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Think Act Be Podcast

271 episodes - English - Latest episode: 9 days ago - ★★★★★ - 55 ratings

The Think Act Be podcast features conversations about finding happiness, peace, and connection. Each week your host, psychologist Seth Gillihan, talks with his guests about effective ways to face life’s challenges: What thoughts serve us well? What actions promote well-being? How can we practice mindful presence? Guests from a wide range of backgrounds share their expertise on ways to nourish our minds, bodies, and spirits.

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Ep. 224: Dr. Tim Windsor — Midlife 4. How to Have the Best Possible Second Half of Life

March 20, 2024 10:30 - 55 minutes - 51.2 MB

My guest this week for part 4 of our series on midlife is Dr. Tim Windsor. Tim has done many research studies on adult development and how we change in midlife and older age. I took so much from this conversation as Tim described what we know about how to have a great second half of life. Things we discussed included: My guest’s research in lifespan developmental psychology Optimizing one’s potential to live well in later adulthood How Tim came to this area of research The challenge...

Ep. 223: Nick Davies — Midlife 3. Waking Up to the Life That Wants to Be Lived Through You

March 13, 2024 11:30 - 38 minutes - 35.1 MB

My guest this week is Nick Davies, back for his third time on the podcast. This time we focused on issues related to midlife, as this is part 3 of our series on that topic. Things we discussed included: Nick’s personal backstory and his decision to make a big change in his mid-thirties Asking the right questions that can lead us to fulfillment The danger of “normality” that doesn’t serve us well Waiting for life to open up for you vs. creating the life you want Unhelpful beliefs t...

Ep. 222: Dr. Kieran Setiya — Midlife 2. How to Think More Clearly About What Life Can and Can't Offer

March 06, 2024 11:30 - 55 minutes - 50.4 MB

My guest this week is Dr. Kieran Setiya, a philosophy professor at MIT and author of Midlife: A Philosophical Guide (affiliate link). Topics we discussed included: The extent to which midlife is a time of crisis Elliott Jaques’s coining of the term “midlife crisis” in 1965 Data showing that life satisfaction is U-shaped, with a low in middle age Common significant challenges in midlife Past, Present, and Future The feeling of having missed out on other possible lives The treme...

Ep. 221: Dr. James Hollis — Midlife 1. Discovering What the Gods Are Asking of You in Midlife

February 28, 2024 11:30 - 56 minutes - 51.9 MB

My guest this week is Dr. James Hollis, a therapist and author of many books, including Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life: How to Finally, Really Grow Up (affiliate link). Topics we discussed included: Common struggles one tends to experience in midlife The part of our psyche (soul) that knows us better than we know ourselves The agenda of the first and second halves of an average-length life Why certain issues tend to arise at midlife and not sooner The Buddha’s experien...

Ep. 220: Dr. Joel Minden — Therapy 4. How Men Can Get the Most Out of Psychotherapy

February 14, 2024 11:30 - 41 minutes - 38.4 MB

My guest this week is Dr. Joel Minden, a clinical psychologist, therapist, author of Show Your Anxiety Who’s Boss (affiliate link), and frequent guest on the podcast. This conversation focused on men in therapy. Topics we discussed included: The extent to which men tend to be interested in and open to psychotherapy Fears that men might bring to therapy The significant overlap in the issues men and women deal with and what brings them to therapy The challenge of dealing effectively w...

Ep. 219: Dr. Michelle Drapkin — Therapy 3. How to Overcome Common Barriers to Behavior Change

February 07, 2024 11:30 - 44 minutes - 40.7 MB

My guest this week is Dr. Michelle Drapkin, a clinical psychologist, therapist, and author of an excellent new workbook called The Motivational Interviewing Path to Personal Change: The Essential Workbook for Creating the Life You Want (affiliate link). Topics we discussed included: What motivational interviewing (MI) is and why the name is misleading Ambivalence toward change and how it’s addressed with MI Living our values in the midst of our ambivalence Finding different and more...

