You Can Tell Me
42 episodes - English - Latest episode: almost 3 years ago - ★★★★★ - 16 ratingsNeed help getting over a breakup? Same. We’re talking to people who have gotten over their heartbreak in our new podcast, You Can Tell Me, an anonymous guide to getting over your ex. Everyone’s anonymous, and everyone’s honest. Subscribe now so you don’t miss a thing.
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38. Announcement: Healing Girl Summer Hiatus
June 07, 2021 04:00 - 2 minutes - 2.48 MBWe are declaring this summer HEALING GIRL SUMMER! Thank you everyone for joining us on this Season 1 journey! This project is near and dear to my heart, and got me through the worst of times. We are taking a bit of a break this summer to focus some energy on other creative projects, but also to prepare for Season 2 coming in the fall! In the meantime, listen to all of Season 1 all over again! Or, better yet, leave a review on Apple Podcasts and rate our show! We will miss you <3 See you...
37. Are They Still Together: Love and Basketball (feat. Ladies Who Bronché)
May 31, 2021 04:00 - 32 minutes - 24 MBToday's movie is the 2000 classic – Love and Basketball (dir. Gina Prince-Bythewood). This beloved classic tells the story of childhood sweethearts over the course of their lives, and we debunk our famous question: would they still be together if this movie was real life? In this episode we share the mic with the fabulous Julissa & Skittlez from the Ladies Who Bronché podcast and spill the tea on fuckboys, playing (literal) games, and people who use their career as an excuse to end relation...
36. Are They Still Together: How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days
May 24, 2021 16:56 - 31 minutes - 22.1 MBToday we're joined by the fabulous folks from LAB Partners Podcast, discussing How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days starring Matthew McConaghey and Kate Hudson. Today's topic is pet peeves: the things we really can't stand. We talk about the importance of having aligned lifestyles, work/life balance, and chewing with your mouth CLOSED. Enjoy!
35. *BONUS* Based on a True Fiction: How Stella Got Her Groove Back
May 21, 2021 04:00 - 1 hour - 59 MBThey joined us on ours, we joined them on theirs. The YCTM sat down with Abby and Stacy from Based on a True Fiction to discuss 1998's classic summer romance movie How Stella Got Her Groove Back (dir. Kevin Rodney Sullivan)! We talk about how Angela Bassett invented the concept of having abs, read Letterboxd reviews, and that VERY steamy shower scene with Taye Diggs. Listen, rate & subscribe!
34. Are They Still Together: My Big Fat Greek Wedding (feat. Based on a True Fiction)
May 17, 2021 04:00 - 34 minutes - 26.7 MBToday we are joined by Abby and Stacy from the podcast Based on a True Fiction! We discuss one of our all-time favorite romantic comedies My Big Fat Greek Wedding, while sharing stories about meeting our partners' families, and anxiety about cultural differences.
33. Are They Still Togther: Ghost (feat. Ladies Fright Podcast)
May 10, 2021 04:00 - 35 minutes - 28.1 MBToday's movie is the 1999 classic Ghost (dir. Jerry Zucker). Ladies Fright Podcast joins the You Can Tell Me team to talk about how hot Patrick Swayze and Demi Moore are, love in the afterlife, and -- of course -- that steamy pottery scene. You know the one. Rate & subscribe! Follow us on Twitter & Instagram @youcantellmepod
32. Are They Still Together: 10 Things I Hate About You (feat. Yamini Nambimadom)
May 03, 2021 04:00 - 31 minutes - 24.9 MBONLY MOVIES IN MAY! This May, we are releasing five installments of our Movie Monday episodes. <3 Yamini Nambimadom (comedian & host of Pillow Fight) joins the YCTM team to discuss our producer's favorite rom com – 10 Things I Hate About You (dir. Gil Junger). We waste no time gushing/thirsting over Heath Ledger and Joseph Gordon-Levitt, while also discussing "the chase," Gabrielle Union's inability to age, toxic nice guy syndrome, and gaslighting. Oh, and, did I mention gushing over Heat...
31. Are They Still Together: Runaway Bride (feat. RAWring Twenties)
April 26, 2021 04:00 - 39 minutes - 31 MBToday's couple on the hot seat: Maggie Carpenter (Julia Roberts) & Ike Graham (Richard Gere). We are discussing RUNAWAY BRIDE (dir. Garry Marshall), serial dating, knowing yourself before making big commitments, and how we like our eggs. Featuring our friends Julia & Brenda from RAWring Twenties Podcast – check them out!
