Where's the Lemonade?
110 episodes - English - Latest episode: 7 days ago - ★★★★★ - 15 ratingsThey say when life gives you lemons you should make lemonade. Making lemonade is not always easy or possible. For us, we found ourselves single in our 40's with kids at home and starting life over again. Luckily we found each other, online no doubt. When we began blending families, schedules, traditions, and laundry, we discovered lots of lemons. Our podcast is a reflection on how we get through the hard times and enjoy the good times on our new journey together, all with ten kids in tow. Sometimes when life gives you lemons, you make lemon squares. Lemonade might come later.
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#6.5 Embarking on an Adventure: Traveling with Teens
April 18, 2024 15:05 - 30 minutes - 42.2 MBDarren and Paige report on a trip with their 18 year old getting ready to graduate this spring. His last spring trip before we send him off to college in the Fall. Listen to their tips and tricks to travelling with teens in Europe. We all know that family vacations are meant to relax, unwind, and spend some quality time with our loved ones. But, how do you ensure a smooth and enjoyable trip when your travel companions are unpredictable, opinionated, and passionate teenagers? Based ...
#6.4 Co-parenting, Money, and Adult Children
April 12, 2024 00:31 - 28 minutes - 38.8 MBIn the world of blended families, navigating issues related to co-parenting adult children can be complex and challenging. Some familiar questions might center on the financial responsibility of each parent in relation to costs like college fees, health insurance, and other unforeseen expenses. This post examines the convolutions faced by co-parents, particularly with regards to shared-cost decisions and financial commitments to their adult children. Financial Responsibility and L...
#6.3 Are You Supportive?
March 21, 2024 02:27 - 26 minutes - 36.7 MB<html> <p>For this episode, Darren and Paige discuss strategies for cultivating a supportive atmosphere in personal relationships. They highlight the importance of active listening, respecting personal space, regular check-ins, physical affection, self-care, and effective communication in maintaining a healthy and supportive relationship. Through their conversation, they provide insights on how to overcome common relational challenges and foster a nurturing environment in personal r...
#6.2 Plane Etiquette
March 14, 2024 16:53 - 34 minutes - 47.7 MBAs Paige was searching for a current event to talk about this week, she kept seeing in the news and on social media the debate about plane etiquette. Even Paige and Darren disagree on some plane etiquette. Let’s delve into what the “rules” are for flying. ## Middle seat gets dibs on the armrests The middle seat sucks. You’re constantly worried about encroaching on your neighbor’s side, fearing you’ll fall asleep and drop your head on their shoulder. For this reason, the person in...
#6.1 We're back and we are not stuck in a rut, or are we?
March 08, 2024 04:13 - 28 minutes - 38.9 MBIs your marriage stuck in a rut?? Darren and Paige have been talking recently about being stuck in a rut, kind of bored, and very predictable. When they aren’t traveling or at something for the kids, they watch a show. Until the show ends, they are in a show hole. Or they go out to dinner, but what else can you do… A few weeks ago, they would go out on a date. Paige made 2 jars with restaurants to take the “where should we go” out of it. Then Paige had an idea for a date. Head to ...
#5.13 How Young is too Young to Leave Your Kids Alone?
August 23, 2023 15:00 - 31 minutes - 42.8 MBDarren & Paige, the hosts of "Where's the Lemonade?" recently sparked debate with their episode discussing whether leaving young kids unattended is okay. While opinions vary on appropriate ages and circumstances, most agree child maturity levels differ. This complex issue has many gray areas. Viral Story Prompts Discussion The conversation began when co-host Darren read a viral story about a woman who spotted two young siblings left alone for an extended time at SeaWorld while the...
Event Etiquette in Co-Parenting
May 10, 2023 14:00 - 30 minutes - 42.4 MBWe just had a wedding!! Julianne and Boyd were married this past weekend and it made us think about the balancing act that they had to do between 3 different families. How can we help them in their balancing act? There are always going to be big events that you have to attend with your coparent and possibly a significant other. How can we make this easier on the kids? Over time this evolves too. It can also ebb and flow depending on your relationship with your ex. Polite and fri...
