You're Making It Worse
286 episodes - English - Latest episode: 13 days ago - ★★★★ - 428 ratingsAlthough performing stand-up comedy was what initially united Eliot, Brent, and H. Alan over 10 years ago, it’s their openness (and sense of humor) about feeling totally lost and disconnected from the gay community that’s truly bonded them. On YMIW, Eliot, Brent and H. Alan get down and dirty, exploring the good, bad, and ugly tropes of contemporary gay life, often the stuff that no one -- especially straight people -- discuss for fear of being labeled homophobic. (Don’t worry. They’ll do that for you.) Each episode features a special guest -- comedians, humorists, musicians, influencers, film/TV writers, journalists, politicians, etc. - as well as allies, enemies, and acquaintances from all backgrounds and professions, not just those in the public eye. And as white, urban-dwelling gay dudes in their thirties, Eliot, Brent and H. Alan check their own privilege at the door, eager to instead explore what life looks for those not afforded the same concessions.
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Liam Gareau
April 11, 2024 08:00 - 56 minutesThe downright hilarious Liam Gareau chats with us about being gay in Canada and his pop culture canon...mostly Linda Rondstadt. But first, we discuss a report that Grindr, in an attempt to monetize the platform, might introduce AI chatbots!? Brent ain't having it! And finally, Eliot is dying to know, what do we music novices think of Beyonce's new country album, Cowboy Carter? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Halle Kiefer
April 04, 2024 08:00 - 54 minutesAdorable and hilarious Halle Kiefer joins us to talk about why her Catholic faith is more terrifying than the most gruesome horror movies. But first, One Million Moms goes to war against...Paris Hilton and the color pink. And finally, Grindr turns 15! We celebrate by musing whether it's been a good or bad influence on us all. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Adam Bucci
March 28, 2024 08:00 - 51 minutesThe multi-talented Adam Bucci joins us to discuss his beloved horror and pop culture shop, Small Town Weirdo, devolving into us geeking out on Ryan Phillippe and all things horror (Eliot excluded, too scary!). But first, why is BYU forcing incoming freshman to read an anti-gay speech that involves musket fire!? And finally, hear firsthand how Brent dupes Eliot with a sleazy texting app literally multiple times a week! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Barrett Blackman
March 21, 2024 08:00 - 54 minutesThe delightfully dry Barrett Blackman joins the guys to discuss all things Golden Girls (yes, even Golden Palace) as well as his appearance on Judge Mathis (jealous!). But first, would you believe that trans high school thespian Max Hightower went head-to-head with their Texas principal...and won?! And finally, should there be a protocol for swapping nude pics?! Eliot needs to know! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dubbs Weinblatt
March 14, 2024 08:00 - 46 minutesDubbs Weinblatt joins us to talk about coming out stories and maybe even how great Columbus, OH is! But first, is it weird that RuPaul's new bookstore is selling Kirk Cameron novels? And finally, hear about all the drama that happened the day after an amorous fella sent Eliot a bunch of filthy videos on Grindr. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Parker Callahan
March 07, 2024 09:00 - 51 minutesParker Callahan, hilarious performer and writer, engages us with a freewheeling chat about microdosing, Cards Against Humanity, and his brilliantly gay-themed body of theater work. But first, we explore the horrific death of Oklahoma non-binary teen Nex Benedict, who mysteriously dropped dead one day after being assaulted by bullies in their suburban Tulsa high school. And finally, what should we make of Fentanyl test strips being available in gay bars!? Should we be scared? Relieved? Who eve...