30. Addiction is Hell (feat. Long Time Listener)
April 19, 2021 04:00 - 41 minutes - 32.9 MB*CONTENT WARNING* This episode contains discussion of addiction and drug use that may be triggering to some. Please listen with caution. If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, consider calling SAMHSA’s National Helpline – 1-800-662-HELP (4357). __________ Long Time Listener shares her experience of dating someone who was using hard drugs and how she had to prioritize taking care of herself, even when it was the hardest thing to do. Survival strategies mentioned in thi...
29. *BONUS* A Sad Girl's Guide to Fearless (Taylor's Version)
April 15, 2021 04:00 - 38 minutes - 27.1 MB*EMERGENCY BONUS RECORDING!* When Miss Swift re-records one of her most iconic albums, the You Can Tell Me team had no choice but to create a track-by-track guide. May Taylor Swift score your heartbreak like she does for us <3 SAD GIRL TRACKLIST: Fifteen (Taylor's Version) White Horse (Taylor's Version) You Belong With Me (Taylor's Version) Breathe (feat. Colbie Callait) (Taylor's Version) Tell Me Why (Taylor's Version) You're Not Sorry (Taylor's Version) The Way I Loved Yo...
28. Co-Parenting Cats & Sharing a Savings Account (feat. I Think I'm Gay)
April 12, 2021 04:00 - 41 minutes - 29.7 MBIn today's episode of You Can Tell Me, I Think I'm Gay shares how she ended her marriage to her partner of 12 years when she realized she wasn't sexually attracted to men anymore. She discusses the hardship of going through a divorce while also coming to terms with her sexuality. Survival strategies mentioned in this episode include: Take some space from your ex after your break-up. Space helps. Maintain boundaries with your ex even when it is challenging. SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and ...
27. Like Taylor Swift Said, ’Tis the Damn Season (feat. A Cellist)
April 05, 2021 04:12 - 32 minutes - 25.2 MBA Cellist joins us this week to talk about ending her high school relationship when starting college due to massive jealousy issues. Between the clingy texts and the long-distance, there was no chance this musical duo was going to make it work long-term. Survival strategies mentioned in this episode: Cry for a week, then listen to Lizzo. If you are planning to break up with someone, don’t let it drag out for too long. Subscribe & follow us! Share with your friends! instagram....
26. Are They Still Together: When Harry Met Sally
March 29, 2021 04:00 - 29 minutes - 23.6 MBIntroducing a new series: ARE THEY STILL TOGETHER?! Every month, the You Can Tell Me will analyze a famous rom com couple and determine whether or not they are still together, based on the information we know about relationships now. Today's film is When Harry Met Sally (1989) dir. Rob Reiner. The duo discusses whether or not Harry and Sally would still be together if this was IRL, and they try to answer the question of the film: "can men and women be friends without wanting to sleep with ...
25. On Again, Off Again (feat. Living in a World of Mixed Signals)
March 22, 2021 04:00 - 1 hour - 53.6 MBOn today's episode of You Can Tell Me, our guest tells us about an on again, off again relationship that has finally reached its conclusion after her ex's inability to understand what truly connecting really means. Survival strategies mentioned in this episode include: Journal your feelings while you are having them – keep track of what isn't serving you in the relationship. Be honest and open with your partner – the person who is meant for you is not going to walk away if you are t...
24. *BONUS* Aasha Tells All: MTV's Are You The One, Come One Come All
March 18, 2021 04:00 - 26 minutes - 21 MBAasha Wells from MTV's Are You The One, Come One Come All joins the You Can Tell Me team to talk about her experience dating on a reality TV show! Follow us on Twitter & Instagram @youcantellmepod. Email us your breakup stories at [email protected].
23. Am I Allowed To Get Explicit? (feat. A Reality TV Star)
March 15, 2021 04:20 - 40 minutes - 29.9 MB*CONTENT WARNING* This episode contains detailed discussion of sexual acts. A Reality TV Star recounts the story of her first boyfriend. With model looks and a massive ego, A Reality TV Star's ex had some trouble respecting boundaries which, as we know by now, is a big NO. Be sure to tune in on Thursday for a bonus episode wherein this guest tells all about her experience being on a Reality TV show. Survival strategies in this episode include: Give your heartbreak time. Time heals...
