Unbreak My Heart
263 episodes - English - Latest episode: 2 months ago - ★★★★ - 72 ratingsA podcast about navigating the messiness and aftermath of breakups.
Our guests enter into the conversation shackled to their break up stories and together we find the keys.
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Forget big change, start with a tiny habit | BJ Fogg at TEDxFremont
March 28, 2024 10:00 - 20 minutes - 16.9 MBHow we go about making changes can seem overwhelming, especially in the area of heartache. Our little habits can have a big impact on shifting us out of an old or unwanted place. Today's show is a Ted Talk by BJ Fogg who teaches us perspective and techniques on how tiny habits lead to long-lasting change. To learn more about BJ and his resources please visit: https://www.bjfogg.com Remember - you're awesome!
How to breathe | Belisa Vranich | TEDxManhattanBeach
March 21, 2024 19:12 - 13 minutes - 9.04 MBHeartache, fear, doubt, anxiety, uncertainty and many other emotions that accompany tough moments in life are stressful for your body. One way to calm down, open your heart, heal your pain and find your voice is through your breath. It is simple and effective. Dr. Belisa takes us through how to breathe and may pique your interest to learn more on breathing to change your body, mind and state-of-being.
Why so angry? | Kurt
March 18, 2024 19:55 - 1 hour - 71.1 MBKurt arrived at this interview just after his final deposition with his soon-to-be ex-wife. A second failed marriage and being a Christian single father of three is not what he imagined would be his reality. Like many people in his situation, he carries a lot of guilt and anger. What's at the root of his anger? Is he trying to escape something ugly inside? Only one way to find out...
The Art of Choosing | Sheena Lyengar TedGlobal
March 02, 2024 00:39 - 27 minutes - 19.2 MBWhat if someone could study how we make choices? The attitudes and philosophies behind the decisions we make? When we reflect on our relationship choices or the patterns of behavior we have - sometimes it's hard to make sense of it! Sheena takes us through her research about studying choice! It's fascinating and may provoke some new thoughts and insights. Enjoy! We have a Patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the pod...
Cocooned for a year | Kerry
February 21, 2024 11:00 - 1 hour - 44.4 MBKerry and I's conversation flowed with casual ease and laughter. Can you start over in your mid-30's as a divorcee and single Mom? Yes! What about navigating the mystery and terrors of online dating? Kerry shares about diving in, finding new liberties and navigating the disappointments and hopes of possible new relationships. Listen to be entertained and inspired.
Discovering unconditional love | Daniel
February 17, 2024 18:45 - 1 hour - 67.2 MBDaniel grew up conforming to the ideas of what it meant to be a man through the critical words and judgments of the women in his life. He was not going to be like his Dad or his Uncles. He was going to be a good guy and a nice guy. Little did he know that he was only masking and hiding who he truly was. It wasn't until his 3rd marriage and counseling, that he finally realized his behaviors and beliefs were all under his self-deception, justification, and rationalization. Instead of hel...
You deserve better | Spencer
February 13, 2024 19:47 - 1 hour - 69.2 MBSo many thoughts and questions arise when talking with Spencer. He was betrayed a few times in a row with women that brought out extreme opposite sides of himself. He took time to recover after his second break up and found himself wounded again in an unexpected way. Through his trials, he discovered ways to accept - what is and let go of - the idea of himself or the idea of what life should be. Spencer takes us through his muck, he even confesses he smashed his x-box! It was a sign of c...
Break UP to Better | Daniella Cracknell
February 01, 2024 16:13 - 1 hour - 53.6 MBWhat if you could look into your past to find out how you got here today? Daniella found family letters from childhood that revealed insights to some personal relationship patterns. In an unfortunate and unlikely way she realized she needed to re-assess how to care for her heart. Through all her breakups and heartaches, Daniella began a journey of healing. Through her journey she realized everyone could use some more tools so she started a company called TheBREAK-UP Biz™, covering today’s...
