True North with Abby & Ryan
90 episodes - English - Latest episode: about 2 years ago -Abby (gratitude warrior & life coach) & Ryan (energy worker & author) had a 2½-year long conversation about wholeness and healing, spread across 84 magnificent hour-long episodes.Of all the things we ruminated on, the things that bubbled to the surface the most frequently were living in your truth, staying in your business, and finding it within yourself to allow everything else to be what it is.Also Abby talks to cats and Ryan thinks dirt has a soul.
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Episode 0
March 10, 2022 22:00 - 1 hour - 79.9 MB***We are aware the audio quality of this episode is terrible. It is what it is.*** This is the episode that started it all. We met up for coffee for one of our usual amazing conversations, and decided to put my phone on the table to record the whole thing, to see if we could pull off something podcast-like. Production-wise? Hard no. Content-wise? Hell yeah. If you're able to churn through this one, head to S1E1 and listen to us debrief this very recording, sometimes even playing back pa...
The Great Conjunction
March 02, 2022 00:00 - 1 hour - 51.7 MBAbby & Ryan debrief the entire 83-episode run of the True North Podcast, and then send each other off with gratitude, love, and a splash of nostalgic sadness. Seriously. Thank you all. Thank you for being on this journey with us, for watching us grow, and growing alongside us. We added the "with Abby & Ryan" to the title so that you could find our podcast amidst all the other "True North" podcasts out there, but really, it's always been with Abby, Ryan, and YOU. So thank ya for bein' ther...
We Interview Ryan's Brother!
February 12, 2022 16:00 - 1 hour - 61.3 MBRyan is a second-born middle child. Anyone who puts stock in birth order dynamics just learned a lot about Ryan from those two pieces of information. In this episode, we interview his older brother Brandon, who has lived in Japan for the past several years. We start by discussing the differences between American and Japanese culture, and what it was like to pack up their entire lives into 16 bags and move across the ocean. "I am a specific person. I have specific gifts and abilities that a...
Abby & Ryan Are Woo Woo AF
February 05, 2022 05:00 - 1 hour - 48.3 MB**SORRY FOR RYAN'S WEIRD SOUND QUALITY** Ryan is hung-up on people perceiving him as credible, and is therefore hesitant to openly admit to how woo-woo he is. His concern is that there are people out there who blindly trust in things with no solid reason, and so when he opens up about trusting them as well, he'll be lumped in with the non-critical thinking masses who will believe unfounded things with very little scrutiny or need for compelling evidence. He does energy healing but is skept...
Trust and Soap Boxes
January 31, 2022 18:00 - 1 hour - 54.2 MBWhat is trust, really? In the first 20 minutes, we settle on this loose definition: Trust is about safety. You know what needs to be put in place for you to feel safe. If you feel the need to put them in place yourself (because if you don't, you won't be safe), that's the antithesis of you trusting someone. If you believe the other person will/has put those things in place on their own (such that you don't feel the need to do it yourself), that equals you trusting them. Where do you pla...
Is Accidental Growth A Thing?
January 22, 2022 05:00 - 1 hour - 47.8 MBDo you ever notice that you seem to have done personal growth that you have no recollection of actually doing on purpose? Abby says no. Hah. It's more probable your values shifted and you just care less now about things you cared a lot about before. Then we talk about a bunch of other stuff. Just listen to the episode and you'll get it all. Why do you even read these?? TIME CODES: 3:13 - Accidental Growth? 14:48 - Awareness 20:28 - Solitude 39:35 - Updating our Paradigms 49:00 - Love yours...
Self Awareness, Self Understanding, Self Acceptance.
January 15, 2022 04:00 - 1 hour - 46.4 MBReference points! We all have a core set of experiences that we use to contextualize all of our new and incoming experiences. In this episode we unpack why this happens and what we can do about it. “The best predictor of a child's security of attachment is not what happened to his parents as children, but rather how his parents made sense of those childhood experiences.” ― Daniel J. Siegel, Mindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation Awareness. Learn what your reference point...
