Unbreakable You: Breakup Without Being Broken
99 episodes - English - Latest episode: over 1 year ago - ★★★★★ - 42 ratingsJoin relationship coach Lindsey Ellison every Tuesday for guidance and inspiration on how to navigate your breakup or divorce. Whether you are newly divorced or single, Lindsey uncovers all the pain points with her refreshing advice and the necessary sense of humor. Topics include: Expert advice on all things divorce and breaking up, dating after divorce, childhood trauma, the importance of self-love, setting boundaries, how to find love again, loving toxic partners, as well as Lindsey's own journey of divorce and recovery that has inspired millions of men and women around the world.
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Co-Parenting Myths with Michelle Dempsey
October 11, 2022 19:00 - 43 minutes - 28.5 MBSometimes the word co-parenting is a myth. We have our own beliefs about what co-parenting should be like and get frustrated when that isn’t the reality. My guest on this episode is Michelle Dempsey, the author of Moms Moving On: Real-Life Advice on Conquering Divorce, Co-Parenting Through Conflict, and Becoming Your Best Self. Episode Highlights: Setting realistic expectations about co-parenting What to do when rules are different for your kids in each home How oversharing and other ty...
Silencing Abusive Thoughts with Jacquie Elliott
October 05, 2022 17:00 - 38 minutes - 21.6 MBHow many times a day do you hear a voice inside you that is putting you down? I hear it multiple times. It’s not really my voice, though. It’s a culmination of voices that I’ve heard over the years criticizing me. My guest Jacquie Elliott has a name for it: abusive brain chatter. This episode will help you get the tools you need to find the loving voice that’s within you. Jacquie is a certified life, relationship, and spiritual coach who leads retreats that help women find their purpose a...
Transforming The Way We Listen
September 13, 2022 14:00 - 52 minutes - 33.2 MBBeing a good listener is critical to building healthy relationships. It’s easy for us to think we are good listeners when, in reality, there is still a lot to learn. My guest on this episode is Christine Miles, and she will help you transform the way you listen. Chistine is the founder of EQuipt, a training and consulting company that uses a method called The Listening Path to help improve organizations and create cultures of understanding. She has taught at various Fortune 100 corporation...
Common Parenting Mistakes During Divorce
September 06, 2022 22:00 - 42 minutes - 29.3 MBThis discussion with the founders of Best Self Magazine will help you avoid parenting mistakes during a breakup or divorce. Bill Miles and Kristen Noel are the creators of the Best Self Intuitive Divorce Coaching Program, which focuses on achieving the best outcomes for kids during a divorce. Together they help parents in the early stages of divorce avoid unnecessary pain and suffering, so they can take control of their divorce before it takes control of them. Episode highlights: What ...
Financial Independence After Divorce with Rachael Burns
August 15, 2022 18:00 - 35 minutes - 22 MBWhen I got divorced, I felt like I didn’t know anything about finances because my husband had always managed our money. It was a scary situation, and I had no confidence in my financial future. If you find yourself in a similar situation, my guest Rachael Burns has some solid advice for women on how to achieve financial independence after the loss of their partner. Episode highlights: How to take control of day-to-day finances when you’re newly single The importance of taking stock of ...
Getting Out of Your Pain Alive with George Kalantzis
August 08, 2022 15:00 - 38 minutes - 23.7 MBI remember the time in my life when I was at my lowest. I honestly didn’t know how I was going to get out of all the pain alive. Maybe you have been there or you are there right now. My guest George Kalantzis has also been at that point. George is a combat veteran, a podcast host, and author of the book Nowhere To Go. He shares his story of overcoming a suicide attempt and finding a life of meaning, inspiration, and empowerment. Episode Highlights: Why George decided not to commit suic...
The ABC’s for Maintaining Boundaries: Always Be Curious
July 29, 2022 21:00 - 19 minutes - 11.7 MBWhen we are triggered, our initial instinct is to fight back or stand up for ourselves using words that often come out as confrontational. Immediately after the trigger, we produce a negative thought, which leads to a negative emotion, which always produces a negative outcome. But if you use my ABC method, it will mitigate the negative thought from occurring, and thus, give you a much better outcome! “Always Be Curious” will help you put resentment and unresolved anger aside and give you th...
