101 Secrets of Effective Parenting
55 episodes - English - Latest episode: 11 days ago -Is Parenting Fun or Pain? Parenting is about bringing up a new generation, and the choice whether to make it a joyful process or a strenuous path lies with parents themselves.Today’s children are better informed because of exposure to various modes of communication and they are ‘Digital Natives’.
Parenting is not about just bringing up your child, but it is about inspiring your child, making them passionate about life and learning, and creating a winning mindset to make them super achievers in life.
This podcast will help parents to give the best to their children and strengthen Parent-Child relationship. It is a compilation of real life strategies based on Author’s first hand experience of handling children and parents from various parts of the world.
This is the audio version of the book with the same title.
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Chapter#54 Life is Unfair
April 18, 2024 09:30 - 3 minutes - 3.52 MBSecret#54 Help your children face unfair treatment that life will unfortunately, but invariably, give them.
Chapter#53 Too Much to Study - Compared to What?
April 11, 2024 09:30 - 3 minutes - 2.92 MBSecret#53 Your children have a greater mental capacity than you give then credit for, so don’t worry unnecessarily on their behalf. Indeed, their syllabus is nothing compared to the tools they have at their command. So, do not give them the vibes that their school work and extra-curricular activities are too much for them!
Chapter#52 "Meaning of the Communication is the Response You Get"
April 04, 2024 09:30 - 3 minutes - 3.07 MBSecret#52 Think about how you can be flexible enough with your children during conversations, so that they understand the message you want to convey. The response you receive from your children will clearly tell you whether you are communicating in the right way!
Chapter#51 If I Can’t, Then I MUST
March 28, 2024 09:30 - 3 minutes - 3.24 MBSecret#51 ‘Never say never’, ‘Never say die’. Let these be the attitudes you inculcate in your children. Nothing is impossible for the willing and the brave. Teach your children this mantra -‘ If I can’t, then I must’. Practise it yourself too!
Chapter#50 The Competition
March 21, 2024 09:30 - 2 minutes - 2.6 MBSecret#50 Instead of making competition days into stressful days, why don’t you treat your children normally? Allow them to participate for the experience, not just for the prize. The prizes make sense only if they aim and strategize to win. They have to do this for themselves, or those prizes are not for them but for you!
Chapter#49 Is My Biggest Enemy My Sibling?
March 14, 2024 09:30 - 2 minutes - 2.1 MBSecret#49 Each one of your children is unique. So, instead of loving equally, learn how to LOVE UNIQUELY. Understand what is special about each of your children and love them for their special selves. Do you make sibling rivalry any bigger than it is?
Chapter#48 Why Should I Study?
March 07, 2024 09:30 - 3 minutes - 2.78 MBSecret#48 Discuss patiently with your children, the purposes and motivations of studying. Share with them the larger picture, and you’ll find them more receptive than you imagined.
Chapter#47 Behind Every Type of Behaviour there is a Positive Intention
February 29, 2024 09:30 - 5 minutes - 5.48 MBSecret#47 Do not judge too soon. Analyse the motivation behind your children’s actions, and in them you will surely find the answer to their behavioural challenges.
Chapter#46 Choices have Consequences
February 22, 2024 09:30 - 6 minutes - 5.67 MBSecret#46 Let your children make their own choices, then allow them to face the consequences. As long as the situation is well under control, do not intervene to bail them out. Let them learn their lessons on their own.
Chapter#45 Are You a Hitler During Study Time?
February 15, 2024 09:30 - 4 minutes - 3.9 MBSecret#45 Isn’t it true that only when you start loving and enjoying what you do, will you become good at it? Make study time fun and exciting for your children, so that they enjoy their studies as much as they enjoy playing.
Chapter#44 Good, I am Getting Confused!
February 08, 2024 09:30 - 4 minutes - 4.46 MBSecret#44 Instead of feeling anxious, get excited about confusion. When confused, it means that your children are learning something new.
Chapter#43 Do Your Children Lack Concentration?