#5.12 Event Etiquette in Co-Parenting
May 10, 2023 14:00 - 30 minutes - 42.4 MBWe just had a wedding!! Julianne and Boyd were married this past weekend and it made us think about the balancing act that they had to do between 3 different families. How can we help them in their balancing act? There are always going to be big events that you have to attend with your coparent and possibly a significant other. How can we make this easier on the kids? Over time this evolves too. It can also ebb and flow depending on your relationship with your ex. Polite and fri...
#5.11 Nacho Parenting
April 20, 2023 13:01 - 28 minutes - 39.2 MBDarren and Paige have heard about Nacho parenting and always thought it was definitely not for them, but they only had heard about extreme Nacho parenting. After a dive into what it really is, Paige is not totally against it; she can see why some families would adopt this type of parenting in a blended family. So let's take a look. Definition of “Nachoing”: People often ask, what is Nachoing? The Facebook response is usually “Nacho Kids, Nacho Problem.” Well, not quite. The stepkid...
#5.10 Marriage Myth: Don't Go To Bed Angry
March 30, 2023 16:32 - 22 minutes - 31.4 MBOk, so we all hear the saying, "Don't go to bed Angry." You probably hear this marriage advice at almost all weddings or bridal showers. Is it that important not to go to bed angry? Paige does not subscribe to this myth at all. Just the opposite. She feels that going to sleep during an argument is like a time-out. And then, when you wake up, it doesn’t seem nearly as bad. On the other hand, Darren would love to hash it out until it’s all resolved and then go to bed since he usually ...
#5.9 Two Households, Two Sets of Rules
March 23, 2023 23:33 - 30 minutes - 41.9 MBLet's start with a frequently asked question in divorced households: When my child goes to their dad’s house, he has different rules. When they come home, they think they can do whatever they want. I am tired of the battle. How can I help them adjust to the different house rules? This is a brilliantly asked question about a common problem in divorced households. The question is not, “How can I get my ex to parent like me or to agree with me?” By the way, if you ask your ex to do this, t...
#5.8 Spending Too Much Time Together
March 16, 2023 14:16 - 22 minutes - 31.6 MBMarch 2020 was the beginning of a new reality for most of us—kids at home, adults at home, adult kids at home, everyone at home. As time passed, kids went back to school, but many adults continued working from home, which could be a significant change for many of us. There are so many good things about parents being at home, there for the kids, and there to help with the kids; when kids are napping, one parent can be at home while the other runs errands, so they have more time toget...
#5.7 - Let's Stay in Love
March 09, 2023 15:00 - 27 minutes - 37.9 MBWhen a relationship is new, you see the world through rose-colored glasses. Everything is fresh and new. As you look at each other, you see someone who is exciting and perfect. Even the world around you seems brighter and happier than before you found each other. In that “new” stage of a relationship, it’s easy to say loving things to each other. Those sweet words come naturally when you are together and then via text or phone at all hours of the day and night apart. Over time, h...
#5.6 You Asked, We Answered
February 28, 2023 15:00 - 31 minutes - 43.3 MBThis week Darren and Paige asked their listeners to submit questions that we have not addressed on the show. Some of these questions were hard to answer but we did it anyway. Check out the questions below. Have you been able to stay friends with other couples who had previously been friends with you & your ex? If so, have those couple friends become friends with you & your new spouse? I am always interested in how couples attack the money issue…. I would say that is the hardest p...
#5.5 Don't Say That!! Dumb Things We Say to Kids of Divorce
February 23, 2023 15:16 - 26 minutes - 36.1 MBAre we saying the wrong things to our kids about the divorce??? Probably!! We think we are saying good healthy things to help our kids thru the divorce, but are we? I know we are just human and we are trying our best. But it is hard, we are stressed, emotional and have never been thru this before, so we are struggling to say the right things and hope that we are. We want to have our kids get thru this devastating life changing with as little trauma as possible. Our research departme...
#5.4 The Horrible First Year Revisited
February 09, 2023 13:37 - 38 minutes - 53.2 MBThe first year of blending families can be pretty tricky and downright horrible. In this episode, we talk about the challenges of throwing two families together and how we dealt with the obstacles we ran into. Listen to this Episode Love does not conquer all. For those of you that think everything has been rosy. It has not. This has brought up some tension and memories of the hard times. Sacramento Airport. We were naive enough that we thought love would be able to handle all o...
#5.3 Why is our Marriage Boring????