A Formula For Happiness with Mike Duffy
July 18, 2022 22:00 - 34 minutes - 22.2 MBWhat is happiness and how do we achieve it? My guest Mike Duffy actually has a formula for it, based on his research and the wisdom of thought leaders. Our conversation on forgiveness, especially, could help you get one step closer to being happy! Episode Highlights: Managing negative thinking The ‘purpose + progress = happiness’ formula and what it means The law of reciprocity and how it relates to happiness Finding your purpose Resources: Happiness Hall of Fame Mike Duffy Speaks...
Drunk Love: The Painful Cycle Between a Love Addict and Love Avoidant
July 11, 2022 20:00 - 20 minutes - 13.4 MBYou meet someone for the first time. The passion is head-spinning. You feel like you’ve known them forever. But then, they begin to pull back. And just when you’re ready to say goodbye, they come back into your life. And the cycle keeps repeating itself. I call this drunk love. In this episode, I break down the characteristics of a love addict and a love avoidant, and how you can be both. But more importantly, the key indicators for a healthy relationship, and how you can break the cycle o...
Breaking The Cycle of Codependency with Susie Pettit
June 27, 2022 18:00 - 40 minutes - 27.8 MBI want to share with you an inspiring story of a warrior who overcame what she once thought was impossible. Susie Pettit went through a tumultuous divorce and knew she had to break a pattern of codependency if she wanted to create a life filled with happiness. She is now taking the important lessons she learned during this difficult time and coaching others about setting healthy boundaries and breaking away from people-pleasing. Our conversation might help you or a loved one identify cod...
Emotional Wounds Are Not Our Scarlet Letters
June 20, 2022 18:00 - 13 minutes - 9.44 MBWhen we have a physical injury, like the broken foot I had recently, we usually take the steps needed to acknowledge the injury and heal it. Why is it then that we often take the opposite approach with our emotional wounds? We try to pretend they don’t exist and want to hide them from the world. In this episode, I share how we can protect our emotional scars so that they can heal and stay healed. It is my hope that after you listen, you’ll be better equipped to get close to those people yo...
Emotional Wounds Are Not Our Scarlet Letters
June 20, 2022 18:00 - 13 minutes - 9.44 MBWhen we have a physical injury, like the broken foot I had recently, we usually take the steps needed to acknowledge the injury and heal it. Why is it then that we often take the opposite approach with our emotional wounds? We try to pretend they don’t exist and want to hide them from the world. In this episode, I share how we can protect our emotional scars so that they can heal and stay healed. It is my hope that after you listen, you’ll be better equipped to get close to those people yo...
Men and Divorce: The Unspoken Struggles Revealed, with Jude Sandvall
May 31, 2022 17:00 - 58 minutes - 40.4 MBThe majority of my listeners and clients are women. Many people think this is by choice and that I market specifically to women. That’s actually not the case. My theory as to why I have fewer male clients is that men often suffer in silence, especially when they are dealing with a narcissistic spouse or partner. In my opinion, female narcissists can be far more covert and manipulative than male narcissists. Women can be verbally and emotionally abusive to men, but our culture often keeps u...
Finding Your Voice Within with Jackie MacDougall
May 24, 2022 04:00 - 48 minutes - 31.6 MBHave you ever wanted to share your personal story either by writing a book or starting a podcast? Finding your voice and then being able to speak it authentically is what today's episode is all about. I'm talking with Jackie McDougall who is an expert on coaching people on how to find their voice from within and crafting a story that is uniquely theirs. I'm incredibly passionate about this topic because if it wasn't for me finding my voice, and being able to share my story with you every w...
Parenting Your Inner Critic with Leadership Coach, Maureen Ross Gemme
May 17, 2022 04:00 - 37 minutes - 25.7 MBHow many times a day do you find your inner critic getting in the way of your success, dreams, or relationships? Are you even aware of how much it sabotages your authentic self from rising and thriving in your life? Today I am talking all about the inner critic with Leadership Expert, Maureen Ross Gemme. Episode Highlights: Maureen’s unique approach to inner critic management begins with giving a name to your inner critic voice Some of the ways the inner critic shows up in our lives Wh...