Kate Stayman-London
February 29, 2024 09:00 - 58 minutesThe effervescently hilarious Kate Stayman-London joins us to discuss her romance novels, Taylor Swift's sexuality, and working for Hillary. But first, the guys discuss why Greece legalizing same-sex marriage is a huge deal for an Orthodox country. And finally, Eliot discusses the kind of business he dreams of opening and Brent shares his own...rather dark idea. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Reid Pope
February 22, 2024 09:00 - 56 minutesThe brilliant comedian Reid Pope comes on to discuss their viral "thirst trap recreations," and how unamused many of those self-serious influencers were. But first, will you invest in the NEW Fire Island that's gonna be in Greece, I guess? And finally, learn how gays paved the way for all those straight DINKs out there. No, that's not a sex term, you'll just have to listen to find out what it means! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jenny Yang
February 15, 2024 09:00 - 53 minutesComedian and action star (!!) Jenny Yang joins the guys to talk about her self-care rituals and fight scene prep. But first, find out what happened after Indiana opened up a hotline to report "transgressive" public school curriculum like...civil rights 😬. And finally, the guys debate post-wedding name changes but ONE host reveals he's inexplicably anti-all-last-names! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Hot Topics: Oscars, Nipple Inspections and Straight Dudes Going Gay-ish
February 08, 2024 09:00 - 53 minutesThe Oscars season is upon us! The guys pepper Alan, resident movie aficionado, with questions about this year's Oscar nods and glaring omissions. But first up, why the hell are there nipple inspections happening at gay bars in Seattle? And finally, speaking of movies like Saltburn [rolls eyes], Alan wants to know what the guys think of modern gay-baiting. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Kim David Smith
January 25, 2024 09:00 - 1 hourTWO GUESTS THIS WEEK! First, cabaret legend Kim David Smith comes on to talk Marlene Dietrich and a million other campy things that went over Brent's head. Plus, "Nate", a full service masseur (yes, Happy Endings included) joined us this week to have a frank, free-wheeling, and de-stigmatizing conversation about working in the sex industry. But first, the guys chat about Rep. Robert Garcia, the gay Congressman who quoted...the Housewives in Congress? 😬 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit ...
Maggie Winters
January 18, 2024 09:00 - 49 minutesThe internet's funniest content creator Maggie Winters dazzles the guys with a convo that ranges from stew to her Disney World employee experience. But first, what do the guys think of the newest most powerful gay politician, France's Gabriel Attal? (Eat your heart out Latvia). And finally, we wade in on the 5000 word [sigh] editorial in the NYTimes about Taylor Swift's sexuality. Yikes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Darby & Alexis (IMHO: The Show)
January 11, 2024 09:00 - 53 minutesDrag duo/icons Darby & Alexis (IMHO: The Show) basically come on and make the guys laugh for 25 minutes straight. But first, the guys discuss a Reddit thread about ways to garner 'gay attention' at the gym and why Brent qualifies as "skid row chic." And finally, hear the most precocious, adorable clip of Young Eliot, long before he was unhinged, on Public Radio! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Carson Garrett from 'Survivor' 44
December 21, 2023 09:00 - 1 hourSurvivor FINALIST Carson Garrett joins the guys to be extremely cute but also explore why he's become such a huge gay thirst trap. But first, find out what state is the gayest...percentage wise. And finally, a rare second guest! Alan brings on his good friend, Jonathan Edelman, to explore the DC gay scene and why we should all move there. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jeff Hiller
December 14, 2023 09:00 - 58 minutesThe amazing Jeff Hiller, of Somebody Somewhere fame, joins the guys to chat about church, cliche gay characters, and bad improv! But first, the guys had no choice but to argue over the problematic nature of George Santos' Cameo page. And finally, learn what anxieties keep these three up at night. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Bryan Safi
December 07, 2023 09:00 - 49 minutesThe incomparable Bryan Safi joins us (AGAIN!!) to gab about his myriad podcasts and new solo show. But first, the guys discuss a shockingly spiteful anti-trans measure to come from a small community in California of all places! And finally, find out which of the three loves the global phenom Taylor Swift and which are neutral! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sarah Tapscott
November 30, 2023 09:00 - 56 minutesThe hilarious comedy writer Sarah Tapscott joins the guys to talk about coming out "late" and, well, doll genitals. But first, why is Fox News anti-black handicapped Santas? And finally, the guys explore whether Brent was chatting on Hinge with a robot profile which leads them to a pretty terrifying revelation at the end! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Shane O'Neill
November 16, 2023 09:00 - 59 minutesShane O'Neill, fashion, culture, and media writer for WaPo's StylePost, mesmerizes the guys with his wealth of knowledge about all things culture! But first, we must debate Marjorie Taylor Greene's most recent publicity stunt. And finally, Brent shares some very shocking differences between gay and straight protocols on dating apps. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ashley Ray
