All of the things

Not all men? *TW*

Ben Hurst: Boys won’t be boys TED Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3dp08bAUwi8 Bystander effect: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wy6eUTLzcU4 Institutional misogyny: https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2021/mar/16/institutional-misogyny-erodes-womens-trust-in-uk-police Channel 4 – Why women feel unsafe on Britain’s street: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DtrqkseiTSA BBC – Could this shift the dial on women’s safety: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TBPjm174bWk Women’s Aid – Donate if you c...

Harry & Meghan on Oprah

Tom & Sophia reflect on the aftermath from the highly charged interview between the Harry, Meghan and Oprah. In this episode they discuss the events, key take aways and the wider ramifications for British society.

Culture Wars

Angela Saini’s “Superior: The Return of Race Science” : https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/42042093-superior?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=0eHRGHr8HV&rank=3 Malcom Gladwell’s Works: https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/1439.Malcolm_Gladwell?from_search=true&from_srp=true Overton Window explainer video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FMU0w4MP8Dc

Hi, we’re back

Tom and Sophia return after a week off for a catch up. In this episode they discuss Lent, Lockdown Mental Health and their new favourite pizzaiolo. . . Mentioned Links: Mind: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/drugs-and-treatments/talking-therapy-and-counselling/how-to-find-a-therapist/#PrivateTherapists

Modern Art

In this episode, Tom and Sophia debate the onset, value and meaning of modern art, which was uneventful and didn’t spark much debate at all(!) International Art English: https://www.canopycanopycanopy.com/contents/international_art_english Art pieces mentioned, in no particular order: The banana one: Maurizio Cattelan – Comedian, 2019 The...

GameStonks 🚀

*The content in this episode is not financial advice and is for entertainment purposes only. We do not accept liability for your use of the information gathered while trading.* Roaring Kitty video on Gamestop: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GZTr1-Gp74U Wall Street Bets Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/wallstreetbets/ Robinhood CEO CNN interview: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6fs_lyGn4YA...

Cults 101

In this episode, Tom and Sophia get into cults. What are they? Who joins them? What’s the point?! We cover a few well known cults, and the most recent cult of Trump. Learn more from Steve Hassan: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pWLWL4GtQkk Going Clear Documentary Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ixgd38EZIR0

Materialism

In this episode, Tom and Sophia get into our endless, unrelenting desire to buy stuff! What is the impact of materialism on our sense of self, what systems are we playing into, and what forces are at play that made Sophia feel like she needed...

‘Merica! Vol 2: Insurrection

Hello 2021 (time is a construct!)

New year, new us! Right?! In this episode, Tom and Sophia break down how 2021 is here to save us all from the world and ourselves (obviously..!) Leena Norms has a great video on resolutions, check it out: https://youtu.be/DqW2PX49k6E Tom’s instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tom_thecreative/

Gratitude

As we close off a challenging and bizarre year, what better way to reflect than to talk about gratitude! Thank you all so much for following our conversations this year, we sure are grateful for the support! Here’s to 2021! Resources: https://www.forbes.com/sites/annapowers/2019/11/29/the-science-of-gratitude-how-it-affects-your-brain-and-how-you-can-use-to-create-a-better-life/ Brene Brown (one...

Happiness

The World Happiness Report: https://worldhappiness.report/ed/2020/social-environments-for-world-happiness/

Kids and biracial identity

References: Small Axe: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p08vxt33 ‘Why I’m no longer talking to white people about race’ by Reni Eddo-Lodge

White collar crime

London properties owned offshore: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mqgS2RBVGaM&feature=emb_logo Kleptocracy tour: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UEK7lJxpzfs&feature=emb_logo What is prison like for white collar criminals: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qqjLlQO1JXo&feature=emb_logo How white collar criminals differ: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YLuXcmmnf40&feature=emb_logo

Thoughts on Hijab

Books of Note: “Qu’ran and Woman..” by Amina Wadud and “It’s not about the Burqa” by Mariam Khan “What does the Quran really say about hijab” TED Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_J5bDhMP9lQ “What does my headscarf mean to you” TED Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=18zvlz5CxPE Dina Tokio Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/dinatokio/videos “You can...

BLM Revisited

‘Merica!