Ep. 218: Dr. Regine Galanti — Therapy 2. How Anxious Parents Can Help Their Anxious Kids

January 31, 2024 11:30 - 35 minutes - 32.8 MB

My guest this week is Dr. Regine Galanti, a licensed psychologist and author of the amazing new book, Parenting Anxious Kids: Understanding Anxiety in Children by Age and Stage (affiliate link). It was Regine’s second time on the podcast and we had another great conversation. Topics we discussed included: Regine’s fantastic new book Less-frequently recognized signs of anxiety in young kids Why anxious parents often have anxious kids The online information for parents that often make...

Ep. 217: Dr. David Tolin — Therapy 1. What Is the Best Way to Treat Hoarding?

January 24, 2024 11:30 - 47 minutes - 43.9 MB

My guest this week is Dr. David Tolin, a clinical psychologist, researcher, author, and expert on effective treatments for many psychological conditions. In this conversation we focused on hoarding disorder, and then segued into a more general discussion about cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and other treatment approaches. Topics we discussed included: The continuum of hoarding The diagnostic criteria for when hoarding is considered a disorder Instances of needing to buy a second...

Ep. 216: Nir Eyal — Easy Skills to Help You Overcome Distraction

January 17, 2024 11:30 - 40 minutes - 37 MB

My guest this week is Nir Eyal, author of the excellent book Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life (affiliate link). Topics we discussed included: The connection between Nir’s first and second books Nir’s own history of distraction and needing the techniques of Indistractable Using psychological principles to create positive habits the same way social media and advertising companies exploit the principles for their own profit Differentiating between help...

Ep. 215: Oren Jay Sofer — How to Find More Peace and Less Suffering in Your Life

January 03, 2024 11:30 - 44 minutes - 41.1 MB

My guest this week is Oren Jay Sofer. Topics we discussed included: Oren’s new book, Your Heart Was Made for This The ways that our minds and hearts are shaped by the world Scarcity Separation Depletion Understanding the roots of suffering and how to relieve suffering Our mistaken belief and wish that consumption will finally provide ultimate fulfillment and satisfaction Oren’s realization at a young age that all of life is in flux Common effects of social media use, and w...

Ep. 214: Dr. Paul Kesselman — Why Healing Is Better Than Curing in Psychotherapy

December 20, 2023 11:30 - 38 minutes - 35.6 MB

My guest this week is Dr. Paul Kesselman, a clinical psychologist in private practice in Devon, Pennsylvania. Topics we discussed included: The difference between healing and curing My own experience of illness and curing vs. healing A therapy scene from the Oscar-winning movie “Good Will Hunting” Validating pain and then pivoting to what is productive Show about a wrestler born with no arms (HBO?) Reacting to difficulties in life such as a poor night’s sleep How we react to o...

Ep. 213: Dr. Steve O'Brien — Helping Anxious Kids Build Resilience Through Empathic Empowering

December 13, 2023 11:30 - 40 minutes - 37 MB

My guest this week is Dr. Steve O’Brien, author of the excellent new book, The Essential Guide to Treating Child and Adolescent Anxiety (affiliate link). Topics we discussed included: The ongoing epidemic of anxiety among young people Greater anxiety responses to smaller triggers Falling levels of resilience Overstimulation of kids’ bodies and minds The overload of information through social media The critical trio for basic health: sleep, nutrition, exercise Less obvious sign...

Ep. 212: Rob Bell — The Joy of Discovering That Your Interest and Curiosity Lead to Firdus

November 29, 2023 11:30 - 50 minutes - 45.9 MB

My guest this week is Rob Bell. I was so happy that I got to speak with Rob. I’ve been a fan of his work for quite a while now—I listen to his podcast all the time and have read a few of his books, and I’ve just found his work so helpful. I  actually had an opportunity to spend a couple of days at the Rodale Institute where Rob was hosting one of his events where about 30 people come and bring an issue, a question, or a stuck point, and one by one we each sit and talk with Rob as the rest of...