Break-ups don't have to leave you broken | Gary Lewandowski TEDxNavesink
January 25, 2024 14:27 - 15 minutes - 11 MBEnding a relationship is an opportunity we can embrace to become a better person. Sometimes breakups are unexpected, or they end a bad situation. Either way, what if this is the ticket out of prison - a fresh start to exploring life without being stuck? Gary addresses this very topic in today's episode. Thank you for listening!
Why are you letting me go? | Raul
January 11, 2024 11:00 - 2 hours - 122 MBRaul, found love in New York with a partner who seemed to be a dream come true. Raul invested wholeheartedly into the relationship - holding nothing back. Only one seed of doubt existed in their connection and he sensed it from the beginning. Was Anthony going to be ready? Did he still need time to explore the world as a single man? Anthony is six years younger than Raul. After two years of bliss, Anthony pulled back and said goodbye to what we can only guess was premature Love. Though ...
I didn't intend for it to be serious | Maranda
January 04, 2024 11:00 - 2 hours - 83.8 MBMaranda is still recovering from a breakup that happened a year ago. He ended 4 1/2 years in a text and it's left her hurting. After a lot of time to self-reflect, we take time on this episode to deep dive into what holds her back from moving forward. Guilt, regret and anger have plagued her long enough! Listen to find out how she navigates her way to greater freedom and clarity. We have a patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborat...
Can we choose to fall out of love? | Dessa Tedx WanChai
December 28, 2023 18:47 - 14 minutes - 21.9 MBThe attachments we carry with us to our partner are what bond us. Those attachments also make letting go after a breakup pretty tough, sometimes, near impossible. Is it a matter of the mind or the heart? Could it be both? Dessa, couldn't let go. "Everyone else seems to be able to do this, why is it so tough for me?". In this short and light-hearted presentation, she shares how neuroscience helped heal her brain. Enjoy!
A series of synchronicities | Liberty
December 14, 2023 11:00 - 2 hours - 90 MBWhat happens when you open the door to your body and soul wide open? Liberty tells us about the adventures of online dating and self-discovery. She was married for a long time and since her divorce, she's explored her artistic creativity, her spirit of adventure, and her sexuality. Some of it has been fun and some of it has left her with deep pain. For more information about Liberty - follow her @spring_unfolding @libertyshea We have a patreon membership account! Please check out how...
Drinking and how it changed my life | Ann Dowsett-Johnston at TEDxHomeBushRdWomen
December 07, 2023 11:00 - 21 minutes - 14.8 MBAlcohol: friend or foe? Good question. Alcohol has a common presence in relationships and in breakups. Ann tells her story of finding out that she was truly an alcoholic. She outs herself in her book called "Drink". Many people know the woes of alcohol but not as many know both the woes and wins of sobriety. Listen as Ann shares her lessons, her heartache, and discovers her gains! We have a Patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on...
Just not with her... | April
November 30, 2023 11:00 - 1 hour - 62.1 MBSometimes you miss the good things you had even though it was far from perfect. April struggled with anorexia and her boyfriend didn't quite get the scope of her pain. The relationship ended but the feelings remained. He had big news - he's going to be a Dad! Any hopes of a future dissolved. She met someone new and he isn't the man she longs for... can you relate to being stuck in the sticky shadows between the past and present? Listen as April and I find a bridge to move past this inner ...
Getting the love you want | Harville Hendrix Super Soul
November 23, 2023 11:00 - 45 minutes - 31.1 MBNot all relationships on the brink of failure are hopeless. There are tools that can help you discover where the negative patterns of communication and behavior come from. This talk is a replay of a conversation between the author, Oprah, and a few couples who find out they can be vulnerable and redeem their relationships! We have a Patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreon.com/unbreak...
Trying to buy happiness | Will
November 09, 2023 16:04 - 3 hours - 421 MBWill had a good job and a nice house. He was looking for a wife, someone to build a future and a home with. When he met Maddie, they fell fast! She was a strong, independent woman and knew what she liked. Turns out that was a mask. Beneath the mask he found a woman who was afraid, isolating, and controlling. When he tried to have boundaries their capacity for compatibility started to wane. This story is fresh and in the details you may find lots of areas that you can relate to. For exam...
