Generational Bad Habits- Family Matters 101

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Ladies and gentlemen boys and girls friends of all ages. This is the one and only your favorite podcast. The uncle Bobby show and I am your uncle Bobby and I want you to remember that. I'm here for you and we're going to have a deep wonderful conversation today about family matters issues of the family. We all have issues in our family. The bible talks about issues of the family and so we're going to talk about those things today I want to give. Our new listeners a shoutout I'm glad you're tuning in I'm glad you're listening I want you to share this podcast I want you to tweet me I want you to email me I want you to contact me and let me give you that information as we get started Don Bobby show the one and only off for Bobby show. You can tweet me at Bobby House 1 2 3 that's at Bobby house roman Numeral three or you can email me at Pastor House 3 at http://aol.com and put in the subject land hashtag uncle Bobby. So for our news listeners I want you to know that we talk about religion. We talk about god we talk about the spiritual aspects of everything pertaining to our life and I want you to know I love Jesus but I cuss a little bit so just putting that out there. Um, um, we're we're looking at the heart of the matter we the bible says for all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of god. And I am a sin saved by Grace and helled by mercy and so I want to bring you on board to the uncle Bobby show listen folks I got a dry mouth I've been taking some new medication and on top of that my allergies have been kicking my butt. No, it's not the corona. Um I got the shot the booster and if Dr Fauci tells me to get another one I will I have friends and my church friends family members my sister um who does not believe in taking these shops or anything like that. But for me, it makes me feel. Safer like so many others of you out here and then for others they don't want to take it I have a church member that his job made him take it and he got sick afterwards I have another church member that her job maker to take the shot and she literally almost died from it but to each its own. You know we still live in America we still live in the greatest country on the planet with all of our issues that we have and we have many this is still no place like the red white and blue the uncle Bobby show folks. It is January thirty first twenty twenty two and I am your.

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Uncle Bobby I'm go get a drink of water and we'll get this conversation started as I before I get started I want to let you all know that in just a few weeks at the end of February really I will be back with my friend posle. You all loved her and she was on the show. She is. The ratings were amazing on that one if you have not looked that one up go to my episodes and spiritual Dna. She's going to be on here giving some expert advice. About being a wife about being a mother about being in a working world in 2022 and what she sees as the hopes of the future. We want to encourage you be realistic, but encourage you at the same time in my ministry uncle Bobby Ministries excuse me uncle Bob the uncle bobby showed for you new listeners. We have what I call mercy ministries and that is to hand out the same mercy you would hope to receive on your judgment day recognizing that none of us are perfect. God will judge all of us according to his standard whatever that should be and our only plea is the blood of jesus christ and so I want to make sure that we live a life and and and create a culture on the uncle bobby show where people understand and people know. That mercy is for everybody grace is for everybody we live in a world that people want to cut you off at the knees or kick you when you're down in other words but I want to create a ministry I want to create an atmosphere I want to create a world where. If I can just stay in my lane and do my part to give people mercy and I practice it I'm not just preaching it I literally practice it all the time I practice giving people mercy because I want to receive mercy. Um, anybody can tell you that I'm the type of friend. I'll give you 925000 chances to make it right? And if you do you are back in my life because I do believe in mercy. But it's got to be done the right way. Um, but others. But other people will also tell you when off of bobby's done handed out mercy. He's done. So I want us to because I'm not jesus. You know the bible says to forgive 7 times 70 I'll forgive 7 times 70 but there was a quote that I heard 1 time it says um, forgive your enemies but never forget their names and I live by that mercy ministries we're here.

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To promote the freedom of religion I am a holiness Southern Baptist unashamed of it I am a conservative in my religion I I believe in taking the bible literally literally I am a theologian with a small t on it and I believe in religion I believe that religion is the foundation. Of the freedom of this nation. So as much of a holiness Southern Baptist I am if you're a muslim if you're a jew if you're a catholic if you're whatever you are whatever you practice or don't practice I believe that I will fight justice hard for. Those rights of yours as I hope you would fight for mine. We want to create a safe space for mental health I'm unashamed to tell you that I take medication for anxiety I take medication for depression. I was actually talking to my grandmother a few months ago she god has definitely been merciful unto her as she is in her eighty s and she had had some help scares and different challenges and I told my grandma I said grandma I think I've had anxiety since I was a kid. And she said you probably have but back then we didn't know nothing about those things and so I want to create a safe space for you especially in our black community and especially in the male culture in general black white native american asian whatever it should be okay. Us as men to say listen I'm not feeling good I need third I got 2 therapists two. That's how that's how messed up life has done me I got a religious one and a sec one because I need both of them. Um, and I take medication and I'm not ashamed to say it and I still need probably about ten mos. But by the grace of god he is keeping me every day. Let's talk about mental health. The health part is what we want to talk about. You are not a failure if you go to the doctor and say you need something to balance your mood. In fact, I say this all the time and I stole it from my friend possel who. The new people will hear about in just a few weeks or you can go back and listen to that old episode ah spiritual Dna that the government ought to put prozac in the water system. Absolutely believe that I'm taking a drink of water y'all. You be praying for me that I get to fill in a hundred percent better and then we want to defeat the disease of addiction I have no problem telling you I'm a redeemed ah addict on both of my parents and both sides of my family addiction was just in the Dna.