Ep. 211: Yemado — How to Reduce Stress and Improve Mental Habits Through Mindful Breath and Movement

November 15, 2023 11:30 - 51 minutes - 46.9 MB

My guest this week is Yemado. He’s the director of the Boston School of Boabom, and he’s been teaching Boabom for over 20 years. As you’ll hear, Boabom is a Tibetan system of meditation, relaxation, and self-defense, and this was such an interesting discussion. The topics Yemado and I explored were really familiar ones, and they were also in a whole new context. One of the most valuable parts of this conversation for me was his description of “crashing into yourself” when you pursue consiste...

Ep. 210: Brent Franson — How to Be Kind to Yourself While Making Your Life Better

November 08, 2023 10:30 - 40 minutes - 37.2 MB

My guest this week is Brent Franson, an entrepreneur and founder and CEO of a company called Most Days. I met Brent a while back when he had me on his podcast. I really wanted to talk with him after I listened to an episode of his podcast where he described the things that led him to the work he does now, which is focused on helping people make positive changes in their lives. Brent talked about his history of addiction and what helped him overcome it. We talked about self-compassion, which ...

Ep. 209: Dr. Mitch Abblett — More Peace and Less Anxiety by Mastering Each Moment of Your Life

November 01, 2023 10:30 - 40 minutes - 22 MB

My guest this week is Dr. Mitch Abblett. Mitch and I talked about how we can move through anxiety and stress by what he calls “owning the moment.” We explored what that means, how to do it, and maybe most important of all, how to remember to do it. The process itself is really simple—we just bring our attention to the present and let things be as they are. But as I’m sure you know, that’s much easier said than done. Mitch has some really helpful ways to practice more of this style of being i...

Ep. 208: Drs. Kelly Yanek & Michele Kinderman — More Joy and Less Burnout with the Dual Therapist Model

October 25, 2023 10:30 - 39 minutes - 35.9 MB

My guests this week are Drs. Kelly Yanek and Michel Kinderman. I was truly excited to learn more about their dual therapist model where they see each client together—two therapists with a single client. They described how this approach keeps them interested and engaged at work, and makes them look forward to Monday mornings. I think you’ll find this conversation as fascinating as I did. Topics we discussed included: Kelly and Michele’s unique Dual Therapist Model (DTM) of psychotherapy ...

Ep. 207: Dr. Jill Stoddard — A Better Way to Overcome Self-Doubt When You Feel Like an Imposter

October 18, 2023 10:30 - 38 minutes - 35 MB

My guest this week is psychologist and author Dr. Jill Stoddard, who recently wrote a book called Imposter No More: Overcome Self-Doubt and Imposterism to Cultivate a Successful Career. Jill and I had a great discussion about feeling like an imposter—why it happens, who’s likely to have the experience, and most important, how to deal with those thoughts and feelings. The solution probably won’t be what you expect because the answer is not to force yourself to think and feel differently. Most...

Ep. 206: Seth Gillihan — Finding Courage to Move Through Uncertainty and Anxiety

October 11, 2023 10:30 - 11 minutes - 9.62 MB

I’m all alone for this episode. This week I wanted to talk with you about finding the courage you need to take a bold step forward in your life. It could be anything, from continuing your education to changing jobs or starting to date. Anxiety and uncertainty often hold us back when we know we need to make an important change. But they don’t have to. There are effective ways to move through our hesitation so that nothing stops us from living the life we know is calling us. I hope you get...

Ep. 205: Seth & Joel — The Best and Worst Therapists in Popular Media

October 04, 2023 10:30 - 52 minutes - 39.4 MB

This week I'm continuing my series with Dr. Joel Minden, and we discussed a fun and interesting topic: psychotherapists in popular media, including film, TV, and comic strips. We explored what these depictions get right, the challenges of presenting therapy accurately, and why therapists so often are portrayed as buffoons. Specific topics we touched on included: Common therapist tropes in movies and TV shows The movie Mumford Richard Dreyfuss as Leo Marvin in the 1991 film What About ...

