10 Things To Tell You
285 episodes - English - Latest episode: 19 days ago - ★★★★★ - 902 ratingsLaura Tremaine has 10 Things To Tell You. And YOU have 10 Things To Tell. This is a show about sharing your stuff. Each episode asks a question, and you can take that prompt to your journal, to your best friend, or to social media. Let's dig deeper.
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Ep 77: What's your BIG story?
August 11, 2020 07:30 - 56 minutesThis episode looks at your life like a movie. What's your BIG story? The main narrative arc to your life? The story that is central to your identity? Anyone who knows you well knows this story. Maybe it happened in childhood. Maybe you're currently in the middle of it. But we all have one, big, main story. In movies and in literature, they call this the Hero's Journey. It's one of the the most common storytelling devices in art. On this episode, I'm sharing my own BIG story. The thing tha...
Ep 76: 10 Questions to ask yourself in the middle of anything
August 04, 2020 07:30 - 54 minutesThis episode is for anyone who could use an honest evaluation in the middle of something. (And maybe a reset.) In the beginning, we make plans. Set goals. Hope for the best. At the end, we evaluate how it went. We make notes for next time. We accept our trophies or don't. But what about in the middle? Don't we need to stop down and ask some hard questions in the MIDDLE? To see if we're on track? To make tweaks? To define what it means to "finish well"? Here are 10 Questions to ask yourself...
Ep 75: Who are you talking about?
July 28, 2020 07:30 - 27 minutesThis episode is for anyone who had felt icky, gleeful, guilty, or triumphant after talking about someone else. Look, we all do it sometimes, right? We gossip or vent or judge someone in conversation with friends. But does talking about someone behind their back REALLY say more about us than it does about them? Let’s discuss. This episode is sponsored by SUNBASKET. Go to Sunbasket.com/YOU for $35 off your first order. Full show notes for this episode here. Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG ...
BONUS: More great books to read!
July 25, 2020 03:51 - 40 minutesThis episode is for anyone who can't get enough of the book talk. We didn't have time for me to share ALL the great books I've been reading on the recent reading episode, so this is a little bonus to tell you all about my current book stack, including a new novel that's a contender for favorite of the year, and a nonfiction book that I am forcing myself to read with an open mind. I'm also sharing a few of the books in my immediate To Read pile, plus the three books that I've preordered for ...
Ep 74: Best Books Lately with Sarah Bessey
July 21, 2020 07:30 - 54 minutesThis episode is a midsummer reading check-in. It's time for another episode about BOOKS and this time I'm joined by my good friend Sarah Bessey. Sarah is a writer, speaker, and all around woman of wisdom. She is the author of Jesus Feminist, Out of Sorts, and the spiritual memoir Miracles and Other Reasonable Things. She is also the cofounder of the Evolving Faith conference. On this episode, Sarah and I each share the best books we've read lately, including popular novels, Canadian autho...
Ep 73: I wrote a book! (Agents, publishers, writing, and editing.)
July 14, 2020 07:30 - 1 hourThis episode is for anyone curious about the process of writing and publishing. I wrote a book! Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First will launch in February 2021, but I'm taking some time this week to talk all about the behind-the-scenes details I've always been curious about with other authors. I'm answering questions from the 10TTTY Connection group about how I got an agent, crafted a book proposal, signed a book deal with a publisher, wrote & edited the book, and chose a cover. There is ...
Ep 72: Has the internet ever changed your mind?
June 30, 2020 12:43 - 54 minutesThis episode is for anyone who has has been told that there's no use fighting on facebook. Has the internet ever changed your mind on an issue? Is it easier to hear a new perspective from friends and acquaintances or from strangers? The episode is all about the ways that people’s social media posts ARE changing our culture, through snark, humor, memes or thoughtful shared experiences. Let’s be honest about when a post has opened our eyes or when we’ve decided to dig in our heels. I share ...
Ep 71: Kendra Adachi is The Lazy Genius
June 23, 2020 07:30 - 1 hourThis episode is part friendship, part therapy, part work/life balance. I am so excited to share this conversation with my friend Kendra Adachi (aka The Lazy Genius) because not only do we talk about being “work friends” and how that narrow relationship title offers us freedom in our friendship, but Kendra also applies her Lazy Genius principles to my problem prioritizing work tasks. And I have kind of am embarrassing breakthrough. This episode is sponsored by Care/Of. Get 50% your first or...
