We are Believers: Podcast
38 episodes - English - Latest episode: over 3 years ago - ★★★★★ - 2 ratingsWe believe that we are all creators of our own realities.
Everything is possible and impossible at the same time.
If we change our perceptions, the world around us will change.
In this podcast, we examine everyday life situations using a practice of honest self-reflection, clear communication and optimistic realism.
Our goal is not to tell you what to do as we cannot claim to know the solution to every problem.
We can only demonstrate our approach to living and express what we believe.
Hosted by Daria Hackenberg and Hollis P Monroe.
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Episodes
Lessons we learned in 2020 and how we can apply them in 2021.
January 27, 2021 14:35 - 35 minutes - 65.3 MBWelcome to 2021! As we say goodbye to an incredibly eventful year, let’s discuss some of the lessons we learned in 2020 and how we can apply them to 2021 and beyond… Were there only troubles or can you see some good things that happened in 2020? We certainly can! Let us help you recognize and appreciate some of the positive aspects of 2020 for each of us as individuals and maybe even for humanity as a whole. If you have some successes and memorable moments to add to the list, share...
Is love a feeling or a choice?
December 18, 2020 16:48 - 49 minutes - 89.9 MBCan we choose to love someone?In this episode, we ask: Is love a feeling or choice? In trying to find an answer, we share our fairly strong and different points of view. Throughout our conversation, We examine the theory of one person who believes that love (or more specifically, being open to love) is always our choice. We discussed the role of love in an abusive relationship. We try to discover what we can choose in the relationship using logic and reasoning versus what our natural i...
Who should pay on the first date?
October 07, 2020 20:36 - 45 minutes - 82.5 MB“Does a man have to pay on a first date?” People on the street were asked this question by actors from a popular German comedy show but the answers they received in the actual segment were not nearly as interesting as comments under the video. One man had such a particularly grandiose justification of his position that we had no choice but to devote an entire episode to giving our take on his premise. This point of view surprised even ourselves! In this episode, we discuss the main que...
The 5 Languages of love or how to express and comprehend loving until death do us part
September 16, 2020 21:15 - 43 minutes - 79.7 MBImagine yourself deep in love. You might want to tell your partner "I love you" every 10 minutes to make sure that they know how you feel about them. You want them to have absolutely no doubt about being loved. It's not quite realistic, is it? Your partner might even think you're crazy. But how else would you show your love? Some people come home every day with flowers and gifts. Some cook exquisite dinner meals to please their other half. Others may kiss and hug their partner at ...
COME IN. WE'RE OPEN
September 02, 2020 19:02 - 1 hour - 135 MBWe have touched upon the importance of communication and open dialogue in quite a few of our past episodes. In this episode, we decided to talk about it specifically and so we invited a professional linguist, Professor Tiffany Dyson (@tiffetzjiff) to inform the conversation. Tiffany shares some of the knowledge she has gained about communication through the language research in which she is involved as well as through her personal life experiences and travels. She also compares some of th...
Between Frienship and Attraction
August 25, 2020 12:01 - 43 minutes - 79.9 MB"Hey, Daria, what's going on with you and Hollis?” “Are you dating Hollis?” “No?” “Why not?” “It is not possible that there’s nothing going on.” “After all, you met on Tinder!” You are a man and a woman! Clearly, you are deceiving yourselves and do not want to recognize the attraction between you!" And on it goes.... Is it possible to ignore our natural inclinations, respective gender identities and physical attraction to instead truly perceive and interact with each other in a stri...
Between Friendship and Attraction
August 25, 2020 12:01 - 43 minutes - 79.9 MB"Hey, Daria, what's going on with you and Hollis?” “Are you dating Hollis?” “No?” “Why not?” “It is not possible that there’s nothing going on.” “After all, you met on Tinder!” You are a man and a woman! Clearly, you are deceiving yourselves and do not want to recognize the attraction between you!" And on it goes.... Is it possible to ignore our natural inclinations, respective gender identities and physical attraction to instead truly perceive and interact with each other i...
Daria Clarifies Her Answers
July 29, 2020 18:00 - 48 minutes - 88.7 MBWow! Thank you all for the huge response and great feedback to our previous episode "Blitz Round #1: Answering some OkCupid Questions." We received many words of encouragement and gratitude for this Blitz-Round format. Almost everyone seemed to enjoy it, so obviously with approval and support like that, we will surely keep it going. But along with this, it seems that some people were particularly struck by Daria's statement that she doesn’t need a “nice” man around her. For context, we r...
East-europe mentality or right way to think about relationships between man and woman?
July 29, 2020 18:00 - 48 minutes - 88.7 MBWow! Thank you all for the huge response and great feedback to our previous episode "Blitz Round #1: Answering some OkCupid Questions." We received many words of encouragement and gratitude for this Blitz-Round format. Almost everyone seemed to enjoy it, so obviously with approval and support like that, we will surely keep it going. But along with this, it seems that some people were particularly struck by Daria's statement that she doesn’t need a “nice” man around her. For context, we r...