Abby & Ryan Aren't Hetero
January 07, 2022 03:00 - 1 hour - 47.4 MBLast week Ryan said in passing that he's bi. This week, we unpack that. When Ryan says he's bi, what he's saying is that someone's gender neither helps nor hinders his ability to be physically attracted to them. It's not that he discovered a new part of himself, but rather that he released the compulsory heterosexuality he was taught to internalize. If gender is nonbinary, then what's the difference between bisexual and pansexual? How does a married person explore their newfound sexual or...
Abby & Ryan Talk About God
January 01, 2022 23:00 - 1 hour - 51.2 MBBefore people can talk about God, they need to define what they mean by the word "God." According to the Tao Te Ching, as soon as you define God, you're no longer defining all of what God is. So, all we can do is question and riff. That's what we do in this episode. Key topics: Can we know what God is? Can we separate God from religion? What is God without religion? What is religion without God? Experiencing God vs. Believing in God More topics: The tolerance paradox (re: preachin...
Difficult Emotions, Soul vs. Personality, Generational Trauma
December 17, 2021 19:00 - 1 hour - 45.9 MBWe live in a culture of "positive" and "negative" emotions, which really comes down to emotions that we're uncomfortable feeling/seeing, and ones we're comfortable with. In this episode, we unpack this framework. There are certain situations where certain emotions are deemed appropriate or inappropriate. But why? People's comfort. Why are they uncomfortable with some emotions? Because they weren't taught to deal with those emotions themselves. Parenting - when it's hard for us to deal with...
Abby & Ryan Get True Northy
November 05, 2021 04:00 - 1 hour - 46.5 MBAbby brings the questions and we ruminate on True Northy stuff. "Forgive and forget" needs to be replaced by "Forgive and set boundaries." It's less catchy but man does it work better. "An eye for an eye" (e.g. death penalty for murderers) is a terrible way to handle wrongdoing. "My job in the life of those I love is to make it safe for them to find their own way, without any undue pressure from anyone - including me." -Ryan's Uncle "Insist on yourself." -Ralph Waldo Emerson "All your ...
Abby & Ryan Advise Their Past Selves
October 29, 2021 05:00 - 1 hour - 42.8 MBThe game is simple. Ryan rolls 5 dice, and both of them reveal what they would say if they could talk to the people they were at the age shown on the dice. Also Ryan can't #math. AGES: 2:48 - Age 17 13:00 - Age 23 24:29 - Age 12 42:22 - Age 15 Fun twist ending: Look yourself in the mirror and tell your present self all the things you told these past versions of yourself. GRATITUDES: Abby is grateful that she went through darkness by which she can understand the light. Ryan is grateful ...
Can People Change?
October 15, 2021 18:00 - 1 hour - 50.8 MBThere's no such thing as "Capital-T Trauma." Emotional trauma is simply any experience that drives us to deny parts of ourselves for the sake of staying safe. Alexithymia (not feeling our feelings) can be attributed to trauma: we have experiences that drive us to close and lock doors in our "mansions of self," but in doing so, we lock away our access to the emotions attached to those experiences. Can we change?? Conditioning/programming? Ryan says no, Abby says yes. Ryan eventually says...
Abby Refines Her True North
October 01, 2021 03:00 - 1 hour - 44.6 MB**ANNOUNCEMENT: We are doing a virtual event!!** "The Art of Dropping Your Defenses: Reframing Your Relationship With Your Armor" Saturday, October 2, from 1:11 to 4pm CST $35. Register at truenorth11.com/the-art-of-dropping-your-defenses ---------------- ** 'NOTHER ANNOUNCEMENT: Abby is leaving the True North Tribe** ---------------- Following your True North means frequently realigning to make sure you're still headed toward your True North. This can mean letting go of things...