February 02, 2023 15:00 - 26 minutes - 36.5 MBThe week after Christmas was boring…. saying. At the beginning of a marriage, everything feels new and exciting. You've got romantic date nights planned for weeks, and what may become future annoyances are just endearing little quirks that make you love your spouse even more. But unfortunately, that honeymoon stage won't last forever. Eventually, things are going to simmer down, and you might even find yourself feeling, well, bored. You can start feeling that marriage is more like a routin...
#5.2 Coping with Uncertainty
January 24, 2023 15:00 - 27 minutes - 38 MBDarren and Paige have been thinking a lot about 2023. There is so much uncertainty in the future right now. Darren has had a lot of luck with his work and will continue this year. They have had friends lose their jobs, friends waiting to see if they will lose their jobs, companies changing their compensation packages, the economy is slow simmering into a recession…a lot of uncertainty. This brings a lot of anxiety and worry. The article referenced for this podcast says anxiety is our organ...
#5.1 What happened in 2022
January 17, 2023 22:52 - 29 minutes - 40.2 MBWe’re Back!!! It has been a while since we have done a podcast, but we are getting back into the swing of things for 2023. It was a busy year! 4 of our kids got engaged in 2022!!! So fortunate to have all these new in-laws join our family. Let's take a look at all the things that happened this year!! January – Darren and Paige went to Palm Springs for a short getaway. Super fun! February – Girls' trip with Ilene and Jill in Sedona and then a quick trip to Utah ...
#4.17 Understanding the Differences between Men and Women
July 28, 2022 17:04 - 30 minutes - 41.6 MBMost marriage difficulties center around one fact, that men and women are totally different. There are emotional, mental and physical differences. We can have happier marriages if we make an effort to understand the differences. We are definitely stereotyping and generalizing, so deal with it. Women tend to be more personal than men. Women typically have a deeper interest in people and feelings, in building relationships. Men tend to be interested in logical deduction. Men t...
#4.16 It's Summer Time!! Screen Time How Much is Too Much?
June 16, 2022 13:29 - 25 minutes - 35.6 MBOk, so here we are again in the summertime!! It is a beautiful time of year. Kids are home, enjoying a nice break from school. It's time for them to relax and chill. But what happens when their chillin involves hours and hours of screen time each day? How much is too much? Do we as parents ban screen time completely? Or limit it? Do we keep them super busy with other things? Let's dive in and see what we can figure out. Consider how you manage your families technology: Every famil...
#4.15 What Not To Do When you Travel
June 09, 2022 11:58 - 30 minutes - 42.4 MBDarren & Paige are in Portugal for a week away from work and kids, but not podcasting. In this week's episode. Find out what they learned not to do when they travel. Some of it from personal experience. Some of it by watching other tourists standing out. :) Second Half of Portugal Sintra and Cascais- Wear great walking shoes. Dress in layers. Rain, no rain, rain, hot, rain. Lots of hills to climb on cobblestone streets and sidewalks. Lisbon on a Sunny Saturday. Incredible city. V...
#4.14 Travel Tips from Portugal
June 04, 2022 07:16 - 37 minutes - 50.9 MBThis week Darren & Paige are in Portugal. Why Portugal? You have to listen to find out. They talk about some of the travel tips they have learned over the last eleven years of traveling together, including what not to pack and how to tip your waiter. Why Portugal? Resort in Praia Del-Rei Porto Coimbra Travel tips It might be cheaper to travel from a different airport. SFO was about half as much as flying out of SMF for use. It might be cheaper to rent a car one way than to p...
#4.13 Wise Considerations before Blending Families
May 28, 2022 00:39 - 28 minutes - 38.6 MBDarren and Paige decided to tackle, "should you blend these two families?" It can be a colossal mistake to blend families too quickly. (says the couple who combined very quickly) There are some essential things to know before agreeing. (Do you like camping, do you want a dog, or do you want more kids??) The need for companionship can drive you too quickly. Let's talk some sobering statistics. In the U.S. 50% of first time marriages, 67% of second marriages and 74% of third marriag...
#4.12 Success In Marriage
May 20, 2022 17:55 - 38 minutes - 52.9 MBIs there a magic secret to a happy marriage? If we are told to do A, B, and C to make our marriage work would we do it? Do we do it? Or is it different for every single couple? Darren and Paige were curious about the tips that couples would give on how to keep a lasting marriage happy. They asked a lot of their friends and family that have been married for decades to see if there was some advice or if it is entirely different for each couple. Maybe a sense of humor isn't that import...
