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Victoria's Thoughts

48 episodes - English - Latest episode: about 2 months ago - ★★★★★ - 165 ratings

my podcast is here in service to Women. by sharing the truths i have come to know, i intend to lead women back home, back to themselves, back to their power. each episode gives women the tools to shed the layers of patriarchal conditioning, pain, and trauma they have accumulated throughout their lives while we discuss deep healing, sexuality, relationships, femininity, true embodiment, dating, and all things Women

xoxox,

Victoria

Spirituality Religion & Spirituality Health & Fitness Sexuality
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Episodes

A Healthy Girl Guide On How to Spend Money: what i spend my money on

August 21, 2022 16:00 - 54 minutes - 49.9 MB

love you guys so much subscribe to my YouTube!!!: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBNPCXo4vyWG-MhYLY4Y4mg xoxoxoxo, Victoria de Vall Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

A Girl's Perspective On The Intersection of Finances & Men

August 13, 2022 21:34 - 32 minutes - 29.3 MB

hope you guys enjoy today's ep! <3 love you guys so much! xoxoxo, Victoria de Vall Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

The Lana Del Rey Effect: becoming attached to our identity as victims

August 10, 2022 16:00 - 23 minutes - 21.7 MB

enjoy my girlies <3 love you all so much! subscribe to my YouTube !!!!! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBNPCXo4vyWG-MhYLY4Y4mg and watch my last YouTube video!!: https://youtu.be/fSM6ehJ2m5Q Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Mature Womanhood Part II: body hair, vitamins, morning routine, makeup & being authentically you

August 06, 2022 16:00 - 39 minutes - 35.9 MB

hi girlies ily. comment on my most recent insta any pod ideas, ily. my collaboration with Zahav Jewelry is still going on!!!!! use code VIC30 TO TWIN WITH ME: my gold belly ring: https://www.etsy.com/listing/1112954402/10k-solid-gold-solid-gold-belly-rings?ref=listings_manager_grid my gold hoops (they're so lightweight so they don't drag your ear down at all which is so imp to me): https://www.etsy.com/listing/1189337828/10k-solid-gold-30mm-hoops-gold-hoops?click_key=cfac4b434ea3b568dfd...

How To Make Marriage Serve Women: dissecting the current (abhorrent) state of marriage for women

July 30, 2022 16:00 - 40 minutes - 36.7 MB

hello my girlies, today's episode is sponsored by Zahav Jewelry, a family run and sustainable gold jewelry business in Brooklyn NYC. use my code VIC30 for 30% off!!!!!!!! literally all their jewelry is amazing and is around $100. you deserve to be draped in gold! TO TWIN WITH ME: my gold belly ring: https://www.etsy.com/listing/1112954402/10k-solid-gold-solid-gold-belly-rings?ref=listings_manager_grid my gold hoops (they're so lightweight so they don't drag your ear down at all which is s...

Is Posting Bikini Pics Empowering?

July 24, 2022 15:21 - 31 minutes - 28.7 MB

hi guys, i'm back :) forgive me for not posting last weekend, i was vacationing in atlanta :) the quick answer to today's episode is: it can be. it all depends on the space you are coming from within. love you guys so much xo, Victoria Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

The Politics of Victimhood: owning our experiences as victims & why stepping out of victimhood feels scary

July 10, 2022 20:25 - 42 minutes - 39.4 MB

my beloved girls, i hope you enjoy this episode! and ps- subscribe to my YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBNPCXo4vyWG-MhYLY4Y4mg my Chakrubs Collab is still happening, go to Chakrubs.com and use code VICTORIADEVALL10 ilove you <3 Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Why Do We Call Abusers Narcissists?: discussing narc abuse & validating ourselves

July 05, 2022 13:18 - 28 minutes - 26.3 MB

he doesn't need to be a narcissist to be an abuser. intro calls are now available for august! book your free 1:1 introduction call starting in august at victoriadevall.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Coming into Mature Womanhood: service to others, gold jewelry, capsule closets & sisterhood

July 03, 2022 21:04 - 51 minutes - 46.9 MB

today's episode is sponsored by Chakrubs (!!!!! I'm so happy) https://chakrubs.com and you can use my code VICTORIADEVALL10 for 10% off! if you'd like to twin hehe, here are some of the products i have from them: https://chakrubs.com/products/the-xaga-yoni-egg https://chakrubs.com/products/the-heart-curve https://chakrubs.com/products/the-sacral-slim https://chakrubs.com/products/the-prism-yoni-egg https://chakrubs.com/products/the-xaga-root https://chakrubs.com/products/the-chakrubs-...