VisualPolitik: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCT3v6vL2H5HK4loLMc8pmCw What Biden won, and didn’t: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S4ugBZmctKA Trump’s judges: https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2020/apr/28/donald-trump-judges-create-new-conservative-america-republicans Can Trump steal the election: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Rnb0j-bNmM

‘Merica! Vol 1: Elections

VisualPolitik: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCT3v6vL2H5HK4loLMc8pmCw What Biden won, and didn’t: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S4ugBZmctKA Trump’s judges: https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2020/apr/28/donald-trump-judges-create-new-conservative-america-republicans Can Trump steal the election: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Rnb0j-bNmM

Our Social Dilemma

The Social Dilemma Documentary Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uaaC57tcci0&ab_channel=Netflix Jaron Lanier Channel 4 News interview: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kc_Jq42Og7Q&t=226s&ab_channel=Channel4News Jaron Lanier New York Times Opinion: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Np5ri-KktNs&t=554s&ab_channel=TheNewYorkTimes Tristan Harris TED Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C74amJRp730&ab_channel=TED Tristan Harris JRE podcast episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OaTKaHKCAFg

Thoughts on relationships

James Sexton podcast on divorce: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-iXwkwIEIbI&ab_channel=LewisHowes Esther Perel Ted Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P2AUat93a8Q&ab_channel=TED Esther Perel, the State of Affairs: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r0dVjeBNANA&ab_channel=92ndStreetY Shan Boody, our open relationship: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hiXl2CIfZR8&ab_channel=ShanBOODY Jada Pinkett-Smith and Will Smith on their union: https://www.facebook.com/538649879867825/videos/248366862696188

Thoughts on Financial Freedom

If you sign up for Free Trade or Trading 212, use Tom’s referral links and you both get a free stock! FreeTrade App: https://freetrade.io/freeshare?code=3D6O3Q4OS2&sender=O0VCx7bx Trading 212: httpwww.trading212.com/invite/FzYa5628  Infant Investors Youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbSC5PeMNizu_rw9_zOjgEw

Bicultural Identity

In this one Tom and Sophia deep dive on how they grapple with their origins and their nationality, and how the two don’t often coincide! Inspiration behind this was Noor Tagouri’s instagram live with Tazin Khan Norelius on bicultural identity: https://www.instagram.com/tv/B_0GKubpjz1/?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet

Red Flags

Whitney Cummings: https://www.youtube.com/c/whitneycummings/videos

Thoughts on Authenticity

We’re back! Today we’re talking about authenticity – what it is, what it isn’t, and how to get it. True and false self: https://youtu.be/A02Ucd6monY

Books for non-readers

Tom’s best: Non-fiction: Predatory thinking by Dave Trott https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/18038936-predatory-thinking?ac=1&from_search=true&qid=zWsX039bXo&rank=2 Fiction: Milk and Honey by Rupi Kaur https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/23513349-milk-and-honey?ac=1&from_search=true&qid=gCjeStxp21&rank=1 Book that changed his life: Quiet by Susan Cain https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/8520610-quiet?ac=1&from_search=true&qid=OMtTkYa6kj&rank=1 Sophia’s best: Non-fiction: Why I’m no longer ta...

Toxic Masculinity

TI: https://www.indy100.com/article/rapper-ti-gynaecologist-18-year-old-daughter-check-hymen-virginity-reaction-9188971 Red Table Talks: https://www.facebook.com/538649879867825/videos/2795208257198749/ https://www.facebook.com/538649879867825/videos/718425758995043 Esther Perel TED Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P2AUat93a8Q Esther Perel Twitter: https://twitter.com/estherperel?lang=en

Ally in the Workplace

Sophie W, Millenial Black: https://www.instagram.com/officialmillennialblack/?hl=en Examples of Allyship at work: https://www.themuse.com/advice/what-is-an-ally-7-examples How and Where Diversity Drives Financial Performance: https://hbr.org/2018/01/how-and-where-diversity-drives-financial-performance Why Diversity Matters: https://www.mckinsey.com/business-functions/organization/our-insights/why-diversity-matters#

Self Esteem

Instagram: tom_thecreative, soulandsophia

2020 Half Time

Fast Fashion Pay Up campaign: Instagrams to follow: @whomade.yourclothes, @remakeourworld and @cleanclothescampaign. ⁣ https://www.npr.org/2020/06/05/869486297/for-bangladeshs-struggling-garment-workers-hunger-is-a-bigger-worry-than-pandemi

Representation Matters

Most recent BBC article at time of recording, citing named victims of murder, and citing murderer’s PTSD. No connection to terrorism has yet been made: https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-53154078?intlink_from_url=&link_location=live-reporting-story Hypernormalisation Documentary available on BBC Iplayer: https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/p04b183c/adam-curtis-hypernormalisation Hasan Minhaj’s Patriot Act, Elections episode: Edward Said’s ‘Orientalism’: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Orientalism_...