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And so I had my own I've had my own struggles I've had my own fight and by the grace of god October Fourteen Twenty Twenty he sanctified my heart holy and removed the desire to sin away from me and so I thank god for that every day and I'm praying for you and your addiction and your downfalling. In this pandemic. A lot of people have been drinking doing whatever they can to numb themselves and when you have trauma that nobody ever talks about but you don't feel safe communicating that you have from an early childhood age and you have this trauma there you do try to suppress it. My choice of drugs were uppers I liked uppers met was my favorite. That was my absolute favorite but I did cocaine you know I've smoked other stuff but ah, that was my favorite one because it took me out of the world of pain because. I'm unashamed to say and I hope you will be unashamed to say me too. You know and when it happened when I was growing up and when I'm in my family environment. It wasn't safe to say it just wasn't the demonstration of the attitudes and the behaviors of those who. Were responsible for me as a child did not demonstrate safety as far as like my grandmother was my safe place I should I'll say that. Um so when it happened to me. I was at risk in my mind as a chief as a child of never being allowed to go to my grandparents house again and I knew my daddy would kill somebody and he really would have so I just kept it in for years not until I got in my twenty s and I met my best friend who I called my sister Jenny B. Ah she was the first person I ever told and I was probably 24 25 and when I met her and she she was probably 21 or even maybe um, we were younger than that I don't remember. But yeah I didn't get to my twenty s I even talked about it and but god has been merciful unto me. And each and every day I can heal a little bit more There are things that have happened or and still are happening that you know it is unbelievable to believe that it is happening in my life and hopefully one day I'll be able to share those things with you because you wouldn't believe it. If you heard it either. But I am so glad that god has delivered me from that life of sin. So I don't have to numb my feelings I am expecting and exciting and excited for the place made ah not by man and that's heaven.

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And then domestic violence. We want to talk about domestic violence whether you are male female whether you are in a loving relationship or you are in ah, excuse me a romantic relationship or it's with a family member. There should be no verbal violence that you ever put up with. Ah should be no physical violence that you ever put up. There should be no mental manipulation that you ever put up and there should be no spiritual abuse that you should ever put up with I have a sibling of mine who suffers from schizophrenia and. The reason why I know that he suffers from that and the reason why I suffer from my anxiety that I have is because verbal violence all throughout our childhood and it's just a natural reaction to the body. But again, my grandmother said it best back then I didn't know and so that's why now. I will cut you so let me tell you some you won't even know that I cut you loose because I don't allow it in my life I do not allow it I don't care who it is the conversation you write. That's all I'm going say is you are completely right. Why are we talking about this because I don't care you know in? in fact, that sometimes I've forgotten about that and god has to remind me that do not let perfect become the enemy of good and so when I see a big picture, a big vision of something you know I have to remind myself that. God has a specific plan for me a specific order for me and so with that being said I have to do my part and I have to stay in his lane because in the the clark sisters as you just heard twinket clark and the clark sisters and that's for us real fans who've been fans for them for decades. You know it's not just they'd say the Clark Sister's not but no as twinkit Clark and the clark sisters ah there's a song that said I've tried him and I know him you know I've tried him and I know him and I found him. To be a friend and so that's why I have you brought the sunshine as my opening intro to my podcast because I want everybody to know that Jesus is the Sunshine. You may think that it is a family member a friend a cousin or whoever in your life. Ah a spouse. Spouses leave friends. You may think they are root they turn out to be a branch family some of the the worst I guess you can say the worst ah idea or philosophy or.

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Or or saying out there is that blood is thicker than water and that's not true. My best friend literally my 3 best friends in the last I should say a few years six years have shown me that they definitely are thicker. Than what than blood in so many ways and so I just want you to know today beloved that god is on your side that he's working it out for you that he's helping you and in my case, he did it all for me he and people say oh god helped you know, not in my situation. God did the entire work of sanctification in my own heart for me and that's why I want you to know that whatever you're struggling with in your family with your relationship with your friends with growth in general growth is painful and growth takes courage and that's why not everybody does it. Because it takes care to say my parents did this good but they failed in all of these other ways and that's okay because people are doing only what they know how to do when I was married and had my bonus girls I did the best I knew how looking back on it hindsight Twenty Twenty yes I was a great father. I'm talking about a really good one. Yes I was a great provider. All of those things but I was too strict and I can own it now but it's what I saw so what I saw I did you know and so in all of our lives. Whatever we're going through if it is. With family friends. The job. Whatever I want us to remember that god has mercy for each and every one of us and so that's why again, we hand out the same mercy that we hope to receive on our judgment day when it comes to freedom of religion when it comes to mental health when it comes to fighting addiction. And when it comes to domestic violence I recently told a young person that you matter you I want you to know that you are worthy. There was so many times growing up I think I was looking for that but you and I but I didn't know how to. Or what to call it because on 1 hand you say okay well this is good in my life. No other and you're like well out of the same person. They praise me but put me down but you know you can grow and that's why again growth takes courage and not everybody's willing to do it. Not everybody's willing to step up and say they did the best that they could and it wasn't enough that was for somebody today. Your mother did the best she could and that's absolutely true, but it wasn't enough.