The person you really need to marry | Tracy McMillan | TEDxOlympicBlvdWomen
October 05, 2023 07:00 - 17 minutes - 12.3 MBWhen you look at your past, do you see failure? Tracy did. She thought she'd find love by marrying men who'd make her feel at home and like she had a place to belong. It wasn't working. She always knew she wanted to be married, and discovered that if she could marry herself and be committed, faithful and trustworthy - then she could know love. Her story is sweet and inspiring. No matter what stage of relationship you're in - this is a message that will speak to your heart! We have a pat...
Living with a Whole Heart Part 2 | Brené Brown | Oprah Super Soul
September 28, 2023 07:00 - 33 minutes - 23 MBDoesn't heartache feel unfair and like unwanted suffering? When we are rejected, we can feel disoriented. It's hard to know we're loved, that we belong and we are valued. This is the danger of a rough breakup! No matter what you go through, it is never true that you aren't worthy of love. This is when we suffer. We had our partner and we belonged together. When we are no more, there is suffering. How do you shift out of this suffering? Is the answer to be vulnerable? Even when you've put you...
Daring Greatly Part 1 | Brené Brown (From August 6th, 2017) | Oprah Super Soul
September 21, 2023 07:00 - 40 minutes - 27.7 MBWhen we feel alone in the darkness, when we're being bullied by lies that say we aren't worthy - we need hope and faith! Sometimes, just that you're showing up is enough. It counts and you're not alone! This chat echos these sentiments as Brene and Oprah share about risks and consequences of vulnerability. Thank you for listening! You're invited! Let me know if you'd like to participate in collaborating with me in building connection, community, and sharing input to make the show the b...
The "80/20" Heart | Josh
September 14, 2023 10:00 - 1 hour - 49.3 MBFalling in love for the first time or even the 20th time is both exhilarating and disorienting. After he found out his girlfriend was cheating on her he decided it wasn't safe to fall in love again. It's best to hold back part of my heart and my love so I don't feel that pain again. What are the consequences we pay for putting our hearts in a cast and never taking it off? What price do we pay when we vow: "I'll never love or let someone love me like that again"? These are the questions...
The lies our culture tells us and a better way to live | David Brooks Tedx
August 31, 2023 18:07 - 18 minutes - 13.3 MB"We all go through bad seasons". David starts his talk with these universal words. Whether we get what we want or lose what we thought we wanted, we can experience a sense of feeling delusional. I believe David does a great job addressing some of the moments where we have to reconcile the picture we had in our minds to what's actually happening in reality. I hope you are encouraged by this talk if you find yourself in a winter season. Check out the new website www.unbreakmyheartpodcas...
Good Boundaries Free You | Sarri Gilman Tedx
August 24, 2023 20:09 - 19 minutes - 13.6 MBWhat if there were a skeleton key to unlock difficult relationships? It comes in the form of boundaries! Learning to yes and no is one of the most overlooked traits to helping us have healthy relationships and great self-care. Sarri takes us through a new perspective that will inspire us to have better boundaries. Don't miss this, you'll appreciate the valuable tools she shares.
Ghosted and mute | Courtney
August 17, 2023 10:00 - 1 hour - 51 MBDo you explore dating apps hoping for something special or short-term fun? Is it just a digital pen pal or a foundation for something more? Keilee thought she connected with someone special. She was naive and he was cowardly. This combination led to a four-year tug-of-war on heartstrings that were meant to be played for love, not play her. We have a Patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www...
My dark monster inside | B
August 10, 2023 07:00 - 2 hours - 101 MBB is a young Lebanese-American man whose family is originally from Lebanon. Even though he thinks he's generally a good person, he finds himself wrestling with an internal monster. He first noticed this monster of rage when he dated Brenda. Maybe she created the monster? But after they broke up that monster came out again in other relationships. Now B is looking inward. At his lowest moments he finds himself behaving in ways that's hurtful to others and he doesn't know how to change. St...