22. Vibing with Your Ex at 4am (feat. At the Bodega)
March 08, 2021 05:00 - 1 hour - 49 MBAt the Bodega tells us about their most recent breakup, and subsequent adventurous night with their ex, and how to stick to your decisions when you know it's best for the long term. Survival strategies in this episode: Really consider what your decisions will mean for you and your ex before you make them Rely on the people you can truly be yourself with in the aftermath of the break-up Subscribe & follow us @youcantellmepod. Email us your survival stories at youcantellmepod@gmail...
21. *BONUS* Red Flags (feat. You Should Have Ghosted)
March 04, 2021 05:00 - 28 minutes - 22 MBThe You Can Tell Me team sits down with Lizz and Shayna from You Should Have Ghosted to discuss scary online dating and red flags to look out for if you are dipping your toes back into dating! Check out our episode on the You Should Have Ghosted feed here. Red flags mentioned in this episode: Meeting up the night you met on the app When someone doesn't have pictures of themself on their dating profile When someone changes up plans last minute When someone doesn't know, appreciat...
20. Entangled in a Situationship (feat. Boss Girl Ready to Simp)
March 01, 2021 05:00 - 33 minutes - 25.5 MBBoss Girl is done with situationships. In this episode, she talks through how her last foray into the gray area of entanglements ended, and the steps she is taking to find that one special someone to be a simp for. Survival strategy: Anticipate that you will feel tempted to go back to your ex because it was comfortable – know who to turn to in those moments when your ex is simply not the best option. Follow us & subscribe @youcantellmepod. Email us your survival stories to youc...
19. Follow-Up: Hot Girl
February 26, 2021 05:00 - 31 minutes - 25 MBThe You Can Tell Me team catches up with Hot Girl from Episode 12: Should've, Could've, Would've. She shares a fun relationship update! Follow us on instagram and twitter @youcantellmepod. Email us your survival stories at [email protected].
19. *BONUS* Follow-Up: Hot Girl
February 26, 2021 05:00 - 31 minutes - 25 MBThe You Can Tell Me team catches up with Hot Girl from Episode 12: Should've, Could've, Would've. She shares a fun relationship update! Follow us on instagram and twitter @youcantellmepod. Email us your survival stories at [email protected].
18. A Jock and a Nerd Walk Into Chorus Class (feat. The Friend)
February 22, 2021 05:11 - 45 minutes - 35.1 MBAlways introduced as The Friend, this episode's guest discusses his first love with someone who wasn't out of the closet just yet. Despite having noteworthy chemistry, ultimately something had to give when communication broke down between the two of them. A romantic trip to Louisiana would turn into their ultimate demise. Survival strategies shared in this episode: Nourish and cherish your friendships just as you would your romantic relationships When you enter a relationship, don’t...
17. *BONUS* Follow-Up: A New Yorker in LA
February 19, 2021 05:00 - 21 minutes - 18.3 MBThe You Can Tell Me team catches up with A New Yorker in LA from our third episode. She shares how she's been doing since her breakup in March! Follow us on instagram and twitter @youcantellmepod. Email us your survival stories at [email protected].
17. Follow-Up: A New Yorker in LA
February 19, 2021 05:00 - 21 minutes - 18.3 MBThe You Can Tell Me team catches up with A New Yorker in LA from our third episode. She shares how she's been doing since her breakup in March! Follow us on instagram and twitter @youcantellmepod. Email us your survival stories at [email protected].
16. Few Things Are Set in Stone (feat. Gently Evolving)
February 15, 2021 05:00 - 35 minutes - 25.4 MBThis week we are featuring a non-traditional break-up story: breaking up with a perceived identity. We talk to Gently Evolving who, after identifying as a lesbian for four years, fell in love with a cisgender man. She discusses the complexities of queer identity, how she still considers herself part of the LGBTQIA+ community, and tips on how to handle tricky coming out situations. Survival strategies include: Be gentle with yourself Surround yourself with those who will be understan...