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Your father did the best he could and yet it wasn't enough and that is okay to own it baby that just released you you can cry over that you can sit and pause for a moment and think about the goodness of god in that moment because. Yes, they put you in good schools. Yes, you had opportunities I've been to England you know all these things. Absolutely my daddy was hilarious. This will be ten years this year from his the day he passed away and I'm funny now. My daddy was a card playing barbecue eating funny guy. You know I could be on stage but my jokes are much more rachier than my father's but you know I got that strain from him. My mother is ah was in education. You know I have that string from her I love school I love it. I'm passionate about it. I love to write research papers. Love it. You know so they did and they offered me the best that they had and yet it was not enough. It wasn't because ah like I said there were just things that have happened. And I just could never talk about it and now in my past the middle point of 30 ah you know I'm at the halfway Mark of life if I make it to eighty almost I'm almost there. You know I have to think to myself. You know what am I going to do with the rest of these days. And for me what I've decided to do with for the rest of my days because there have been so much betrayal that I found out in the last six years that and and even today there were things that the holy spirit was saying look at that baby picture look at this picture look at and I'm like oh my goodness. The holy spirit is just constantly revealing things to me and I just today in the last six years what I've realized is the most important thing to me is my piece like in the last year and a half I really almost two years I really have taken it in. And my piece means more to me than anything and so if I can't get peace in this relationship this friendship and this family membership then I got to take peace out still got to go peace out and today actually and I want to share this as healing for somebody today. When I was coming up. My grandfather was the male influence in my life. My grandfather. He jokes a lot when I was a kid. He would always say always alwaysway he used to add his pontiac blue ponac core and remember back in the 90 s when the seat coverings were just horrible. It was like itchy carpet. You know.

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And he used to have this blue ponac and that's what he actually taught me out of driving when I was like 13 or fourteen years old my grand I might have been younger than I might have been 12 or 13 actually when my grandpa taught me how to drive but he he would take me places and and he would you know point out some and if. Just to get a reaction from me or to teach me how ah to debate or to feel it was on my mind. He'd say. Are you nuts and I'd be like well grandpa. This is why I think the way I do but to you know when he had a he had a illness about six years ago and when I thought he was leaving I was out to. Was like you out I'm going with you where I'm not standing by myself with these negroes and you leaving but praise god that he survived and that god has allowed him to live in my grandmother as well. To live to watch god do the complete work of sanctifying my heart. Holy now the emotional sadness nobody has to worry about because I don't I don't carry that anymore you know hey and here's the thing I have personally my grandparents are not theologians they don't know. Hermeneutics or theology or the doctrines are fundamental all of these things when it comes to scripture neither did my granny when she all my other great grandmother when they went to heaven but they went there because they had the basics and so for me and that's what god reveals glory to glory glory to glory and so you know in my instance he has called me to be a defender of the faith and so I have personally made sure with both of my grandparents last time I went home in the kitchen before I left I said a specific prayer. So. When they said a man that yes and a man means an agreement I'm like okay, good for my own sake just for who I will meet you in that city. You know if they go first. My grandmother's always says well what if you go first and that's true if I go first and god bless it. Yeahll will find me at the buffet in heaven praise god because I can't wait to get there and eat all the food in heaven and not gain a pound bar. Please let me get a drink of water. We're gonna get started on our topic today. This is uncle Bobby show and I am your uncle Bobby folks. You better tweet me at Bobby House 1 2 3 or email me at Pastor House 3 at http://aol.com putting that subject line hashtag uncle Bobby I want to hear from you.

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So today I want to talk to you about family matters. Remember that show back in the day Carl Winslow and his family Steve herrkle and all that stuff and we all have issues in our family issues between. Mothers and children and fathers and children and brothers and sisters and all of that thing and all of those things and sometimes I can tell you the truth about me is I felt so long and now I know exactly what it is why I have felt like I was a stranger. And a foreign lamb philippians 23 says but our citizenship is in heaven and from it. We await a savior the lord Jesus Christ in that verse right? there. It tells me several things. The first thing is that earth is not my home. Like this is not my destination. This is just a walk through I don't know why god asked me to walk through it I don't know why god asked me to walk with the people that I walked through it I don't know why I had to lose my entire childhood and 20 s and some even up now to my thirty s and so many mental. Emotional ways I don't know but a part of it though I think is that wherever he has me at being there for ministering to people I'm able to look at people and say I know you're paying I'm able to look at people and say just hang on to tomorrow you know god has. My cousin were many years of apart. Let's just say that her and her husband are just had the first great grand babyby in the family and when I tell you every when she sends me a picture of that and I get the baby and I get off work and I see it is a reminder to keep going. I have 3 solid friends between them I have ah 9 nieces and nephews. Yeah 9 nieces and nephews. My friend once said to me Bobby, you can't leave us too soon because how would we tell the kids so when I'm struggling with that mental health. That's why I'm trying to get you to understand break away from trauma if a person is putting trauma in your life intentionally get up and walk away. It will be scary. You won't know how it will feel. You don't know how it will play out. You don't know what will take place but i. Promise here listen to him for Bobby god will feel in the gap period he'll fill in a gap you know he'll give you exactly what you needed and he'll do it so much better than you could have ever even prayed for.

