Semper Gumby

Episode 7

Semper Gumby!

What is it-  the dictionary definition is;

(broadly) any of the forms of interpersonal union established in various parts of the world to form a familiar bond that is recognized legally, religiously, or socially, granting the participating partners mutual conjugal rights and responsibilities.

We’ve been married 13 years, just celebrated #13

We wanted to chat with you guys today about how things have worked for us and somethings that haven’t

We went through marriage counseling in the beginning, initially because the pastor that married us wouldn’t unless we did. BOOK (preparing for marriage) – Dennis Rainey

People tend to be scared of this, we highly recommend it. Counseling really helped us get to know each other better (some things just don’t come up in normal conversation) and helped to prepare us for what we were in for😊

What are the most important thing to a good marriage? To us

1. Honesty- no bullshit

2. Humor- don’t take life to seriously, you’ll never get out alive

3. Adaptability – SEMPER GUMBY!!

4. Ass-kickery - some times you have to constructively kick ass!

5. Team work- IT MAKES THE DREAM WORK!!!

6. Putting your marriage first, even above kids

In the 7 habits of highly effective couples Dr. Steven R. Covey the habit are…

Truly devoted to him . com – 7 habits overview/ summary

1. Be proactive – the only thing you can control is you. Stay in charge of your mood and actions

2. Begin with the end in mind – Intentionally invest in your relationship with small steps that get you to your envisioned destination.

3. Out first things first- There’s never enough time for everything but there’s always enough time for the important things. – Brian Tracey

4. Think win, win- not win -lose or lose- lose , come up with a solution together. Just because you don’t get your way doesn’t make it a lose for you.

5. Listen 1st talk second- (seek first to understand, then be understood) when you’re not seeing eye to eye with your spouse listen to what they have to say, without interrupting, pause to process and then clarify any questions you may have about the issues. Try to see thing from their side once you do then explain how you see things

6. Synergize- together is better- Steven R Covey. Work together, you’re not a solo act anymore you are a team

7. Sharpen the saw- take time for you/ self care. Covey lists things that will renew you physical, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. This needs to be a mutual thing for you both. No body wants or needs a mid-life crisis.

Talk about the marriage box- You have to put into a box before you have to take anything out of it.

There is no love in marriage, love is in people and people put it into marriage. There is no romance in marriage, people have to infuse it into marriage.

Book quote- Make your marriage main tent not side show.

Other good books on relationships and marriage

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