15. Follow-Up: Resilient Single Dog Mom
February 12, 2021 05:00 - 35 minutes - 27.5 MBThe You Can Tell Me team catches up with our very first guest, Resilient Single Dog Mom, six months into her break up with her ex. She shares what has been most helpful to her in her healing journey which includes a rigorous morning routine and cultivating confidence through meditation and affirmations! Follow us & subscribe: @youcantellmepod Email us your survival stories at [email protected].
15. *BONUS* Follow-Up: Resilient Single Dog Mom
February 12, 2021 05:00 - 35 minutes - 27.5 MBThe You Can Tell Me team catches up with our very first guest, Resilient Single Dog Mom, six months into her break up with her ex. She shares what has been most helpful to her in her healing journey which includes a rigorous morning routine and cultivating confidence through meditation and affirmations! Follow us & subscribe: @youcantellmepod Email us your survival stories at [email protected].
14. I Wish I Remember What Song it Was (feat. Mystery Musician)
February 08, 2021 05:00 - 53 minutes - 40.2 MBA Mystery Musician joins the You Can Tell Me team to tell us about her first love. For the majority of their relationship, they lived over 3,000 miles apart before FaceTime existed – but their summers were akin to the fairytales we love so much. A true heartwarming teenage love story set to a Coldplay album. Survival strategies include: Give yourself as much mercy as you can. Use your creativity! Keep journals of your time. Remind yourself of your tenacity by looking back on other...
13. *BONUS* We Are Following Up in February
February 05, 2021 05:00 - 13 minutes - 10 MBYou Can Tell Me is excited to announce a special series for February: FEBRUARY FOLLOW-UPS! For the next three Fridays, we will be following up with past guests to see how they're doing on their healing journeys. They will share their advice, spill some tea, and remind us that everyone is healing on their own timeline. The YCTM team also shares their plans for Galentine's Day, as well as a special guest spot they are doing on RAWring Twenties Podcast this month. Follow us on instagram...
12. Should've, Could've, Would've (feat. Hot Girl)
February 01, 2021 05:00 - 1 hour - 50.3 MB*CONTENT WARNING* This episode contains discussion of sexual violence. Please listen with caution, and take care of yourself. Eight years ago, Hot Girl fell in love for the first time. It was film school, he was perfect, and everything was right in the world. That is, until passions ran high, events were misinterpreted, and the relationship came to a dramatic end. In this episode, Hot Girl looks back on this relationship and examines all the things that would be different if only both ...
11. A Ghost Story (feat. Always Leveling Up)
January 25, 2021 05:00 - 42 minutes - 30.7 MBDon't believe in ghosts? Think again. In this episode Always Leveling Up spills the tea on the dude who keeps ghosting her and how she's coped with it when it happens. Survival strategies featured in this episode include: Just focus on the next 24 hours – stay present. The feelings will pass eventually, they are temporary. Remind yourself that you are worthy of love, respect and admiration. Subscribe & follow us! IG & Twitter – @youcantellmepod Share your survival stories ...
10. Key Grips Are Hot But My Kink is Hotter (feat. Guilty No More)
January 18, 2021 05:00 - 46 minutes - 34.9 MB*WARNING: This episode includes detailed descriptions of sexual acts.* For those of you who have recently ended a relationship and are feeling guilty about how you ended things – this episode is for you. Guilty No More realized something was up when she... literally never wanted to have sex with her boyfriend. Major red flag. She discusses working up the courage to be honest with her partner and how she learned more about herself in the aftermath of their relationship. Survival strategie...
9. I Had to Live With My Ex For 9 Months (feat. Table For One)
January 11, 2021 05:00 - 53 minutes - 38.8 MB"I went back so y'all don't have to." Table For One sits down with the You Can Tell Me team to discuss healing after an eight year-long relationship wherein they still had to live with one another after the fact. We talk about taking a pause from dating to date yourself as a means of healing. Survival Strategies discussed in this episode: Honor your feelings Cultivate a relationship with yourself to better understand what you can give in a relationship Romance yourself! Buy candle...
8. I Struggled to Say “I’m Gay” (feat. The Perfect Wife)
January 04, 2021 05:00 - 51 minutes - 34.7 MBThe Perfect Wife was married for 14 years when she realized she was attracted to women. They had what seemed like the perfect suburban life, including two kids and a nice house. But underneath it all, our guest was not being true to herself. We discuss listening to your inner knowing and trusting that it is okay to be who you are because in the end the right people will always be there to catch you. Survival strategies in this episode include: Advocating for yourself and what's best for you...
