BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!
182 episodes - English - Latest episode: 11 months ago - ★★★★★ - 76 ratingsA podcast challenging the way our culture conditions us to talk about sex, intimacy, and healthy relationships.
Join us for provocative and entertaining conversations with experts- and leave with insight that will transform you and your relationships.
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Pleasure and Presence
June 14, 2023 10:37 - 1 hour - 92.6 MBDr. Kate Balestrieri is a sex-positive therapist whose clinical focus is to help people heal from trauma, establish healthy boundaries, build effective communication strategies, improve relationships, and enhance their sex lives. Her work places extra emphasis on the connection between thoughts, feelings, and physical sensations in order to help people create transformation in their lives and relationships through the mind-body connection. Guided by the synthesis of multiple theoretical ...
How to ask for what you want and get the life you deserve
June 06, 2023 15:28 - 1 hour - 98.8 MBDr. Jeremy Goldberg is a PhD scholar who spent the past five years studying the science of human behavior, specifically how attitudes affect action and how we can communicate to inspire greater and lasting change. He is a TEDx speaker, coach, founder of Love Distance Love Bombs and host of The Long Distance Love Bombs Podcast. We talk about how to stop being afraid of standing up for yourself or having hard conversations, learn how to ask for what you want and express your needs with confi...
Non-Monogamy? It’s more common than you think
May 30, 2023 14:31 - 55 minutes - 76.9 MBDr. Amy Moors research focuses on issues related to gender, sexuality, diversity, and well-being. For example, examining diverse expressions of sexuality, including how stigma affects well-being among sexual minorities and people engaged in consensually non-monogamous relationships. Her research has been featured in TIME, Scientific American, and The Atlantic. In addition to serving on the faculty at Chapman University, Dr. Moors is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute at Indiana Uni...
Your relationship with yourself is the portal to everything you want
May 16, 2023 10:28 - 49 minutes - 68.4 MBSasza was recently interviewed by Stella Stephanopoulos as a guest on the Everyday Endorphins podcast. We received so much positive feedback from it that we decided to reshare it here on the BBXX podcast! Stella interviews Sasza about building a deeper understanding of ourselves and how the relationship with ourselves is the pathway towards creating deeper, more intimate, relationships with others. They explore why many people tend to find romantic partners when they least expect it, wha...
Success Without Sacrifice
April 28, 2023 10:44 - 58 minutes - 80.6 MBWe talk about the mind-body connection, high performance habits, breaking down old beliefs, how to move from a state of mental stress to mental strength, and how to work towards the ultimate goal of success without sacrifice. We also share tips for how to design a “sensory diet” in order to escape from the overstimulation that plagues our modern day-to-day lives. Dr. Blossom is a doctor of occupational therapy and high performance coach. She works with high-achievers and high-achieving or...
Awareness → Exploration → Liberation
April 14, 2023 09:37 - 1 hour - 93.1 MBWe talk about the mind-body connection, how to influence our bodies through our mind—and inversely—how to influence our mind through our body. We explore what sex represents, the meanings we attach to it, and some common anxieties and fears underlying it. We discuss shame, the purpose it serves, where it originates from, and ways to liberate ourselves from shame through awareness and exploration of ourselves and our relationship to sex & sexuality. Arlyn Owens is a psychosexual therap...
Game Changers in a Relationship: Your Partner Doesn’t Need You
April 03, 2023 14:24 - 15 minutes - 20.7 MBA few months ago, I made up this thought exercise, and I couldn’t get it out of my head. I kept coming back to it, kept feeling relief from it, and kept getting positive feedback from people I had shared it with. It might be a tough pill to swallow, but it’s actually liberating, and it forces a perspective shift that can be game-changing in your relationship.
Game Changers in a Relationship: Risk vs. Responsibility
March 27, 2023 14:29 - 16 minutes - 23 MBThis is the story that challenged me in a big way—and a really great way. I’ve never thought of blame, accountability, or responsibility the same ever since, and it’s been game-changing in my relationships.
Live by Design, Not by Default
March 10, 2023 09:35 - 1 hour - 91.9 MBHave you ever felt frustrated with where you are in life? How did you get to where you are now? Did you choose the life you’re currently living or did it sort of happen by default? Have you consciously, intentionally designed the life you are living, or do you feel like things are happening to you and out of your control? These are some of the thought-provoking questions we reflect on as we explore how to live a life by design rather than by default! We talk about how to recognize when yo...
