As I Live and Grieve
186 episodes - English - Latest episode: 3 days ago - ★★★★★ - 18 ratingsIt’s time for grief to come out of the basement, or wherever we have stuffed it to avoid talking about it. When you suffer a loss you need support, comfort, and a safe place to heal. What you are experiencing is painful but normal, unique but similar, surreal but very, very real. As grief advocates we understand and want to provide support, knowledge and comfort as you continue to live and grieve. Host, Kathy Gleason; Producer, Stephanie Kendrick. www.asiliveandgrieve.com
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Trauma-Related Grief - It's Complicated
July 06, 2021 07:00 - 33 minutes - 23 MBSend us some LOVE! Summary: Trauma-related grief is far more than our initial concept of grief. In addition to the devastation that accompanies the death of a loved one, situations are added that can include litigation, PTSD, media attention, face to face encounters with a perpetrator - a myriad of issues we cannot even imagine. Sharon Willow helps us better understand the complexities that result from trauma-related grief. Episode Notes: We've all seen and heard the news. It's full of m...
Grief After a Violent Death
June 29, 2021 07:00 - 25 minutes - 17.9 MBSend us some LOVE! IN MEMORY OF CHRISTOPHER JONES Summary: Grief is devastating in and of itself. Imagine though losing a loved one through violence - violence on the streets, in your own neighborhood, across the street from your own house, while you watch helplessly. Sirena Cotton relives that today in our conversation. Episode Notes: Sirena Cotton's strength is evident in our conversation. Though this traumatic death of her son was years ago it remains vivid in her memories. Sirena has ...
The Energy Alignment Method, with Karen Shaw
June 22, 2021 07:00 - 37 minutes - 25.9 MBSend us some LOVE! Summary: UK's Karen Shaw shares the Energy Alignment Method (EAM) with us as a way to help control emotions, shape our responses to situations and use our positive energies for a better life. Whether assisting us in move forward more comfortably through our grief or merely to allow ourselves to move toward a happier and more fulfilling life, EAM may be your solution to live your truth. Episode Notes: EAM seems to have far more followers in the UK than in the States, so d...
Managing Grief, with Eleanor Ward (Bigger Fish to Fry Coaching)
June 15, 2021 07:00 - 31 minutes - 21.7 MBSend us some LOVE! Summary Join us as Eleanor Ward helps us understand how we can start to manage our Grief, instead of remaining in a "stuck state." Episode Notes: Sometimes we feel we just can't move on, but Eleanor's response to that is that we already have, though may be a bit stuck at the moment. She helps us identify triggers that may have caused this and aids us in knowing what we might do to get past it. Eleanor has battled grief, depression, anxiety, suicidal thoughts, continuous ...
Survivor's Guilt (Part 3 of 3) - Veterans Benefits/Advanced Planning
June 08, 2021 07:00 - 34 minutes - 23.4 MBSend us some LOVE! Summary: In this final episode, we want to suggest veterans lessen the burden for their loved ones who will make arrangements after their death, by considering some advance planning. Matthew Marini, Advance Funeral Planning Director for Dignity Memorial, informs us of some of the benefits that may be available -- as well as the key document to show eligibility, the DD-214. Episode Notes: Veterans are usually reluctant to discuss their experiences in military service, es...
Survivor's Guilt (Part 2 of 3) - Veterans' Voices
May 31, 2021 14:00 - 47 minutes - 32.7 MBSend us some LOVE! Summary: "Daily," is the response to our question, "How often do you think of them?" We are, of course, referring to the countless men and women who served in our military and never returned home. Memorial Day isn't just a long weekend, picnics and parades. For our veterans it is an official reminder of their comrades killed while serving, or those who returned but succumbed later to an injury or illness acquired while serving. Today we hear from three veterans the impac...