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And and I'm telling I'm a living witness to that I am a living witness to that there was some there are some unsettled secrets in my family and I just decided I'm not doing it no more like um I know the secret. Both of my grandparents have told him even my uncle literally he literally just I think he was just sick of being a part of the lie and he literally just put it right out there and he said the exact words and I'm like oh and and I know he didn't want me to miss it. Because I could tell in his spirit that his spirit was saying I'm sick of this crap like he's become a grandfather. He's got a son in law you know, ah my cousin she lives in a different state and um, you know I just think he just got to point say you know what. Yeah, been praying for this nigger to get right? and then god do it and now we bitching and moaning that god can done what he said he was gonna do see you don't have to understand when god is gonna do it. You don't have to have to understand why god is gonna do it. You don't even ah have to understand nothing. God owes you no explanation look at job. He said job when was you there to put the ocean over there or to tell the stars where to go or to tell the moon when to come up and when and go down you won't you weren't there. It was the father the son and the holy spirit did all of that. So who the hell do you think you are to tell god anything you know I sit there I look at I have my home man if I'm getting better at it. But this friend of mine growing up and ah even today I can honest to god say. If this person needed a kidney I would honest to god if I was a match give it to them. That's how much I was down for this person but they got manipulated offered whatever and um, it has been. 1 of the most I don't even know traumatizing rips of pain from my soul that I've ever felt my coach told me growing up sin will take you further than you want to go. It will keep you longer than you want to stay and it will cost you more than you were ever willing to pay and I know this. Firsthand so when I think of the things that I go have been through and survived to god be the glory and the relationships that I've had to say you you really not sorry you really wouldn't do that over again, you really wouldn't come.

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And let's bring everybody together and say I should not have done that please take him back into the friendship you if you if you if you can't do that then I just can't be around and I was so deathly afraid of. The results but the further you get away. Ah the more you trust yourself and lineia van sen talks about that a lot trusting yourself to be able to hold the pain function. With the forgiveness of the pain and to move forward and before I never trusted myself. My grandfather got sick six years ago I didn't trust myself to be able to live on this planet where I am now I do you know absolutely do I pray to god all the time that he would give me a job so I can financially support myself 110 percent and my grandfather still to this day. He helps me out whenever I need something and I appreciate it and today he told me that he knew that I appreciated it and he could go to his grave knowing that. And was more that was worth more therapy and than 20 years of talking to somebody honest to god but ah just being able to um, sit with my own pain being able to say oh my goodness. And the holy spirit. He's so deep see sanct justification means the holy spirit will lead you sanctification mean the holy spirit will fill you it up and give you things not money I'm not talking about that or cause our house. That's all cheat grace. He'll give you wisdom. He'll give you knowledge. He'll give you visions. He'll give you discernment. He'll give you understanding there have been things that have happened over the last year and a half the people thought oh I would react to it god said no. And some and I don't always hit hit the ball right? where he's where he's telling me to go but I'm trying and and he knows that I'm gonna get a drink of water. Yeah sorry all you first time listeners I got some medicine I'm on right now and it's just drying me up. But god always has been there for me I just didn't know it and even now knowing the loss that I now know I have experienced see my soul knew something but I didn't know it.

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And now and but now everything makes sense because I'm like whyt I so been so disturbed uneasy looking at that there are so many things that that I can look through in my life and I say that don't make sense or that don't make sense or how did that happen or what went wrong. And now I know and god will reveal it to you when you ask him to fill you up with his blessed holy spirit. But here's the thing I want you to know when you do that and he sanctifies you wholly be prepared. You got to give up all your desires all up every. Single last one of them. How you think the world should be let me tell you some I don't really I tell people all time I am attracted to energy not gender energy. How do you make me feel and yeah you coach you got to be attractive obviously but I'm attractive to energy. But here's the thing I am like a literalist when it comes to the scriptures I take it exactly for the word I research the words I find out what they meant in Greek and hebrew and in Greek and hebrew and when you get a commentary. They even deep put in the english words. Okay so god says that he destroyed sodommon demorrah only. For the fact that the men were sleeping with men and the women were sleeping with women. That's the only reason I did it now was everybody doing it now. But the only reason he destroyed them is because god says that that is unnatural. Love okay, that's what the bible says in my heart. I have been with men in love with men I've been in love with women and you know all of that stuff I I'm I don't know if I'm still in love with this person I haven't even thought about them that much lately. So I don't even know him still still in love with this person but the last person I was really really like I had a whole future planned out. Plus you know unfortunately person was taken away from me. Um, but anyway the story of that person didn't matter where that person was at in life didn't matter any of that what mattered to me was that person's energy that you make me feel safe. Did you make me laugh. You make me feel comfortable. Could I trust you and but here's the thing god's word says I don't care what you think that's what he literally says he says I don't care what you think about this issue I don't care what you think about that issue. Ah, woman's right to choose. It's personally none of my personal business I'm a libertarian you know who you marry is personally not in my I don't care where your penis goes or who's in your vagina I don't care but the scripture says I have to be obedient. So are there guys I want to.

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You know I'm there's a guy my job I'm like oh my god I would love to date you. There was a guy at my last job. He was deliciously gorgeous I wanted to god I wanted to be with him. Um, he was in my department you know, but here's the thing god's word says no. You say well is that really bad I don't have to agree with god I have to obey him he right here's the thing about god he not asking for your opinion. Thank god for Jesus a man because if he was asking for our opinion. We all would have came up with a different way to get our sins atoneed for instead of letting his son die. So thank god the god don't consult us on his um on what he should be doing so yes, do I say I'm attracted to men. Absolutely absolutely am I attracted to women absolutely but it's not the gender. The body it is the soul and the personality and their energy that is attractive to me. But what does god say sex can only be in between a male and a woman in the sanctity of marriage why because that's what he said. Do I agree with it. no and no I don't agree with it I think it's ridiculous I think why do we have this safeguard up but that's not my job to agree with god my job is to obey god so I haven't had sex since. 19 ah one that's I love this being and another thing about is for me is yeah when I go home to St Louis I have this one ex-girl friend I can but bam. But here's the thing homosexual sex and sex outside of marriage. Is both abominations to god period. That's what his word says. That's what the writers of the word inspired by him say so can I sit there and say god I disagree with this? Yeah and then you know what? God gonna say well you still gotta do what I tell you do. Period and for me now that I have a healthy fear of god a help I never had this much of a reverence for him before so I got in the holiness I just say okay yes I still have a sex drive. Yes I still want to watch pornography. But by the way folks I got a cat. A real cat. Not you know, nothing sex I got a cat and she sleeps in a bed with me now and so that has totally helped me from watching things that I should not watch because you know when your cat right? there you like well i'mnna take my ass to be him right? So god sucks. So.