Ep 70: Age is just a number, right?
June 16, 2020 07:30 - 52 minutesPlease indulge me in a little birthday episode. I turn 41 this week and though it’s not the major milestone I celebrated last year, I still have things to say. This episode is half nostalgic nonsense and half preach-y. I guess this is what happens when I go off script. This episode is sponsored by SKILLSHARE. Full show notes here. Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Join the Connection Group on FB Sign up here to get episode emails Learn more about your ad...
Ep 69: BONUS! 22+ Things we watched in quarantine
June 15, 2020 00:55 - 45 minutesThis BONUS episode is for anyone looking for something interesting to watch (for families and for grown ups). On roughly week 11 of the Los Angeles lockdown due to the coronavirus, I sat down with my husband Jeff and our two kids - ages 8 & 10 - for a lighthearted chat about all the movies, documentaries, and tv series we watched during quarantine since this season meant a LOT more screen time for our family than usual. Full show notes here. Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10Thin...
Ep 68: Hometown: A conversation about race with LaToyia Brown, Monica Pickens, and Danielle Williams
June 09, 2020 07:30 - 1 hourThis episode is for anyone trying to understand another person's experience. I’ve wanted to have this conversation with my hometown friends since I made the BIAS series on Smartest Person in the Room in 2018. I preferred to do it in person back then, but when the recent protests started over the murder of George Floyd, I asked if they would be willing to record online instead. LaToyia Brown, Monica Pickens, Danielle Williams and I grew up in Ardmore, Oklahoma, a town that sits on I-35 abou...
Ep 67: Social Shaming Around COVID-19 (A Conversation with Kristen Howerton)
May 26, 2020 07:30 - 1 hourThis episode is for anyone who has felt shamed or judgmental over choices made during the global pandemic. Admit it you’ve either hidden your own activity or judged other people’s choices in the last few months. I’m joined by blogger, podcaster, and author Kristen Howerton (who you may know from her blog Rage Against the Minivan or from her weekly self-care podcast Selfie) to discuss the social shaming that we’re doing and feeling during this unprecedented season of the coronavirus. PRE-ORD...
Ep 66: Do you have a morning routine?
May 19, 2020 07:30 - 18 minutesThis episode is for anyone looking for an anchor to their day. I promise I'm not going to tell you to get up at 5am. I hold the word "morning" pretty loosely in this context, but I do think a time to pause and commit to ritual at some point in your day can bring much needed structure. On this episode, I'm sharing my personal morning routine and giving you a few different ways to think about this topic. SIGN UP HERE to receive the brand spankin' new episode emails! Mentioned in this epis...
Ep 65: Summer Reading Guide with Anne Bogel of Modern Mrs. Darcy
May 12, 2020 07:30 - 1 hourThis episode is for anyone who is excited for summer reading! I am so excited to welcome Anne Bogel, three-time author, blogger at Modern Mrs. Darcy, podcaster at What Should I Read Next? and someone who reads more books than anyone else I know! Anne recently released her latest book called Don't Overthink It. You can also go to her website to sign up to get her FREE (and much anticipated!) Summer Reading Guide. On this episode, Anne and I talk about what our reading life looks like dur...
Ep 64: Love Flood
May 05, 2020 07:30 - 20 minutesThis episode is for anyone looking for a quick, meaningful exercise to boost spirits. I'm sharing my experiences with Love Floods, from my days as a summer camp counselor to current friendship and colleagues. Mentioned in this episode: Radical Compassion by Tara Brach Ep 51: Masterminds: How To Structure and Maintain a Business Peer Group 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group on FB Full show notes here. This episode is sponsored by SKILLSHARE. Get 2 months of premium membership free...