#4.11 Why is Mother's Day so hard??
May 12, 2022 14:00 - 29 minutes - 41.2 MBDarren and Paige had a different podcast subject planned for today. However, after Mother's Day came around, we saw a lot of feelings around this day and thought we would do another episode on this topic. This day is hard for many; how can we make it better???? Mother's Day is supposed to be an amazing day!!! Right? So here is another Mother's Day in the books. How was it for all of you? Were your expectations met? Managed? Complete disappointment? This is already sometimes a diff...
#4.10 How to handle co-parenting with an ex you don't see eye to eye with.
May 05, 2022 15:01 - 26 minutes - 36.8 MBThis week, Darren and Paige discuss tips and tricks to help with a problematic co-parenting situation. This is hard stuff!! You are divorced for a reason, and now you still have to make many decisions together around the children. Let's dive in! It's not always rosy after a divorce. In fact it rarely is... So you've made the decision to divorce. Sad. Now you have to co-parent with the person that you decided, for whatever reasons, to not be with anymore. Now parenting will be easy...
How to handle co-parenting with an ex you don't see eye to eye with.
May 05, 2022 15:01 - 26 minutes - 36.8 MBThis week, Darren and Paige discuss tips and tricks to help with a problematic co-parenting situation. This is hard stuff!! You are divorced for a reason, and now you still have to make many decisions together around the children. Let's dive in! It's not always rosy after a divorce. In fact it rarely is... So you've made the decision to divorce. Sad. Now you have to co-parent with the person that you decided, for whatever reasons, to not be with anymore. Now parenting will be easy...
#4.9 Perspective...Hard to Maintain!!
April 28, 2022 16:49 - 34 minutes - 46.9 MBThis week Darren and Paige talk about how to maintain perspective when things don't go they way you planned or want. They will talk about the some challenges and disappointment over the past few weeks. How do you maintain perspective?? Happy, Sad, Happy Darren and Paige had a lot of big plans for April! Graduation, Brazil, Graduation. Lots of wonderful things. Darren blew it! After over two years of not getting COVID, Darren went to DC for a work trip and came home with the VID....
#4.8 Selfishness in Marriage
April 07, 2022 14:00 - 41 minutes - 56.4 MBThis week Darren & Paige explore selfishness in Marriage with a quiz. Are you selfish in your marriage? Is your marriage about you or about your spouse? Are you selfish??? We are all selfish, right? Especially before marriage. We only have ourselves to think about. What do I want to eat? What do I want to spend my money on? What music or show do I watch? After marriage, those I's have to become we(s)...This might be harder for some than others. You have to now think of someone ...
#4.7 K-Drama
March 31, 2022 16:37 - 20 minutes - 28.2 MBOn today's episode Darren & Paige talk about their excursion into watching Korean Dramas. Ok just one K-Daram "Crash Landing On You", but they are considering watching another one. K drama!!!! Darren and I just finished a K drama, Crash Landing on You Paige was very hesitant, don’t want to read my tv We had been told by so many people, of all ages and likes, to watch this show What is a k drama? Why it was good for our relationship? had to focus only on the show, talked alot a...
#4.6 How to Reconnect With Your Spouse
March 17, 2022 14:00 - 32 minutes - 30 MBSometimes in our very busy lives we lose that connection and spark and just get set in the doldrums and monotony of just going through the motions of life. Darren and Paige are somewhat there. They have been through a lot in the last 6 months and need to reconnect in a way that Darren isn't Paige's caretaker. So, how do we start the reconnection process: You can start by intentionally spending time together every single day doing something fun. For example, doing the dishes, cook...
#4.5 - Balancing Act Between Fun and Strict Parenting
March 10, 2022 13:45 - 33 minutes - 46.4 MBMadeline and Paige were talking the other day about different parenting styles. Some are too lax; they just want to be their kid's friends. Some are too strict, hovering, helicopter parents. Some are too serious; where is the fun? I said to Madeline in that conversation, “You can have it all! You can have fun while also being strict and having rules.” She then said, “You should do a podcast about that, about having a balance.” I think it's actually hard to balance it all equally. You ar...
