about their 8 year journey to find healing and growth. Duane then talks about an example his oldest son is going through where is mom is poking at him about his hair. This leads to a discuss on how much you can and should share with a...
Finding who you are - you get to be you
August 24, 2020 14:51 - 1 hour - 55.1 MBIn this show Duane discusses finding who you are and healing plus growing through these experiences. He then discusses his involvement with Veronika Archer and her “You Get to be YOU” Podcast Series that has over 32 experts in their respective areas. We then discuss how these experiences give you the opportunity to change the direction of your life. Duane then discusses how he used therapy with YouTube (Richard Grannon) to work through the emotional pain and trauma he was going through. A...
Don’t get stuck and let them win
August 21, 2020 14:56 - 1 hour - 55 MBThis was a rough show, the callers at the end has some bad and good news. The show starts with a comment from yesterday asking does the ex remarry to “hurt us”. Duane then discusses how we can get stuck ruminating the about the ex. Then we discuss ways to work around the ex when they are holding/hiding information. A caller shares how they have gotten their life back, became a nurse and overcome narcissistic abuse and the suicide of their child. Finally we have a caller who is struggling...