My Mother's Day Hurt
May 10, 2022 13:00 - 17 minutes - 11.9 MBI have come to think of Mother’s day like Valentine’s Day. It has so much hype and hope, coupled with all the social media posts we see of happy people, happy couples, or happy families doing their thing… to me, Mother’s day is a huge setup for disappointment and hurt. In this episode, I share how this year’s Mother’s Day was heartbreaking, and the lesson I learned in overcoming the pain. It’s a short but sweet episode, aimed to keep things real and recognize all you moms out there, who a...
How to Slay Your Money Monster with Morganna Rae
May 03, 2022 05:00 - 44 minutes - 29.7 MBMoney coach, Morganna Rae, joins me for an eye-opening discussion about how to rebuild yourself financially and heal the rift between heart, spirit, and money. Have you ever thought about your relationship with money? Did you even know there was such a thing? If you are newly divorced or thinking about it, it's very likely your relationship with money is wrought with fear, scarcity, resentment, or another negative emotion. Morganna explains the root cause of money issues and the connectio...
How To Think Like a Narcissist (Without Being One)
April 05, 2022 05:00 - 18 minutes - 12.5 MBThe most common question I get from my clients or readers is, “What if I'm the narcissist?” This is a question wrought with fear. And it often comes from the actual narcissist, accusing you of being a narcissist. If you think you're a narcissist, then that means you are concerned about other people's feelings, as well as questioning your own behavior and taking accountability for it. This is the exact opposite of how a narcissist thinks and operates. Your biggest problem with a narcissis...
How He Found His Authentic Self After Abuse
March 29, 2022 05:00 - 52 minutes - 34.3 MB“When you take away the illusions and defenses you had to deal with growing up, the path to authenticity becomes very clear” -Dion, Breakup Breakthrough graduate. Rarely do I get the chance to interview men who have overcome narcissistic abuse, because so few like to openly talk about it. But this week, I’m honored to have you meet Dion, my client and recent Breakup Breakthrough graduate, who shares his rise out of an abusive marriage and finding a life filled with peace and joy. Dion ...
When We Heal, Miracles Happen
March 22, 2022 05:00 - 19 minutes - 13.4 MBToday I’m sharing an unbelievable story about a miracle that happened in my life and its message of forgiveness. I share my experience in hopes that you can find a piece of my story that is relatable to you and your life. In order to understand the present, I first need to take you back to the past. In this episode, I detail the traumatic event that happened when I was six years old and how it resurfaced in 2020, in more ways than one! The moment I was able to accept not knowing the truth...
How Your Ego Is Sabotaging What You Want
March 15, 2022 05:00 - 22 minutes - 15.1 MBYou may have heard of law of attraction principles such as “like attracts like,” or whatever you think, you will get. It’s that simple, right? No, it’s not. Most law of attraction books and teachings skip over something extremely important: how the traumatized brain is in exact conflict of the laws we want to attract. In this episode, I explore how the ego, conscious mind, and subconscious mind coupled with trauma can impact (or even sabotage) the things we want to attract into our lives. ...
How to Discover Your Lost Authentic Self
March 08, 2022 06:00 - 25 minutes - 17.3 MBToday we are going to talk about the authentic self versus the adapted self and how each type affects the way in which you show up in the world. The authentic self is your innate being, your inner knowing. It encompasses your earliest thoughts, likes and dislikes, your passions, and your capabilities. Think of your authentic self as the way you shine for all to see. The adapted self is the opposite. When your personality begins to develop around the age of four or five, you must learn ho...
How to Discover Your Lost Authentic Self
March 08, 2022 06:00 - 25 minutes - 17.3 MBToday we are going to talk about the authentic self versus the adapted self and how each type affects the way in which you show up in the world. The authentic self is your innate being, your inner knowing. It encompasses your earliest thoughts, likes and dislikes, your passions, and your capabilities. Think of your authentic self as the way you shine for all to see. The adapted self is the opposite. When your personality begins to develop around the age of four or five, you must learn ho...
If There’s Drama, You Have Trauma: What your relationship is telling you about your childhood
March 01, 2022 06:00 - 54 minutes - 35.5 MBThis week we’re going deep into childhood traumas and how it affects your relationships. A few weeks ago, I was invited by my dear friend and colleague, Jennifer Hurvitz, to join her on her podcast, Doing Relationships Right. The episode turned out great and Jennifer gave me permission to broadcast it on my channel so you can benefit from it too. You have heard me talk a lot about childhood trauma in previous episodes, and it's something that's near and dear to my heart. It is also a huge...
