Seek First to understand then to be.

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Join Wes Tankersley on this episode of Shaping Success as he continues his discussion of the book 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by discussing the fifth habit: Seek First to understand then to be. 

Wes gives a few scenarios as examples of this. He starts by talking about one of his customers whose been married for 55 years. They say the key to success of a marriage is compromise. When there is a disagreement, what is it worth to you? Is it worth it to fight for one point of view or better to compromise?

Wes discusses how his parents told him not to get married at 19. Back then, he didn’t listen to them and did what he wanted, but now he understands. His parents married young and had kids right away. They #struggled raising 3 kids on close to minimum wage. 

They also told Wes to go to college, get a job with health benefits and retirement. His parents wanted him to have stability. The mindset for achievement for Wes was understanding that his parents didn’t want him to struggle like they did. Wes does point out that just because he now understands what his parents meant by telling him these things, doesn’t mean he agrees with their process. Neither Wes nor his parents were wrong in their thought processes. 

Another example of this habit Wes gives is his marriage. He and his wife decided not to have kids right away. They thought it was best to save some money and get stabilized before having kids. Also getting to know one another led to success and happiness in their marriage and life with the kids. 

Wes also talks about criticism. Accepting criticism as good leads to improvement on the journey to success. He surrounds himself with good people who believe in him and help him grow. He is challenged by their point of view on various topics. The key to success and understanding is conversations among people who don’t always agree. It’s important to look at different points of view objectively. Points of view may not change, but the path to success is to seek first to understand then to be. 

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