#4.4 - Living in Two Households
February 24, 2022 15:20 - 29 minutes - 40.1 MBIn this episode, Darren talks to three of his kids about what it is like to have two households as teenagers? What it is like now that they are adults? and What advise they have for other kids that navigate two households? Video: https://youtu.be/MIBHpAjpTYc Blog: What’s Hard Logistics and coordination are complexes between two houses. Rules are different. How do you manage that? Food can be very different (Vegan, Paleo, etc..) No Settling Understanding the differences betw...
#4.3 - Stop Having Fun Without Me!
February 17, 2022 14:00 - 34 minutes - 48 MBHow to be happy when my spouse is doing something fun without me???? “Jealousy in romance is like salt in food. A little can enhance the savor, but too much can spoil the pleasure and, under certain circumstances, can be life-threatening.” Paige recently went on a girl’s trip. She has been doing it for 18 years. Darren wasn't always excited about it. Why? Darren goes out to dinner with co-workers. Is Paige jealous? How can we be happy for our spouses when they have fun without...
#4.2 - Expectations in Marriage: What to do with them
February 10, 2022 15:00 - 30 minutes - 42 MBWhether we want to admit it or not, we have certain expectations for each other in our marriage. Darren and I recently talked with a marriage counselor and realized that we needed to be more explicit about our expectations. This can be scary. I asked Darren what his expectations were for me?? What would he say??? Darren then asked me what my expectations were for him. Started a great conversation. 5 Successful Ways to Manage Expectations in Marriage Communicate! The number one re...
#4.1 - We're Back!! Kick off to 2022
February 03, 2022 14:00 - 21 minutes - 29.2 MBWhy we started Wanted to help and be a voice of “we’ve been there” for blended families Wanted to show others that even when life is extremely challenging throwing lemons at you, not going according to your lifeplan at all, you can still be happy - that there is Lemonade somehow, somewhere Why we stopped Pandemic, life was boring Felt like we had nothing left to say about blended families, that we had addressed most topics that we could Realized this podcast isn't just about blende...
Episode 3:11 - The Over Communicative Ex
May 07, 2021 05:50 - 26 minutes - 25 MBWhat is an overly communicative spouse? Evaluate the current communication situation between your spouse and their ex. If you are not happy with what is going on then you need to set some boundaries. The ex calls to emotionally attach to your spouse Calls to fix something at the house Runs out of gas. Comes into the house without permission Setting Boundaries Play the long Game People avoid setting boundaries because they don't want conflict. Start sooner than later. Get yo...
Episode 3:10 - Kindness in Marriage
April 14, 2021 17:49 - 26 minutes - 24.6 MBWhy Kindness is important in a Marriage Keeps you together The biggest predictor of satisfaction and stability in a Marriage Kindness makes each partner feel understood, cared for, and validated. Couples that treat each other with kindness even when they argue stick together. You can throw spears at your partner or explain why you are upset. Paige comes home to a new carpet in the house and boxes of stuff to unpack Builds Trust Kindness is the #1 trait that people look for i...
Episode 3:9 - The Silent Ex Spouse
March 23, 2021 22:51 - 31 minutes - 29.9 MBDoes your ex-spouse communicate with you? Or is it just silence when you try to co-parent. Listen to Darren and Paige talk about techniques to open the communications channels and improve co-parenting. What people do Blame Game Quiet treatment Push-pull You cannot make me Solo decision maker Withholding or punishing Trash talker Ex won't communicate Document your communication Be Civil Do not post on Social media Don't involve other people Keep personal feeling aside ...
Episode 3:8 - 30 Day Relationship Challenge
March 16, 2021 21:28 - 35 minutes - 33.3 MBIn this episode, Darren and Paige look at a 30-day relationship challenge calendar. Find out what they think works and what doesn't work. We used the calendar from the website www.endlessblissblog.com. Lemonade Moment of the Week Eating outside in our little downtown Folsom, CA reminds us that we have a great town and had fun people watching. Links * http://www.endlessblissblog.com ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★
Episode 3:7 - (Don't) Die hard in Traditions
March 10, 2021 23:56 - 27 minutes - 26.4 MBIn this episode we revisit traditions. We start questioning some of the traditions we stuck with when we first blended after one of our kids mentioned how busy Christmas is and how it would be nice if it was a bit slower. Why Traditions are important: They give us a foundation to build our lives on They give us a sense of roots and belonging We asked the kids what they thought The Younger kids had a different perspective than the older kids They can only remember the trad...