If There’s Drama, You Have Trauma: What your relationship is telling you about your childhood
March 01, 2022 06:00 - 54 minutes - 35.5 MBThis week we’re going deep into childhood traumas and how it affects your relationships. A few weeks ago, I was invited by my dear friend and colleague, Jennifer Hurvitz, to join her on her podcast, Doing Relationships Right. The episode turned out great and Jennifer gave me permission to broadcast it on my channel so you can benefit from it too. You have heard me talk a lot about childhood trauma in previous episodes, and it's something that's near and dear to my heart. It is also a huge...
THIS is How You Divorce A Narcissist [Secrets Revealed]
February 22, 2022 06:00 - 39 minutes - 24.7 MBNarcissistic abuse is a heavy topic. It takes a special person to go into the hard discussions that many people don’t really want to talk about, and that is where Tracy Malone comes in. She takes on the nuanced difficulties of narcissistic abuse. She helps victims learn the strategies needed to get through divorce and move on to being “sur-thrivers.” In this episode, Tracy joins Lindsey to discuss narcissistic abuse and divorce. Tracy is an internationally recognized expert on emotional a...
THIS is How You Divorce A Narcissist [Secrets Revealed]
February 22, 2022 06:00 - 39 minutes - 24.7 MBNarcissistic abuse is a heavy topic. It takes a special person to go into the hard discussions that many people don’t really want to talk about, and that is where Tracy Malone comes in. She takes on the nuanced difficulties of narcissistic abuse. She helps victims learn the strategies needed to get through divorce and move on to being “sur-thrivers.” In this episode, Tracy joins Lindsey to discuss narcissistic abuse and divorce. Tracy is an internationally recognized expert on emotional a...
How She Decided She Was Enough
February 15, 2022 06:00 - 49 minutes - 32.8 MBLate last summer, Michelle was in the middle of court negotiations with a high-conflict narcissist and she was in a toxic relationship post-divorce, but desperate to get out. Before she found me on my podcast, she was stressed out and could hardly focus on her life and young daughter. But Michelle made the best investment of her life by enrolling in my signature Breakup Breakthrough coaching program. And after just 8 weeks, she had such a remarkable outcome, I knew I had to bring her on my ...
Boundary Like a Boss
February 08, 2022 06:00 - 34 minutes - 24 MBIn theory, boundaries sound like an easy thing, but we all struggle with honoring them. When we don’t have healthy boundaries with ourselves or with other people, we are setting ourselves up for failure in our relationships at work, with family, with siblings, and even with romantic partners. To discuss how to honor and navigate boundaries like a boss, Lindsey is joined by leading boundaries expert, Terri Cole. Together, Lindsey and Terri discuss how cultural upbringing influences boundari...
Boundary Like a Boss
February 08, 2022 06:00 - 34 minutes - 24 MBIn theory, boundaries sound like an easy thing, but we all struggle with honoring them. When we don’t have healthy boundaries with ourselves or with other people, we are setting ourselves up for failure in our relationships at work, with family, with siblings, and even with romantic partners. To discuss how to honor and navigate boundaries like a boss, Lindsey is joined by leading boundaries expert, Terri Cole. Together, Lindsey and Terri discuss how cultural upbringing influences boundari...
Healing Your Wounded Relationship
January 05, 2022 14:00 - 42 minutes - 29.1 MBI'm back with author Robert Jackman, who wrote the best selling book, Healing Your Inner Child. I spoke with Robert in a previous podcast (Season 3, Episode 4) about that book, and now he's back with a new book titled, Healing Your Wounded Relationship. If you are struggling with getting over a breakup, or you're trying to repair an existing relationship, then this is the episode for you. You can find his newest book HERE - make sure you check it out!
How To Recover From Relational Trauma
November 22, 2021 21:00 - 32 minutes - 22.7 MBIn this episode I talk with Dr. Don Russell who specializes in trauma and trauma treatment. We discuss how we can experience trauma in relationships, how to recover, and how to manage trauma triggers or responses. Dr. Don's Trauma Treatment Companion can be found HERE.