November 09, 2023 09:00 - 56 minutesThe wildly delightful Ashley Ray, with her encyclopedic knowledge of television, comes on for a lively chat about her favorite pastime. But first, learn how the Republican's new Speaker of the House isn't just any ole garden variety homophobe. And finally, the guys weigh in on rich gay dad influencer "content." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Cody Seiya
October 26, 2023 08:00 - 52 minutesOnlyFans star Cody Seiya joins the guys to answer...well, all of Brent's questions about life as a porn star. But first, why is the NHL appeasing homophobes!? And finally, learn what the guys deem red flags on dating profiles. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jonathan Andre Culliton
October 19, 2023 08:00 - 49 minutesJonathan Andre Culliton of Trans Cinematic Universe Podcast comes on to discuss all those crazy trans references and macroaggressions from movies of the 80s and 90s. But first, find out if the guys are as obsessed with the Roman Empire as straight dudes. And finally, why are studies showing young people having less sex? And will this cause Eliot to jump off a bridge!? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sara Jo Allocco and Dan St. Germain
October 05, 2023 08:00 - 54 minutesSara Jo Allocco and Dan St. Germain of The IT Crowd Podcast talk about the only thing scarier than their marriage: horror movies. But first, the guys dig into the theory that the evolution of gay villains shows how far we've come in our fight for equality. Then, hear Brent talk about a close encounter with his former favorite cam model! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jeffery Self
September 27, 2023 08:00 - 55 minutesActor, comedian, former Marjorie Taylor Greene neighbor Jeffery Self basically just makes the guys laugh for 25ish minutes. But first, here's a question: is Republican Senator Tim Scott a virgin? And finally, Alan charms us all with a sweet re-telling of his first date with Michael! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Paul Robalino
September 21, 2023 08:00 - 48 minutesPaul Robalino of CollegeHumor discusses the site's not-so-recent pivot and how they manage to make hilarious content that's actually uplifting. But first, the guys give an update on Kim Davis' legal drama before ragging on what a trash heap she is. And finally, Alan calls out middle-aged homosexuals (that's us!) who still dress like their tweens (not us). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Marla Mindelle
September 14, 2023 08:00 - 53 minutesMarla Mindelle, star of Titanique The Musical, dishes on the show and delights the guys with her jaw-dropping Celine impression. But first, guess which state is now the ONLY ONE that has never elected an openly LGBTQ official!? And the guys get VERY personal about their ASMR fetishes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Lauren Ashley Smith
September 07, 2023 08:00 - 57 minutesLegendary sketch writer Lauren Ashley Smith comes on and tells the amazing story behind meeting her wife and landing in the NYTimes. But first, the guy's discuss Russia's 81st crackdown on gay kids this year. And finally, Brent shares a very weird story about a possible...fake nurse? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Debra DiGiovanni
August 31, 2023 08:00 - 52 minutesDo not miss comedian Debra DiGiovanni's insane green card story (alongside plenty of other tidbits). Plus, why is Grindr trying to rebrand as a LinkedIn competitor? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Unhinged Fan Q&A
August 24, 2023 08:00 - 1 hourThe guys field some fun, cute, probing, and even contentious questions from their ravenous fan base! Plus find out why Stephen Miller's boycotting Frosted Flakes (lol) and Brent explains his love of sorbet! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Brian Derrick
August 17, 2023 08:00 - 57 minutesPolitical operative Brian Derrick shares some rather ominous thoughts about the upcoming election. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Pete Zias
August 10, 2023 07:00 - 55 minutesPete Zias joins to explain his obsession with tabloids and why they're not just for "grandmother women" anymore. And Brent spotlights the edgelord vibe of asking "Have we met?" on a gay dating app. Then, we go to the doctor, we go to the mountains -- it's never too late for an Indigo Girls renaissance! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Anna Roisman
August 03, 2023 07:00 - 49 minutesAnna Roisman, comedian, impressionist and former HQ hostess, gives the guys a lesson in Hilaria Baldwin 101 and it's...how do you say, cucumber? Plus, the guys explore the complicated queer tank top. And Brent's existential dread about AI on Grindr comes to a head. Just one piece of advice: don't bother Eliot in the middle of Mare of Winningham. @HAlanScott Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Brian Gallivan
July 27, 2023 07:00 - 56 minutesTV writer Brian Gallivan joins this week and helps the guys each figure out which Wayans brother they find the most crushworthy -- it's Damon Jr. for Brian, as made clear from his days writing for Happy Endings. Plus, #notmyspiderman trends after Tom Holland appears in a gay sex scene and people get mad? And the co-hosts commemorate the 20th anniversary of Queer Eye for the Straight Guy, and H. Alan still doesn't know what Jai did. @HAlanScott Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megapho...