Eastern - European mentality... or right way to think about man and woman roles?
July 29, 2020 18:00 - 48 minutes - 88.7 MBWow! Thank you all for the huge response and great feedback to our previous episode "Blitz Round #1: Answering some OkCupid Questions." We received many words of encouragement and gratitude for this Blitz-Round format. Almost everyone seemed to enjoy it, so obviously with approval and support like that, we will surely keep it going. But along with this, it seems that some people were particularly struck by Daria's statement that she doesn’t need a “nice” man around her. For context, w...
Blitz Round #1: Answering some OkCupid questions
July 23, 2020 12:39 - 48 minutes - 88.9 MBIn this episode, we have replied to and discussed some of matching questions from the OkCupid dating app. Listen to our answers to some of these questions and topics including: 1. How many dates do you wait to have sex with someone that you’re interested in? 2. Do you believe that you are more intelligent then most of the people around you? 3. Do you find intelligence more sexually appealing then physical beauty? 4. If you can choose only two qualities in the partner out of the foll...
Who's hidden behind the tattoo?
July 16, 2020 16:24 - 51 minutes - 95 MBDo people really evaluate us based solely upon our appearance? Are we treated differently by others when we don’t appear to fit their description of “normal”? Could it be that this often negatively interpreted thought is most often rooted within our own minds? In this episode, we welcome our very first guest: Tattoo artist Ina Bond (www.instagram.com/inabond). Honestly and openly, Ina describes how her desire to rebel and prove something to the outside world eventually led to an ex...
Comparing yourself to others
July 09, 2020 14:22 - 1 hour - 117 MBAlmost every day, we compare ourselves to other people. Often we take someone as an example of what we think we should be. We want to be able have what they have or do what they do. And very often, we become upset or jealous because we are not as beautiful, successful, or happy as someone else seems to be. We can look at Hollywood celebrities, famous musicians or worldclass atheletes as benchmarks, even as they are somewhere far away in a fairytale land living the lives we think we wish t...
Dating a woman in her 20s versus her 40s
July 01, 2020 22:36 - 40 minutes - 73.3 MBIn this episode, we will try to understand why women in their twenties and women in their forties behave so differently on dates and within relationships. We’ll touch on what a woman in her 20s seems to want, and why she doesn't need such things at 40 while other requirements becomes uncompromisingly necessary over this same period of time. We will talk about power dynamics, sensitivity, natural inclinations and, as always, relationships. We will discuss how modern trends of sometimes ...
Optimist, Pessimist and Reality
June 21, 2020 05:38 - 45 minutes - 82.4 MBWhat if what we think of as “real” isn't actually real? What if we told that there is no such thing as reality? What if we told you that you can change your reality? Have you noticed that some people only see the good in things while others, even at the best of times, can always find something bad? Why does one person always seem to be lucky and another always seem to be unfortunate? Who can say that the way someone perceives a situation is actually seeing reality? Being realisti...
Looking at a beautiful woman is like looking at the sunset
June 13, 2020 18:00 - 47 minutes - 87.5 MB"Looking at a beautiful woman is like looking at the sunset." Hollis P. Monroe. In this episode: we share our views on how a man feels when he looks at an attractive woman and why it is so fascinating. As well, we discuss what it feels like for a woman when she meets an attractive man. We talk about whether this "first" impression can be preserved and how long it might last. What is platonic love? And what is love, in general? Does love even exist? Is it possible to love a partner un...
Why can't she see the real me?
June 06, 2020 18:31 - 46 minutes - 84.7 MBYou are a funny and easy-going guy who met someone. You spent some nice time together, you were joking like you always do. But then, she wrote that you are too serious for her. WTF? Where did she find this in you? Why did she see something that is not present in you at all? Or do you just think that it's not present in you? Is the perception that people have of you the real you? Is what we feel about ourselves real? Or is it something that you want to show? Sometimes we wonder how so...
I am lazy. Or am I?
May 29, 2020 11:30 - 43 minutes - 80.4 MBAre you lazy? Would you consider yourself a lazy person? At times, do you feel as though you have no energy to accomplish the day’s tasks or even the inspiration to get out of bed in the morning? Do you get down on yourself because of this lack of enthusiasm? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then this episode is for you! We will question the preconception of laziness and even challenge its actual existence. We will propose the possibility that you are not lazy at al...
Afraid of getting old
May 24, 2020 07:57 - 53 minutes - 97.9 MBAs children, we are in a rush to grow up, but once we reach adulthood, we very often regret that we didn’t fully appreciate our fleeting youth We do indeed grow up but at some point we recognize that we are also starting to grow old. The body looses the strength, speed and resilience it once had as the first wrinkles appear and the gray hair splashes. Most of us fear of aging. How terrible it is to become old! How terrible it is to realize that youth has abandoned you! But do we ev...
