UCWG 038: Why Do Men Today Fail to Develop Mature Masculinity?

Today, more than ever, there seems to be a growing culture war between masculinity and femininity in society. Men are starting to feel threatened by the growing presence and empowerment of women, just as women are losing touch with their feminine nature as they are pushed to take on masculine roles coercively. Nothing is in its right place anymore, and society suffers because we have lost the natural balance between us.

Masculinity does not have to look like any one stereotypical role in society. It is an agreement which changes over time and across cultures. Every society on Earth has a somewhat different idea of how a family unit ought to function, how men must bond and work with each other, how courting and marriage works, and so on.

Beyond the cultural rules of how men ought to act, there is an evolutionary generalization of traits that men tend to hold in greater quantity than women, for better or worse. The same traits applied in different ways or managed incorrectly can shift from being massive assets to horrible detriments for men. A man’s sex drive can be a powerful, productive force in his life or a horrible and immature distraction. His great, innate aggressive instincts can help him accomplish goals and destroy obstacles, or it can turn self-destructive and anti-social.

The primal role of man is to be proactive: a doer who initiates progress in his own life and for society. He grows through resistance and testing his limits. Yet, many men fail to own this property as they advice from boyhood to manhood, predominantly because they lack father figures and other relevant examples of mature masculinity to guide them. They never learn to manage the great disorder within them as they grow.

The growing backlash against the traditional masculine and female roles is Western society is dividing men and women from their natural state of attraction and support for each other. Men must retake their primal masculinity if they are to contribute to a restored balance in the dynamic between the two archetypes.

Nate Lind is the founder of Legendary Man. Legendary Man offers men the opportunity to bond with one another and collect the maturing influence they might have been lacking, to participate in traditional activities like hunting and fishing which imbue them with the ability to act bravely and virtuously as they develop deep friendships and get to know themselves more deeply. Nate believes that it is essential for developing men to spend some time isolated from women so that they can learn from others who understand the unique trials of their disposition in life.  

In addition to learning to work tribally with other mindful men, the mature man must also learn to face the nature of his path in isolation with zero social supports to guide him. He must learn to be the master of his own destiny again.

The masculine destiny is to become the durable standard bearer of a new way of acting in the world: the embodiment of a specific ideal which matters most to him. The commitment to this principle crafts all the actions in his life that follow.

In his own journey of masculinity, Nate spent 15 years struggling to lose weight until he learned to look at the problem in a different perspective beyond just struggling physically against a problem he could not control. He realized that true masculinity was not ceaseless struggling, but being dedicated and resourceful enough to do whatever is necessary to accomplish what he knows must be done. After undergoing bariatric surgery, he was able to lose 200 pounds and keep it off for the first time in his life as soon as he did what he realized was necessary.

This is the gift that a man learns as he lives in isolation and battles his own personal dragons. He learns to look at life beyond the filter of how other people tell him things are supposed to be done. He finds his own path against seemingly impossible barriers.

Legendary Man:

http://legendary-man.com/

Doctor Who will now be played by a woman, Jodie Whittaker:

http://www.bbcamerica.com/anglophenia/2017/07/doctor-whos-thirteenth-doctor-is-jodie-whittaker