Arden Myrin
July 20, 2023 07:00 - 59 minutesActress and comedian Arden Myrin graces the fellas with her presence to discuss reality TV and, well, more reality TV. And cookiepuss! Plus, everything to know about the controversy surrounding 303 Creative, this term's Supreme Court case that ruled against a gay man...who isn't gay. And finally, does Brent know this summer's big gay bop?! Scratch that: does Brent know what a "bop" is? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Zackary Drucker
July 13, 2023 07:00 - 57 minutesZackary Drucker joins to talk about her breadth of film work from The Stroll to The Lady and the Dale to Queenmaker: Making of an It Girl ...and, girl, it's a gift. Plus, can Ron DeSantis actually get ahead in the 2023 political landscape using old school, all American homophobia? And when it comes to native accents, whose comes through the strongest? Ask Brent about his father! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sean O'Connor
June 29, 2023 07:00 - 53 minutesThe funniest comedy writer Sean O'Connor joins the guys to goss about the sexiest baseball players and his conservative parents VERY strange (but sweet!) relationship with their gay BFF. But first, Brent's home state of Michigan is desperately trying to get YOU to move there. And then the guys debate whether it's cool to Grindr all day when you've got young kids at home that probably need food and diapers or whatever. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Louis Peitzman
June 22, 2023 07:00 - 57 minutesWriter and theater critic Louis Peitzman joins the guys from New York, where he is by all accounts okay with Times Square (...but we love him anyway). Plus, LGBTQ+ fiction are at record sales, which is like...books? Cool! And now that Pat Sajak is exiting his gig, where do the guys (including bona fide Wheel of Fortune contestant Eliot) fall in terms of finding a replacement host? Three words: keep Wheel bland! @HAlanScott Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Joshua Conkel
June 15, 2023 07:00 - 50 minutesGay horror aficionado Joshua Conkel joins the guys to talk about all the spooky horror movie deep cuts you've never heard of. But first up -- and speaking of terrifying -- people are dying from poppers!? But not the way you think. The CDC is reminding folks to...stop DRINKING poppers! And finally, Brent poses a deep philosophical question: can you Grindr openly in public!? @HAlanScott Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Monét X Change
June 08, 2023 07:00 - 59 minutesMonét X Change joins this week to talk about her new standup comedy tour as well as following in the footsteps of a former Supreme Court Justice! Then, did Ted Cruz become an ally just in time for Pride month? Plus, Brent [possibly] degrades THE METH COMMUNITY and you are [possibly] OUTRAGED!!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Madison McFerrin
May 25, 2023 07:00 - 55 minutesThe guys welcome monumentally talented singer Madison McFerrin to the podcast, to discuss her first album and why the hell she's so damn popular on one deep-cut app in China! But first, the Dodgers LGBT Pride Day controversy might have been diffused, but that won't keep the guys from bickering about it along largely predictable ideological lines (Brent = pragmatically liberal, Alan = boring!) And finally, the guys dish on Disney remakes and whether The Little Mermaid reboot has any potential....