Everyday Endorphins: Habits For Happiness
March 02, 2023 14:41 - 1 hour - 103 MBWant to experience more positive feelings, a stronger sense of life satisfaction, and less negative emotions in your life? Join us for a conversation to uncover the key ingredients that will maximize your happiness and well-being. Stella Stephanopoulos is the host of the Everyday Endorphins podcast, which hosts conversations on the nuances of mental health and wellness with the goal of inspiring others to feel empowered to take control of their own wellbeing by focusing on what brings the...
Hot Tip: Try “Spoiling Sessions”
February 16, 2023 18:00 - 53 minutes - 73.1 MBThis is Part Three in a series of ongoing conversations with Adriana Robertson and Michael Fenchel about how to co-create your dream relationship. We talk about how to consciously create spaces for connection to thrive in your relationship, incorporating more fun and play into your relationship routine, and keeping the spark burning. We talk about how to establish agreements and boundaries that protect your partnership, tips and tricks for weekday or weekend connection rituals, and how...
Ask, Don’t Assume
February 07, 2023 18:04 - 56 minutes - 77.4 MBThis is Part Two in a series of ongoing conversations with Adriana Robertson and Michael Fenchel about how to co-create your dream relationship. We might think we know everything about our partner, but that’s not actually possible. We’re constantly learning and growing as individuals, and our relationships should also be evolving along with us. Approaching our relationship from a place of curiosity helps us create shared understanding in our relationships, which is one of the most importa...
Desires, Fears, and Boundaries in Relationships
January 27, 2023 11:10 - 1 hour - 105 MBThis is Part One in a series of ongoing conversations with Adriana Roberton and Michael Fenchel about how to co-create your dream relationship. We talk about the importance of shared understanding, defining agreements in your relationship, and strategies for repairing conflict. We explore desires, fears, and boundaries as a powerful tool for communication, as well as other tips, tricks, and strategies to include in your Couples Toolkit. Most importantly, we explore how to know when a rela...
Humans of Intimacy: The Hard & Ugly Part of The Journey
December 21, 2022 15:48 - 1 hour - 91.6 MBWhat’s one thing that you want to unlearn? Sometimes, it’s less about what we need to *learn* and more about what we need to *unlearn* in order to be able to live the life and the relationships that we truly desire. We talk about the biggest lessons learned from dating, challenges in the relationship with ourselves, the process of unlearning, normalizing the hard and ugly part of the journey, and advice for what to do when it feels like you’re deep in the mud of your own personal developme...
Humans of Intimacy: Your Inner Wisdom Already Knows
December 14, 2022 14:14 - 1 hour - 108 MBHow many of us have accepted ourselves fully, for everything that we are? Most of us still have a long way to go and many parts of ourselves still yet to be acknowledged let alone accepted. Adriana Robertson has become a master in helping people reclaim the many different pieces of themselves—the good, the bad and the ugly—in order to find wholeness. We talk about how relationships serve as mirrors to see ourselves in a different way and how we can learn, grow, and heal with another person...
Food For Thought: An Easy Trick To Feel Better Immediately
December 06, 2022 14:43 - 16 minutes - 23 MBThis piece of advice will change the way you think every day. It will help you cultivate more empathy for others and more appreciation for yourself in everything you do.
Food For Thought: How To Make The Right Decision Every Time
November 29, 2022 18:13 - 18 minutes - 25.3 MBHave you ever felt stuck in "analysis paralysis"? It's time to think differently about how we make decisions. Here's an easy trick so that you can make the right decision—every time. This perspective shift changed my life.
Food For Thought: Jealousy vs. Envy
August 31, 2022 17:03 - 8 minutes - 12.1 MBWithout realizing it, most of us don’t use these words correctly. While envy tends to seem like just a stronger version of jealousy, the psychology and meaning behind it are of important difference. We love to examine the way that subtle linguistic differences can shape the way we communicate and connect with one another :)
Food For Thought: Thankful vs. Grateful
August 29, 2022 17:00 - 10 minutes - 13.8 MBDo you know the difference between giving thanks and expressing gratitude? While similar in some ways, the use cases for each are different and, as always, we love to examine the way that subtle linguistic differences can shape the way we communicate and connect with one another :)
Casual Conversations: The Paradox of Perfection
August 24, 2022 08:46 - 40 minutes - 55.5 MBVitale Buford is an executive coach, international speaker, and author of the book, "Addicted to Perfect," in which she explores her 10-year struggle with Adderall and perfectionism. If you hear the word "perfectionism" and you don't think it's relevant to you, please have a listen anyway. This episode is going to surprise you. We talk with Vitale about the deeper issues that perfectionism stems from as we learn about its relationship to self-worth, personal criticism, codependency, aban...