Ep 63: Working from home (A conversation with Emily P Freeman)
April 28, 2020 07:30 - 53 minutesThis episode is for you if you are working from home right now and need some tips or mindset shifts to be less distracted and more productive. My guest is Emily P Freeman, The Next Right Thing author and podcaster. Her work-from-home structure of Theme Days is something I adopted months ago and on this episode we talk about her approach to this schedule and how she's modifying it during the Covid 19 stay-at-home orders. We also talk about the things that we're measuring to feel accomplish...
Ep 62: Should you reread or burn old journals and letters?
April 21, 2020 07:30 - 26 minutesThis episode if for you if you’re staring at that old shoebox full of memorabilia and aren’t sure what to do with it. A friend messaged me to ask if she should keep or toss a stack of old journals. In a weird coincidence, I was in the middle of a project that required I pull out some of my old journals from decades ago. I’m sharing stories of rereading journal entries, the ritual of throwing old memories away, and what I learned from discovering a long ago letter. This episode is sponsored...
Ep 61: What if it's not that deep?
April 14, 2020 07:30 - 12 minutesThis episode is for you if you strive to find meaning in everything. I want you to think about whether everything deserves the energy you're giving it. Full show notes here. Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 60: 10 Favorite Things (Right Now) Volume III
April 07, 2020 07:30 - 46 minutesThis episode is for anyone looking for a little cheer and distraction. It's another Favorite Things episode! My current favorites are definitely influenced by the current coronavirus quarantine, but there's a little something for everyone here: books, beauty products, kitchen items, and the few mindsets that are keeping me sane in self-isolation. This episode is sponsored by SKILLSHARE. Go to Skillshare.com/YOU for 2 months free membership! Full show notes here. @10ThingsToTellYou on I...
Ep 59: Marry the person you want to quarantine with (the Tremaines wave hello)
March 31, 2020 07:30 - 39 minutesThis episode is for anyone needing a little light distraction. The Tremaines are waving hello from week 3 of self-isolation to stop the spread of coronavirus. This episode ended up being an accidental model for the type of conversations you could be documenting in your life and family right now during this historic time. My husband Jeff and I start the show by answering questions from the 10TTTY FB Connection group, including: have we learned anything about one another during this time? H...
Ep 58: 10 Ways to write your own history
March 24, 2020 07:30 - 27 minutesThis episode is for you if you're looking for ways to document your life during the everyday (or during a historic moment). As the world fights a global pandemic, we are part of a pivotal moment in history. Whether you're hunkering down at home, in an essential job to keep the economy afloat, or on the front lines in the medical profession, this is a time for us to write our OWN stories. Don't simply trust what the history books will say. Document it for yourself. I'm sharing 10 simple way...
BONUS: Anxiety always makes sense (A conversation with Dr. Becky from DrBeckyAtHome)
March 19, 2020 07:30 - 55 minutesThis episode is for you if you need to understand and better cope with your anxiety. Dr. Becky from Dr. Becky At Home is a clinical psychologist who specializes in helping people cope with anxiety and stress. I found her on Instagram when someone shared one of her posts, and what followed is one of the best and most important conversations I’ve ever had on this show. Dr. Becky encourages us to form a relationship with our anxiety, and our conversation includes all of the things I’ve always...
Ep 57: Is it anxiety or intuition?
March 17, 2020 07:30 - 23 minutesThis episode is for you if you have a hard time distinguishing between your anxiety and your intuition. As someone who talks openly online about both my lifelong anxiety and following my intuition, this is a question I get a lot. I don't have all the answers, and don't always get this 100% correct, but on this episode I'm talking through how we can conflate these two things, and the #1 question I ask myself to know the difference. This episode is sponsored by AURATE. Click here for 15% of...
Ep 56: Who were your cultural icons when you were young?
March 10, 2020 07:30 - 26 minutesThis episode is for you if you're in the mood for a little light-heartedness. Today I'm taking a walk through the cultural icons of my youth and what it says about who we were drawn to when we were kids. Whether it's actors, fictional characters, musicians or sports stars, the people we wanted to be when we were young say something about our personalities. This is a fun conversation to have at a party or on a road trip. (Spring break, anyone?) But there are still insights and connections ...