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Things for me. Thank you Jesus? But the thing about is god says no sex between a man and a man no sex between a woman and woman no sex outside of the kind the the sanctity of marriage between a man or woman. So I can't have sex with nobody. That's what he's saying unless I get married and I tried it. And I didn't like it I did not like it at all. So you know I always tell people listen if sex is that I had so much sex in his life I had a lot I had some great sex. I ask in between sex I have some terrible sex. So I really you know it's not something you know it's like oh hey, let me jump back on that wagon because I've had so much I'm like listen a pluss is a plus a penis as a penis Whatever. So for me is more me focusing on my peace. My privacy my holiness my sanctification my heart intention. That's what sanctification mean what is the intention of your heart is the intention of your heart to glorify god or somehow to bring. Ah, praise to yourself is the intention of your heart to lift somebody up or somehow bring that person down is the intention truth was it a lie and at that point that's where god will separate the good wheat from the bad wheat. Those who tar in those who. Following so that's what we must say to ourselves does uncle Bobby cares 2 men get married and no does uncle bobby care of 2 women get married. Absolutely I don't give a she's it would uncle Bobby Marry a man out you know before you guys san to fact out the last guy was in love with. Literally was way he was in prison. Not a bad person made a mistake got caught up had a bad childhood did I want him to get out and marry me and if he had a got out and married me and asked me to what I said? Yeah damn it I would have and I really know it. Like you like let's go to tort house tomorrow I'm like fuck. ah ah ah and I was still sanctified the first few months of my sanctification talking to him and even after that when I was still I haven't talked to them in so long I only't remember how long this been's been forever. But you know all of these things. Yeah a church going person. Ah a literalist when it comes to theology all of those things and his energy was so great to me and so wonderful to me after my divorce. You know it was just beautiful.

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I say hell not hell yeah I marry him if he got out and people say well if he still gets out and shows up what are you gonna do I'm not even thinking about that because I'm hoping at 8 up like you know if he was like hey let's go be it together I'm like ah god bless it. But that's why every day I say. God sanctify my heart. You know don't let there be impure thoughts. Don't let there be things that are not at your will don't let there be things that you call abominations in my life. So again, it's not our job to agree with god. It's our job to obey him. And my prayer is that I would joyfully obey him and I'm just getting the part of obedience. So I even started praying for joyful obedient shit because I'm still bitching about obedience in general but eventually I will get to that place in holy sanctification. Family matters family matters. We got 20 minutes new listeners are you enjoying yourself today I hope you are make sure you share the uncle Bobby show make sure you tweet me at Bobby House 1 2 3 that's Bobby house roman Numeral three or email me at Pastor House 3 and http://aol.com and make sure you put in that subject line hashtag uncle Bobby I love you new listeners I love you regular listeners I want to blow this podcast up if you are a technician or you want to come on this show if you are liberal conservatives. Ah, Trump Supporter whoever you are if you are spiritualist if you are muslim a buddhist whatever you are I want you on this show I love to have healthy dialogue in this great nation that we live in not perfect, but great. Um the best 1 on the planet I should say. Try just go somewhere else me and my ex-wife we went to Guatemala and I said baby if I get sicker just let me die before you take me to that hospital. So you know we're still the best best place to be but when it comes to family matters I want you to know that god is not surprised by. Your family drama. Let me get a drink of water out god is not surprised by your family drama god is not surprised by the secrets in your family There is a secret in my family and the only reason why I haven't said anything to this person about it. Um, is because I don't want them to feel the pain that I feel from my family of betrayal I just don't want that from them. You know god has revealed to me moments in my life and I'm like oh that's what that was about ah that was that was about and I see it from.

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Aunts and uncles and oh my goodness my I had three heroes of the faith and they were my own family. My uncle Elvis my aunt ardra ah, and my uncle doc with my heroes in the faith and all 3 of them for whatever reason decided that when I ah.

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Ah, ah man when I needed a hug they just didn't know I guess you could say but anyway you know I but I had ah ah there was love there. Especially as a key man from those 3 especially like my ain't Gene Mont offices wife there was so much fun of there and um, my at a one to she said to me we were at my granny's house after my granny dad we were eating. And I sat down on a couch with her my grany envelope couch in her dining room and I sat there remain Arch I said hey Archie how you been feeling and she said I wasn't feeling so good. But then I prayed on it. And god worked it out and I never will forget that moment because it meant so much to me. Ah, and that's when she became a hero on my faith I got baptized October it was November Nineteen Ninety Six the reason why I went down at a. Be baptized because I felt comfortable because mal doc was down there near my gene and my forever was you know were just you know, just 2 of the greatest people I've ever known in the faith and so I don't know I don't know we'll all work it out when we get on other side I guess. But god is not surprised by your family drama. He's not surprised by the secrets in your family is not surprised by the lives the betrayal you know when mothers do their children wrong and fathers do their children wrong why fathers don't show up for their children. You know my brothers and sisters split from talking and. All different type of things when you know when when you could be helped. You know there have been so many times I've looked at situations. It was like all that money all that energy all that time we could have been helping some me like we're for real you know like get me on the medication I needed getting me in the rehabs that I needed getting me in the places that I needed but nobody thought I was worthing ah, that's why thank god every day for Jesus because on October Fourteenth Twenty Twenty he thought I was worthy enough to sanctify. And I'd taken a lot of abuse and I realized that you know that that was my norm being manipulated being led to been all of those things and it took me a little under a year literally.

