Be The Grown Up

Lessons From A 5 Year Old

Amazing what five year olds can tell you about the world ... 

The Game Of Life

The board game of life got a lot of things right ... and one BIG thing wrong.

The Long Game

Are you playing the short game or the long game?

This Stat Is No Joke

Sometimes, you hear something that stops you on a dime.  This is it.

Is It Really Wrong?

Best check your facts before starting to burn a relationship.

Incompetence

Was she really incompetent ... or just acting like it?

Are You Solving The Right Problem?

Turns out, I was focused on one problem when it turned out that wasn't my problem at all.

The Positivity Frame

Gratitude is like a super power ... but I realized I was using it in all but one critical area of my life.

Your Body Demands It

Being the busy people we are, we tend to shut off the needs of our bodies ... until they scream at us.

The Problem With Good

If you think things are "good," you have a problem.

10 Years Of Results

Lay Off

If you've ever had to do this, you know.  If you haven't, you have no idea.  

Circle Or Cage?

Do You Really Want What You Think You Want?

Fighting The Current

I fought the current ... and lost.

Best Laid Plans ...

The story of our daughter's first trip to Disneyland ... it didn't go quite as we planned.

The Ultimate Test of Patience

Your Power Source

Safety Net

I know people like to act macho and talk about not having a safety net ... but there is more they should be thinking about ... 

Bad Movie - Good Night

Here's the deal when you go to a bad movie ... 

What 3rd Grade Teaches You About Life

I wrote a note to my daughter during back to school night ... 

The Real Reason You Had Kids ...

You may not have thought about it before ... but why did you want kids in the first place?  I'll have you consider that it's probably NOT for any of the reasons you might have thought of before.

Why You're Not Satisfied ... Even When It's Great

Creating Space

How Kids Become Brats

It Was Too Close For Me To See

Baggage

Target is masterful at marketing ... especially around back to school time.

The Superhero Bias

What Is Your Mindset?

There are, at the core, two types of mindsets.  Which one do you have?

The ONE Thing You Can't Screw Up

You can make a lot of mistakes and screw things up in life ... but this is one you cannot screw up under any circumstances.

The Inevitable Distance

We only have so many years to connect with our kids when they still think we are awesome ... but those are also the most frustrating years as a parent.  Here's how to overcome that.

Quick Solutions And Multiple Tries

When you try to give quick answers, you may not understand the problem.

How Often Should You Celebrate?

More often than you think!

Guilt And Work

A lot of times, entrepreneurs feel guilty for not spending time with their families.  Here's why you shouldn't feel guilty.

There And Care

Sometimes we show up at events for our kids, but we're not really there.  The worst part is ... they know it.

Simplicity

We often make simple things really complex in our minds.  It's time to reverse engineer that.

How Parenting Becomes A Business Problem

This one came up from behind me and I didn't see it for about three years.  Hopefully this will help you see it sooner.

The Importance Of Experience

When I was 26, I thought the only thing that mattered was intelligence and potential.  I was dead wrong ... 

Feeling Alone

When you yell at your kids and then feel guilty right afterward, you can feel like you're the only one struggling with your kids.  The truth is, you're not alone.  

Think Your Kids Aren't Effecting Your Health?

I never thought the frustrations of being a parent would literally being killing me until my doctor told me this ... 

From Lovers To Parents

Before you had kids, you probably looked at them as "marriage enhancers" but once they were born, it feels like the opposite forces are at work.  

Power Vs. Force

What can a bear in the wild teach you about your parenting game?  Listen up to find out!

Saying The Words

These were some of the toughest words I've every had to say because I thought they sounded so bad coming out of my mouth.  It turns out, they were the words that set me free on put me on the path to making things better.

Course Correction

New problems call for new strategies to solve them ... yet most of us are using the same strategies we've always used to try to solve new problems.  

There Is No One Size Fits All

New problems require new skill sets to solve ... 

Chaos At The Toy Store

When we have too many options, chaos quickly follows.  The same is true of kids and adults.  No sure what I mean?  Listen up!

Never Enough Hours ...

Does it ever feel like there aren't enough hours in the day?  Do you want and need more time?  Conventional wisdom has you thinking about time either one or two dimensionally ... but time multipliers think about time three dimensionally.  Here's how to be a time multiplier.  

Time Out

We've all read about putting our kids in time out.  Some theories say this is effective and others say it flat doesn't work.  Here's a perspective on time outs you may not have heard.

How Many Times Do I Have To Repeat Myself?!

It's one of the most frustrating things we face as parents.  We ask our kids to do something, then repeat ... repeat ... repeat ... repeat.

Power and Control With Kids

There is a concept of power versus force.  When it comes down to it, we can't really force anyone to do anything.  Here's how you get power over them to do what you want them to do.