Boundaries vs. Censorship
September 25, 2021 06:00 - 1 hour - 48.4 MB**ANNOUNCEMENT: We are doing a virtual event!!** "The Art of Dropping Your Defenses: Reframing Your Relationship With Your Armor" Saturday, October 2, from 1:11 to 4pm CST $35. Register at truenorth11.com/the-art-of-dropping-your-defenses ---------------- 'Nother announcement: Ryan's audio is still bad. Boo. ---------------- Question from a Tribe member: "Perhaps censorship is when you feel forced to censor you speech/actions from an external source (like someone else is shutting yo...
Self Acceptance, Systemic Misogyny, Sharing Our Stories
September 17, 2021 17:00 - 1 hour - 45.6 MB**ANNOUNCEMENT: We are doing a virtual event!!** "The Art of Dropping Your Defenses: Reframing Your Relationship With Your Armor" Saturday, October 2, from 1:11 to 4pm CST $35. Register at truenorth11.com/the-art-of-dropping-your-defenses ---------------- Also, Ryan's audio is bad cause computers and software are rude. QUESTION: a) What's a part of yourself you have difficulty accepting? b) What part of yourself do you have no problem accepting? RYAN: a) The parts of me that demonstra...
GUILT (and a little bit of Patriarchy)
September 10, 2021 01:00 - 1 hour - 43.9 MB**ANNOUNCEMENT: We are doing a virtual event!!** "The Art of Dropping Your Defenses: Reframing Your Relationship With Your Armor" Saturday, October 2, from 1:11 to 4pm CST $35. Register at truenorth11.com/the-art-of-dropping-your-defenses ---------------- In this episode, we talk about GUILT. “Guilt is anger directed at ourselves — at what we did or did not do.” — Peter McWilliams "Guilt is something abusers use to control you." — a True North Tribe member Defining our terms: Regret: "...
Emotional Maturity
September 03, 2021 15:00 - 1 hour - 50.3 MB**MOST IMPORTANT ANNOUNCEMENT: Abby is on TikTok @indigoabby** **SECOND MOST IMPORTANT ANNOUNCEMENT: We are doing a virtual event!!** "The Art of Dropping Your Defenses: Reframing Your Relationship With Your Armor" Saturday, October 2, from 1:11 to 4pm CST $35. Register at truenorth11.com/the-art-of-dropping-your-defenses ---------------- In this episode, we dig into what emotional maturity means, and venture into discussing emotional regulation and relationship dynamics. Do you come fro...
Victim Consciousness, Locating Yourself, HRV
August 27, 2021 04:00 - 1 hour - 47 MBQUESTION: Can you operate in victim consciousness AND be in your True North simultaneously? Drama Triangle —> Empowerment Triangle Victim / Persecutor / Rescuer —> Creator / Challenger / Coach Your "True North Self" is not some unassailably healthy version of yourself; it's the version of yourself that: Notices when you're operating in victim consciousness Compassionately meets yourself where you are Regularly reorients yourself toward your True North How do you move from victimhood in...
Abby & Ryan Return!! Rest, Growth, Authenticity
August 20, 2021 04:00 - 1 hour - 46.2 MBWe're switching it up to 10-episode seasons with 2-week breaks between, for the foreseeable future. QUESTION: How are you a different person now than you were at the end of last season? Abby - Learned the importance of rest Ryan - Accidentally became an influencer Can we make progress without setting goals? Yes. Set intentions instead, and stay in the present, meeting yourself with acceptance and compassion. As we grow and change, it's helpful to assess our goals, values, and definition...
Abby Interprets Ryan's Dream
May 14, 2021 19:00 - 1 hour - 48.5 MBDream analysis is a powerful tool to investigate your interiors. And the best part is, your beliefs about the nature of dreams (random meaningless neuron firings, astral projection, everything in between) have no bearing on how useful this practice can be. It's less about what a dream is and what's "really" happening when we dream, and more about what we do with our dreams in our waking hours. Here's the tool: Narrate your dream in as much detail as possible. Identify symbols (you decide w...