Ep 55: Living Abroad with Kids (10 Takeaways with Julie Stillwell)
March 03, 2020 08:30 - 1 hourThis episode is for you if you've ever dreamed of living abroad with your family for a year. I've been dying to share this conversation with my dear friend Julie Stillwell. In 2018, Julie and her husband Tom took their two young daughters to live in Amsterdam for one year. All four had lived in Los Angeles their whole lives, so this was a family adventure with a hundred takeaways. We talk about the logistics of moving abroad and the emotions of both leaving and adjusting. We talk living w...
BONUS: 10 Books in my To Read pile + listener recommendations!
February 29, 2020 04:00 - 19 minutesThis episode is for you if you can never get enough book talk. This Best Books lately episode ran longer than I expected and I didn't have time to tell you about all the awesome books in my MASSIVE To Read pile. I chose 10 of the books waiting on my kindle or on my bedside to share with you, and then listed the rest over on the blog. (You can find my full To Read list here.) I love hearing what YOU'RE reading lately, and so the last few minutes of this bonus episode includes listener recomm...
Ep 54: Best Books Lately with Jessica Turner + A Conversation about American Dirt with Stephanie Newman-Smith
February 25, 2020 08:30 - 1 hourThis episode is for you if you love to read (and follow literary controversies). Book episodes are the best episodes! We spend the first half hour talking about the best books we've read lately with Jessica Turner, and we take a brief detour to talk about #Bookstagram and our current reading habits (including a new hobby Jessica picked up and the #ReadYourBooks challenge she's hosting online). In the second half of this extra long episode, I'm joined by my real-life book club friend Steph...
Ep 53: Whose voice is inside your head?
February 18, 2020 08:30 - 20 minutesThis episode is for you if you struggle with negative self-talk. A lot of have a critical voice in our head telling us all sorts of ugly things that lead to second-guessing and self-doubt. But where did that voice originate? Did it come from a parent? An old coach or similar authority figure from your youth? An ex? On this episode, I'm sharing about the critical voices in MY head and why identifying them (instead of struggling to ignore them) is helpful to squash them for good. This epis...
Ep 52: What would YOU tell you to do?
February 11, 2020 08:30 - 19 minutesThis episode is for you if you're stuck on a decision. This is simple. This is basic. But next time you're spinning out on making a decision (any decision), ask yourself: What would YOU tell you to do? This little exercise can bring immediate clarity when we're lost in a sea of Pro/Con lists and justifications. On this episode, I'm sharing how this has applied to my own life, especially when I lost myself for a bit in my mid-thirties. This episode is sponsored by SKILLSHARE. Go too Sk...
Ep 51: Masterminds: How to create and structure a business peer group (with guests Jamie Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi)
February 04, 2020 08:30 - 1 hourThis episode is for you if you’re interested in creating a mastermind group to grow your business. In this episode, I'm sharing how to start a business mastermind, who should be in it, how to find those people, and ideas on how to structure your group. After I give my thoughts, I'm joined in conversation with the three other members of my mastermind: Jamie Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi. They each share something important to think about when creating a mastermind. This episode is ...
Ep 50: Who were you 10 years ago?
January 28, 2020 08:30 - 26 minutesThis episode is for you if you forgot to self reflect about the new decade on New Years Eve. Happy first birthday to 10 Things To Tell You! 🎉 We're celebrating one year of good questions and solid conversations. In the beginning of this episode, I share some of the best episodes of the past year (both statistically and personally) and reflect on making these first 50+ episodes. After that we get down to the central question: Who were you 10 years ago? This is a great ice breaker question ...
Ep 49: Where are your bandaids?
January 21, 2020 08:30 - 26 minutesThis episode is for you if you're using a flimsy bandaid over something that needs stitches. Metaphorically. On this episode I'm sharing three ways in which I have used a bandaid to cover up something that really needed more attention: a medical problem, a relationship strain, and a frustration in the house. Sponsored by SKILLSHARE. Use link www.skillshare.com/YOU for 2 months of premium membership free. Full Show notes Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram Follow @10ThingsToTellYou ...