Ep. 204: Seth & Joel — How to Worry Less So You Can Live More

September 27, 2023 10:30 - 58 minutes - 46.6 MB

This week I'm continuing my series with Dr. Joel Minden, and there's no one I'd rather talk with about how to handle worry. Joel is a true expert on this topic. He offers a compassionate, realistic, and effective set of tools for worrying less so you can redirect your energy toward living well. Specific topics we touched on included: Anxiety vs. worry The implicit goal of anxiety The similarities between obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) and generalized anxiety disorder (GAD) Into...

Ep. 203: Seth & Joel — How Much Can Be Accomplished in One Therapy Session?

September 20, 2023 10:30 - 46 minutes - 36.2 MB

This week I’m continuing my series with Dr. Joel Minden. This time we discussed how much can be accomplished in a single psychotherapy session. Joel and I explored single-session interventions, one-session treatments for phobias, and sudden gains. Topics we touched on included: Goals for the first therapy session The hope that often follows a first session One as the modal number of therapy sessions Shorter treatment protocols, including single session interventions (SSIs) The work...

Ep. 202: Seth & Joel — What Gives Psychotherapy the Power to Make Life Better?

September 13, 2023 10:30 - 49 minutes - 37.4 MB

My guest once again this week is Dr. Joel Minden. This time we discussed psychotherapy, drawing on the years that each of us has been a therapist. Good therapy has the power to improve thinking patterns, relationships, habits, and even personality, so we explored the unique aspects of the therapy relationship that facilitate these changes. This conversation is the second in a series of several episodes with Joel, with more to come. Topics we touched on included: A Washington Post piece th...

Ep. 201: Seth & Joel — What If You Don't Need to Fix Yourself?

September 06, 2023 10:30 - 1 hour - 60.2 MB

My guest this week is Dr. Joel Minden, a regular on the Think Act Be podcast. This time we switched roles and Joel interviewed me, mostly about my approach to therapy that I describe in my latest book, Mindful Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (affiliate link). This conversation is the first in a series of several episodes with Joel, so stay tuned for more to come. Topics we touched on included: The traditional approach in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) The medical model of therapy My ...

Ep. 200: Matt Zemon — How Psychedelics Can Transform the Mind and Improve Well-Being

August 30, 2023 14:16 - 40 minutes - 32.4 MB

My guest this week is Matt Zemon, editor of the excellent new book Psychedelics for Everyone: A Beginner’s Guide to These Powerful Medicines for Anxiety, Depression, Addiction, PTSD, and Expanding Consciousness (affiliate link). Matt also contributed several chapters to this book. This conversation is a great introduction to the world of psychedelics, and Matt is an excellent guide. He’s knowledgeable, compassionate, and he presents a balanced view of the potential place of psychedelics in o...

Ep. 199: Thomas Moore — How Can Emptiness Make Your Life More Fulfilling?

August 23, 2023 10:30 - 57 minutes - 46.4 MB

My guest this week is Thomas Moore, a psychotherapist and author of a new book entitled The Eloquence of Silence: Surprising Wisdom in Tales of Emptiness (affiliate link). I was so pleased to have the opportunity to speak with Thomas, since I’ve appreciated his work for about 25 years, going back to Care of the Soul. Topics we discussed included: The role of emptiness in religion and spirituality The possibilities that emerge with emptiness Fostering emptiness as emptiness, not as a s...

Ep. 198: Dr. Noam Shpancer — Why Are So Many Young People Struggling, and What Can Be Done?

August 09, 2023 10:30 - 44 minutes - 33.8 MB

My guest this week is psychologist Dr. Noam Shpancer, author of the novel The Good Psychologist (affiliate link). We explored the ongoing crisis in mental health among young people, and discussed possible ways to address it. I really enjoyed talking with Noam and hearing his insights and nuanced perspective on these issues.

Ep. 197: Dr. Steve Hayes 2 — Deliberately Diving into All That Life Holds

July 19, 2023 10:30 - 1 hour - 61.5 MB

My guest this week is Dr. Steve Hayes, one of the most influential psychologists of our time. The first time I had Steve on the podcast back in 2020 we discussed the fundamentals of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). This time you’ll see what those ideas look like in action. The second half of our discussion is Steve leading me through a series of invitations and explorations. It was a pretty incredible experience that I can’t really capture by trying to describe it, so I’m glad I can ...