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And got sanctified in October Fourteenth it took me about eight nine months to after that to say okay I'm not participating anymore was I scared shitless was I nervous absolutely was i. Mad that I had to walk away from the table when we could have just all fixed it right? then I was pissed off but my grandmother says this whole time Robert you are not responsible for other people. You're only responsible for yourself. So you can't make a person sit down and have a honest conversation. You can't. Make a person go to therapy with you. You can't make them do a damn thing. So all you can do is work on yourself. But why god is not surprised about your family issues or your family drama or your family betrayal or why you've had to pick your family and I literally mean. So me the same blood that goes through my veins as me and my cousin her baby and well her husband of course not but their family I pick I have another cousin I think we're back to back right? under me she checks on me ever now and in I check on her and then of course. You know my grandparents will work everything out when I meet them in glory and we sit down with god the father who is the father of all 3 of us and he chastens us at that table. You know I wish that my parents would and my daddy has my dad has been going to heaven and. Probably about two or three months maybe before I went to thank home for Thanksgiving. My daddy came I know the difference between a visitation and a ah dream about my daddy when I'm dreaming about him I'm irritated because I was irritated at him my whole life because I knew he was gonna die to some? ah. And then a dream when when it's a visitation form him from him I'm not irritated at him. so I so he came and he visited me a few months before Thanksgiving and I know he's coming around when I hear no pain. No gain, no guts no glory could but take names that was me and his thing. He had me sent in at a little age and now I hear himt believe how much I need that stupid saying. But anyway he me that saying and he was on the phone he was he looked so good. It was in a room and the room was gold literally and there was a bed comfortable bed. He was on the phone and he just said to me just take me to my mama just take me to my mama and he said to like 3 or 4 times and then the next day when I woke up I was like oh my god I wasn't irritated at him. There was a visitation.

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But what the hell does that mean so when I got home for Thanksgiving me and my grandmother had 2 great conversations I didn't even know who the hell I was talking to I'm like who the hell is this woman whereas she been at the last thirty six years of my life but god will humble. You an illness. And when you have to fully depend upon him. He will tell you things that only he can tell you and I do believe that it was my father pushing my his spirit pushing my grandmother to save certain things now did she give me everything I wanted no but did she give me more than what I expected hell yes. Same for my grandfather. We sat down at the table kitchen table and I was talking to him and he just listened. He didn't even interrupt not 1 to add. He just listened and I'm like okay and he's even been getting better like today I said my grandfather said I can go to my grave in peace knowing you appreciated it. You know I had a conversation with him. Probably a week or two ago the best conversation we've ever had you know and he told the truth about everything you know I was like grandpa listen we're not done no more between me and you there's nothing gonna be between you and I you know this is I know this is the issue he said. Okay, yeah and know this is the problem he said okay yeah I know what happened I'm not mad at you I'm not mad at Grandma's I'm not mad at mindful Steve I'm disappointed because Momful Steve was a fucking he is a fucking fantastic parent understand me he is the the only person that was a better parent than him. Was me and that's only by inch. So I like literally only by inch but he was a great parent. You know, um, so I don't understand him but I'm not I'm not mad at anybody to be quite honest with you I just want to know my friends. Why did they have to be involved. Why can we had a kit. Kept this in the family. That's the betrayal I can't get older. You know that's the explanation that nothing will ever make sense about taking my whole childhood away from me. But anyway, um so yeah, my daddy visited me I had those conversations with my grandparents. Especially the 2 with my grandmother. It was like oh my god who is this person but it helped me to um how do I say this it helped me to not forgive because there was no forgiveness needed. Um I don't you know I don't require forgiveness because i'm. Every day asking god to forgive me so I walk out the door of my inbred sin born into sin the bible says we created it and sin in our mother's room David said for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of god so I don't ask for nobody has to apologize me because one I don't give a shit.

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Ah, just don't and if a 2 you know I'm asking god to forgive me every day but I do you know some crooked you can't burn a bridge and then ask why I don't come and visit. You know you can't do that. You can't say fuck you and they'll say well. Why is he not coming around me are you kidding me like that is some serious mental health issues and I know that I have it in my family and I'm telling you if you are sitting there wondering what the hell is going on in your family. Oh everybody. My cats here condolees a rice. Yes I got a cat and she is named condole a racece hold on guys me bobo of oh my boo boo say hi to everybody boo boom she's nine years old everybody yes I'm for Bobby got a cat but. God is not surprised I don't know what I was done by my foot. It. She just she wants a snack I'm a give her 1 we got just 10 minutes less kindy so god is not surprised by your family drama hold on. Let me let her now and let you down but okay. God is not surprised by your family drama. Um, when we look at the scriptures in genesis I'm reading the bible through um in in a year we look at Abraham and Sarah okay, they had drama right? Abraham says to the men. This is my sister which technically she was his halfsister but she was his wife and so the drama stores right? then the drama storage actually goes back to genesis can and Abel if we look at our first fathers. Our first parents Adam and eve actually before that. They disobeyed god so they had their own little family and they disobeyed god drama can and able Drama Abraham and Sarah Drama and then Abraham god says here's your promise wait for it. Sarah says yeah, right? take my. Maid servant sleep with her and have a baby then Sarah gets mad at the maid servant for doing what she said she was gonna do for her telling her what to do and then we we we keep going to isaac. Okay, this is Abraham and Sarah's son Isaac. He loved Rachel More than Leah so there was in Leah and Rachel with sisters. So there was a competition there isaac literally said to Rachel Am I not enough while Leah's popping out to his boys right? So Leah gives excuse me so Rachel gives isaac.