It still makes me cry | Dailee
August 03, 2023 17:17 - 1 hour - 83.7 MBDailee was dumped by her Jewish boyfriend and it stung hard! She has recovered well; however, in our chat we found an old wound from the fall out between she and her first love. Even though it was years ago the negative words he spoke hadn't yet left her. Dailee was brave in facing an old scar that no longer needs to make it's home in her soul! We have a patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visi...
How to Get Over The End of a Relationship | Antonio Pascual-Leone | TEDxUniversityofWindsor
July 27, 2023 10:00 - 21 minutes - 15 MBThe lingering thoughts and feelings at the end of a relationship can be overwhelming and obsessive. You can feel stuck. Not only does it take a while to get over a relationship, the remnants can haunt us in the future. In this TedTalk, we will hear simple, practical, and helpful advice on how to sort through the end of the relationship and how to get closure.
Say your truths and seek them in others | Elizabeth Lesser Ted Women
July 20, 2023 10:00 - 19 minutes - 13.5 MBIt's really common to think and say to oneself - "I wish I would've said..." or "If only I could get this off my chest...". We tend to withhold how we truly feel and the drama of that energy builds up in our bodies and minds - creating toxic thoughts and distance between us and those we care most about. We can retaliate with or are wounded by rejection and attack! Are you willing to pay the price for peace? Listen as Elizabeth shares how she found a miracle relationship after years of car...
Why we get mad and why it's healthy | Dr. Ryan Martin TEDxFondduLac
July 13, 2023 10:00 - 18 minutes - 12.6 MBAnger is an emotion that can reveal an injustice, help us with a boundary and even get us in trouble. When we experience anger, sometimes, we can shake it off. Other times, it lingers and becomes a weapon. This Ted Talk creates a fresh perspective on our anger! It's refreshing and fun to have a new way of seeing why we get mad. Please check out the new website www.unbreakmyheartpodcast.com and fill out a listener survey. You'll be entered to win a free 1:1 coaching session with me!
How To Tell If Someone Truly Loves You | Femi Ogunjinmi | TEDxXavierUniversity
July 06, 2023 07:00 - 16 minutes - 11.5 MBAlong the way, we learn life lessons. Love is always pursuing us and we may not know it or be able to receive it. What about when we declare our love to someone and behave in a way that is contrary to what we say? Why do we hold on to someone when we don't want to be faithful? Or when we want a completely different life? In this example, Femi shares his personal story of a time when he was put to the test to see if he meant what he said when he found the woman he wanted to marry! We hav...
Break Up with Abuse | Jessica
June 29, 2023 17:00 - 1 hour - 69.3 MBIn this episode, you'll hear how Jessica reflects on abusive patterns in relationships, and how they've affected her outlook on monogamy, sexual orientation, and love. This conversation transitions from recognizing patterns to discovering what is truly holding her back from healing! photo by @amytreasure audio engineering and production by Danny Chau
The shame I carried inside | Trent
June 22, 2023 10:00 - 2 hours - 87.1 MBTrent married young because that's what you're supposed to do - meet a girl and marry her... He was raised with religious mindset that you have to do things according to these rules and if you break them - it's sinful. This conditioning set him up for a tough road ahead when he met a woman that wasn't particularly compatible for him. They tried making their marriage work until they broke. We explore the lessons he learned and the changes he's made since his divorce. To learn more abou...
I was never an option | Arietta
June 16, 2023 12:40 - 1 hour - 61.6 MBIt's official! We have a patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreaon.com/unbreakmyheart for more information. Today's guest shares about how she fell in love with a dear friend - not knowing he was married! One of her greatest lessons was that her intuition never lies and it's not something you should ignore. Listen to hear about Arietta share with wisdom and grace about how she's been ...
Nothing will burn me down | Kiona
June 01, 2023 10:00 - 1 hour - 58.7 MBAnger and hate can burn us from the inside out. Breakups are known to cause this type of burn. That's what happened to Kiona. She was torn apart after her boyfriend called it off. Not only did she have to cope with this loss but it also made her confront who she was. New questions surfaced, for example: Am I angry with him? Or am I just an angry person? Listen to find out how Kiona has worked through the pressure of pain to become more like a diamond reflecting gems of love and wisdom!