Matt Harkins and Viviana Rosales Olen of THNK1994
May 18, 2023 07:00 - 55 minutesThis week, Matt Harkins and Viviana Rosales Olen of THNK1994 sprinkle into the pod the unique fairy dust of references that make their brand so unique, from Kim Cattrall's spoken word sex jazz to a museum dedicated solely to the evolution of the MILF. Then, a drag queen as a digital ambassador for the NAVY? In THIS economy? And a revelation about H. Alan's mom gets revealed that leaves Brent and Eliot speechless. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Shalewa Sharpe
May 11, 2023 07:00 - 1 hourThis week, comedian (and former musical liaison to Elton John) Shalewa Sharpe joins live from NYC, not "the ATL," thank you very much. Also, when an line of underwear geared toward "thick" men is released but doesn't run beyond 2XL, did it really even happen? And is it possible to be too tired for a first date because you're too tired from your last date? Only Brent knows. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Joey Capuana
April 27, 2023 07:00 - 54 minutesJoey Capuana, author of queer comic Trance, joins to explain comics vs. graphic novels. Plus, fucking straight guys! Also, the New York Times lays out the timeline of how transphobia became America's most fervent talking point. Plus, is David Duchovny hot? Is Lucille Bogan a pan icon? CAN GAYS CAUSE EARTHQUAKES? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Avi Wisnia
April 20, 2023 07:00 - 51 minutesAvi Wisnia, subject of PBS documentary 'How Saba Kept Singing' (now available everywhere, including YouTube) joins the guys to commemorate his remarkable grandfather, a Holocaust survivor [and late husband of Eliot's thirstiest fan]. Meanwhile, Brent reveals his newest investment as downtown LA'S #1 good samaritan. And why is Italy being so weird about gay parents? Fuhgeddaboudit!!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Isaac Oliver
April 13, 2023 12:02 - 50 minutesIsaac Oliver -- scribe, memoirist and all-around delight -- joins to help further the discourse on both intimacy between gay male friends and the value of pineapple on pizza. (Pineapple?! On pizza?! Fuhgeddaboudit!) Then, remember covid? We sure don't! Plus, nepo baby and human grease fire Kid Rock gets SOOOO MADDDD at beer...because...trans? It'll make sense when you listen. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Listener Questions & Comments (It Gets Weird)
April 06, 2023 07:00 - 50 minutesThis week, it's just the guys with listener Q&A! And there's a little something for everyone, from a career retrospective of Margo Martindale to East African dance troupes to those goddamn Funko dolls. There's even a breezy mention of Krokodil, a Russian flesh-eating drug that only Brent would happily argue is worse than Fentanyl. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Blair Socci
March 30, 2023 07:00 - 50 minutesBlair Socci joins to walk the guys through what will eventually be known as The Great Unfollowing. Then, Brent wonders if he's the only one to be a loyal customer to many an OnlyFans. Plus, can't a straight, married father of two (like Tennessee lieutenant governor Randy McNally) vote against the rights of the very same twinks whose thirst traps he so innocently bathes in flirty comments and fire emojis?! WHAT HAPPENED TO FREEDOM? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Augustus Prew
March 23, 2023 07:00 - 48 minutesEnglish actor and dreamboat Augustus Prew joins the guys (despite a few audio difficulties) to talk about acting as a kid, an adult, and what it's like when your agent really doesn't want you to come out! But first, the fellas debate whether Mike Pence's recent Gridiron Club Dinner jokes about Pete Buttigieg were homophobic -- and you might be surprised who takes the strongest stance! And finally, if you want to know more about your favorite podcast hosts cell phone histories, you're in luck!...
Christi Chiello
March 17, 2023 04:47 - 44 minutesComedian Christi Chiello joins this week and things get very serious when the inevitable "gay podcast" question arises: what is Liza Minelli's "deal?" Plus, CPAC 2023 -- basically ComicCon, but for Republican wingnuts -- brought out the worst and darkest in America's finest transphobes. And after Meghan Trainor incorrectly co-opts queer slang and calls herself "mother" in a new single, Eliot finally implodes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Andrea Rosen & John Gemberling
March 09, 2023 08:00 - 52 minutesComedians and happy couple Andrea Rosen (Upload, Never Have I Ever) and John Gemberling (The President Show, Broad City) join the guys to talk about marital bliss, the curse of the "normos," and John's cameo in HBO's smutty 1999 "documentary" Private Dicks: Men Exposed when he was just a teenager. Plus, what exactly is "bear face" and why is it EVERYWHERE? And just how many gay friends do the guys' parents count in their social circles? Wrong answers only! Learn more about your ad choices. Vi...
Leslie Grossman
March 02, 2023 08:00 - 1 hourLiving, breathing queer icon and star of the American Horror Story franchise Leslie Grossman joins the guys to commemorate her long, storied career and short stint at Weight Watchers camp. Also, has our view national feelings on queerbaiting changed, or should we still be concerned by Charlie Puth and Harry Styles courting the male gays with the male gaze? Plus, when it comes to masculinity vs. femininity, what do the extreme versions look like for the guys, and what exactly does Eliot do "at...