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Her maid servant has a baby with him leah has a few kids then when she can't she gives her maid servant competition isaac trying to work to get Rachel as his wife to the father in law the father in law then gives him Leah cause Leah is the oldest. He's like but I'm in love with Rachel. So he has a 1 wife who he tolerates and 1 wife who he's in love with both our sisters they're competing then when we get to Jacob and esau this is all family all in a family okay family matters whatever show you like archib bunker Clal Winslow all in the family right Jacob and Esau Jacob stole the blessing from esau the wife the mother literally said. Okay, you're my favorite Jacob in Esau was ah the other favor right? So Jacob and Esau Jacob literallyter those in giz. The meal. His mother makes the meal they put ah animal hair on his arm. The dad says to him. He says you feel like you saw, but you talk like Jacob because the dad has lost his eyesight. He then blesses Jacob. Who stole it from asau family drama and once you had given a blessing away. You couldn't give out too and then we keep going and we see what Joseph and his brothers. Jacob Joseph is Jacob's youngest son many colors. Okay Joseph and a men many colors he has dreams and visions that god gives him the dad was like stop saying that you sound crazy the brothers are like oh that's what you think. 1 brother said spare his life have you ever just wanted somebody just even if it was just one person to say hey before you kill their soul will you please consider not doing that. So Joseph is thrown into the pit sold off right. Potter for his wife hey come give me some down into the prison long story short potter for then makes Jacob the governor of all of the land. Why because again he goes back to what god gave him in the beginning. Interpreting dreams that's somebody for somebody right? there. What did god give you in the beginning. What did god speak to you in the beginning. What did god say to you in the beginning proverbs 3 5 through 7 he said that's my life first trust in the lord with all your heart.

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All your heart and lean. Not only not to your own understanding. But in all your ways acknowledge him and he shall direct your paths. He never said the past were gonna be straight without bumps without snakes without. Ah. Ah, thorns the rose ah pedals would not have thorns on them. But he said I'll direct you. So if you're going through hell and god is directing you keep going in other words, he's got the flashes up where you lost your childhood keep going. Well you lost the the vision or the idea that you had. Of your family keep going. You lost you realized that your own self saotaging was because you didn't know how to accept unconditional love without a string attached come on keep going because once you reach where he wants you to be then all of the rest. Won't matter and for me when I looked at the damsel around me the destruction around me the dismay all around me and I said wait a minute that person was always supposed to. What that's a root that's not a root that's a branch but they got the same Blu what when I go back I remember sitting in the car in somebody when I was out there doing what I was doing. It was. Was a job that really wasn't a job and I was sitting in the car and somebody passed by the car window and I said oh my god is that come to find out it was um I ah i. I just can only tell you this beloved that I know pain in a sacred way and what I mean by that is I know the fullness of it I know the letdown I know the backsstep I know the waking up one day and saying so nobody ever really loves me like really loves me to make sure my emotional health was okay, you can buy me everything in the world. But do you care that how about how I feel because buying stuff. It's temporary what I needed my grandfather to know like I said is that he knew I appreciated him that was worth more than anything else in my whole life today like when I besides my sanctification and salvation in Christ.

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But when we had our talk today and I said grandpa I just want you to know and never think that I wasn't listening I might not always been doing what I should have been doing and I wasn't I loved the turnup life like I was turning up into these 30 s kicking it kicking it kicking it now child please. I'm gonna make me some day and go to bed by 11 okay, and be wake up at 10. That's how much sleep I want but I sit there and I think about you know and my grandfather he loves me. He never said it but he loves me because he's showing you know people have said it in my family and shit. Showing was to hail with it. You know it's like you can quit saying that damn word because if that's love I don't want nothing to do with that shit if that's love love feels like love I tell people. It's all the time you can't sit there and tell me oh. Love my? um and this is a ah difference of view between me and 1 of my family members. But I say love feels like love they said to me ah love is each each person's perspective and I I respect that point of view I disagree with it ohheartedly because if. That's the case then beating somebody. Oh well that's the way I love them. Nigger are you crazy you know, whooping up on your girlfriend cussing your husband out all these things. Oh but I love them bitch if you don't go sit down and shut the fuck up. Okay, love feels like love love is a safe place to fall love is Laughter. Love is being able to trust love is not breaking into people's privacy. Love is not affecting somebody's and I want you to remember I said this somebody's physical. Body that's not love. No love means Regardless how you show up today if you show up drunk if you show up high if you show up straight if you show up gay if you show up bisexual if you show up. And you don't want to even have a word for it or phrase for it because who cares what anybody else is fucking doing in the bedroom you go to church 23 times a day or you ain't been a church in 23 years love just says I see you and I love you. And I refuse to violate you and for me emotionally vi emotional violence verbal violence manipulation and then also I was sexually violated I was used to it and then after I got sanctified like I said.