Visiting the Past & Future, Single-Tasking, and Why Moving Backwards Isn't a Thing
May 09, 2021 04:00 - 1 hour - 42.6 MBVisiting the past and future in healthy ways: Visit, but don't live there Be mindful of what you bring back to the present What to bring back from the Past: Gratitude. What NOT to bring back from the Past: Remorse, Regret, Self-Judgment, Rumination. What to bring back from the Future: Open-Minded Anticipation. What NOT to bring back from the Future: Fear, Controlling Motivations, Baseless Projection. Regret: "I'm suffering the consequences of what I did." Remorse: "You're suffering the ...
Navigating Rough Patches in Relationships
May 07, 2021 19:00 - 1 hour - 42.4 MBRyan has recently gotten feedback in two of his close relationships, and we debrief how he's responded, both internally and externally. RSP (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria) can come into play whenever we receive negative feedback. Perhaps you feel rejected by the other person, but it's also possible you reject yourself, and then react to that self-rejection. It's usually both. A process we settled on: When receiving the feedback, notice how you feel. Feeling defensive or hurt? Acknowledge...
Abby & Ryan Resist Change
April 23, 2021 18:00 - 1 hour - 49 MB“Change happens when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change.” - Tony Robbins (probably) WHY DO WE RESIST CHANGE?? LOSS. There's a loss, which means pain. Even if there's a gain, it's unknown; the loss is always known. Known is more comfortable than unknown. ANTICIPATION & PREDICTABILITY. A 2016 study showed that "knowing that there is a small chance of getting a painful electric shock can lead to significantly more stress than knowing that you will definitely be s...
Emotions, Stories, & Tools to Become More Present
April 16, 2021 02:00 - 1 hour - 42.9 MBDo your emotions have to attach to stories? Everything but the emotion is in your head. "I'm afraid OF ______" "I'm happy ABOUT ______" "I'm angry AT ______" IMPORTANT POINTS ABOUT THAT: "Story" doesn't refer to the facts; it refers to what you make those facts mean for you. "In your head" and "imaginary" don't mean "not valid" or "not real." "Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is or power to choose our response" -Viktor Frankl Turn your Inner Critic int...
4 Reasons to Keep Doing Your Thing (And 3 Reasons Not To)
April 02, 2021 19:00 - 59 minutes - 41 MBReasons to do your thing: It brings you life. To elicit reactions, positive and negative - NOT to help you hone your content based on the feedback. - BUT to help you decide how much weight feedback should have. (Marcus Aurelius) You have to get through the shit to get to the gold. (quantity over quality) You’ll discover yourself in ways you couldn’t without it. Reasons to stop: When the work is complete (this also applies to relationships). When it FEELS like work (burnout). - NOT ...
Not the Humbility Episode
March 26, 2021 03:00 - 1 hour - 46.8 MBAbby and Ryan left off last podcast teeing up a follow-up episode about humility. We thought this would be that episode. The Universe had other plans. We sure did try, though. That's a lie. We really didn't. But we think we landed in an okay place. How Abby Manages a Full Plate: Bag it. Ask yourself if it really needs to be done (no. It doesn't) Barter it. Ask yourself if someone else can do it (then ask them to do it) Better it. Ask yourself if it can be done more efficiently (smarter, ...
Confidence Is...
March 19, 2021 05:00 - 1 hour - 48.3 MBWe talk about confidence, what it is, and what it's not. And surprise surprise, we don't exactly see eye to eye on the specifics. And that's part of what makes this thing magical. Definitions! Ryan: Confidence is owning what you are, and not needing to be what you aren't. Abby: Confidence has both positive and negative expressions: negative confidence is a mask you wear to cover up a lack of self worth; positive confidence comes from true self worth, wherein you wholeheartedly love and tr...