Survivor's Guilt (Part 1 of 3) - Veterans & Memorial Day
May 25, 2021 07:00 - 36 minutes - 25.1 MBSend us some LOVE! Summary: In the Part 1 of this series, Dr. A. Peter Ziarnowski defines Survivors Guilt and offers insight on its connection to and impact on our military. In Part 2 of this series, we will hear personally from three veterans how they continue to cope with memories of their comrades who died while on active duty. Part 3 touches on the benefits made available to family members on the death of their veteran, and how veterans can help minimize the burden of funeral decisi...
Survivor's Guilt - Veterans and Memorial Day, Part 1 of 3
May 25, 2021 07:00 - 36 minutes - 25.1 MBSummary: In the Part 1 of this series, Dr. A. Peter Ziarnowski defines Survivors Guilt and offers insight on its connection to and impact on our military. In Part 2 of this series, we will hear personally from three veterans how they continue to cope with memories of their comrades who died while on active duty. Part 3 touches on the benefits made available to family members on the death of their veteran, and how veterans can help minimize the burden of funeral decisions for their family...
Grief Dreams, with Dr. Joshua Black, Ph.D.
May 18, 2021 07:00 - 36 minutes - 25 MBSend us some LOVE! Summary Do you dream of your loved one in your grief? Are you troubled by those dreams, or do they comfort you? Join us today as Dr. Joshua Black, Ph. D., describes his own investigation of bereavement dreams. There is very little academic research on this topic, so we are certain you will find this discussion enlightening. Episode Notes: Dr. Joshua Black is a grief researcher, speaker, author, consultant, online course instructor, and host of the Grief Dreams Podcast. ...
Signs May Ease Your Grief, with Brian Smith
May 11, 2021 07:00 - 29 minutes - 20.1 MBSend us some LOVE! Summary Dedicated to Shayna Elizabeth Our guest today is Brian Smith. Brian knows grief as his daughter, Shayna, passed away unexpectedly in her sleep at the age of 15-1/2. This led him on a spiritual quest which has made him an amazing resource on the subject of death. Today he helps us understand how to recognize signs left by our departed loved ones and adds that synchronicity of signs can reinforce our beliefs. Episode Notes: Brian's spiritual quest after Shayna...
Three Key Ways to Process Grief, with Gary Roe
May 04, 2021 07:00 - 34 minutes - 23.9 MBSend us some LOVE! Summary Our guest today is Gary Roe, who shares with us 3 Key Ways to Process Grief. Episode Notes: Gary Roe uses TWA to designate the 3 Key Ways to Process Grief, and adds his personal experience to help others feel supported and a bit more in control. These tasks will help verbalize memories, feelings and regrets and allow you to continue through your grief journey instead of being stuck. Gary Roe is the multiple award-winning author of more than a dozen books ...
Are You Good to Go?
April 27, 2021 07:00 - 38 minutes - 26.2 MBSend us some LOVE! Summary: In our grief we often think of how difficult it was to make decisions about funeral arrangements and other details. In today's episodes we introduce you to a unique concept of preparing your details ahead of time to save your loved ones that burden and stress that will face them after your last breath. Episode Notes: Our guest is Amy Pickard, who her cosmic calling to create an unconventional advance planning company that would help everyone put their affairs i...
Bereavement and Bad Theology - A Toxic Cocktail, with Terri Daniel
April 20, 2021 07:00 - 37 minutes - 25.7 MBSend us some LOVE! Summary: Renowned author and bereavement celebrity joins us today to discuss what happens when bereavement and theological beliefs collide. Episode Notes: Rev. Dr. Terri Daniel is certified in Death, Dying and Bereavement and is also a Certified Clinical Trauma Specialist, whose life's work is focused on teaching people how to perceive death, grief and loss in a new way. In the last 12 years she has published four books, earned three academic degrees, found a way to rec...
Grief and Unanswered Questions
April 13, 2021 07:00 - 32 minutes - 22.4 MBSend us some LOVE! Summary: Some people leave a note to be read after their death and these notes are treasured. Melissa Pennel's mother died unexpectedly and there was no note. As questions came to mind, Melissa compiled them into a book which she published, Questions You'll Wish You Asked: A Time Capsule Journal for Mothers and Daughters. She joins us today to tell us more about this book as well as the soon to be released version for Mothers and Sons. Episode Notes: Questions in her boo...