Food For Thought: Contradiction vs Complementation
August 22, 2022 09:49 - 9 minutes - 13.1 MBStudies of highly creative people and highly successful people, such as the one by the psychologist bestselling author Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, have shown that a dynamic set of seemingly opposing characteristics is a very important part of what makes them tick. “Contradiction” or perceived cognitive dissonance is hard for our brains to process, so we often categorize the world and people into boxes, think even of our of ourselves as being either at one or the other end or the other of the...
Casual Conversations: Sexual Liberation for Deeper Connection
August 17, 2022 09:44 - 31 minutes - 42.7 MBWe continue the endlessly glorious conversation about sexually connetion as a path to deeper understanding ouselves, the ability to explore more dynamic versions of ourselves, and more connection in our lives - inside and outside the bedroom. Tune in to learn why you deserve great sex, what the key ingredients are, and how it can positively transform countless other areas of your life! Join us as we continue to change the culture & the conversation surrounding intimacy and relationships!
En Español: Definición del Amor
August 15, 2022 09:36 - 1 hour - 106 MB¿Cuál es tu definición del amor? Hablamos sobre esta pregunta y más con Lorena Bassani. Lorena es una periodista, entrenadora de conciencias, y pionera blogger. En adición de amor, hablamos sobre definiciones alternas del final feliz, tomar el control de nuestras vidas, como controlar nuestras emociones, y sus cursos.
Food For Thought: Curiosity vs. Criticism
August 10, 2022 09:16 - 13 minutes - 18.4 MBWhether it’s meeting a new person or talking to someone in our family, there is a point at which (even well-intentioned) questions can come across as uninvited criticisms. How do we walk that fine line while trying to learn about someone else or draw it ourselves when someone else has stepped over our own boundaries?
Episode 64: All Day I Dream About Sex: Threesomes, Middle-Aged Sex, and Fantasies
August 08, 2022 08:18 - 1 hour - 136 MBWife wants a threesome? Listen to this episode! This week, we’re joined by Dr. Justin Lehmiller, who has our dream job: sex researcher. He joins us to talk about his latest book, Tell Me What You Want, where he surveyed thousands of Americans about their most explicit fantasies. We talk about how sex changes over the lifetime (hint: middle aged sex rocks!), the most common male and female fantasy, how to talk about your sexual fantasies with your partner, and what your fantasies may mean.
Episode 63: The Untold Story of Adversity and Resilience
August 05, 2022 13:04 - 1 hour - 109 MBMeg Jay, PhD is a Clinical Psychologist and an Associate Professor of Human Development at the University of Virginia. Her books have been translated into more than a dozen languages and her work has appeared in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Harvard Business Review and on NPR and BBC. "Resilience" is of the defining attributes in facing adversity, but resilience isn't just "bouncing back" from a difficult challenge. In fact, resilience might be a lot different than you think—and...
Casual Conversations: Sexuality and Creativity
August 03, 2022 08:11 - 53 minutes - 74.1 MBHani Lees Dresner is the Founder of the sex-positive ceramics company, Gashtrays. Hani emphasizes celebration vs exploitation of the naked body in her work and she believes that sex-positivity and body-positivity are crucial steps towards battling sexual and mental health. She sees her work as a “subtle protest” that aims to provoke conversation in a way that is approachable. We talk about the story behind the Gashtrays movement, her nude-positive family, the hilarity of the human body, an...
Episode 62: Shameless - A Sexual Reformation
July 25, 2022 15:30 - 1 hour - 94 MBNadia Boltz-Weber is a New York Times Best-Selling author of the book “Shameless: A Sexual Reformation," an ordained Luther Pastor, and the founder of House For All Sinners & Saints. In our conversation, we dispel the shame that so frequently underlies our beliefs about sex and sexuality. Nadia brings a clever—and extremely comical—point of view to the topic of sex and religion. She argues that sex, sexuality, and pleasure aren't the opposite of religion and what the church stands for. In ...
Humans of Intimacy: Keep It Simple
July 20, 2022 11:06 - 14 minutes - 20 MBBBXX Founder, Sasza Lohrey, interviews her sister-in-law for a follow-up of our last of Humans of Intimacy, "Teamwork Makes The Dream Work," to get the other side of the story. We talk about her life story, what shaped her view of relationships growing up, common misconceptions of relationships, foundational qualities of a relationship, lessons in communication, the role of luck, how to stay positive in difficult moments, and lessons learning in parenting.
Episode 61: The Power of Expressing Apology
July 18, 2022 10:48 - 1 hour - 100 MBWe discuss the five languages of apology, their relationship to the five love languages, tips for a healthy relationship, expressing apology, as well as the power of apology in conflict resolution. Dr. Jennifer Thomas is a bestselling author, TEDx speaker, leadership consultant, and psychologist who helps people know what to say in any situation, including one of the most complicated situations of them all: when giving an apology. She has co-authored the book, “When Sorry Isn’t Enough” w...