Tinder dating with and without isolation
May 18, 2020 21:29 - 42 minutes - 77.4 MBQuarantine and social distancing have brought about new challenges for all of us. The restriction of physical interaction has left us no choice but to search for it on the Internet. The result seems to be that apps such as Tinder are being used more that ever before. Can virtual interactions replace real intimacy? Is it possible to find true love on a dating app? How necessary is your text description? Why do men want to meet soon? Why do women tend to want to communicate longer on...
CO-DEPENDENT USERS
May 11, 2020 07:00 - 42 minutes - 77.1 MBIn this episode, we examine a letter from a person who seeking advice from relationship philosopher and YouTuber, Alexander Grace. In short. he was asking for guidance on what he should do about his seemingly one-sided relationship. And although it was posted over 8 months ago, in our opinion, this topic will always be relevant to many and therefore still worth exploring. How often do we get the feeling of being unappreciated or used? From time to time and under many circumstances, we c...
Podcast introduction
May 04, 2020 21:32 - 3 minutes - 5.82 MBLet us introduce ourselves! We are Believers is a project run by Daria Hackenberg and Hollis P Monroe. This podcast is rooted in philosophical theory, as well as real world practice, to be affirmed or challenged throughout our conversations. We are believers in ideas, people, and the power of love. We are not trying to change your mind. We only express what we believe as we do not claim to know. Along the way, we try to show how wonderful you are, in case you forget it and share with you...
NO MAKEUP means she has NO INTEREST
May 03, 2020 07:00 - 1 hour - 110 MBA week of chatting and finally the long-awaited first date, but she (oh my God!) came without makeup! What would that mean? She wants to show that she's not interested in you? Or does she want you to recognize her as a person first? Or is she nice and comfortable with you? Or maybe she never wears makeup and her armpits are in the jungle? Or maybe it just doesn't matter? In this episode we try to figure out the possible reasons and question the need for makeup in general. We...
GET LOST IN CORONACRISIS
April 26, 2020 23:37 - 41 minutes - 76.8 MBFear, uncertainty, instability, powerlessness, uncertainty... ...is what brings people around the world together today. We live in a new world for us and no one knows how long it will last. We isolate ourselves in our homes, keep our distance, can't meet friends or even family like we used to. The Coronacrisis is affecting each of us. Each of us is dealing with it as best we can. We believe that someone is helped by his supply of toilet paper, but it does not save from a lack of soci...
Kids, instincts and Childfree life position
April 09, 2020 19:24 - 50 minutes - 92 MBIt is something so natural to have Kids. Why every year more and more people prefer childfree life position? Is it something against nature or right choice? Do we need to plan parenthood or let it happened? What is the right time? Is there any right time for children? Listen this episode and find our answer on this and many other question. Share your opinion and life position regarding this topic with us: www.facebook.com/WRbelievers www.instagram.com/wrbelievers www.you...
American Dream
April 08, 2020 10:42 - 59 minutes - 109 MBDo you believe that anything is possible the way we do it? Do you want a huge dose of motivation and positive energy? Listen to our episode of the American Dream! You don't have to be American or live in America to believe in yourself and start changing something in your life today! Listen to who? Who do you expect support from? And why sometimes you shouldn't listen to even the people closest to you. We have a few ideas for you where you can start, incredible examples of successfu...
WHAT IF I'M GONNA DIE... OR WE ALL
March 31, 2020 13:43 - 1 hour - 117 MBThe fear of death is one of the oldest. It helped people to survive, to avoid death in dangerous situations or even deadly ones. In light of what is happening in the world through the fault of the Corona Virus, the fear of death has become very relevant today. Every day we see the numbers in the Dead statistic column increase and we have a cold sweat. What if I'm next? What if my family or friends are next? How do you deal with the fear of death? What can you do now? How to experien...
SELF ACCEPTANCE or self identification?
March 16, 2020 08:01 - 51 minutes - 94.6 MBSELF ACCEPTANCE or self identification? How does dislike to be photographed with style in clothes, school system and self acceptance relate? At first glance there is nothing! However, it exists! Why do people not like to listen to the sound of their voice and turn into statues when they get into a camera lens? How the system kills the individuality in us and whether there is a way back. Our episode is about accepting ourselves and identifying ourselves in and with society. Liste...
Purpose of life with nature calls
March 09, 2020 16:30 - 58 minutes - 106 MBWhat is the purpose of your life? Do you have one? Do you need one? Must life be meaningful and fullfilling or just going with the flow? Can we designate people as part of nature and call them "animals"? Or are we something different? What happens if we will live against laws of nature? Happiness and satisfaction of life are big parts of this topic. Don't miss our end summary! Listen till the end and share your position regarding our theories! Share your opinion wit...