February 01, 2024 09:30 - 4 minutes - 4.09 MBSecret#43 There are no inattentive students, only fallacious teaching methods, which can’t hold the children’s attention. Now think for yourself, and I am sure you can come up with appropriate pedagogic tools for them, and make them happy learners. Study time will also become fun time now!
Chapter#42 The ‘Right Brain Children’
January 25, 2024 09:30 - 3 minutes - 3.03 MBSecret#42 Are you worried why your children seem to hate the regime of school so much, although they have a bright creative spark? Find out if your children are right-brain dominant.
Chapter#41 The ‘Left Brain Children’
January 18, 2024 09:30 - 3 minutes - 3.42 MBSecret#41 The Left Brain children perform well in their studies but they are ‘Shy’. To be successful, children must be ‘Whole Brain Learners’.
Chapter#40 Creating a Genius
January 11, 2024 09:30 - 4 minutes - 4.11 MBSecret#40 Parents never transmit your sense of inadequacies or pains of your failures, to your children. Rather, help them live in a world of thoughts, colours, music, learning, and so on.
Chapter#39 The Past is Not Equivalent to the Future
January 09, 2024 09:30 - 3 minutes - 3.44 MBSecret#39 The paths of life are longer than we might think they are during moments of depression. So never think that the past and what is behind you, will be exactly mirrored in the future. It is always possible to turn over a new leaf, and live life anew, discover greener pastures and deeper sunsets, even if there were no promises of these in your past. Pass on this profound faith to your children.
Chapter#38 Resistance Means Lack of Rapport
January 04, 2024 09:30 - 5 minutes - 4.87 MBSecret#38 You don’t have to say yes to everything your children ask of you, but before saying no, understand why they are asking for something. Allow them to take some risks; They may outperform your expectations. They will understand that you trust them and not to let you down. Learn your children’s language and respect their way of thinking. That will go a long way in helping you build up a great rapport with your children, and wait and see, how easily the solutions will come!
Chapter#37 Excessive Sleeping: Not a Disease but a Symptom
January 02, 2024 09:30 - 3 minutes - 3.26 MBSecret#37 If you want your children to sleep right, and be more active, ensure they have exciting goals to look forward to in life..
Chapter#36 For Things to Change, I Must Change First
December 28, 2023 09:30 - 6 minutes - 6.18 MBSecret#36 Never wait for the world around to change for you. It simply means continuing in a situation in which both you and your children have no control, and wear a girdle of victim-hood. Come forward and take responsibility for what happens. Change yourself for the better. Take stock, and then take control of your life. Your children will follow.
Chapter#35 What You Do Matters a Lot More Than What You Say
December 26, 2023 09:30 - 4 minutes - 3.91 MBSecret#35 As parents you should make a special effort to create a identity for yourselves by casting off your limiting beliefs. This way you can become a powerful role model for your children, who will emulate what you do.
Chapter#34 Little Eyes Watch Your Every Moment
December 21, 2023 09:30 - 4 minutes - 4.06 MBSecret#34 Parenting is an opportunity to shape your life for the better! Remember, those little eyes are always watching you and will learn to do things exactly as you do!
Chapter#33 Thank God it is Friday! You Want to Make it True for Your Children Too?
December 19, 2023 09:30 - 2 minutes - 2.62 MBSecret#33 Love your work. Or work on something you love. Your example will leave an indelible imprint on your children’s psyche. As a parent you must remember that through your children you’re building the future generation - let that generation do their work with more passion.
Chapter#32 Do You Dislike Your Children or Their Behaviour?
December 15, 2023 12:34 - 2 minutes - 2.17 MBSecret#32 As a parent, when you scold your children about something, learn to direct your reprimand against the action or behavioural trait that you don’t like, and don’t accuse your children instead.
Chapter#31 Do You Donate Blood?
December 15, 2023 12:16 - 2 minutes - 2.31 MBSecret#31 Every complete individual has learnt to give unconditionally towards the betterment of humanity. Their heart naturally goes out to the needy. The best time to offer this approach to your children is when they are very young. Give them the opportunity to donate blood. Help your Children aspire to become wonderful human beings. Show them through your actions, donating blood being one example of the same.”