Recommendations & Reviews: The Culture Map
July 13, 2022 15:15 - 7 minutes - 9.63 MB"One of my all-time favorite books and a life-changing lesson on communication." —Sasza Lohrey, BBXX Founder
Episode 60: Communication is Key
July 11, 2022 15:00 - 1 hour - 121 MBDeborah Tannen is a Professor of Linguistics at Georgetown University and the author of countless books about how the language of everyday conversation affects relationships. We learn about the different ways we each interpret conversations and interactions and break down the foundational concept of individual conversational style. We explore the “metadata” of conversations, demonstrating empathy vs. power, the influence of family in shaping our communication, the role of communication in a ...
Food For Thought: Celebrating The Small Wins
July 06, 2022 14:54 - 7 minutes - 10.3 MBFact: big wins are impossible without the small wins along the way. "The journey is the destination" might sound cheesy but the reality is that we won't always make it to where we're trying to go. Even if we do, it's vital to acknowledge how much work we put in to get there; the big wins never feel as good if we haven't celebrated the small wins.
Episode 59: Mental Health Around the World
July 04, 2022 14:39 - 1 hour - 106 MBLilly Wang spent two years traveling the world learning about what mental health looks like in different countries and across cultures. She also spent that time developing a much deeper understanding of her own struggles with mental health. As we explore the definition of mental health and how it looks different around the world, we talk with Lilly about the lessons learned from her journey and how travel allows us to discover a more authentic version of ourselves.
Casual Conversations: The Art of Self-Discovery
June 29, 2022 14:28 - 46 minutes - 64.5 MBWe talk with one of our favorite men’s coaches, Mike Sagun, about physical touch, closeness, and male intimacy. We learn about his journey to self-discovery, how he has changed over the past few years along the way, tools for exploring your own identity, and whether or not people can ever truly start over. Lastly, we touch on the art of giving compliments, the vulnerability it requires to give them—and the power in learning to receive them.
Episode 58: The Power of Our Stories
June 27, 2022 14:18 - 1 hour - 105 MBWe talk with Dr. Jamie Goldstein about the power of story and the practice of narrative therapy. We discuss how stories create meaning, the importance of recognizing that stories are multi-dimensional, and how language shapes our stories and our identities. We learn about how to identify a “dominant narrative,” separate the person involved from the actual problem itself, and the healing capacity of “externalization.” Lastly, we share tools and actionable advice for exploring aspects of na...
En Español: El Poder de la Mente Sobre el Cuerpo
June 22, 2022 19:45 - 58 minutes - 80.9 MBHablamos de la diferencia entre el sexo y la sexualidad, las dinámicas de la sexualidad, la vergüenza y la liberación, la mente como nuestra herramienta más poderosa, el rol clave de la comunicación, la importancia de conocernos a nosotros mismos, y la definición de la intimidad. Nuestra invitada, Michelle Pollmann, es una psicóloga chilena especializada en terapia de pareja con sede en Santiago de Chile.
Episode 57: Masculine vs. Feminine vs. HUMAN
June 20, 2022 13:00 - 1 hour - 89.8 MBWe talk with Stefanos Sifanos about his personal journey from trauma to healing and continued self-development. We talk about masculinity and femininity, the differences between what is traditionally referred to as masculine vs. feminine energies, and how, in essence, they are simply a range of human characteristics that we all possess and should seek our own personal balance between. We learn about social ecology, men and emotions, the fear of rejection, and what determines self-worth. Stefa...
Humans of Intimacy: Teamwork Makes The Dream Work
June 15, 2022 13:00 - 1 hour - 100 MBBBXX Founder Sasza Lohrey interviews her very own brother for the pilot episode of an exciting new sub-series, Humans Of Intimacy. He talks about what influences his view on relationships growing up, how his perspective of relationships has evolved, and what advice he would give to the younger version of himself. He discusses how he learned to express himself emotionally, struggles in the beginning stages of his relationship with his now wife, lessons learned in communication, the role of aut...
Episode 56: The Complexity of Simplicity
June 13, 2022 13:00 - 1 hour - 101 MB“Simple” behaviors carry complex meanings. We discuss the keys to a healthy relationship with Dr. Kate Balestrieri. We learn about attachment theory and how it plays out in adult relationships, as well as the role of fear, risk, and vulnerability in relationships. We talk about the definition of trauma, healing, and how to look for relationships that will help you heal so that you can reach a deeper level of intimacy with yourself and others. Dr. Kate Balestrieri is a licensed clinical and ...