Confessions of a Cheater's Mistress
November 15, 2021 20:00 - 42 minutes - 29.1 MBIf you've been cheated on or if you've been the mistress (or mister) of a cheater, then this episode is for you. I talk with Affair Recovery Coach (and former mistress) Kate London, who unveils the complicated emotions and psychology of those who are in a relationship with a married person. If you've been cheated on, you may see a lot of similarities between you and the mistresses' mind set. Take a listen! Check out Kate's website!
I'm Back! New season, new book!
November 03, 2021 14:00 - 25 minutes - 17.5 MBI took almost a year off and have written a new book where I share all the details. I also give you an update on why I took off and share personal details about all that happened, and what's new for this season.
Healing Your Lost Inner Child
December 15, 2020 21:00 - 50 minutes - 34.6 MBIn this episode, I interview Board Certified Therapist Robert Jackman, author of Healing Your Lost Inner Child. When you're having an emotional response, your 5-year-old self may be protecting. That child may be waiting for a trigger to appear. As a responsible adult, you may be trying to figure out why you reacted as you did. In this fascinating conversation, Robert explains why you may be reacting a certain way and how you can heal the Inner Child and change your behavior. Robert Jackman ...
Why Do We Become Perfectionists?
October 19, 2020 19:00 - 26 minutes - 18.2 MBYou may consider yourself a perfectionist, which may or may not be a good thing (depending on who you ask), but have you ever wondered where your perfectionism comes from? In this episode, I explore my "issues" around my own perfectionism, and how certain details of my childhood created this oh, so lovely, little trait of mine. Find out why you may be a perfectionist and what you can do to reign it in should it throw you off course.
My Most Personal Episode Ever
October 07, 2020 19:00 - 27 minutes - 19.2 MBHey everyone, I'm back from the dead! Actually, that is almost a literal statement. After taking a few months off, I share with you my very personal story of what happened to me this summer, and why I had to get some help. I hope my sharing can help you on whatever journey you may be on. I am back and so excited to rock a new season, with lots of new episodes and all that I have learned. Subscribe to my channel to get all the new goodies!
My Most Personal Episode Ever
October 07, 2020 19:00 - 27 minutes - 19.2 MBHey everyone, I'm back from the dead! Actually, that is almost a literal statement. After taking a few months off, I share with you my very personal story of what happened to me this summer, and why I had to get some help. I hope my sharing can help you on whatever journey you may be on. I am back and so excited to rock a new season, with lots of new episodes and all that I have learned. Subscribe to my channel to get all the new goodies!
Take Your Sexy Back with Dr. Solomon
October 06, 2020 20:00 - 43 minutes - 29.9 MBLindsey interviews Dr. Alexandra Solomon, author of Taking Sexy Back about sex and sexuality. As women in our culture, we have been bombarded with messages from the outside world about who we should be, who we shouldn't be, what we should and shouldn't be doing. In this riveting episode, Lindsey & Dr. Solomon discuss how we look at sex as a society, how women can change their perspective on what 'sexy' is and what it means, and how we can feel better about their bodies. They discuss the fe...
Recording of "Power Hour" Q&A with Readers
April 20, 2020 15:00 - 56 minutes - 39 MBThis episode isn't really a podcast but a recording of my free "Power Hour" calls that I sometimes have with my subscribers. There's no show intro, but I am posting it here because it truly is worth a listen for anyone who feels alone in their situation and wants to be uplifted!
Can You Really Mediate with a Narcissist?
April 09, 2020 18:00 - 38 minutes - 26.2 MBI get this question all the time so I reached out to one of the top mediators (and attorney) in the country, Susan Guthrie, to set us straight. The answer? Yes, you can! But unfortunately, not always, but it mostly has to do with the mediator and less about you and your case. On this episode, find out what you should be asking mediators and how to find one who has the experience to handle your (potentially) high conflict case. Have a question for Susan? Find her on her site, DivorceInaBett...
DComply: The mobile payment solution for co-parenting
March 04, 2020 13:00 - 27 minutes - 18.6 MBHow many times have you lost track on what your ex owes you? Or how many times do you receive child support late or don't get reimbursed at all? (raises hand: Me!) Marco Munoz, co-founder of DComply, shares the story of his financial coparenting nightmare, and the app he created to solve the headaches of shared expenses with your co-parent. Get the app HERE.