Empowered Through Grief, with Marie Goudreau
April 06, 2021 07:00 - 29 minutes - 20.1 MBSend us some LOVE! Summary: When you lose your life partner to death, the devastation seems endless. If they were ill for a period of time, you may have been their caregiver, their advocate, their entire world - sacrificing yourself bit by bit without realizing it. Such was Marie's experience, which became her reason to become a Grief Coach. Listen to her story and how she helps others whose lives run parallel to her own. Episode Notes: As you start to heal, reality strikes a blow and you ...
Grief Can Take a Village - Carson's Village
March 30, 2021 07:00 - 33 minutes - 23 MBSend us some LOVE! Summary: Jason Dyke started his grief journey traumatically when his 11-year old son died from suicide. He saw the differences in the impact of grief on his wife and other two sons, but when his "bus family" stepped in to help, their support made a tremendous difference for Jason. Carson's Village is a legacy to Jason's son and serves those families devastated by a sudden loss. Jason shares with us today and this is an episode to not miss. Episode Notes: In June 2017, Ja...
The Fox and the Feather, with Kendall Lanning
March 23, 2021 07:00 - 35 minutes - 24.4 MBSend us some LOVE! Summary: Dealing with the death of a loved one is tough, but having to explain that death to a child is sometimes traumatic for both the adult and the child. Join us today as Kendall Lanning introduces her book, The Fox and the Feather, a children's book for the grieving heart. Episode Notes: Fox and Cardinal are best friends. One day the Cardinal explains that he, “is sick and dying.” Although, the Fox is sad and crying, the Cardinal reminds him to look for signs. Kend...
Anxiety and Grief, with Claire Bidwell Smith (author)
March 16, 2021 07:00 - 23 minutes - 16.1 MBSend us some LOVE! Anxiety is the focus of our discussion today with guest Claire Bidwell Smith, author of Anxiety: The Missing Stage of Grief. We can understand anxiety easily in that initial phase of grief with the myriad of activities, tasks and the bustle of visitors, cards and calls. However, anxiety can remain and can also have a more troublesome impact further along in your grief. Claire helps us understand how anxiety plays a part in our grief and how we can allay the effects of thi...
Tap Your Way Through Grief (EFT Tapping), with Amanda Ferrat
March 09, 2021 08:00 - 30 minutes - 20.7 MBSend us some LOVE! Summary: Our guest is Amanda Ferrat, founder of Value Yourself Counseling, returns to offer insight into the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) Tapping. This technique is frequently recommended by therapists to help grievers find stabilization and focus, especially during the intense emotions of initial grief. Episode Notes: Today Amanda guides us through a sample of the EFT Tapping. This simple technique combines affirmations with light touch on acupressure points an...
Pet Loss and Grief, with Wendy Andrew
February 28, 2021 21:00 - 26 minutes - 18.6 MBSend us some LOVE! Summary: Our pets, regardless of species, often become very near and dear to us with their unconditional love and soulful eyes. The death of that pet can be devastating to the owner, yet not fully understood by other's who have never experienced a similar loss. Wendy helps us understand disenfranchised grief and also speaks about how children respond to the loss of a pet, which is usually their very first experience with death and grief. Episode Notes: Wendy Andrew is fo...
Could a Life Coach Help With Your Grief?
February 23, 2021 08:00 - 34 minutes - 23.4 MBSend us some LOVE! Summary: Today we chat with Stevie Fedele, a Certified Life Coach, who helps us understand how partnering with a Life Coach might prove beneficial if you struggle with your grief, even walking us through a brief exercise she frequently uses with her clients. Episode Notes: There are times in our grief that we feel stuck, not moving forward, and even not caring whether we do or not. It is at these times that loved ones might utter the word ‘therapy’ or suggest you get ...