Chapter#30 Balancing Parenting
January 29, 2022 11:30 - 4 minutes - 3.94 MBSecret#30 Both parents must take time out in order to frame the rules that would operate within the family structure, and both parents should follow these rules too. That is the way of creating a sense of fairness among the children and preclude possibilities of favouritism.
Chapter#29 What You Say Matters
January 22, 2022 11:30 - 4 minutes - 3.88 MBSecret#29 Be careful when you discuss your children with others. You are putting up a glass for them to be seen through. With that glass, they can't see reality. If you colour their perspective green, they will see everything in a green haze, if it's black, they will see everything as black. Do not restrict your children's lives to a uni-colour zone, do not create an artificial identity for them.
Chapter#28 Power of Expectations
January 15, 2022 11:30 - 7 minutes - 7 MBSecret#28 Your children will become whatever you expect of them. Your responsibility is to make sure your expectations are positive, productive und useful to their lives. If you let them know that you expect them to be untidy, lazy and bad tempered, you will have untidy, lazy & bad tempered children. If you say that they helpful, friendly and smart, you will have helpful, friendly and smart children. Surely you know which children you'd prefer.
Chapter#27 Visit an Orphanage
January 08, 2022 11:30 - 3 minutes - 3.48 MBSecret#27 Get ready now to make a visit to an orphanage with your children. Spend some time with the children there. Make your children realise the gifts and blessings they have received in life. From this is born sensitivity to others, and a sense of deep humility both of which go on to make your children great human beings.
Chapter#26 Children Are Gifted
January 01, 2022 11:30 - 3 minutes - 3.4 MBSecret#26 Teach your children to count their blessings, appreciate the many gifts that life and nature has bequeathed them. Once they start believing that they are 'gifted', it will bring about a sea of change in their world view.
Chapter#25 Once You are a Parent, Learn How to Define Your Priorities
April 01, 2021 15:01 - 5 minutes - 5.29 MBSecret#25 Once you've become a parent, you'll need to define your priorities clearly to yourself. It will help you make tough choices choices confidently, and not tear you apart emotionally, every single day.
Chapter#24 Break the Pattern. Freak Out with your Children- Once in a While
March 25, 2021 10:30 - 2 minutes - 2.31 MBSecret#24 Having a fixed pattern in our humdrum lives lives often allows ennui and monotony to set in. So, as a parent, every now and then, you should break the pattern, giving your children a nice surprise or escape from everyday life. In the joyous moments of freedom, you can lay the foundation of a deep, lasting bond together.
Chapter#23 What's True for You May Not be True for Your Child.
March 18, 2021 13:02 - 4 minutes - 3.8 MBSecret#23 The world is resounding with infinite possibilities. Indeed nothing is impossible. So let your children's dream be as colourful as possible, do not contain their exuberant wings. Teach them to dream big, and keep their faith too.
Chapter#22 I Clean Up the House, Nobody Bothers
March 11, 2021 10:30 - 4 minutes - 4.55 MBSecret#22 Appreciate your children's effort if you want the positive change in them to be long lasting.
Chapter#21 'My Child is Childish'
March 04, 2021 10:30 - 3 minutes - 2.84 MBSecret#21 Don't be anxiety ridden that your child displays childish behaviour- that is only natural. Enjoy these playful days in the morning sun to the fullest, as days later they may bring their own worries.
Chapter#20 Changes Happen in a Heartbeat!
February 25, 2021 10:30 - 2 minutes - 2.19 MBSecret#20 Demolish the myth the positive changes inevitably take a life time to come about! If your children suddenly exhibit a positive trait, don't assume that it is temporary. Make note of it, encourage them- and wait for the result- the change will be here to stay.
Chapter#19 The Seven Day Mental Diet
February 18, 2021 10:30 - 3 minutes - 3.25 MBSecret#19 When you are on the 'Seven Day Mental Diet for Parents', you mustn't let any negative thought about parenthood come to you. if such a thought does manage to slip in, you must do the exercise all over again!