Relationship Ready: How this woman stopped f'ing randos and found her soulmate
March 04, 2020 13:00 - 44 minutes - 30.5 MBIn this episode, I speak with Heidi Busche, author of Relationship Ready: How I Stopped Fucking Randos and Started Cupcaking My Soulmate (is that not the best title?) After striking out with guy after guy, she was finally ready to try something different. After completing some soul-level, transformational work around men and relationships, Heidi decided that women every where could benefit from the tools that had helped her. She left that cubicle life in 2018 to write her first book, Relat...
Negotiate like you MATTER!
January 31, 2020 15:00 - 37 minutes - 26.1 MBNegotiating with a narcissist (or a high conflict person) seems like an oxymoron, right? And have you ever had an attorney who has no idea HOW to negotiate with such a person? Well in this episode, I talk with superstar attorney, Rebecca Zung, who is a master at negotiating, and understands the difficulties of negotiating first-hand. She offers a methodology called M.A.T.T.E.R and she breaks down each letter as an action plan for how to create your best negotiation. Check out her free webi...
Negotiate (with a Narc) like you MATTER!
January 31, 2020 15:00 - 37 minutes - 26.1 MBNegotiating with a narcissist (or a high conflict person) seems like an oxymoron, right? And have you ever had an attorney who has no idea HOW to negotiate with such a person? Well in this episode, I talk with superstar attorney, Rebecca Zung, who is a master at negotiating, and understands the difficulties of negotiating first-hand. She offers a methodology called M.A.T.T.E.R and she breaks down each letter as an action plan for how to create your best negotiation. Update: Check out Rebec...
Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate
January 23, 2020 15:00 - 30 minutes - 20.7 MBDivorce can be messy, gut wrenching, and throw you off balance for at least 1-3 years. But divorce attorney, mediator, and author of the book Better Apart, Gabrielle Hartley, shares her radical ideas on how we can separate without losing ourselves in the process. Hint: It's about your mindset and how you look at it! Join her masterclass and use "Better30" for a discount into the program. https://www.masterclass.gabriellehartley.com/better-apart-masterclass Liked this episode? Please leav...
The Stigma & Shame of Non-Custodial Parenting
January 17, 2020 13:00 - 57 minutes - 39.8 MBMeet Susan Eckstein, empowerment coach, badass, mom warrior and advocate. Eight years ago she divorced her husband and made the brave choice to be the non-custodial parent, a heart-wrenching decision she made for her two boys. For years she hid her decision from her social circle, until she decided, only recently, to release her shame, define motherhood for herself, and share her journey with the world. And for all you non-custodial dads out there, listen to this! This episode is also for ...
Finally, A Coparenting Solution!
December 10, 2019 16:00 - 43 minutes - 29.9 MBHow many times have you texted your ex and gotten no response? Or when you ask for reimbursement on something and you lose track of all that you are owed? Or what about all those texts between the tow of you and you can't keep track of all that back and forth? Finally, there's a solution and it's called Fayr - a robust app that makes coparenting easier. I talk with Michael Daniels, founder of Fayr and divorced father of two. He shares his personal story of his divorce, losing everything, liv...
Behind the Scenes of My Biz (So YOU can start one too!)
October 22, 2019 20:00 - 32 minutes - 22.5 MBMany people tell me all the time, "Lindsey, I really should write a book on my life, how do I get started?" For starters, you will need a writing platform, a website, and a good number of subscribers and followers so that you can SELL your book, or whatever service you have. Since so many people asked me how to get started, I figured I'd do a podcast episode and share the behind the scenes on how I got started, and how I keep it going. Enjoy!
How to Overcome Your Negative Labels
September 06, 2019 15:00 - 35 minutes - 24.3 MBHow many times do you tell yourself things like, "I'm never organized, I'm not good at money, I'll never find love again, or I'm so stupid...." These are what I call 'negative labels' and you tell yourself these things because they were likely put on you by someone else (your ex, parent, sibling, etc). So how do you overcome these labels and find a more positive label for yourself? Take a listen!