Episode 3:6 - Valentine's Day Reboot
February 24, 2021 21:35 - 27 minutes - 26.4 MBHave you ever wondered why Valentine's Day is so stressful? We can tell you why. Expectations vs Reality. Listen to the latest "Where's the Lemonade?" to hear how Darren & Paige handle or don't handle this curious holiday so well. And Yes that is Paige throwing away flowers that Darren got her for Valentine's Day. :) Valentine's Day Most wanted gifts for women (Big loving gestures, some love it, and some hate it) Card Flowers Chocolate Jewelry Most wanted for men Sex ...
Episode 3:5 - Disneyland Dad Syndrome
February 10, 2021 17:30 - 23 minutes - 22.7 MBDisneyland Dad Syndrome is real and affects blended families every day. It is so prevalent that there is a legal definition for it. So how do you become a Disneyland Dad? How do you deal with a Disneyland Dad? Darren & Paige give their insight into this problem in Blended Families. What is a Disneyland Dad Legal Definition Only having fun when you are with the kids No rules, responsibilities, or discipline Indulging in gifts. Why you become a Disneyland Dad Intentional - deliberately...
Podcast 3:4 - It all began in Panama
January 29, 2021 22:50 - 29 minutes - 27.8 MBWe recently had facebook and google give us reminders of where we were 2 years ago today. What came up is the inception of our podcast. On a trip to Panama for a "getaway" of time "alone together", we dreamt up a crazy idea of podcasting our experiences of blending a large family. In today's episode, we went back and listened to our first episode, and wrote down what we thought. Our Thoughts from our first podcast Dating was incredibly difficult. Remembering details about peopl...
Podcast 3:3 Pass the Xanax : Dealing with Anxiety in a Blended Family
January 21, 2021 19:33 - 28 minutes - 27 MBBlended families bring lots of new stressors into a relationship. Anxiety is high and sometimes your attempts to help your family to blend just increases the anxiety for everyone. In this episode, Darren & Paige talk about causes of anxiety and how to deal with anxiety in your family. Finding the cause - It is right in your face. Establishing a new family structure new parent styles different methods of discipline different expectations of how children should behave Steep l...
Episode 3:2 - The Lemonade of Blended Families
January 14, 2021 16:33 - 28 minutes - 26.6 MBThere are many studies on the adverse effects of divorce and the trials of blended families. In this episode, Darren & Paige are only looking at the "Lemonade" of blended families. That is right put on your "Rose Colored Glasses" and look at all of the benefits of a blended family. If you want all of the hard things that come with a blended family check out all of our other episodes. :) For the kids More Christmas presents Two birthdays, Two of the holidays More Grandparents Bonus pa...
Podcast 3:1 - What a year 2020 in review
January 07, 2021 19:02 - 29 minutes - 27 MBIn this episode, we review what happened in 2020. What our plans were, how they adjusted, and how we grew closer together as a family. Learn about travel plans, weddings, eating habits, toilet paper and how we handled it. What we thought 2020 would bring The year started off great with great plans for trips, weddings, and performances from the kids. Paige and the boys went to see The Cursed Child in San Francisco. Kids were in school and early morning seminary. It was David's first yea...
Episode 2:22 - Don't Judge Me
October 22, 2020 16:03 - 31 minutes - 29 MBBlended families get judged. No doubt about it. The kids get judged, they come from a broken family, they are going to have issues in school, and in relationships in the future. And the adults do too. They didn't try hard enough in the previous marriage, they gave up too easily, or be careful around them. In this episode, Paige and Darren explore the judgment they have made and have been victims. Judging Divorced People Common Judgements They were selfish They were bad commun...
Episode 2:23 - Don't Judge Me
October 22, 2020 16:03 - 31 minutes - 29 MBBlended families get judged. No doubt about it. The kids get judged, they come from a broken family, they are going to have issues in school, and in relationships in the future. And the adults do too. They didn't try hard enough in the previous marriage, they gave up too easily, or be careful around them. In this episode, Paige and Darren explore the judgment they have made and have been victims. Judging Divorced People Common Judgements They were selfish They were bad commun...