Ep. 196: Dr. Mark Gregory Karris — How to Overcome Harmful Beliefs About God, Yourself, and the Afterlife

July 05, 2023 10:30 - 45 minutes - 35.9 MB

My guest this week is Dr. Mark Karris, author of the new book, The Diabolical Trinity: Healing Religious Trauma From a Wrathful God, Tormenting Hell, and a Sinful Self. Mark shared about the damaging effects this trio of doctrines can have on people, himself included, and how to heal. Topics we discussed included: How certain religious beliefs themselves can be traumatic, apart from abusive, authoritarian leaders Differing effects of indoctrination in these beliefs early in life vs. lat...

Ep. 195: Thomas Sterner — How to Break Free from Unconscious Mental Programming

June 21, 2023 10:30 - 37 minutes - 42.5 MB

My guest this week is Thomas Sterner, whose latest book is It’s Just a Thought (affiliate link). As you know, your thoughts aren’t always helpful or true. In this conversation Tom and I talked about how to change your relationship with thoughts, which I think about a lot as CBT therapist. Just knowing that we’re thinking is a huge part of what’s helpful, but awareness alone is usually not enough. We need specific ways to practice new thinking. Tom shares some really interesting techniques fo...

Ep. 194: Dr. John Astin — Finding True Freedom in the Mystery of Each Moment

June 07, 2023 10:30 - 52 minutes - 39.1 MB

  My guest this week is Dr. John Astin, author of the excellent book, This Extraordinary Moment (affiliate link). John has a really mind-blowing way of seeing all of reality, as you’ll hear in this great conversation. We talked about familiar concepts from meditation and mindfulness—for example, awareness of reality and finding equanimity—but John expands the frame in a way that’s truly liberating. He shows again and again how the reality we usually take for granted is way more stunning th...

Ep. 193: Colin Campbell — Finding Solace After Unfathomable Loss

May 24, 2023 10:30 - 38 minutes - 32.8 MB

My guest this week is Colin Campbell. He wrote an amazing book called Finding the Words: Working Through Profound Loss with Hope and Purpose (affiliate link), about his experience of incredible grief and loss. I really enjoyed talking with Colin—as you'll hear, he's frank, down-to-earth, compassionate. I know you'll get a lot out of this conversation.

Ep. 192: Dr. Mitch Greene — How to Manage Mind Chatter and Win the Mental Game

May 10, 2023 10:30 - 37 minutes - 34.6 MB

My guest this week is Dr. Mitch Greene. Mitch is a sport psychologist and this is his third time on the podcast. This time we talked about his great new book, which I enjoyed reading, called Courage Over Confidence: Managing Mind Chatter and Winning the Mental Game (affiliate link). This is a great conversation for any competitive athlete, at any level—from doing weekend 5Ks to Olympic competition.

Ep. 191: Dr. Brie Turns-Coe — How to Be the Parent Your Child Needs

May 03, 2023 10:30 - 42 minutes - 31.1 MB

My guest this week is Dr. Brie Turns-Coe, an associate professor of marriage and family therapy and author of the excellent new book, Parent the Child You Have, Not the Child You Were (affiliate link).

Ep. 190: Dr. Jonah Paquette — Simple Practices to Build More Happiness in Your Life

April 26, 2023 10:30 - 41 minutes - 37.8 MB

My guest this week is Dr. Jonah Paquette, author of Happily Even After (affiliate link), who is back for the fourth time on the podcast. Jonah is the happiness guru I turn to for exploring the science of well-being and flourishing. This time we focused on how to cultivate happiness more consistently in our lives—and why we tend to wait till we're seriously unhappy before using the practices that build positive emotions. As always it was a great discussion.