Creating Healthy Sexuality: unlearning your patriarchal sexual conditioning, building safety with a partner, & getting back into your body during sex

June 30, 2022 15:00 - 1 hour - 62.6 MB

in today's episode, we discuss practical ways you can create healthy sexuality with your partner as you are unlearning your patriarchal conditioning that has previously coerced you into disconnecting from your body, ignoring your pain, desires, and authenticity, and performing instead of connecting. today's episode is sponsored by Chakrubs (!!!!! I'm so happy) https://chakrubs.com and you can use my code VICTORIADEVALL10 for 10% off! if you'd like to twin hehe, here are some of the product...

Stop Being a Good Girl: the dark feminine, patriarchy, and abortion

June 25, 2022 20:30 - 39 minutes - 35.9 MB

in today's episode, we delve into what the dark feminine is, how needed it is in today's society, the reclamation of it, and how our fear and disconnection from the dark feminine shapes the way we speak about abortion, and our needs/desires in general. if you'd like to do 1:1 coaching with me, you can learn more at my website victoriadevall.com xox, Victoria Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands ...

How Healthy Love Changed Me ft. my man

June 22, 2022 16:42 - 25 minutes - 23.2 MB

in this episode, my love (@byermeas) & i discuss how being in a nourishing and healthy relationship changed us both. i discuss relaxing into my femininity (& relaxing in general), feeling safe with other women, and coming into my purpose while he discusses his service to the world and breaking down the barriers to trust another fully. love you guys so much, xoxo, Victoria Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircl...

Fear of Femininity: our softness & our power

June 19, 2022 19:20 - 44 minutes - 41.1 MB

today’s episode is about women’s fear of our own femininity, a fear that has been conditioned into us for thousands of years.  xoxo, Victoria de Vall Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Birthday Special: religion & spirituality, friends, and healing

June 12, 2022 17:55 - 1 hour - 60.2 MB

welcome to my birthday special :') where we delve into some more personal questions about my life and experiences! hope you guys enjoy, i love you! Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Why Women Try To Control Men & Why We Should Stop

June 04, 2022 16:00 - 16 minutes - 15 MB

in today's episode, we discuss why women try to control men, and my case for why we should stop. we dive into how this behavior enables us to not take accountability for our lives, feeds our trauma responses, and disrespects our inner child. love you guys so much, xoxo, Victoria Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Women Who Cheer As Their Sisters Burn: pick me girls, the divine feminine, and amber heard

June 03, 2022 16:25 - 38 minutes - 35.5 MB

when you crave the validation of weak men so deeply that you will cheer as your innocent sisters burn, you forget that what they are burning is you. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Stop Using Motherhood to Avoid Your Life: having requirements to carry a child, prioritizing your partner

June 01, 2022 16:00 - 33 minutes - 31 MB

every woman, deep in her heart, requires emotional and physical safety to feel truly relaxed in the journey of pregnancy and motherhood. throughout the centuries, we have conditioned ourselves to forget that we have requirements for motherhood: having a safe, dedicated, and loving partner, being materially provided for so you can rest during pregnancy and postpartum, having your emotional needs met by your partner, having your unique requirements specific to you stated and met, etc. however,...

Trusting a Man is So Healing: why we choose men we can't trust

May 28, 2022 16:10 - 43 minutes - 39.8 MB

in today's episode, we talk about the deep healing that occurs when we choose a man who we can truly trust, a man who we can put our guard down 100% with and know we are safer with it down than we ever were with it up. we also discuss why we choose men we cannot trust, and how that strengthens our wounds. if you'd like to dive further, you can book coaching with me at victoriadevall.com follow my instagram: victoriadevall Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-though...

How to Receive: it feels so good to be provided for

May 21, 2022 16:00 - 42 minutes - 39.2 MB

today's episode is all about how to receive from a man and from life. we talk about being provided for by a man, genuine vulnerability, and having standards. there is a certain level of vulnerability that comes with receiving from a man you RESPECT. deeply. and that's what we are discussing today :) love you guys and hope you enjoy xoxoxox, Victoria Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & ...