Writing Through Grief
February 16, 2021 08:00 - 31 minutes - 21.5 MBSend us some LOVE! Summary: Author Beth Castrodale shares how her grief actually interrupted progress on her novel and what she did to move past this. She offers suggestions for how you might benefit from putting thoughts and feelings in words and writing them down, even if you think you can't write. Episode Notes: Writing can often be cathartic and is frequently suggested by therapists, as well as in bereavement groups. There are additional advantages to writing as sometimes these memorie...
Rocky the Grief Therapy Dog
February 09, 2021 08:00 - 34 minutes - 23.5 MBSend us some LOVE! Summary: We are delighted today to learn about Rocky, a goldendoodle who serves at Bartolomeo & Perotto Funeral Home in Rochester, NY. Rocky charmed his owner, Mike Perotto, into speaking with us and we invite you to listen in. Episode Notes: Dogs have an incredible way of breaking through those invisible barriers that hold people back when it comes to comforting those in pain. Much training was involved, but Rocky is often the first to identify the griever most in n...
Grief and Guilt, with Dr. Jackie Black
February 02, 2021 08:00 - 38 minutes - 26.6 MBSend us some LOVE! Summary: Join us as Dr. Jackie Black returns, this time to help us understand how guilt impacts our grieving process. Guilt and shame are not the same - did you know that? Episode Notes: We discuss in detail how guilt and shame differ and how to change your mindset to be able to dissolve that guilt you feel. As we shed light on these terms, we ourselves heal along with you. Dr. Jackie Black helps rekindle relationships with loving, amazing but crazy, busy small business...
The AfterGrief, with Hope Edelman
January 26, 2021 08:00 - 34 minutes - 23.7 MBSend us some LOVE! Bestselling author Hope Edelman discusses her latest book, The AfterGrief, Finding Your Way Along the Long Arc of Loss (pub. Oct. 2020) so we might better understand how grief impacts our lives even years beyond the death of a loved one. Episode Notes: We are becoming more accepting now that grief could feasibly last for the rest of our lives. Hope Edelman offers insight how our grief might change as time passes and how occasional upsurges can occur. HOPE EDELMAN has be...
Hospice and Grief
January 19, 2021 08:00 - 32 minutes - 22.3 MBSend us some LOVE! Summary: Marjorie Smith, LCSW, visits with us today to tell us about Hospice and how this program supports both the terminally ill patient and the family. Episode Notes: After a brief history of Hospice, we learn the various components of this end of life care program and can better understand how it can impact grief by preparing family and supporting them after the death of their loved one. Hospice incorporates holistic practices and a diverse care team to provide di...
Grief - It's Not Just About Death
January 12, 2021 08:00 - 26 minutes - 18.4 MBSend us some LOVE! Summary: Today’s chat is with The Feelings Guy™, Archie Messersmith-Bunting, who helps us understand that everyone grieves and that grief is the reaction to a loss, whether related to the death of a loved one or to the death of our dreams. Episode Notes: COVID has impacted everyone. We have lost our routines and most of our social enjoyment, though we have adapted as necessary to restrictions. Still, when someone asks how we are, “fine” is the popular response. We are ...
Grief Shatters Us, Yet We Are More Beautiful (Kintsugi Perspective)
January 05, 2021 08:00 - 33 minutes - 23.2 MBSend us some LOVE! Summary Our guest today is Melissa Pierce, author of Filled With Gold: A Widow’s Story (written with Christine Fadden). Episode Notes: Melissa chats about the importance of self-care and advocates being your own best friend while grieving. She believes the brokenness of grieving relates to kintsugi, an ancient practice of repairing cracked vessels with a gold adhesive, thus making them whole again, but also far more beautiful. Melissa was widowed overnight at th...