Chapter#18 The Regimen at Home
February 11, 2021 10:30 - 3 minutes - 3.44 MBSecret#18 If you always run your life according yo the clock, there will be no variety in it, no spontaneity, nor excitement. Creativity will not flourish thus. Teach your children the ability to manage time, but don't let them be managed by time.
Chapter #17 'My Child Makes Faces'; Are You a Toy?
February 04, 2021 10:30 - 5 minutes - 5.11 MBSecret#17 Observe the dynamics between your children and you. Are your reactions always on cue, do you always react in a manner they have learned to expect? Are you a toy in their hands? Then here's the solution- Break the Pattern! You will notice a marked improvement in their behavior.
Chapter #16 I am Just a Mom/Dad!
January 28, 2021 10:30 - 3 minutes - 3.06 MBSecret#16 Parents, you need to choose your identity depending on the need of the hour. So, be flexible in shifting between various positive parental ideals.
Chapter #15 Are You Like Gandhi?
January 21, 2021 10:30 - 6 minutes - 5.85 MBSecret#15 If you stand up for your rights, then your children will not have to be theoretically taught this quality. Remember parents, the best way, to teach is through example.
Chapter 14: Teenagers Find Their Friends More Understanding than their Parents.
January 14, 2021 10:30 - 4 minutes - 4.06 MBSecret#14 Parents, do understand that your teenaged children often turn to their friends with their feelings because in them they find a reflection of the immediacy of their intense emotions. However, that does not mean that they have no need for you anymore. It is time for you now to take them seriously, as young adults, while simultaneously forging a deeper bond by spending more time with them, to understand them as people.
Chapter 13: Must Parents Go into Coma
January 07, 2021 10:30 - 7 minutes - 6.94 MBSecret#13 Never disengage from active involvement in your children's lives, even as they are about to enter teenage years, never 'go into a coma'. Remember they need you more during these emotionally challenging years.
Chapter 12: Do Your Children Live in a Shell?
December 31, 2020 10:30 - 4 minutes - 4.07 MBSecret#12 Ask Yourself: Have you imprisoned your children in any way, pinned them down in your mind? Act upon and change that scenario immediately- Set your children free.
Chapter 11: What Stories Will Inspire Your Children
December 24, 2020 10:30 - 3 minutes - 3.29 MBSecret#11 Choose to inspire your children through stories of someone they know about, someone close to their heart; relating to the hero makes a world of difference.
Chapter 10: Tell Your Children True Stories of Inspiration
December 17, 2020 10:30 - 2 minutes - 1.87 MBSecret#10 Among the many stories that you tell your children, remember to particularly include some inspirational ones.
Chapter 9: When Your Children are Ill
December 10, 2020 10:30 - 2 minutes - 2.16 MBSecret#9 Though you'll be tempted, don't succumb and give your children particularly special treatment when they are ill. That might be a reason why they'll take longer than necessary to declare themselves fit, and resume their normal routine.
Chapter 8: How to Build Your Children's Self Esteem
December 03, 2020 10:30 - 2 minutes - 2.47 MBSecret#8 Think about all the positive things that your children have done, and if you haven't already, then express your appreciation for it now. This will help them build their self esteem for sure
Chapter 7: Your Children Must Learn to Face the Negative World
November 26, 2020 10:30 - 3 minutes - 3.56 MBSecret#7 Consciously promote a sense of high self esteem in your children. That is the only sure fire way that will protect them from the many harsh words or hostilities, which this difficult world of ours might hurl their way!
Chapter 6: Self Pity Will Kill Your Children's Self Esteem.
November 19, 2020 10:30 - 2 minutes - 2.68 MBSecret #6 Parents, watch what you say. Don't say or suggest anything that would promote a sense of self-pity in your children. Beware of creating a victim.
Chapter 5: Be a Coach to Your Children
November 12, 2020 10:30 - 3 minutes - 3.26 MBSecret #5 Be a coach to your children. This means that you should neither simply be a spectator watching from the sidelines,. nor should you play the game for them. Help them perfect their skills, and especially enable them to learn to fight for themselves.