Death of the Chill Girl + How to Stop Looking for Male Validation

May 17, 2022 19:20 - 26 minutes - 24.5 MB

hi girlies, this was just a quick episode i took when Jeremie went to the store real quick :) i hope you all enjoy, love you! Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

How I Healed My Period: from painful to painless periods

May 14, 2022 16:00 - 38 minutes - 35.5 MB

today's episode is all about how I healed my period and my own personal journey with going from extremely painful periods to painless periods. I understand that everyone's experience is different and unique, but I share the way I healed my period in hopes that it gives direction and guidance to others who resonate and are looking to do the same! I also understand that trans-people have their own unique experience with periods and did not touch on this as much in this episode but it is still...

How to Heal Your Inner Child

May 07, 2022 16:40 - 36 minutes - 33.1 MB

hi girls, today is the best episode ever on how to heal your inner child. hope you enjoy :') if you'd like to embark on a 3 month coaching journey with me, go to victoriadevall.com to book your free intro call love you all :* Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Talking Stage Tips For The Embodied Woman

May 05, 2022 15:25 - 37 minutes - 34.1 MB

in today's episode, i speak on some tips for women looking to receive a truly safe and masculine king: from not pedestaling him to deciding when to sleep with him, i dive into it all! of course, for any of this to work, you must be at a truly embodied and safe space within yourself. to learn how to do this, you can apply for my 3 month coaching program, and schedule your FREE intro call with me on my website: victoriadevall.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thou...

Talking Stage Tips For The Embodied Woman: making sure you choose the right man

May 05, 2022 15:25 - 37 minutes - 34.1 MB

in today's episode, i speak on some tips for women looking to receive a truly safe and masculine king: from not pedestaling him to when to sleep with him, i dive into it all! of course, for any of this to work, you must be at a truly embodied and safe space within yourself. to learn how to do this, you can apply for my 3 month coaching program, and schedule your FREE intro call with me on my website: victoriadevall.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/dona...

How To Heal Your Anxious Attachment

April 23, 2022 16:00 - 37 minutes - 34.3 MB

in this episode, i tell you everything you need to know about how to heal your anxious attachment. it all comes down to building trust with yourself by feeling your feelings and holding yourself through the emotions that arise. doing this over and over until you have created a new, healthy baseline. another thing i did not mention is that especially right when you meet a possible romantic love interest, it is sooo important to be securely attached. if you are not, you will bypass your own ...

How To Heal Your Womb: yoni massage, healing sexual trauma, ancestral work, embodied sexuality

April 16, 2022 15:00 - 49 minutes - 45 MB

in this episode, i deep dive into everything you need to know about how to heal your relationship with your womb: yoni massage, yoni mapping, vaginal dearmoring, radical reclamation, why we are disempowered, healing sexual trauma, coming into union with your womb, ancestral work...EVERYTHING. another big thing is you cannot eat animals or animal products !!! if you'd like to dive deeper into 1:1 coaching and get to the next level of your life and become the embodied woman your heart yearn...

Everything You Need To Know About Veganism

April 09, 2022 18:00 - 59 minutes - 54.1 MB

hi you guys, this is a comprehensive podcast about veganism: why to go vegan, how to go vegan, the animal environmental and human rights injustices that surround animal agriculture. comment on my last insta any questions you still have about veganism :) Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

How To Set & Hold Boundaries

March 26, 2022 16:15 - 33 minutes - 30.3 MB

in today's episode, i speak on how to set boundaries, how to not abandon yourself, and how to allow someone else's reaction to your boundary. hope you guys enjoy :* to book me for coaching: victoriadevall.com to subscribe to my YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yu2O-SD9Gqg&t=1s Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Zero Tolerance For Low Quality Men & Healing Jealousy

March 19, 2022 16:07 - 40 minutes - 37.2 MB

hi girlies. hope you enjoy today's episode!! you can subscribe to my YouTube channel and listen to my video on my 2 years of celibacy here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yu2O-SD9Gqg Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

How to Release Shame from Past Sexual Experiences

March 12, 2022 17:00 - 25 minutes - 23.7 MB

hi girls. this episode is all about releasing shame from your past sexual experiences; experiences where you may have been disrespected, treated poorly, touched by hands that didn't cherish you, or sexually violated. i love you all so much and i hope this episode helps you remember that there is nothing you have ever done sexually that could make you less valuable, less worthy, less divine, less holy. enjoy :) if you like this pod episode and want to support me, you can tip me in the link b...