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Eight Nine months later when the holy ghost came and filled me up I sat there I had a conversation with a family member and I knew it was gonna be the last one till they were ready to pull a table out and sit down with me and here's the thing. Make their apology as loud as their disrespect was and I don't mean that in a bad way. What I mean is all in people that were involved I need to see all of them in a room and we need to go around 1 by 1 and they just need to say my bad I should have helped you for real. Should have loved on you for real and then we can and then my body needs to be restored to the original place. It should be and then we can even look in and have a conversation and for me if the simple task aren't. Addressed then that says to me. Oh you don't want me in your life. That's exactly what it says to me so you set the standard you set the emotional boundaries you said what you will allow is just your your your emotional health is just like your home. If you won't allow somebody to do then in your home you should allow them to do that to your heart. That's why the bible says guard your heart above every everything else for from it flows the wellspring of life and beloved is you don't learn. Guard your own heart excuse me my cat is trying to get him my candy if you don't want to gar your own heart and to take care of your own heart. Then I promise you somebody at the first chance they get will try to abuse it listen everybody god is not. Surprised by your family drama I'm saying these names go look them up Abraham Sarah Ishmael Isaac Rachel Leon Jacob Esau Joseph and his brothers you looked those names up, you looked their history up. Genesis the start in genesis. It's all there. You look that up and you will see that as bad as it may have been for you as horrible as you may feel now. As lonely as despised and is rejected as bullied as heartbroken that you may say well. The light is out now in the love of my you know the light is out the twinkle is gone.

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Sparkle in my it Ai n't coming back. All of those things you remember philippians 23 but our citizenship is in heaven and from it. We shall await a savior the lord Jesus Christ that's why Jesus says I am the Emmanuel god with you That's why Jesus says I've come to set the captiv free that's why Jesus said I can come and forgive you of all your sins Buddha and say that mohamed didn't say that Gandhi didn't say that just Jesus is the only. Religious leader in the history of religions that said I can forgive you of your sins. You know I have to believe all the bible I don't care if you do are not personally I would encourage you to but you don't have to be a literalist like uncle Bobby is I would encourage you to but you don't have to be. You have to believe that Christ was crucified died and buried and three days later ah so rose from the grave and ascended into heaven and is seated on the right hand of god the father and he is the atonement for your sins you and I the bible says while we were yet sinners. We were hostile towards god and yet even though we were hostile towards him. He made the sacrificial choice to allow his baby boy to be killed to atone for your sins. If. You don't have a family know that god is your father you know the bible says when my mother and father forsake me the lord will take care of me Jesus said they said your mother and your brothers and your sisters outside Jesus said. Who are my mother and brother and sisters. They are the ones who are what what do you say? Follow my commandments brothers and sisters in Christ. You may look like somebody you may. Talk like somebody. You may even bullshit like somebody but at the end of the day. Let us all strive for a more or a more excellent life and that is the life that we can have in Jesus Christ so if you are going through it drama in your life with any aspect of your life and for Bobby wants to tell you this in a simple way. The most simple way I can get the fuck up and walk out the room and let them bastard sit there and talk.

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Between themselves because you think they only talking about you? No, they don't even like each other you just a topic of a conversation because you are classic and they are simply a fad I'm young Bobby folks. I'm so glad you joined me I'm so glad. For our new listeners to be here I want you to follow me I want you to like me I want you to share excuse me like my page I don't give a shit if you like me or not I want you to follow me I want you to like our page I want you to share our Facebook I want you to share share our podcasts excuse me with your friends on Facebook. I want you to share it with your friends on Twitter I want you to share it with as many people as you possibly can god is not surprised by your family drama Abraham Sarah Ishmael Rachel and Leah Isaac Jacob Esau Joseph and his brothers and even. Our first parents Adam and eve please make sure you go look in genesis read these stories get you a commentary will past the house uncle Bobby I don't I don't excuse me on. Um I can't condolee the right shell out uncle Bobby I don't understand the scriptures. There's a version called the message version. It is a paraphrase and basically it makes it real simple. So get you the message version and start reading. It's like reading literally is the easiest version out there. So go read. It pray. Talk to god and listen to me if you ask him to feel you with his spirit and to sanctify you holylly the warning I'm telling you now is that you're gonna have to give up all of your earthly desires to follow him, whatever our. I need to keep that person my life if that's some if god tell you to get rid of some bitch you better, get rid of some bitch like yesterday. Well I like to have sex all time listen I'm not even gonna say what I was about to say because it's so inappropriate. But whatever the case is for you. You will find that Jesus is worth more than whatever you gave up and lost I've tried him and I know him and I found him to be a friend this is Uncle Bobby ah it is January thirty first twenty twenty two what are you doing tweet me tell me what you want to talk about tell me what's going on in your life in this new year I have got me a cat uncle Bobby has got him a cat if you know condoleza rice tell her. She's got a cat named after her.

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I'd love to talk to her about whatever she wanted to talk about on my show. So ah, again, the uncle Bobby show tweet me at Bobby House 1 2 3 that's at Bobby house roman Numeral three or email me at Pastor House 3 at http://aol.com put in that set subject land hashtag uncle Bobby for god so loved the world John 3 16 and 17 that he gave his only begotten son that whosoever shall believe in him shall not perish but have everlasting life. God did not come into the world to condemn the world but to give life to all that believe it in him I love you. This is done for Bobby show and I'll see you next time. Let's get out of here with out with twinkie Clark and the Clark Sisters