I love you but I don't need you | Jake
May 25, 2023 10:00 - 1 hour - 52.6 MBJake found the love of his life at a young age. He was content being her man without getting married. Why get married and risk the pain of divorce? He saw what it did to his parents and wanted to avoid in his life. She convinced him otherwise and ... it didn't go so well. We take a deep dive into those patterns and pull out some strong aha's! Listen to find out what happens and even learn what some of your survival patterns might be.
I miss my "friend" | Kalei
May 18, 2023 10:00 - 2 hours - 191 MBYoung, insecure and longing for attention, Kalei falls for a boy during college orientation. It could be love at first sight, he even seems to like her back. This is a story of a CRUSH. Both Kalei and David fall for each other but never really put themselves out there to truly come together. Instead, they dip their toe into relationship status for 2 weeks and quickly bail - only to become best friends...for years. Time passes, they move to different cities and have new relationships. Ye...
The words I had been waiting for... | Kurt
May 11, 2023 10:00 - 2 hours - 252 MBImagine you meet your soul mate, only to find that there's no way to make the relationship evolve past isolated moments of bliss. This is not an easy reality to accept. Kurt found himself more alive than he'd ever known himself to be; he also found himself empty, exhausted and confused. Why could a connection so strong fall so short? That's not all. Newly single, he met another woman who showed him unconditional love. He was starved for this love but didn't have closure with his twin flam...
I "appreciate" you | Katelyn
May 04, 2023 14:48 - 2 hours - 102 MBThis interview with Katelyn is two stories in one. First, it’s very fresh - she lost her Swedish fiancé only 3 months ago. In her closet now hangs the wedding dress she’ll never wear. She was blindsided by his sudden change of heart. To understand her breakup - we have to hear the back story The second half of this interview we start more of a dialogue to process what may have been happening along the way that got overlooked. We work on adopting a new perspective in order to heal and mov...
I didn't know this was inside of me | Rose
April 27, 2023 13:30 - 1 hour - 90.1 MBShe's had two serious breakups - she thought she was over her first love, but, to her surprise, she realized this wasn't true. Alex exposed her to new dynamics of intimacy, trust and betrayal. The disillusionment of what was once magical has led Rose down a path of uncertainty about monogamy, marriage and procreation. To what extent do those things carry value in today's modern and progressive relationship culture? More importantly, what are her motives for considering the alternatives? ...
Nobody changes that fast | Stacey
April 20, 2023 10:00 - 1 hour - 95.1 MBStacey is 44, an Asian refugee who grew up in New Zealand and made his way to America. Our conversation is casual and insightful. As an Asian man, sharing feelings and opening up about personal experiences is out of the ordinary. He fell in love with Sarah, they thought they would marry but ended up going their separate ways. Stacey shares about how their mindsets, world views and cultural differences kept them from taking the next step. He hard on himself and lives with the guilt of hurt...
Our breakup dinner party | Jyssica
April 13, 2023 10:00 - 1 hour - 65.6 MBThey decided they weren't each other's forever person. It was their sophomore year of college and even though they had fun together, the spark just wasn't there. However, there was no ill will and they wanted to involve their close friends in the breakup. Jyssica and Benji decided to host a Break-Up Party. 10 friends gathered together to pronounce their friends single! Little did Jyssica know, that meeting her true love was just around the corner! Enjoy as Jyssica shares the story of her...
Needy not apply | Mashaun
April 06, 2023 14:00 - 1 hour - 55.4 MBWhat does it mean when your ex reaches out to you, out of the blue, years after your breakup? It could be that it's time to get some things out in the open and reconcile old wounds and feelings. Or it could be a way of checking in after years of being apart. Mashaun recounts the story of how he and his ex handled their breakup. They were teenagers, in Atlanta, gay and stuck in the broken relationship patterns modeled by their families. More so, he shares about his journey of growth an...