Recommendations & Reviews: Boogie Nights
June 08, 2022 13:00 - 5 minutes - 6.88 MBWhen I decided to watch Boogie Nights with a few friends, I was expecting a comical satire of the porn industry in the ’80s. I was surprised to find that, instead, it was a less comical yet much more profound cultural statement piece that I had expected.
Episode 55: A Guide To Self Care
June 06, 2022 13:00 - 1 hour - 111 MBWe dive deeper into our discussion of anxiety and self-care as we discuss boundaries, meditation, mindfulness, and journaling with Rashawnda Williams. An expert in self-care, she shares easy, practical steps and actionable advice and tools to deepen your self-understanding and self-development. “Self-care isn’t selfish” might sound cliché but it also happens to be extremely important, healthy advice to live by!
Food For Thought: The Many Roads To Happiness
June 01, 2022 13:00 - 8 minutes - 11.5 MBThere is no one single path set out for us. There is no single destination where we might end up and be happy. There is no one person that we could build an incredible relationship with. There is not just one "right" decision. And there is no one single version of who we are. Besides, how boring would it be if there were?
Episode 54: Accessibility and Equity in Mental Health Care
May 30, 2022 13:00 - 50 minutes - 69.7 MBWe talk with Dr. Earl Turner about accessibility and equity in mental health. We learn about new guidelines focused on intersectionality (gender, age, sexual orientation, etc) as well as new guidelines focused on race and ethnicity. We also discuss stigma as an obstacle to treatment, how to normalize mental health care, the importance of role models, and society’s treatment of the black community. Dr. Earl Turner is a licensed psychologist and professor in Los Angeles. He is a member of th...
Casual Conversations: Don't Apologize for Being Human
May 25, 2022 15:12 - 31 minutes - 43.5 MBWe talk with health & wellness influencer Jo Encarnacion (@gofitjo) about childhood, friendship, emotional support, the power of owning your feelings, the importance of authenticity, and how she doesn’t apologize for showing human expression. We hear about her experience coming into her own sexuality, struggles through marriage, and how she gave her daughters “the talk” that we all wish we had gotten.
Episode 53: Sexual Liberation and the Wisdom of Aging
May 23, 2022 14:49 - 1 hour - 106 MBDr. Christina Pierpaoli Parker talks with us about the pros and cons of aging—from the psychological benefits to the physical complications. We discuss sexual dysfunction, sexual liberation, the evolving role of sex as we age, how to connect deeper in our relationships later in life, and the life-changing lessons we should all learn from the wisdom of aging. Dr. Christina Pierpaoli Parker is a post-doc in the Clinical Geropsychology doctoral program at the University of Alabama. Her resear...
Episode 61: The Power of an Apology
December 08, 2020 18:39 - 1 hour - 100 MBWe discuss the five languages of apology, their relationship to the five love languages, tips for a healthy relationship, expressing apology, as well as the power of apology in conflict resolution—and in all walks of life. Dr. Jennifer Thomas is a bestselling author, TEDx speaker, leadership consultant, and psychologist who helps people know what to say in any situation, including one of the most complicated situations of them all: when giving an apology. She has co-authored the book, “Wh...
Humans Of Intimacy: Teamwork Makes The Dream Work
December 04, 2020 14:31 - 1 hour - 100 MBBBXX Founder Sasza Lohrey interviews her very own brother for the pilot episode of an exciting new sub-series, Humans Of Intimacy. He talks about what influences his view on relationships growing up, how his perspective of relationships has evolved, and what advice he would give to the younger version of himself. He discusses how he learned to express himself emotionally, struggles in the beginning stages of his relationship with his now wife, lessons learned in communication, the role of aut...
Episode 59: Mental Health Across Cultures
November 17, 2020 04:20 - 1 hour - 106 MBLilly Wang spent two years traveling the world learning about what mental health looks like in different countries and across cultures. She also spent that time developing a much deeper understanding of her own struggles with mental health. As we explore the definition of mental health and how it looks different around the world, we talk with Lilly about the lessons learned from her journey and how travel allows us to discover a more authentic version of ourselves.
Episode 59: Mental Health Around The World
November 17, 2020 04:20 - 1 hour - 106 MBLilly Wang spent two years traveling the world learning about what mental health looks like in different countries and across cultures. She also spent that time developing a much deeper understanding of her own struggles with mental health. As we explore the definition of mental health and how it looks different around the world, we talk with Lilly about the lessons learned from her journey and how travel allows us to discover a more authentic version of ourselves.