Ep. 189: Dr. Willa Blythe Baker — Easing into the Natural Wakefulness of the Physical Body

April 12, 2023 10:30 - 39 minutes - 36.2 MB

My guest this week is Dr. Willa Blythe Baker, author of an excellent book called The Wakeful Body (affiliate link). Willa and I had a great conversation about how the body draws us into connection with ourselves and with this moment. She had recently arrived in Hawaii, and you can hear the sounds of birds singing in the background!

Ep. 188: Acharya Shunya — How to Find Your True Identity and Voice in the Divine Feminine

March 22, 2023 10:30 - 38 minutes - 26.4 MB

My guest this week is Acharya Shunya, author of the recent book, Roar Like a Goddess: Every Woman’s Guide to Becoming Unapologetically Powerful, Prosperous, and Peaceful (affiliate link). We had a great conversation about the divine feminine, finding your authentic voice, and living wholeheartedly and without apology.

Ep. 187: Seth Gillihan — 16 Signs You Grew Up with a Lot of Criticism

March 08, 2023 11:30 - 25 minutes - 21.6 MB

Growing up with a highly critical parent can have long-lasting effects. In this week's episode I discuss 16 signs that you were raised with a lot of criticism. Toward the end of the episode I offer reason to hope, because these tendencies aren’t written in stone. With attention and practice you can learn new patterns. With that in mind, I describe a simple 3-step practice to learn a new way of relating to yourself. This exercise is adapted from my latest book, Mindful Cognitive Behavioral Th...

Ep. 186: Amanda Gilbert 2 — How to Establish a Consistent Meditation Practice

March 01, 2023 11:30 - 1 hour - 40.1 MB

My guest this week is Amanda Gilbert, a meditation teacher, speaker, and author of a book called Kindness Now: A 28-Day Guide to Living with Authenticity, Intention, and Compassion (affiliate link). This was Amanda’s second time on the podcast and it was great to catch up with her. This time we focused our discussion around how to develop a consistent meditation practice. If you’ve felt drawn to meditation but have struggled to do it regularly, this conversation is for you.

Ep. 185: Dr. Joel Minden 8 — How to Stop Taking Things Personally

February 15, 2023 11:30 - 38 minutes - 30.5 MB

My guest this week is Dr. Joel Minden, a regular on the Think Act Be podcast. This time we focused on taking things less personally, whether we’re assuming people are upset with us when they’re not, or we’re blaming ourselves when things don’t work out, or anything else. We also talked about thinking errors, or cognitive distortions, that lead us to take things too personally. Toward the end we explored why we don’t have to see our own faults and limitations as personal failings. I think you...

Ep. 184: Dr. Jonah Paquette — How to Find Happiness by Cultivating Gratitude in Your Everyday Life

February 01, 2023 11:30 - 49 minutes - 34.8 MB

My guest this week is Dr. Jonah Paquette, back for his third time on the podcast. As always it was great to speak with Jonah. This time we focused on his new book, Happily Even After (affiliate link), and especially on how gratitude contributes to happiness. I don’t know about you but I often feel like gratitude is an obligation—something that we’re supposed to do. So Jonah and I explored how to practice gratitude that’s freely given. I think you’ll take a lot from this discussion.

Ep. 183: Dr. Carla Naumburg — Parenting 4. How to Be OK in the Chaos

January 18, 2023 11:30 - 31 minutes - 19.2 MB

My guest this week is Dr. Carla Naumburg, whose new book is called You Are Not a Sh*tty Parent (affiliate link). We talked about how rare it is for parents to practice self-compassion, which can be a transformative experience. We also explored the difficulty with finding room for self-care, and how to make peace with the chaos that is parenting.

Ep. 182: Dr. Seth Gillihan — 3 Simple Ways to Lower Daily Stress and Find Rest

January 04, 2023 11:30 - 18 minutes - 14.7 MB

Stress is unavoidable, but we don’t have to be overwhelmed by it. In this week’s episode I offer three simple techniques for managing stress and finding true rest. These tools come from Mindful Cognitive Behavioral Therapy: A Simple Path to Healing, Hope, and Peace (affiliate link). I hope you find them useful!