She said yes but she didn't mean it | John
March 30, 2023 13:23 - 1 hour - 92.1 MBShe said yes to marrying him but she didn't mean it. As John's wife, she started acting as if their marriage wasn't real. After some time, John got their marriage annulled. After successfully going through a few years of recovery John learned, from experience, that he couldn't fix or rescue his wife. Letting her go wasn't easy nor was the alternative of living with someone who wasn't honest. Listen as John share's his testimony of recovery, his search for love, and his humble efforts to...
He had to be cruel to be kind | Antonia
March 23, 2023 07:00 - 2 hours - 135 MBImpressionable and strong willed, Antonia found herself in a toxic loveless relationship at a young age that hurt and haunted her for years. After some time, she met someone new and found her heart could indeed fall deeply in love; yet, the timing was off. She already planned on an overseas adventure to do some soul searching which meant they had to make a tough choice. Alex, knew she needed to be uninhibited, so he decided to let her go. Only, there was a lingering "what if, one day......
With my eyes closed, in traffic, I crossed the street | Remanda
March 09, 2023 14:29 - 2 hours - 346 MBGoodness! This is a great story of a woman who went through the "school of life" because of a 6 year relationship with a man who broke her heart 3 times. Remanda is a strong, determined and "don't quit -> win" kinda girl. When she started dating for the first time she gave 200%. Being from China, her culture affected many of the decisions she made, especially about how to pursue a career, how to see herself and how to value a relationship. What does it take to finally say goodbye? What...
I’ve lost all ability to trust | Charity
March 09, 2023 08:00 - 1 hour - 80.6 MBCharity feels as though she had been blindsided by the darkness hiding under her wifes’ pain. A childhood injury had left her wife with chronic pain that led her down a dangerous and destructive path of self medication with heroin. Heroin was a master at hiding and deceiving. Charity was taken for a fool and lost everything. Her house was gone, career destroyed, personal finances in shambles, and ultimately her sense of safety and trust in other people had ceased to exist . Years later, she ...
I felt like a nobody | Grace
February 23, 2023 08:00 - 1 hour - 90.6 MBWhen Grace met Eric, they became inseparable. Eric's wife had recently left him for another woman, his story was so moving it seemed to create a strong bond with Grace. Even though Eric's marriage ended, not much changed with his ex. Grace didn't realize it at first, but she was always going to be the outsider in Eric's life, she was never the priority. Her intuition gave her warning signs, she ignored them and it cost her dearly. Grace takes us through her devastating heartache with the...
I learned how to fight for my life | Keri
February 16, 2023 08:00 - 1 hour - 111 MBKeri and I mined through a life-changing relationship she had with an abusive ex-boyfriend. Her gut told her no but her infatuation ignored that still-small voice deep inside. It's been a while since they were together yet there are still lingering injuries from what happened between them. This conversation is rich with heartfelt memories, insights, wisdom, lessons learned, and encouragement! You will find a piece of yourself somewhere along the way in our chat. Listen and allow your h...
Ever since that bad mushroom trip | Lacey
February 09, 2023 16:44 - 2 hours - 123 MBLacey’s story is quite non-linear. She started out as a wild college girl whose daily lifestyle included drinking, using drugs, and endless partying. Sex was like a sport, a game to win - the more men, the more power, and the more she knew she was wanted and desired. After college, she found herself falling in love with a music DJ, Thomas. Thomas was a high school dropout also deep into drinking, drugs, and partying. Their love was immediate, within a week they knew they’d get married. ...
Where joy hides and how to find it | Ingrid Fetell Lee | TED2018
February 02, 2023 08:00 - 18 minutes - 42.4 MBIngrid Fetell Lee has devoted ten years to answering the question: "How do tangible things create intangible joy?" Drawing on research from the fields of neuroscience and psychology, her book, Joyful, and her website "The Aesthetics of Joy" explore the powerful connection between our surroundings and our emotions, and empower people to find more joy in daily life through design.