Ep 48: Should we post our kids on social media? (A conversation with Nish Weiseth)
January 14, 2020 08:30 - 1 hourThis episode is for you if you’ve ever second-guessed posting photos of your kids online. Nish Weiseth - a friend I met through mommy blogging years ago - recently posted on Instagram that she was going to take a step back from posting her family online, because her kids are getting older and she started questioning her own motivations. I thought her take was really interesting, so I reached out and asked her to have a friend-to-friend conversation on this topic…publicly. The first half of ...
Ep 47: 10 Ways to feel better
January 07, 2020 08:30 - 27 minutesThis episode is for you if you’ve ever needed to shake off a bad mood or a bad day. I’m sharing 10 ways to pull myself out a funk. This episode is sponsored by LOLA Full show notes for this episode here. @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
BONUS: Intentions, Affirmations, & Vision Boards, Oh my!
December 28, 2019 20:17 - 37 minutesThis episode is for you if you’re thinking about setting intentions, starting affirmations, and creating a vision board for the new year. On this episode, I’m sharing my (relatively recent) experience with setting intentions, writing down affirmations, and creating a vision board. Let me be clear that I no expert on any of these things, but I do believe that something goes on in your consciousness when you stay open to receiving what the world has to offer (instead of closing yourself off f...
Ep 46: Book Club 2019 (Best, Worst, and Buzziest Books of the year)
December 17, 2019 08:30 - 2 hoursThis episode is for you if you are a reader! It's the most wonderful time of the year, when all the Best Of book lists come out. Of course I couldn't resist putting in my own two cents! Joining me on this episode are two friends from my real life book club: Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith. Listening to all our words here is like listening to our actual book club meeting. We talk about the buzziest books of the year, books that missed the mark for us, and important nonfiction reads. ...
Ep 45: 10 Questions for the end of the year
December 10, 2019 08:30 - 36 minutesThis episode is for you if you enjoy end-of-the-year reflection and journaling. It's the end of the year, and the end of the decade, and even though we're still a few weeks out from kissing 2019 goodbye and ushering in 2020, I'm posing these questions a little early so that you'll have time to think about your answers this month. There are 10 questions in this episode meant to make you reflect upon on the last twelve months and get some clarity for what you want in the coming year. The pr...
Ep 44: What are you doing well?
December 03, 2019 08:30 - 19 minutesThis episode is for you if you need a little encouragement during a busy season. Thank you to listener Aimee who suggested this topic! On this episode, I'm sharing two things I'm doing well right now and two things I'm letting go of for the holiday season. But the real key to this prompt is using it to start a conversation with a friend or a group of friends. After listening, shoot a text to someone and ask, "Hey, where are you killing it these days?" because when people pause and reflect...
Ep 43: 2 Tips for social anxiety + Ask Me Anything
November 26, 2019 08:30 - 1 hourThis episode is for you if the social events of the holiday season are giving you anxiety. On this mish mash of an episode, I offer two tips for handling social anxiety AND I answer a few listener questions. There’s also a little housekeeping at the beginning of the show, with some updates and reminders about recent episodes. In the Ask Me Anything section, I talk about how the book writing is going, my long ago jobs in reality television, and the one habit I started tracking that gave me ...
BONUS: Half Baked Harvest cookbook author Tieghan Gerard
November 23, 2019 05:30 - 20 minutesThis episode is for you if you're looking for a little inspiration in the kitchen. Sometimes I like to have people on the show just to inspire or share something cool they're doing. I am super excited to welcome Tieghan Gerard, because I have followed her food blog Half Baked Harvest for years now. Tieghan started her (massively popular and insanely beautiful) website Half Baked Harvest when she was NINETEEN years old. Now she runs the whole empire with the help of her family. She also ...
Ep 42: Have you lost your style? (A conversation with Amber Haines)
November 19, 2019 08:30 - 51 minutesThis episode is for you if don't recognize the person in the mirror. On a recent girls weekend, my good friend Amber Haines and I got into a conversation about being uncomfortable in our skin lately. It's more than simply aging, we both feel like our personal sense of style (something we've been proud of in the past) has taken a back seat in the past few years during a busy life. This topic is both shallow and not. We discuss body changes, hiding ourselves, the mental hurdles of buying new...