7. *BONUS* Breaking Up With 2020
December 31, 2020 05:00 - 29 minutes - 23.6 MBGood riddance, 2020! We are breaking up! Host & Producer sit down to discuss what we are breaking up with in order to become better versions of ourselves in 2021. Some survival strategies for the new year include: NO TOXIC COMPARISON! Being proud of everything you have accomplished (hint: if you survived 2020, this applies to you.) Being the main character! Follow & Subscribe: IG & Twitter – @youcantellmepod email us your survival strategies at [email protected].
6. A Hero’s Journey, or Fellas Listen Up (feat. A Guy’s Guy)
December 28, 2020 05:00 - 1 hour - 41.9 MBA Guy's Guy broke up with his girlfriend after realizing his life was in auto-pilot. In this episode, we discuss the trouble men have with being vulnerable and facing their demons, alcholism, and the emotional labor women end up doing in relationships. Send this episode to at least one straight man you know. Survival strategies featured in this episode: Be honest with yourself about your own toxic patterns Have the courage to seek help Don't count on the bottle in front of you to sol...
5. I Wrote Him A Letter (feat. A Really Special Person)
December 21, 2020 05:00 - 1 hour - 46.6 MBA Really Special Person wrote her ex a letter when she realized that perhaps he was not as committed to the relationship as she was. She breaks down what she wrote in her letter, and shares some of the strategies she used to cope as she came to the realization that her relationship wasn’t going to turn out the way she wanted it to. She also shares her daily mantra: “pain comes from the inability to accept what is.” Strategies Get out of the routine you created around this person Rememb...
4. Do I Like Your Personality or Are You Just Hot? (feat. The One Before The One)
December 14, 2020 05:00 - 43 minutes - 32.7 MBThe One Before The One thought she would be The One… despite the fact that soon into the relationship she realized she wasn’t a big fan of his personality… he was just very hot. This guest tells us her journey of coming into her true self post-breakup by determining who she needed to be, and who she needed to surround herself with, in order to heal. Survival Strategies Baking scones (https://sallysbakingaddiction.com/scones-recipe/) Distancing yourself from mutual friends who don’t have...
3. He Told Me He Was Bi-Coastal (feat. A New Yorker in LA)
December 07, 2020 05:00 - 1 hour - 53.1 MBLike two ships in the night, A New Yorker in LA found herself moving back and forth across the country for her long-distance boo. The pandemic presented itself as an opportunity for the two of them to finally lay down roots together... until someone who was always lurking in the shadows found her way into the foreground and plans changed. This guest discusses her ex's narcissistic behavior, career jealousy, and all things long-distance in this episode. Survival strategies featured in this ...
2. The Showmance Will Get You (feat. Kind of An Intense Person)
November 30, 2020 05:00 - 55 minutes - 46.6 MBThree years out from the break-up, Kind of An Intense Person looks back on his experience breaking up with his first love. He goes on to tell us about the importance of being vulnerable with your partner, finding your sense of self after you lost it in a relationship, and revising the narratives of your life so they suit your healing process. And of course, we discuss the final scene of Call Me By Your Name and its direct correlation to healing from a bad split. Survival strategies feature...
1. Four Years Ended in One Minute (feat. Resilient Single Dog Mom)
November 23, 2020 05:00 - 50 minutes - 38.7 MBAfter being together for four years, sharing a home together, and having a dog, Resilient Single Dog Mom thought she was in it for the long run. Turns out her boyfriend (now ex-boyfriend) wasn’t on the same page. In fact, maybe he was reading a different book entirely. @youcantellmepod on IG & Twitter; [email protected] for survival submissions. <3
0. Teaser: You Can Tell Me (About Your Breakup)
November 16, 2020 05:00 - 1 minute - 2.46 MBNeed help getting over a breakup? Same. We’re talking to people who have gotten over their heartbreak in our new podcast, You Can Tell Me, an anonymous guide to getting over your ex. Everyone’s anonymous, and everyone’s honest, launching on November 23! Subscribe now so you don’t miss a thing. Twitter: @youcantellmepod Instagram: @youcantellmepod Email: [email protected]