Grief and Belief
December 29, 2020 08:00 - 39 minutes - 26.9 MBSend us some LOVE! Summary: Join us today as we discuss how various beliefs can impact the grief process, especially as plans are being made for funeral or other memorial events. Episode Notes: Belief in God, higher power or non-belief is an individual choice and really makes little difference in our personal grief journeys. However, when people come together immediately after a death to plan a funeral or other event to memorialize or celebrate the deceased, differing individual beliefs c...
Newborn Grief
December 22, 2020 08:00 - 33 minutes - 23.1 MBSend us some LOVE! Summary Today’s episode is Dedicated to Madelyn Elizabeth Webster, daughter of our guest, Crystal Webster. Maddie was in her mama’s arms when she died the very day after her birth. Episode Notes: Grief just sucks. Crystal shares in her straightforward, candid manner the gamut of emotions experienced with the loss of a newborn, as well the reality faced in living ‘childless not by choice.’ Crystal Webster is the founder and Chief Solace Officer of Sharing Solace, a...
COVID and Grief
December 15, 2020 08:00 - 27 minutes - 19.1 MBSend us some LOVE! Summary Our guest today is Michele Allman, LMSW. Episode Notes: COVID has turned our lives upside down. For those who have lost loved ones, whether from the virus or another source, the restrictions imposed during this pandemic have complicated the grief journey for many. Michele Allman, LMSW, in Rochester, NY, speaks to how the presence of COVID and restrictions have impacted the local grieving community. Michele Allman, LMSW (Licensed Master Social Worker), i...
Do I Need Professional Help?
December 08, 2020 07:00 - 32 minutes - 22.4 MBSend us some LOVE! Summary: Our guest today is Dr. Jackie Black who has supported grieving partners and family members as well as those with a terminal diagnosis. Today’s topic will help many better understand what help might be needed after the death of a loved one. Episode Notes: After suffering a loss, Dr. Jackie feels everyone should be encouraged to find a Bereavement Group in which to participate. “It is the only place you don’t feel different than everyone else.” Therapy is indicate...
8 Tips to Handle Holiday Grief
December 01, 2020 07:00 - 28 minutes - 19.9 MBSend us some LOVE! Summary Our guest today is Gary Roe, who shares with us 8 Tips to Handle Holiday Grief. Episode Notes: Gary Roe itemizes his 8 Tips to Handle Holiday Grief and adds his personal experience to help others contemplate their own situations and feel supported and a bit more in control of this frantic period, now even more stressful with the pandemic. Gary Roe is the multiple award-winning author of more than a dozen books including Comfort for the Grieving Spouse’s ...
Finding Your Way Through Grief
November 23, 2020 13:00 - 26 minutes - 18 MBSend us some LOVE! Our guest today is Dr. Bill Webster, Executive Director of the Centre for Grief Journey. Dr. Bill brings us from the traditional stages of grief as offered by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross and another perspective of task-oriented phases by William Worden, to his current thoughts on the grief process, the grief journey. We start with the traditional stages of grief offered by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross and the task-oriented phases described by William Worden. Then we move on to a mor...
What Exactly is Grief?
November 22, 2020 20:00 - 39 minutes - 27.4 MBSend us some LOVE! Our guest is Amanda Ferrat, founder of Value Yourself Counseling, who helps us better understand what grief is by identifying more types of grief than one might think imaginable. Show Notes: Today Amanda helps us better understand grief, identifying more types of grief than one might think imaginable. She is a professional speaker, coach, and educator with an intuitive approach to the work she does with clients. She has a variety of methods she utilizes, including Em...
E1 - Walk with Us
November 19, 2020 12:00 - 12 minutes - 8.55 MBSend us some LOVE! Summary It’s time for grief to come out of the basement, or wherever we have stuffed it to avoid talking about it. Grief is painful. We have walked that journey and are familiar with the thoughts and feelings that are consuming you. We were offered no choice in this matter and it is ours with which to cope. Now, let us walk with you. You need these words. Show Notes: In this episode we introduce ourselves, Kathy and Stephanie, to you. We are mother and daughter and ...