Millenial Money: Gaining financial independence

Dave Ramsey Baby Steps: https://www.daveramsey.com/dave-ramsey-7-baby-steps Economics Explained: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZ4AMrDcNrfy3X6nsU8-rPg The Financial Diet: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSPYNpQ2fHv9HJ-q6MIMaPw VisualPolitik: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCT3v6vL2H5HK4loLMc8pmCw Phil Town’s Rule #1 Investing: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCA8P3Rgfjn0IFZL4bmrKbrg Infant Investors: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbSC5PeMNizu_rw9_zOjgEw/featured Freetrade: https://fre...

Thoughts on Cancel Culture

Nathan Zed, BLM is trendy now: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bftJQ11f_XA Doja Cat drama: https://www.insider.com/doja-cat-racist-tinychat-song-lyrics-canceled-twitter-dojacatisoverparty-wearesorrydoja-2020-5 Maya Jama drama: https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/newsbeat-44224309 Nella Rose Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JnfOCSzpD2Q Pull Up for Change https://www.instagram.com/pullupforchange/?hl=en Yorkshire Tea Tweets https://twitter.com/thisislaurat/status/1269395475549085696 Daryl Davis TE...

Race Diaries: BLM – Next Steps?

Edit: 1) The woman referenced before phone died is Sonya Renee Taylor @sonyareneetaylor on Instagram 2) The death of Stephen Lawrence was not accurately communicated. The sentiment was how black people die at the hands of the police/face injustice through the criminal justice system. Apologies...

Race Diaries : Where are you from?

In this one, Tom and Sophia dissect the age old question!

Mental Health in Quarantine

We recorded this unaware of mental health awareness week, so this is perfect timing! In this one, Tom and Sophia discuss how quarantine has impacted their mental health, and tips to cope during this time

Ramadan Revisited

We’re back! And for this episode, Tom and Sophia catch up on how things are going half way through the holy month of Ramadan.

Lockdown musings

No special guests on this one- for obvious reasons! Tom and Sophia discuss the impact of COVID-19 and ways to stay positive and productive. Back to random and wonderful topics next week.

Adoption ft. our pal Sophie

In this special episode we are joined by our dear friend, Sophie. Sophie was adopted as a baby from China and came on to talk about her story. Follow her on Insta: sophiecogswell_ 🙂

The Disease to Please ft. Mother-Goose

In this special episode, Mother-Goose joins Tom and Sophia to talk about the disease to please. People pleasing can infiltrate so many areas of ones life, from work to relationships, friendships and personal choices. When does a good deed become an act of people pleasing,...

Thoughts on Ego

In this episode, Tom and Sophia talk about Ego – what it is and where it plays out in our lives. We could talk about this one for ages! Look out for future episodes where we will delve into how ego plays a role in...

Hustle Culture

In this episode, Tom and Sophia explore hustle culture- what it means and its positive and negative impact on us.

The Royal Family Debate

Tom and Sophia get into the age old debate – are the royal family the british ideal that brings the nation a whole lotta love, or are they an outdated, useless entity? Tom’s a royalist, Sophia is a republican – let the battle commence!

Meditation

In this episode, Tom and Sophia explore meditation – what it is, what the benefits are and what the barriers are to getting started. We aimed to demystify meditation and its association with floating off the ground- we hope you benefit in some way from...

Art Fear

Tom and Sophia discuss the fears and anxieties around putting out creative work, and debate what it takes to be a creative person in a world where everyone can share their creative passions (and where it’s impossible not to compare yourself!)

Thoughts on Ageing

In this episode, Tom and Sophia break down the fears and anxieties around ageing, milestone ages and ageing gracefully. Enjoy!

Race Diaries Part 1

Think Like a White Man by Nels Abbey (the satire went over both of our heads, our bad!) Why I’m No Longer Talking to White People about Race by Reni Eddo-Lodge In this one Tom and Sophia explore race in Britain, the common ways racism...

Resolutions?

Post Election Stream of Consciousness

Tom and Sophia return for an impromptu discussion following the 2019 General Elections. Join in on the catharsis as we navigate many feelings on this!

Ramadan ’18: Week 4

In the final ramadan episode, Tom and Sophia reflect on the month and their experience recording. They talk about their favourite moments and the most impactful lessons. We’ve loved recording this and hope you’ve gained something from our experience! We’re considering continuing to record different...

Ramadan ’18: Week 3

In this penultimate episode, Sophia reflects on the lessons from the previous week and how things have improved. Tom and Sophia also discuss the benefits of service, mental clarity, and the approach going into the final week of Ramadan. Stay tuned for the final episode...