Ep. 181: Dr. Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco - Parenting 3. How to Let Go of Unrealistic Expectations

December 21, 2022 11:30 - 38 minutes - 28.4 MB

My guest this week is Dr. Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco. She’s a clinical psychologist and author of Mom Brain: Proven Strategies to Fight the Anxiety, Guilt, and Overwhelming Emotions of Motherhood—And Relax Into Your New Self (affiliate link). Ilyse specializes in helping parents, moms in particular, navigate the challenge and adventure of parenting. I love how she adapts the tools of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) for parents. Ilyse obviously gets parenting from the inside, and offers recommen...

Ep. 180: Dr. Yael Schonbrun — Parenting 2. How to Thrive as a Working Parent

December 07, 2022 11:30 - 49 minutes - 34.2 MB

My guest this week is Dr. Yael Schonbrun, a clinical psychologist with an excellent new book entitled Work, Parent, Thrive: 12 Science-Backed Strategies to Ditch Guilt, Manage Overwhelm, and Grow Connection (When Everything Feels Like Too Much). This episode is part 2 in a 4-part series on parenting. As you’ll hear in our discussion, Yael has a gift for both/and thinking. She acknowledges the conflict between our roles as parents and people who work for pay, and also underscores the ways tha...

Ep. 179: Dr. Rebecca Schrag Hershberg — Parenting 1. How to Parent More Effectively

December 01, 2022 11:30 - 38 minutes - 26.6 MB

My guest this week is Dr. Rebecca Schrag Hershberg, author of the excellent book for parents, The Tantrum Survival Guide (affiliate link). Rebecca shared some of her top tips for being a more effective parent, which starts with the simple recognition that we all struggle at times in our relationships with our kids. One of the biggest takeaways is about being present with our kids and finding ways to pause when emotions are high so that we can make better choices. (Which sounds a lot like wha...

Ep. 178: Dr. Seth Gillihan — The Best Ways to Manage Excessive Worry

November 23, 2022 11:30 - 39 minutes - 28.8 MB

This week I’m flying solo on the podcast. It’s great to be back with you and I have a few updates since the last episode. I’ll also tell you more about my new book, Mindful Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, which will be released on Dec. 6, 2022, and I read a passage from the first chapter. In the rest of the episode I share with you some of the most effective ways to manage constant and uncontrollable worry.

Ep. 177: Dr. Rachel Turow — Stress 4: How to Practice Being a Better Friend to Yourself

August 17, 2022 10:30 - 36 minutes - 20.3 MB

My guest this week is Dr. Rachel Turow, author of the forthcoming book, The Self-Talk Workout: Six Science-Backed Strategies to Dissolve Self-Criticism and Transform the Voice in Your Head (affiliate link). In this final part of our series on managing stress, we explored how the way we talk to ourselves is closely tied to our stress levels. Rachel shared some powerful exercises for practicing self-kindness, including a guided exercise you can take part in. Toward the end she described ways t...

Ep. 176: Rebecca Ward — Stress 3. Tame Stress and Find Peace by Connecting with Your Deepest Self

August 03, 2022 10:30 - 36 minutes - 19.1 MB

My guest this week is Rebecca Ward, author of the book The Paper Tiger Syndrome: How to Liberate Yourself from the Illusion of Fear (affiliate link). Rebecca has a lot of expertise in effective stress management, and we explored the somatic-based approach she uses to help people regulate their body in order to manage stress. We also discussed the vagus nerve, which plays a central role in how we deal with stress, and it's of special interest to me based on some of my own health challenges. T...

Ep. 175: Dr. Alice Boyes — Stress 2. How to Increase Your Productivity While Protecting Your Humanity

July 20, 2022 10:30 - 41 minutes - 23.9 MB

My guest this week is Dr. Alice Boyes, back on the podcast for the third time for our series on managing stress. I wanted to talk with Alice because she has a phenomenal new book called Stress-Free Productivity (affiliate link), and she shares lots of great advice for how to get things done without stressing yourself out. We also talked about how trauma can affect our stress reactions, and how to be more self-compassionate toward ourselves when we’re struggling. Alice is a good friend and a ...

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