Growth, Surrender, Confidence
March 12, 2021 06:00 - 1 hour - 50.3 MBGrowth. Sometimes, growth is less about discarding old versions of yourself, and more about integrating them. Sometimes, growth is like outgrowing your sweater. If you keep it on after you've outgrown it, it'll suffocate you. Sometimes, growth means forgiving your old selves instead of judging them. Sometimes, growth means learning to validate and value yourself according to your own Inner Pilot Light (thank you, Lissa Rankin), rather than the commentary, reactions, and feedback of other...
The Four Types of Coping
March 06, 2021 05:00 - 1 hour - 46.6 MBAbby unpacks four types of coping! Ryan takes notes. And has bad audio for some reason. The INEFFECTIVE ways to cope (they lead to burnout, keep you in fight-or-flight, and often exacerbate the problem): Over-Control. Ruminating on the past and potential futures, spinning in your thoughts about a situation or other person. Passive Coping. Complaining, numbing out, checking out, engaging in mindless activities a lot. Avoidance, habitual escapism. The EFFECTIVE ways to cope (they refresh y...
Crying, Forgiveness, Life is Practice
February 26, 2021 06:00 - 1 hour - 43.5 MB**ANNOUNCEMENT** Our interviewee from Episode 31, TONY ISLAS, is joining our weekly member call on March 16, at 7pm CST just to shoot the shit with our Tribe members! EEK! Sign up between now and then if you wanna hang with him over Zoom for an hour. Doooo it. -------- Abby shares that she hasn't been crying lately (and that's not normal for her), and Ryan shares a story that led him to correlate emotional blockage/flow with creative blockage/flow - maybe there's a connection there. We th...
Abby & Ryan Use Their Voices - Part 4
February 19, 2021 06:00 - 1 hour - 49.3 MBRyan goes through a list of things over the past three episodes he wanted to say but didn't (ironically). And we discuss the things. The main theme undergirding this conversation is, know what you CAN control, know what you CAN'T, own what you CAN control, and don't own what you CAN'T control. Speaking up because of what might happen if you DON'T is just as bad as NOT speaking up because of what might happen if you DO. Also, fear of what might happen is not a reason not to do something. A...
We Take a Break, But Invite You to Reflect
February 12, 2021 07:00 - 4 minutes - 3.31 MBEpisode 52 - Abby and Ryan take a break this week. However, we extend an invitation to you to use the time you would have given to listen to this episode to sit in quiet reflection. In this short episode, Abby briefly talks about what reflection is and what it is not, and offers some helpful guidance on how to use reflection as a tool for understanding, compassion and growth. Take this opportunity to choose you! We'll be back next week! GRATITUDES: We are grateful for YOU and wher...
We Take a Break, But Invite You to Reflect
February 12, 2021 07:00 - 4 minutes - 3.31 MBEpisode 52 - Abby and Ryan take a break this week. However, we extend an invitation to you to use the time you would have given to listen to this episode to sit in quiet reflection. In this short episode, Abby briefly talks about what reflection is and what it is not, and offers some helpful guidance on how to use reflection as a tool for understanding, compassion and growth. Take this opportunity to choose you! We'll be back next week! GRATITUDES: We are grateful for YOU and wher...
Abby & Ryan Use Their Voices - Part 3
February 05, 2021 06:00 - 1 hour - 50.2 MBWe close some loops and get all* the words out that we've spent the past two episodes wrestling with for various reasons. Not sure if I need to say this, but you'll need to listen to parts 1 and 2 for any of this to make sense. GRATITUDES: Ryan is grateful for his #bidet . Abby is grateful for her brother-in-law. TIME CODES: 1:54 - Abby & Ryan share their experiences of last episode 17:47 - Ryan, on monitoring his words more closely 30:57 - Abby's biggest growth opportunity this series h...