Why You Should Stop Watching Porn

February 26, 2022 17:00 - 48 minutes - 44.3 MB

hi girls <3 in this episode I speak about why it is absolutely imperative why you and all people stop watching porn. i speak about the innate level of objectification of another human that it takes to watch porn, i speak about how it disconnects you from your femininity and body, i speak about how it is misogyny and not empowering, and so much more. this direct dehumanization of women is extremely disturbing to me, so i was a little upset in this podcast, which is part of natural ~feminine r...

Valuable Men Don't Like Other Girls Pictures

February 20, 2022 14:45 - 18 minutes - 16.6 MB

hi guys :) today, we are talking about the whole "liking other girls pictures" phenomenon. what I say in this podcast is also applicable to complimenting other women and watching p*rn. men of value do not do any of these things. their main priority is protecting your heart and making you feel safe. if the container he provides has all these holes with space for his attention on other women, he has not provided anything, and he has no idea what it means to be a man. stop trying to change you...

Healthy Relationships: getting into them & what they entail

February 12, 2022 17:00 - 36 minutes - 33.2 MB

Hi girlies. I did a little special on all things healthy relationships for valentines day! I went into detail on the difference between healthy and toxic relationships, how to get into healthy relationships, how to see more healthy men in the world, and what my relationship looks like hehe. love you guys so much!! book me for coaching: https://victoriadevall.com/collections/coaching-sessions Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donations Advertising Inquiries...

Staying in Your Body While Making Friends

February 09, 2022 01:58 - 21 minutes - 19.5 MB

if you'd like to go deeper 1:1 with me on any of these topics, i offer women's coaching on my website :) love you guys! Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Alignment Over Manifestation

January 26, 2022 11:54 - 20 minutes - 18.7 MB

hello girlies, today I talk about why alignment is better than manifestation, and how all things flow from alignment. I love you guys and also I'm holding a zoom session this friday 1/28 where I'm holding a healing girls session !!! you can join through my website under the tab: "healing session 1/28". I hope to see you all there :) also, if you enjoyed this episode, you can tip me here hehe : https://app.redcircle.com/shows/b619aa43-6dfe-4a93-83ce-7883c9a52506/donations Support this podca...

Feminine Rage and True Masculinity ft My Man

January 19, 2022 17:00 - 21 minutes - 19.5 MB

soooo we have the most wise, masculine man on the podcast today- my MANNNNNNNN. we spoke about his experience coming into his masculinity, his connection with his feminine (you can't be masculine if you don't have a connection with your feminine), feminine rage and the masculine's role in this. hope you guys enjoy! his instagram: @byermeas , @jeremielouis and his poetry book is called Memories of a Love Never Born by Ermeas on Amazon. my instagram & tiktok : @victoriadevall , coaching se...

The Way to True, Embodied Femininity

January 17, 2022 19:25 - 40 minutes - 37.4 MB

hey girlies, I know everyone has been waiting on this episode and it's finally here- all things femininity; the playful, sensual, feeling side, the chaotic, destructive, ferocious side, the necessity for a healthy relationship with your own masculine if you ever want a full relationship with your feminine, the repression of full femininity in your sexuality...all of that and more is discussed ! i love you guys so much, leave me a review if you liked this episode, become one of my coaching cl...

Stop Trying To Save People: Part 2

January 09, 2022 17:59 - 25 minutes - 23.5 MB

in this episode, i speak on the idea that we want others to wake up from their toxic cycles because we truly care about them - however, this is not true. in truth, we want others to do this because we do not want to sit with the discomfort that comes with the other person being right where they are, and the boundaries we might have to enforce as a result. If we can sit and accept them right where they are without trying to change them, we can be objective, place boundaries, and remove oursel...

Why We Eroticize Our Wounds

January 01, 2022 16:29 - 21 minutes - 19.8 MB

in this episode, I speak about the eroticization of our pain, trauma, and wounds, and how it keeps us locked in a cage that we then identify with and believe is our sexual identity. this podcast is an offering so that we may all sit with our pain and release it and discover the fullness of the true embodiment of our sexuality on the other side and not stay trapped in its distortions. if you'd like to talk more about this or receive direct advice or coaching, you can find booking in my websi...