Conflict Resolution: "TO DO" solutions and "DO NOT" stories
March 02, 2020 06:31 - 1 hour - 110 MBHere we discuss effective ways for conflict resolution. There are easy to understand advices you can use on work and in your personal life. We will give some examples what to do in conflict situation and share with you our shocked "DO NOT" stories. Please, be aware and never ever do like this. Communication? How is it sound for you in middle of conflict?? To what can lead escape from conflict resolition? Looking forward to heard your advices and tactics for conflict situations...
Cultural differences and bill for dinner
February 21, 2020 19:43 - 53 minutes - 98.2 MBWhy Daria don't pay for her dinner? Is it because she is russian? Or because she is highmateness person? It this topic we speak about cultural differences, Feminism, what is the man/woman roles and how important to have open and clear communication. It your nationality matter? Is your gender is matter? Is affiliation to any group is matter? Share you opinion with us! www.facebook.com/WRbelievers www.instagram.com/wrbelievers www.youtube.com/channel/UCQX4fEyuM7O054b3h23Jf5g/...
KARMA
February 08, 2020 08:00 - 57 minutes - 106 MBWhat do you do about to have good Karma or maybe to wash your bad Karma? What is a Karma at all? Do you believe in Karma? Sad and funny stories about Karma. Exedentally: how sound german and russian for english speakers and when englishspeaker try to speak german or russian:-)) Listen this episod till the end and get +1000 points to your Karma! :-; Share with us if you stoppped to believe in Karma after our episode or give us a argue why we should to believe in Karma! www.fa...
Builder or destroyer?
January 30, 2020 14:15 - 49 minutes - 90.8 MBWhy some people prefer to destroy over to build? What is behind this action? Are all destroyers asocial people? What is your choice? Share with us what you are created, why and what it is bringing to you, other people or maybe even whole Planet and we will post your story on our pages in Instagram and Facebook. www.facebook.com/WRbelievers www.instagram.com/wrbelievers www.youtube.com/channel/UCQX4fEyuM7O054b3h23Jf5g/ Daria Hackenberg (Russia, currently based in Berlin, Germany) ...
ADDICTION
January 20, 2020 21:50 - 1 hour - 129 MBMy name is Daria and I am.... Believer Today I went to Anonymous Alcoholics for very first time. No, I have no problem with alcohol or drugs or something else. Ya-ya, all addicted say that they have no any problem and can stop in any moment. But it is really not my case. I went there just to support one friend of mine. I sat in the corner, looked into this friendly faces, listen about their stories. I got to know them in person. Was surprised how "normal" they are and how big their hear...
Running after OR waiting for???
January 05, 2020 18:28 - 1 hour - 141 MBShould you go after things or should you wait for what is coming in the right time when you are ready? This topic was offered by one of our listeners. Thank you, dear listener. We were surprised how emotional this discussion was. The topic touched a sensitive part of our lives and lead to sexual attraction. Then we came back to the main questions: Do I really want it? Am I ready for it? In one moment we were stuck on personal relationships between man and woman. Do you need to im...
Merry Christmas, Happy New Year and frustration
December 27, 2019 20:46 - 1 hour - 162 MBIn this episode we wanted to discussed results of the year, plans for new year and belonging to this moment frustration feeling. But, something went wrong and in this episode we will share with you.... privat stories about million sexual parthners of Hollis. Daria`s "PIP" friend. Who is fault if something went not as you planned it? Tips and tricks from believers how to be more effective. Is it possible to improve your personality and bekomm a better person? Lazinness - w...
Energy of people around us, Tinder and attraction
December 18, 2019 21:21 - 1 hour - 161 MBCan people feel energy of other people? In this episode we prove, that it is not. We touch very interesting topic - attraction between man and woman. What is this, that attract us so much? Our exprerience and thoughts about Tinder. "Friender" or real chance to find love of your life? www.facebook.com/WRbelievers www.instagram.com/wrbelievers www.youtube.com/channel/UCQX4fEyuM7O054b3h23Jf5g/ Daria Hackenberg (Russia, currently based in Berlin, Germany) Project Manager and Agi...
Dreams, Goals and Money
December 09, 2019 14:07 - 46 minutes - 85.5 MBWhat is your dream? Is it dream only or something that you like to archive? How to identify difference between dreams and goals? www.facebook.com/WRbelievers www.instagram.com/wrbelievers www.youtube.com/channel/UCQX4fEyuM7O054b3h23Jf5g/ Daria Hackenberg (Russia, currently based in Berlin, Germany) Project Manager and Agilist, passionate in philosophical aspect of life and with deep understanding to people nature. daria on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/darialifelover ...