Abby & Ryan Use Their Voices - Part 2
January 29, 2021 06:00 - 1 hour - 44.7 MBIf you're using your voice, but not grounded in the essence of your true self, then you're not speaking your truth; you're merely speaking your mind. #RTA You are not responsible for what people do with your words. But YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR WORDS. FISH TANK ANALOGY: You are the water, and your words are the fish. If the water is mucky, the fish will get sick. If you want to maintain their health, you have to tend to each fish, individually, and persistently. If you focus on giving...
Abby & Ryan Use Their Voices - Part 1
January 22, 2021 06:00 - 1 hour - 53.1 MB"Raise your words, not voice. It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder." - Rumi Start by knowing where you are: Notice when you want to say something but don't. Why didn't you? Notice when you speak up - standing up for yourself or others, naming your desires, asserting your opinions. Why did you? Notice when you fill silence with unnecessary words. Why did you? Ready to start using your voice confidently? Start where it's safest and slowly expand: Unapologetically use your voice wit...
Abby & Ryan Use Their Voices
January 22, 2021 06:00 - 1 hour - 53.1 MB"Raise your words, not voice. It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder." - Rumi Start by knowing where you are: Notice when you want to say something but don't. Why didn't you? Notice when you speak up - standing up for yourself or others, naming your desires, asserting your opinions. Why did you? Notice when you fill silence with unnecessary words. Why did you? Ready to start using your voice confidently? Start where it's safest and slowly expand: Unapologetically use your voice wit...
Inner Motivators, Being Our Own People, and Other Lessons From Grams
January 15, 2021 06:00 - 1 hour - 51.3 MBBe present with yourself. You can fuss over the task of living your life, or you can just live it. Do you really want to do the thing? You say you want to do the thing. You consistently don't, and there's always an excuse. Do you really want to do the thing? Reeeaaaally? Check in with your body. See if it wants to do the thing. If so, cut the crap and do the thing. No excuses. If not, take it off your plate and stop saying you want to do it. How do you motivate yourself? Shame? Bull...
Abby & Ryan Talk About Talking About Politics
January 08, 2021 06:00 - 1 hour - 49.7 MBLet's Get P'litical! That pun was so bad. Step 1: Look in the Mirror Consider your audience. Who are you talking to when you say political things? Are you saying it in a way that maximizes the odds that it will be heard? Cognitive Bias is a bitch. Become aware of it, notice when you're doing it, and fucking stop it. Blindly aligning to one side and vilifying the other is a problem, regardless of which side you're on. Your position/opinion is based on the information/beliefs/values you h...
Choose to Live
January 01, 2021 06:00 - 3 minutes - 2.67 MBJust a quick note to say thanks, and that we'll be back. Also, a special note from Abby. Also also, we love you all. Abby & Ryan
Centering, Regret, Presence
December 25, 2020 06:00 - 1 hour - 50.2 MBWhen you say "feelings," you're either talking about emotions or physical sensations. So use those words instead. Feeling agitated/triggered? Focus more on why you're feeling that way and less on the thing that caused those emotions. Regret: Unhealthy - "If I had done X differently, Y would have gone more favorably, and I'm disappointed that it didn't go that way." Healthy - "How could I have been better then, and how can I use that to be better now?" Being present: "What's happening is...
Homemaking, Polarization, and a Triggering Facebook Post
December 18, 2020 06:00 - 1 hour - 47.6 MBWe discuss what (you think) the state of your house says about you to visitors, we debrief Abby's process of working through being triggered by a Facebook post (https://www.facebook.com/photo?fbid=10221270460445886 by Jessica Manuszak, founder of I Love You The Monsters), and riff on how to build bridges with people whose opinions are polar opposites from yours, without compromising your ideals or condoning their behaviors (spoiler alert: it's digging deep enough to see yourself in them, an...
