Navigating Feeder Fears

Wood talks about the "Feeder" end of the spectrum of Feedism. Namely, what happens when their brain decides to knock them on their ass with anxieties and obsessives thoughts about their role as a feeder in their relationship. They talk about the struggle between their fears and desires, and specifically details a journaling session in which they wrote down all their fears and anxieties they have about the role they play, and where they think it all comes from. They talk about how a lot of the work of being a good feeder is unlearning a lot of society-ingrained BS that makes you believe that your desires are bad and that you are inherently hurting your partner by helping them gain weight. For Wood, their goal is all about finding a balance between indulgence and self control, and how one does not negate the other. Their struggle is not giving into extremes and disaster based thinking -- that indulgence doesn't mean self-destruction and self-control does not mean restriction. They mention their struggles with bipolar disorder and eating disorders and how those disorders have affected their relationship with the fetish and fed into their anxieties. But don't worry, because it isn't all so bleak! The second half of the episode details a list of things set in place in their own relationship that gives them comfort and reminds them that there are tools to help them navigate having a fetish so tied in with their lifestyle. They offer tips on how to deal with anxities, obsessive thoughts, and heavy emotions and reassures the listener that they can use these worries as a guide to help them figure out the most comfortable way to indulge in their fetish. This episode is all about funky brain chemistry, the psychological aspects that come with being in a feedist relationship as a feeder, and tools like communications and boundaries that will help you feel more at ease in a feedist relationship.

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