Ep. 18 - How We Can Stop Pursuing the “Thing”

How often are we in search of things?

Happiness, meaning, the perfect job, the perfect relationship… we are constantly searching for the things that we think we should have, have a hard time attaining, and have a hard time sustaining.

But trying to get “the thing” is an illusion.

In this episode, I break down a few things that we can think about to help reshape our mindset…

Expectations. We think that there is a right or wrong way to be, and there isn’t. Right or wrong is a flawed paradigm. Quitting. It’s okay to quit, because sometimes we aren’t actually quitting – we’re correcting course. Wipe the word quit off the table. Roles. What is your role when you retire? When you transition out of a role (soldier, policeman, doctor, etc.), it can be hard to adjust. But your role doesn’t make your identity; your identity makes you well-suited for a role. You can’t stop being who you are. Money. What is it? It’s not a commodity and it’s not “the thing.” It’s a resource. Money can provide us with a sense of security and a sense of stability, but it doesn’t provide value.

To reveal more about yourself, take a Myers-Briggs test and learn your personality type. This is a free, unofficial version of the test.

Combining the test results with Paul D. Tieger’s book Do What You Are: Discover the Perfect Career for You Through the Secrets of Personality Type helped me transition from the military to therapy.

This isn’t an answer, but it might give you more guidance, insight, and direction.

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Resources:

Free Personality Test Do What You Are: Discover the Perfect Career for You Through the Secrets of Personality Type by Paul D. Tieger

 

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