Rob Bell - Owning Your Story, Doing Your Thing, and Seeing Yourself In Others
December 11, 2020 06:00 - 1 hour - 41.6 MBOnce upon a time, Ryan did something crazy and asked Rob Bell to be on his podcast. Then, Rob did something even crazier and said yes. In this episode, we discuss finding and following your True North, seeing yourself in others as an antidote to polarization, and why Abby might just be the more religious than she thinks. TIME CODES: 6:19 - Seeing ourselves in others 17:16 - Finding/following your True North (spoiler: it's Presence) 29:00 - "You will have everything you need when you need it...
Abby & Ryan Vs. the Patriarchy
December 04, 2020 06:00 - 1 hour - 52.3 MBCORRECTION: Ryan referred to Alison Bechdel as a "he" because he didn't do his homework on who actually created the Bechdel test 🤦♂️ ________________ We live in a man-centric world, and there are things men can do with little to no systemic consequence that female, gender fluid, and nonbinary people can't. We dive into gender roles, systemic misogyny, toxic masculinity, and most importantly, what we can do about it. "Your genuine action will explain itself, and will explain your other ge...
Happy Thanksgiving!!! (or Happy Thursday if you're Ryan)
November 27, 2020 06:00 - 1 hour - 46.1 MBRyan plunges a normal Thanksgiving conversation right into social justice and racial equality. Don't worry, we recover (at 23:26), but not before addressing the origins of Thanksgiving, and how it might feel to indigenous people that we still celebrate it. Abby has questions! What are you grateful for? How did you come up with your kid's name? What's your favorite way to give back and help others? Who was your favorite teacher? GRATITUDES: Ryan is grateful for the True North Tribe Ab...
More ADHD, Naming Our Interiors, Reference Points
November 20, 2020 05:00 - 1 hour - 50.3 MBAbby & Ryan revisit the topic of ADHD, and dig deeper into how it's a gift. There may be a scientific name for your neurological wiring, but that label doesn't define you. It will present challenges that neurotypical people don't face, but it also presents advantages neurotypical people don't get. You get to choose whether you see it as a blessing or a curse. Diversity is beauty. #rta Name your interiors. Admit what you want, even if it's irrational, unfair, immature, or unreasonable. ESPE...
Abby & Ryan's One-Year Podcastiversary AMA
November 13, 2020 04:00 - 1 hour - 43.8 MBAbby & Ryan ask and answer audience-submitted questions for a blind AMA! Q'S FOR RYAN: 03:11 - What is one thing that might make people think Ryan is crazy? 04:32 - Has Ryan found his True North? What is it? 09:57 - What would Ryan do with a glue stick, a paper clip, and a rubber band? 11:42 - If Ryan could design a super hero that represents him, who would it be? 17:49 - What's a song or artist Ryan wouldn't admit that he secretly loves? 21:01 - What is the one thing Ryan wants his kid to ...
Neurodiversity, Mindful Muckiness, Burning It All Down
November 06, 2020 02:00 - 1 hour - 45.3 MBRyan has ADHD and Abby is an HSP. We discuss what it's like to live with those traits, and how we feel about how our society views them. Also Ryan is all mucky and weaponizing his gratitude practice to combat the muck. This is not ideal. Abby helps him see that. Here are her five tools for when you're in the dumps and can't get out: Move your body Socialize (however you can) Practice gratitude Feel your feelings Eat good shit and don't eat bad shit We also commiserate on how hard it i...
You are exactly where you're supposed to be.
October 30, 2020 04:00 - 1 hour - 45.8 MBNovember is Gratitude Month! Abby themed this year's Gratitude Month around Self Love and Connection. Learn more about the Gratitude Tree Project at indigocoaching.net/gratitude-tree. Make your own - it's literally beneficial to your physical wellbeing, because science. Gratitude offsets negativity bias, boosts feelings of connection and pleasure, and also doesn't happen on its own. Ryan is sharing his self-coaching document, "For When You're Feeling Defensive" at tinyurl.com/FWYFD. Use it...