Masculinity in Men: What it Really Looks Like

November 06, 2021 17:49 - 15 minutes - 14.2 MB

In this episode, I delve into what REAL masculinity looks like in a man. I hope you all enjoy :) if you like this episode and would like to support me and this podcast through a donation/tip, here is the link: https://app.redcircle.com/shows/b619aa43-6dfe-4a93-83ce-7883c9a52506/donations You can also now book a coaching session with me through my website if you would like one on one support and would like to commit to yourself in this way! Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/v...

How to Leave a Toxic Man

October 25, 2021 19:38 - 24 minutes - 22.5 MB

In this episode, I speak about how to leave a toxic man. I hope you guys enjoy :) Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Faking Orgasms and All the Other Ways We Hide From Ourselves

September 24, 2021 14:28 - 27 minutes - 25 MB

in this episode, I speak on faking orgasms and what that says about our connection to ourselves. in my experience, faking orgasms made it easier for me to stay in unhealthy relationships/situations because I was able to hide. faking orgasms, in my opinion, is another way we enable ourselves out of our true embodiment. I'll explain more in the episode, hope you enjoy :) Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com...

Faking Orgasms and All the Other Ways We Hide From Ourselves

September 24, 2021 14:28 - 27 minutes - 37.5 MB

in this episode, I speak on faking orgasms and what that says about our connection to ourselves. in my experience, faking orgasms made it easier for me to stay in unhealthy relationships/situations because I was able to hide. faking orgasms, in my opinion, is another way we enable ourselves out of our true embodiment. I'll explain more in the episode, hope you enjoy :)

3: Accepting & Loving the parts of yourself that you've labelled "unworthy"

August 10, 2021 15:13 - 35 minutes - 49 MB

in this podcast, I delve into loving yourself fully- which means sitting with all of the parts of yourself that you have shamed, labelled unpresentable, denied, or been embarrassed of. I delve into being ashamed of past sexual experiences, having an anxious attachment style, and how I move through feelings of unworthiness when they arise. owning all of you- the parts you are ashamed of, too- is true embodiment. That being said, loving all parts of ourselves does not necessarily mean indulgin...

Accepting & Loving the parts of yourself that you've labelled "unworthy"

August 10, 2021 15:13 - 35 minutes - 32.7 MB

in this podcast, I delve into loving yourself fully- which means sitting with all of the parts of yourself that you have shamed, labelled unpresentable, denied, or been embarrassed of. I delve into being ashamed of past sexual experiences, having an anxious attachment style, and how I move through feelings of unworthiness when they arise. owning all of you- the parts you are ashamed of, too- is true embodiment. That being said, loving all parts of ourselves does not necessarily mean indulgin...

Stop trying to "save" people- it's not real

July 30, 2021 15:28 - 42 minutes - 58.3 MB

In this podcast, I wanted to speak on the phenomenon of "saving people." In my life, I've experienced this in 2 main forms- 1. where someone WANTS to be "saved" and is encouraging you to act in a codependent manner, and 2. where someone doesn't want to be "saved" and you are projecting and interjecting into their life. Either way, these ways of acting are not authentic. When my father went to prison last year, I hit rock bottom with this "savior" dynamic. I was miserable, coming from a compl...

Stop trying to "save" people- it's not real

July 30, 2021 15:28 - 42 minutes - 38.9 MB

In this podcast, I wanted to speak on the phenomenon of "saving people." In my life, I've experienced this in 2 main forms- 1. where someone WANTS to be "saved" and is encouraging you to act in a codependent manner, and 2. where someone doesn't want to be "saved" and you are projecting and interjecting into their life. Either way, these ways of acting are not authentic. When my father went to prison last year, I hit rock bottom with this "savior" dynamic. I was miserable, coming from a compl...

The Masculine Shield: why we carry it as women, and why we should put it down

July 20, 2021 18:00 - 25 minutes - 23.6 MB

Lately I've been thinking a lot about this masculine shield I have that I accepted for a lot of my life as just part of my personality. As I get more honest with myself, I realize that it is a shield I've put up for 10+ years because I felt threatened and perpetually unsafe. As an adult, this protective, trauma induced armor that I've held for so long is something I no longer want to carry, and something I feel blocks myself and all women from experiencing the safety that we truly crave and ...