Ep 41: 10 Tips to organize your photos with Miss Freddy
November 12, 2019 08:30 - 56 minutesThis episode is for you if you are overwhelmed by photos. My guest Casey von Stein (aka Miss Freddy) is here to give us 10 Tips on how to organize all our photos. We talk about how to get photos from your phone to one central place, which services to use as backup, and what to do with them all once they're wrangled. We cover a lot of information on this episode, including why google photos and iCloud are NOT the best services to rely on, the things we should mentally let go of while we're...
#OneDayHH is coming!
November 11, 2019 04:55 - 10 minutesThe 7th Annual #OneDayHH social media challenge is happening on Friday, November 15th. #OneDayHH is a yearly event on social media (mostly Instagram) where we document what a day-in-the-life looks like right now. One day, hour by hour. On this mini episode, I'm explaining how the challenge works and why it's special. Read all about #OneDayHH here Follow my personal account @laura.tremaine See photos of the past #OneDayHH here Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram Follow @10ThingsToT...
Ep 40: 10 Favorite Things (Right Now) (Again) + 2 special announcements!
November 05, 2019 08:30 - 56 minutesThis episode is for you if you’re looking for tv & podcast recommendations, awesome people to follow on instagram, the latest skincare holy grail product, and more! I have a LOT of (current) Favorite Things to share on this episode, as well as a very special and personal announcement. But truthfully, the best part of this episode are the listener voices at the end sharing THEIR favorite things. I love having YOU on the show! * Full show notes with everything mentioned on this episode...
Ep 39: What needs a lighter hand?
October 29, 2019 07:30 - 19 minutesThis episode is for you if there's an area in your life you suspect you might be a little heavy-handed. If we're heavy handed about something it's usually because we care about that thing. But often this is less effective than we intended. On this episode we're talking about everything from makeup, to relationships, to posting on social media. What in your life could use a lighter touch? * Full show notes for this episode here. @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram @10ThingsToTellYou on f...
Ep 38: Books for growth
October 22, 2019 07:30 - 38 minutesThis episode is for you if you're seeking books to expand your perspective. Reading and personal development are two of my passions, and on this episode they intertwine. I've broken down the books for personal growth into 4 categories: Introspection Spirituality Body Humanity Or, put another way: Discovering ourselves, finding God, connecting to our body, and learning about others. On this episode, I'm listing a few books in each category that has taught me something and expanded...
Ep 37: Who do you see in the picture?
October 15, 2019 07:30 - 15 minutesThis episode is for you if you've ever looked at a photo of yourself and gasped. This has happened to all of us, right? We've looked a photo of ourselves and seen a stranger. Full show notes for this episode here. @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 36: Jenna Fischer & Angela Kinsey are best friends and Office Ladies
October 08, 2019 07:30 - 1 hourThis episode is for you if you met your best friend at the office. Jenna Fischer and Angela Kinsey are well known for their iconic roles as Pam Beesly and Angela Martin on one of the most beloved tv shows of all time, The Office. But in real life they are also best friends, and now they're business partners launching their new podcast Office Ladies. On this very special episode, Jenna and Angela talk with me about one of my favorite topics: friendship. We talk about childhood friends, ho...
FLEABAG: A Love Story (BONUS episode!)
October 05, 2019 05:20 - 1 hourThis episode is for you if you were wrecked by Season 2 of the television show Fleabag. FLEABAG is a two-season television show created by, written by, and starring the incredible Phoebe Waller-Bridge. It swept the 2019 Emmys, winning SIX of the ELEVEN it was nominated for, including Outstanding Comedy Series, Outstanding Lead Actress, and Outstanding Writing for a Comedy Series. I binged Fleabag last week and couldn't go one more day without talking about it. I recruited my friend Sueann F...
Ep 35: Ask me in 3 months
October 01, 2019 07:30 - 18 minutesThis episode is for you if there is something you want to get done before the end of the year. Today's prompt came from the original 10 Things To Tell You social media challenge. We all have something that we just keep procrastinating. Let's commit to completing this task between now and January 1. I'm sharing two of the things that I really want to sit down and finish (both on my To Do list for literally years) and a few ideas for things you might want to be held accountable to in the n...