Kindness as a way of life

Kindness is one with love and service.

 

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this week i got a little bit sick
and
just sitting around
doing nothing has
this effect of
making me feel useless
and then i get
all up in my head about
if people value me and
what are they gonna think because i'm
not doing
everything i could be doing right now
and and i i forget
like we do
that it's okay to not be perfect you
know that it's
it's just something that happens
you know i'm gonna have commitments fall
through i'm gonna have
days that i'm just not
doing well and
lately i've been talking a lot about
the learning side and
recognizing those times where
we don't feel like anything's going on
but there really is
and
that ties in with this a lot
because in the past
i have
looked at being sick or
being absent even for any other reason
as
an automatic
point deduction basically on my value
towards you know whatever maybe a job or
a group of people etc
you know i forget
i forget that my value is not based on
how well i do i mean there are certain
occasions where
when you perform better your value is
more but
when it comes to relationships
that's not necessarily true
being vulnerable being
accessible being truthful
such as hey i don't feel good today
i think i'm gonna have to pass
it's one of those things that doesn't
discount
my value but it actually ups it
and gives the other person an
opportunity to move in and take over
sometimes being absent or being
unable to fulfill a role allows somebody
else to step into that role temporarily
and be a blessing
there's really true value in that
not to mention that my value as a whole
is based on
who god made in the beginning
who god created me to be
and how well i try to use that
so sitting at home this week
kind of feeling a little bit useless i
noticed a few things
one a lot of people reached out checked
on me
a couple people came by
hung out with me for a little bit
brought me food
so
instead of the
normal thoughts that i would have
i got some reassurance of that value
that i have
and it was nice
and it served more of a purpose than
that
it allowed me to find a deficiency
and that's an area where i've been
lacking i've been lacking in the
ability or the motivation to
step in and help others and show
that they have value in my life
thankfully today i had two opportunities
to do that and i took them
and i feel better for it
and it doesn't take much
honestly the two opportunities that i
had one of them was over a text message
and it was just quick it was one little
sentence
and
i know it had an impact because it was
it was just simple it was from the heart
and
it was in a time where it was
appropriate and i just sent it
and i know that it helped i know that it
expressed that they had value and the
other one took me about an hour
to go and see somebody and
it has its value it has its value not
just for that person but
in the continuation of that cycle
somebody took the time
to visit me most likely because in the
past somebody had taken the time to
visit them
so it's almost the
pay it forward type of thing
and it's not that any of us are doing it
because we want that to happen
i mean there is a genuine part where we
just care for our friend and we want to
go visit them but i'm just thinking
further into it
at the impact that
my life has
that your life has that everybody's life
has the little decisions
and the impact they carry with them is
really
amazing
if we were able to dissect everything
with the eyes of god
and see how broad the impact is how
immense how many little branches come
off of that we would all be amazed and
we would all do these things more often
and it's only through meditation and
prayer and
constant seeking that i've been able to
see just a little glimpse of that
to understand the magnitude of that
that no small thing
goes unnoticed to the universe
every little last thing
if you need any proof start ignoring
some of them
that little speck on the counter
just let it go don't clean it up
the next day it's three little specks
and the next day you have
ants and cockroaches
you know
it's it's the little things that add up
but the same is true the other way
you can open the door for somebody and
it could mean the world to them who
knows what they're going through
you could bring somebody food
and it just it changes everything
it did for me this week
i went from
wondering where i stood and how
valued i was in this new society that
i'm in
to
knowing at least a little bit
that somebody thought of me
that i mattered
and i would have been fine
you know i would have made it till today
i wouldn't have
done anything
rash you know it would have just been
whatever
but because somebody took the time it
changed it changed how this whole week
started rolling
it made me interact with the people
around me differently
and so it matters
and i don't think that these things go
unnoticed with god i've been reading in
first samuel and ii samuel and
there's a lot of stories you know and of
course david made a lot of mistakes
but there's there's a few key things
that are really interesting
one of which is that
king david had like a deep respect
very deep respect for anything he
considered that god blessed
anything that he considered that god had
anointed in any way
he had a very deep respect for that
and that that laid an impression on me
it didn't matter if king
saul was
persecuting him or
if he was at war
it didn't matter
everything he did
was for god
he had a couple of slip-ups like all of
us but
he was very purposeful about what he did
and didn't do for those that he
considered to be anointed by god
the only reason why i bring that up is
because i realize now that i should
treat everybody as if they were anointed
by god
and if i were to have
that respect and love and
conviction
towards
every person as an individual not just
generalized but
selective and
purposeful and honed in on each person
for who they are
if i were to address people
in that way
everybody around me would feel loved
everybody around me would feel
valued
it would be really hard to have a bad
interaction with somebody they would
have to just adamantly be trying to
and i've had a couple of good examples
of that type of
attitude lately there's a couple of new
people
around me at work that
treat
everybody with that love and with that
respect and with that purposeful
mentality of making people feel valued
and loved
that i find myself responding
and kind i find myself wanting
to take that and
turn it outwards towards other people
i feel like there's a lesson there
because a lot of effort goes into every
day
regardless of whether i'm making people
feel good or not
effort goes into living life
so i guess what i'm trying to say is
that
if i'm gonna spend my time and my effort
my energy
my spiritual energy on anything today
why not choose to spend it on making
other people feel loved
and welcome
and wanted and valued
why not make each interaction as good as
i possibly can
because at the end of the day
that has
a ripple effect
going forward
and maybe
just maybe you'll make a difference in a
lot of people's life by treating that
one person right
and i think that's all i have for you
guys today
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